because nobody *ever* suspects the butterfly


Happy Purim, all! I am the butterfly princess. :)

anonymous asked:

Regarding Lady Regnants ruling in their own right, what happens when or if they get married? Does their husband take charge of her castle since Westeros is a patriarchal societ, or does she continue to be the person making decisions. If she married how would it affect her, would she be expected to give her husband the reigns of her domains? Nobody ever suspects the butterfly is of the opinion that Lady Jeyne Arryn the Maiden of the Vale didn't marry because she didn't want to lose her power.

Thanks for the question, Anon.

As with everything in Westeros related to feudal rule, the answer depends very heavily on the personality of the individual ruler. Westeros is patriarchal, but that does not prevent clever, assertive, and confident women from ruling in their own right where law and opportunity back them; likewise, a ruling lady’s marriage would depend on her personality, and that of her husband, to determine where true power lay. That does not mean it would not be difficult in any case for a woman to do so - Rohanne Webber’s commentary on the increased difficulty of a woman ruling in a man’s world is evident of that fact - but it is not impossible for a ruling Westerosi woman to keep power even while married.

So, on the one hand, we have women like Arwyn Oakheart or Anya Waynwood, ladies in their own right who have acted as such in the series. Both were certainly married at some point - Arwyn has several sons besides Ser Arys, while Anya (now a widow) boasts three sons and an unknown number of daughters - but neither man’s identity has been revealed. Instead, the ladies themselves act on their feudal duties: Lady Arwyn declares for Renly Baratheon at the outset of the War of the Five Kings and gathers with his “court” at Bitterbridge, while Lady Anya joins the Lords Declarant as one of the titular signatories, and is not afraid to speak at the conference with Littlefinger. Likewise, Rhea Royce, Lady of Runestone in the reign of King Viserys I, apparently gave no power to her husband, Prince Daemon Targaryen, while ruling the Royce estate - wisely, for how much Daemon hated her - and when she died without an heir from him, it was another ruling lady, Jeyne Arryn, who quickly shut down Daemon’s attempt to seize Runestone. Larra Blackmont and Nymella Toland were married at some point as well, and might still be, but again, it is the ladies alone who appear in roles of power (or, indeed, appear at all): it is Larra who rides with Prince Oberyn and his assembled Dornish nobility to King’s Landing, and Nymella who welcomes Arianne Martell as the latter prepares to go to Young Aegon. Nor should the Princesses of Dorne be ignored; the Unnamed Princess in particular, whoever her husband might have been, was certainly a power player in her own right, ambitious for her children’s futures and her own principality’s advancement.

That being said, it is not unknown in Westeros for an individual man or his House to use the legal claims of women to advance himself or itself. Lady Ermesande, the Lady of Hayford, was married while still a baby to Tyrek Lannister, presumably with the expectation that it would be the much-older Tyrek (and, by extension, House Lannister) who would be running Hayford in the name of his little wife. After killing Balman Byrch and ousting Falyse Stokeworth, Bronn is called “Lord Stokeworth”; Lollys might be legally Lady of Stokeworth, but it is the ambitious and ruthless Bronn, rather than the timid Lollys, who seems to hold real power in Stokeworth now. The Stark succession conflicts in the wake of Cregan’s death resulted in both of the seemingly rightful Stark heiresses being wed to their Stark half-uncles, but neither being acknowledged as Lady of Winterfell in her own right; in a similar way, Shella Whent, probably a Whent from birth, appears to have been married to a Whent cousin, Walter, and it is Walter who is remembered as “Lord Whent” during the Year of the False Spring until his death. These few examples demonstrate that, even where a woman should legally be ruling in her own right, the circumstances and ambitions of men around her can determine the rule of her inheritance.

As an aside, I too wrote about Jeyne Arryn.

The Queen Regent (NFriel)

I tell you what, one thing that’s the nicest thing in GOT are the little sigils by the cast names. The house sigils are of course fine and lovely to see, but I especially love the ones they choose for people without houses.

Look, Gilly for the gillyflower.

Daario’s stiletto, Jaqen’s coin, and Missandei’s Naathi butterfly. :)

@danainthedogpark replied to your post “Totally random but I’m listening to AGOT on Audible and got to Varys…”

I thought that, but I don’t go to tumblr on mobile, just the app. So I *just* tested it on my boss’s phone (who I can guarantee isn’t going to your blog!) and I got to “varys littl” and your blog popped up. ;)

Huh, well, I’m not getting that on any of my devices or browsers (even in incognito), so idk. But good for you (and me) if so!

edit: Ah wait, I’m trying Chrome on my iphone (which I never use) and google predictive search just came up with “varys little birds nobodysuspectsthebutterfly”. Nice, thanks google. :)

This was your Evil Villain Master Plan all along, wasn’t it? Lure people in with general ASOIAF meta posts in pretty much every ASOIAF fandom tag there is, slip the sansan meta post in there for the unsuspecting, and then eventually you’ve got people planning sansan picspams and bringing up Beauty and the Beast parallels and looking at what other sansan shipper might be worth following :P
—  joannalannister, in conversation