“For me, a lot of it is about loneliness. I think a lot of our lives, in ways that seemingly are unrelated or obscure, are lived through the lens of trying to avoid loneliness at all costs. People stay in relationships longer than they should because they just can’t stand the thought of being alone. We can’t control everything, but we have more of an ability to have a say in our destiny, and in our happiness, than a lot of us explore.”
I should leave. Why? Because I don’t want you to lie here and feel like you have to look after me.I don’t feel like I’m looking after you. And why… Why is that wrong? There’s nothing wrong with it. I just can’t stand you lying here all sad.
“Sherlock Holmes is a great man, and I think one day–if we’re very, very lucky–he might even be a good one.”
What if this series is not about Sherlock Holmes becoming a good man, but acknowledging that one cannot live up to everyone’s expectations of what a good man should be, because he is human and he is flawed.
And what if, it’s not just Sherlock’s journey, but also John’s?
You know what normal healthy people do when they are eating a meal and start to feel full up?
They STOP EATING.
Let’s repeat that; when you start to get full, you PUT THE FORK DOWN.
THAT is the only guaranteed way to lose weight, reduce your calorie intake.
Gluttony is not a disability, and as a physically disabled person myself I resent the implication that having a medical issue is an excuse to give up trying to improve yourself. No matter what problems you may have, you can always do something to lose weight. The first and most important step is REDUCE your Calorie intake; you can still eat what you like, just eat less of it. Moderation is the key.
Oh, but that would mean taking responsibility for yourself and making an effort….it’s so much easier to pretend that it is “genetics” or “conditions” that keep you obese, right fat people?
Or that the only reason people are repulsed by you is they are being brainwashed by “the media”, not the fact that a vast majority of the human beings on this planet find wobbly, cellulite-ridden, stretch-marked flesh hanging out for all to see absolutely revolting. (That’s without mentioning what it says about your character and personality too). If you do not have the will-power to stop gorging yourself YOU are the only person to blame when you are viewed in a negative way.
I have no respect for anyone that has no respect for themselves and THAT is why I will continue to fight fat acceptance.
So, hate me, accuse me of “oppressing the obese”, of being a bigot, of being “ableist” whatever, I could not give a flying fuck. I will not stand idly by while impressionable youngsters are manipulated into committing slow suicide via the use of blatant lies and misinformation, all under the pretense of being encouraged to “love themselves”. I am a parent myself and I will not be silenced. If that hurts some people’s feelings, so be it.
Besides, I would love someone to explain to me how if you really, truly love yourself and your body, why on Earth would you push it to beyond its capabilities by making it cope with extra weight that it is not designed to carry? That doesn’t sound like love, it sounds like abuse…
“My work on Orange has taught me this: Human beings are not categorically bad because of their mistakes. They can learn from their errors and get back on track. No one should be forever written off because of one part of his or her history.”
—Diane Guerrero, In the Country We Love: My Family Divided
“There comes a time when you just have to stand up and shout ‘This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love! I am a whole complex package. Take me… or leave me. Accept me- or walk away! Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, just because I don’t fit your idea of who I should be and don’t try to change me to fit your mould. If I need to change, I alone will make that decision.”