because its a big deal

aight I did not see this spiraling into mini-drama here but I’m going to try to say something because I get how awful feeling inferior is. Making comparisons can be difficult to avoid when you do not have very much confidence or especially when you feel as if you are not doing as well as you should be and are letting people down (this is cliche but everyone grows at different paces and regardless of progress you are loved). This obsessive comparing is extremely tolling on you and not worth the energy at all. As long as you are not adamant towards recovering like I was for the past few years, things will get better (or not as bad as it usually is). It’s not hopeless, I promise. There are people who do want you to feel your best and help you every step of the way and I hope you all have or will find at least one person like this in your lives.

That being said, this whole big blog/small blog thing should not matter because like dailyflygon said, we’re just a bunch of nerds drawing the Pokemon we love. My inferiority issues do lead me to assume ridiculous things like someone being more popular means that they’re obnoxious and exclude others unlike them, but I don’t get that with this community, even as a small, inactive, blog that is lacking in interaction (due to shyness). I’ve never considered myself a part of any communities before, but this one is extremely supportive and I want to at least protect that.

tl;dr It’s okay to feel down. We cannot control how we react to things, but we should not act on those feelings in a way that causes stress for others either. Instead, find a way to lift yourself back up without hurting yourself or anyone else.

anonymous asked:

My Big Day - Sin or Frisk

How to propose: a tutorial by Flowriel

We are not responsible for any injuries caused to you or your loved one

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((Sorry Frisk, SinxFlowriel is OTP

I think I had a little too much fun with this

Sin belongs to @silvur-trash ))

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M!A 1/? (Idk how long I’m gonna keep these things going. Some more than others)

anonymous asked:

I feel kinda frustrated that it's been said or implied that Rey's parentage is either obvious in TFA or not a big deal because I feel like that means she's a random, since it's not explicitly stated who her parents are so it comes off as not being anyone important. BUT THEN why the set up with the whole waiting for her family, and needing to go back to Jakku because of it etc etc. Like??? Obviously her family/parentage IS important or otherwise it wouldn't have been made a 'mystery'

Yeah, this is why I feel like ReySky and ReyRando are the only two options that are possible at this point. ReyRando for the reasons you stated, but also ReySky because, I mean…it’s kind of not a “big deal” if people already walked out assuming that was the answer, you know?

“Oh yeah, she’s Luke’s. Can’t wait for the next movie to finally tell us that!”

This is why I feel like leaving the answer open-ended the way they did in TFA was a mistake. There’s a part of me that feels like Lucasfilm intended for the answer to be plain to us, but apparently it wasn’t clear enough since it’s still such a hardcore bloodbath of a debate over a year later. (Which may have also been the goal; imply an obvious answer, but hold it back at the last second to keep us guessing.) And yet, we have Lucasfilm letting Daisy tell us the answer was obvious. I mean, I’m glad that narrowed it down to two options, but it’s still a pretty large contrast considering how much things change if Rey is a random versus her being a Skywalker.

WILL YOU BE MY VALENTINE?

Its time for the Valentine’s Dance! Lovely tenants, please make your way to the roof of the officetel to partake in the festivities. Only, my gosh you guys are trusting, I can’t believe you’d just drink up whatever weird drinks get left outside your door- haven’t you ever heard of stranger danger? Anyway, as you climb your way up the stairs you’re starting to feel a little funny, but I’m sure its not a big deal. Its probably just because its been a long day. It probably has nothing to do with mysteriously appearing beverages with cryptic notes on them. You’ve seen it in dramas before, surely its just a fun cute thing. Even if you still have no idea who planned any of this, and no one else you talk too knows either. Its probably fine. You’re lightheaded, but you haven’t eaten in…a few hours… so its normal? Probably. You get to the cutely decorated garden, decked out in fairy lights and heart balloons and there’s soft music playing. You feel awfully warm inside, and very nice - and then you see them. Your heart stops. Your face flushes. Wow - what a surge of emotions! Whats going on?? You’ve never felt this strongly before ! What a Valentines Day ! You’re in love !

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I get so upset over things so small they’re almost nothing and then I get even more upset because I’m conscious that I’m getting upset over almost nothing so naturally I just keep getting more and more upset, no matter how much I wish to stop being upset

AND

WHILE WE’RE ON THE TOPIC

IMAGINE IN A PERFECT UNIVERSE

HAN GIVING FINN THE SHOVEL TALK ABOUT POE BECAUSE HE’S BASICALLY SEEN THE BOY GROW UP, AND HELL IF HE’LL SEE SOMEONE MESS UP WITH THAT DAMN GOOD PILOT

AND FINN HAD KIND OF EXPECTED IT AND HE’S JUST GLAD HE SURVIVED IT BUT WHAT HE WASN’T EXPECTING WAS A FEW DAYS LATER WHEN POE ADMITS TO GETTING THE SAME TALK FROM HAN ABOUT FINN

BECAUSE LISTEN FINN’S BEEN THROUGH ENOUGH AND HE TRUSTS POE OBVIOUSLY BUT STILL SOMEONE’S GOTTA BE THERE TO GIVE THE TALK ON FINN’S BEHALF ALRIGHT IT’S REALLY JUST A FORMALITY MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE BUT SERIOUSLY POE DO NOT BREAK THAT BOY’S HEART

psa: if anyone on your dashboard makes you feel uncomfortable or gives u negative vibes for whatever reason it is 200% okay to unfollow them. u owe them nothing. it’s just a blog. surround yourself with happiness

Just wanna clear the air a bit about the Live-Action freak out

some people, especially the eremika fandom, are upset because mikasa ‘kissed’ this new OC character. To them i say, go back and rewatch the trailer. and if possible slow down the kiss part.


Mikasa was kissed by Shikishima. she did not kiss him. He put his hand behind her head and pulled her face into his. she even moved her head a certain way in an attempt to avoid it. This is most likely because this ‘kiss’ will be used as a plot device, as mikasaadefensesquad pointed out with a screenshot we got earlier this year.

We don’t see mikasa’s direct reaction to the kiss, but neither her nor eren look very pleased. the ‘kiss’ is less than half a second long. they clearly cut off her reaction to makes us do exactly what has happened. The trailer had a ton of eremika stuff before this, so it is obvious that it will play a large role in the story. that plus this ‘scene’ this means that it is probs gonna be used to make eren jealous and try to spark his anger. 

Oh, and since Shikishima is an OC and not a canon character this doesn’t really create ship conflicts at all. There is literally nothing to be upset about. 


So take a deep breathe, relax and look forward to jealous Eren in the Live action movie.

And please stop sending hate to people in the fandom over this shit. especially people in your own ship. like wtf, get a grip.

anonymous asked:

i really think they make jokes about pearl almost killing steven and lapis almost killing steven and connie because the crew doesn't think its a big deal. they think the fandom is stupid for caring about it. they don't want to admit they wrote characters who did messed up shit, they want them to just be cinnamon rolls.

Lapis and Pearl are obvs the writer’s favorite so of course they will let them get away with so much shit.
Like just imagine any other gem doing what they did, there’s no way the crew would let, for example, Garnet or Bismuth behave like that with no consequences, not to mention play it off as a joke afterwards.

anonymous asked:

i'll never understand why the f ppl have so much problems with using the correct pronouns??? like they will switch immediately with for ex dogs or cats (sorry for this comparison), but with ppl is such a big deal for them

sometimes its because they are straight-up assholes, sometimes its because they have referred to a person with different pronouns for a long time so they have a hard time remembering, sometimes its because the trans person Doesnt Pass (which is a terrible concept but yeah),,, but like if they unintentionally slip up the least they can do is correct themselves promptly, not… let it slide

tenrose shippers of tumblr- you know, it’s possible that you could ship tenrose WITHOUT shitting on martha jones’ character. there’s a thought.

when you rewatch gmw episodes and realize that JOSHAYA WAS ABSOLUTELY SET UP AND HEAVILY FORESHADOWED IN GIRL MEETS TELL-TALE TOT BECAUSE THERE WAS SO MUCH SAID ABOUT HOW MAYA GENUINELY LIKES AND CARES FOR HIM AND HOW 3 YEARS ISNT A HUGE DEAL ONCE YOURE OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL

Speaking up is important

I’m so proud of my metamour :)

I requested that yesterday we all chip in for a deep spring cleaning because we’ve all been so sick for the last month and in the course of it, I fear I may have stepped on her toes, so to speak, because the house is more her baliwick.

But then at the end of the day after the kids were in bed and the polywog was out on the town and it was just the three of us chillin’, she got up her guts to let the team know that she feels insecure about contributing her fair share to the household.

Which is a big deal all on its own, because she could have just said, hey, back off, she’s in charge of the house, but instead she dug a little deeper and sorted out WHY that was important to her.

And because she spoke up, I got to tell her about all the ways she rocks this house… *Not the least* of which is helping to take care of the kids every day. But also our home is so beautiful now because of her, and we all have free time each week to just have fun.

(That morning routine getting the kids out of bed and dressed and off to school is a killer. You think it should be easy? You haven’t met my kids. And my metamour manages that every day!)

Anyways, I’m proud of her because a year ago we both probably would have been too shy to say anything, and now it’s just… so easy and done.

xxx