because it's seriously not okay

Do you know what pisses me off the most about the dreaded “Autism Moms”?

Let me tell you, as an autistic adult who also was a main caregiver for an autistic boy (my brother). 

For the record:  I swear that if you use this post to say autism makes people violent and abusive, I will send 12,000 angry geese to flock in your bedroom and destroy every item that you treasure the most. AND I will eat the leftovers you had planned on eating for lunch tomorrow. Don’t you fuckin dare miss the point of this post. 


Listen up. I got a story for you.


Bit of background first.


My boy, my little hobbit, was born when I was ten years old. My mother left him alone with my grandparents and me. She legit abandoned him. 

My grandparents weren’t sure they could take him in. 
I begged. I pleaded. I asked as hard as I could to let us keep him and not give him back to my mother. 

Of course, they said yes. 

I dutifully became the protective older sister.


I would bathe him up until the week I left for college. I measured his medications and crushed them into his favorite yogurt. Blue, if you were curious.I made sure his food was perfect - french fries made just like he wanted, a chicken fry sandwich complete with his favorite McDonald’s sauce we bought in bulk.  
I went to his speech and occupational therapies several times a week, and practiced the things he learned. I went with him to his first day of school.

I even did a middle school project all about autism (which I am slightly embarrassed about, as I mentioned A$ in it ugh). I read all the autism books a 12 year old could find, and immersed myself in the Vanderbilt paperwork. I delved into the world of IEPs, visual schedules, and basic sign language.

And now, I’m still sending them resources and information on medications, papers for teachers, and going over doctor notes for him - despite being six hours away. 

(Of course, I was an undiagnosed autistic girl who also needed quiet. When I wasn’t needed to do these things, I was often in my room away from the loud television and people. I wasn’t a perfect caregiver, but I did do a lot.)

All of that to say: yeah, it wasn’t easy. But since when is raising a kid ever easy? I started looking after this boy when I was ten years old.

But here’s what infuriates me.

I read all the time about these autism moms who complain about how terrible their lives are. They say they’re afraid of being hurt and their lives are destroyed. Some even talk about killing their kids.


You know what?

Yeah, I got hurt by him or when helping him. I got bit, scratched, hit, and everything else. Usually it was just him being frustrated over lack of communicating his needs, so I was rarely angry. 
I ran after him when he went out the door straight for a lawnmower and I fell to the concrete. I grabbed him right before he ran into a street and ended up with my arm covered in blood.

I was kicked in the head and given a traumatic brain injury that requires me to now use a cane, and has caused a ton of nervous system issues. I even use a wheelchair part-time due to another condition that occurred afterwards. I’m only 20, and my health is pretty comparable to someone with congestive heart failure.

And you know what? 

I never in a million years thought about hurting my little brother.


I still don’t blame him. He was often overwhelmed, and had meltdowns. As an autistic person myself, I understood it - even if I didn’t know I was autistic at the time. (I suspected, but was too focused on other things.) 
I don’t know if I’ll ever get better health-wise, and that’s okay. I don’t know if I’ll get to run and dance again, or if there’s worse effects to come. It’s just what it is, and I’ve accepted that. 

He’s a child. It’s not his fault. He once asked me if it was, and I hugged him tight and said absolutely not. 

I say all this not to demonstrate how violent autistic people can be, but to demonstrate that I get where these autism moms are coming from.

  Again, for the record, autistic people are far more likely to be abused and assaulted. 

Remember how I said  I get where they’re coming from?

Yeah, that’s still not an excuse to be harmful toward your child. Ever.


You don’t give your babies bleach, shock them, or starve them. You don’t talk about them as if they’re literally a death sentence for you. And you sure as hell don’t want to murder your little ones. 

And if you literally want to kill your kid, if you would rather have a dead child than an autistic one, I have news for you.

You don’t deserve that child, and you better back up and understand this.


You autism moms need to stop. You need to listen. 


Your kids are going through a world that wants to “cure” them, force them into suffering so they can look “normal.” Your kids are going to spend their entire lives dealing with a world that is hostile to them. People try to assimilate us to save their own pride, at the expense of our own comfort and stability. 
Your kid is going to go through life being told that they should be literally “treated” with electroshock therapy because of their neurology. They’re going to be told that they shouldn’t reproduce. They’re going to be told that they’re not worth having space in this world. Your kid is going to grow up one day, and they’re going to hear this and internalize it. 

I know that, because that’s what I hear every day. 

You say it’s so hard to have an autistic kid?

Well, of course it is. But you know what?

Kids are hard.
They’re going to kick, hit, pinch, and everything else. Even neurotypical kids do that. I don’t know a single kid who hasn’t bit their caregiver or thrown something when grumpy. 
(I’ll say it again for those in the back: autistic kids are way way way more likely to be abused and hurt.)

When you have a kid, you sign up for this. You love that little one unconditionally, you protect them with all your heart. You give them support. You love that child even if they have a disability, especially when they have a disability.

You teach them that they are allowed to exist, that they are just as valuable and needed in this world like anyone else. We need all the neurodiversity in this world we can get. 

You teach your child that they’re not a burden. You teach them how to say no and that autonomy is often more important than compliance. You teach them that you love them, and that they will always have someone in their corner to back them up when times are tough.


I don’t care how hard you think it is raise an autistic child.

Trust me, I know full well it’s hard. Parenting is hard. It’s not easy, and it’s not always roses and fluffy kittens. That has nothing to do with having an autistic kid; that’s just a fact of life. 

The fear of getting hurt is valid. I can attest to that, and I don’t think I can downplay that. But that behavior is communication, and you have to learn how to read it. I did. You have to fight for better supports, for ways to make it easier on your kid - and by doing this, easier for you too. 


Sure, it’s hard.

But you know what? Your kid’s going to have it much harder. 

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one piece anniversary

day 6 » relationships/interactions 

∟ luffy + his crew  

okay i was going to write an analysis but let’s be quick: luffy’s relationship with his crew is super important because he even though he has a different relationship with each of them, he treats them all equally and respectfully, which in turn makes their relationships that much more precious. please don’t tell me he values any crew member more than another, because he’s probably die the same way if any of them left. 

washingtonpost.com
Analysis | Comey, unplugged: Trump is a lying liar who lied
At multiple junctures in Thursday's hearing, Comey made clear that he believes Trump is a liar. And he treated him accordingly.
By https://www.facebook.com/aaronblakewp?fref=ts

“I was honestly concerned he might lie about the nature of our meeting,” Comey said. “It led me to believe that I gotta write it down, and I gotta write it down in a detailed way. … I knew that there might come a day where I might need a record of what happened, not just to defend myself and the FBI and the integrity of our situation, and the independence of our function.”

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If you’re one of the 2307 people who liked that comment and have been part of that mess, please feel free to unfollow me right now. This has absolutely nothing to do with being “legal” or that Johnny isn’t a minor, but if you’re just stanning him because he’s so “Daddy” then you are not a fan of him at all and it’s really disheartening that most of the “supportive Johnny comments” on Youtube are created by thirsty fans, who absolutely don’t know where the line is.

Bye.

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how to delete someone else’s news article

Yeah so after drawing this atrocity I decided that maybe, just maybe, Thrawn deserved better than that.

Maybe.

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Strange Bedfellows - S11 E11

title: Mine Now

author: aclosetlarryshipper

word count: 32k

After Harry is expelled from private school, he joins a secret competition to get back at the boy who made it happen.

~or~

This is the story of how Harry finds himself pouting in Louis’ passenger seat with a raging boner on the way to seduce his ex boyfriend.

aflamethatneverdies  asked:

Combeferre and Feuilly and a witches/wizards AU please?

“‘Become a wizard,’ they say,” Combeferre growled, trying and failing to extract his foot from a pothole filled with… something. “'Learn the true, unedited history of the mankind,’ they say. 'Advance the human race by understanding and accepting it in it’s darkest form.’ They do not say 'And by the way, learning to understand humanity is a lot smellier than you might expect and is probably going to result in a very untriumphant death by cholera.’”

“Oh come now, surely you are not saying that you don’t find our current preoccupation to be most edifying,” Feuilly answered, genuinely surprised, even as he had to admit that the idea of braving the rancid smell and darkness of Parisian sewer system during a hot summer day had never been high in his list of priorities.

Combeferre glared balefully into the impenetrable darkness that was determined to become the sole owner of his left shoe. “I do no like getting my feet wet.”

So I saw a review on Boueibu, and I was like cool, so I checked it out and the reviewer basically makes Boueibu seem like the worst anime ever made.

Like I’m totally okay that people have their own opinions on Boueibu (No hate there, because people can like what they like, and I’m not going to bitch a fit, because that’s stupid), but if you’re basically going to say that this was an insult to Magical Girl anime, I feel like you should rewatch the entire series (unlike them, they watched only SOME of the show).

This was a PARODY, and tbh as a fan of Magical Girl shows, I felt like the aspects of what they were making fun of was great, because there were at times while watching Sailor Moon when I felt like the cliches were really stupid and repetitive. Tbh, to watch Boueibu, you need a sense of humor, imo. Like they bashed the show for it not being serious, and one commenter even said that people who like Boueibu are lying. (fuck youuu, I for one loved it so shut your whore mouth). 

Like I said before, no hate towards anyone who doesn’t like Boueibu, because it’s a matter of opinion, but if you have to stoop that low and be so hateful towards it, then to me, it’s not really a review anymore. It makes it seem you’re only ‘reviewing’ it to bash it, and I don’t mind HONEST reviews, but I’d rather you try not to make it sound so damn hateful. //rant over

While beautiful wives (and husband) fliers are being drawn, I’m just here busting a lung doodling Lon’Qu

Or should I say Lon’Chuu? ( ˘ ³˘)♥

ANOTHER Alternate Version of my Harry Potter Next Gen What Ifs:
  • Harry: You named your child Scorpius Hyperion? Really? And I thought Malfoy was bad enough!
  • Draco: Yeah, like you can talk; you named your child after Snape.
  • Ron: Still don't get why you did that...
  • Harry: Hey, I had my reasons! And Scorpius Hyperion is still a terrible name!
  • Draco: Albus Severus is objectively worse.
  • Harry: But –
  • Draco: No. You, of all people, do not get to criticize my name choices. You lost that privilege when you named your child after Snape. Snape!
  • Hermione: I hate to admit it, but Malfoy's right...
  • Ron: I agree...
  • Harry: Hey, whose side are you on?!
  • Hermione: The side that advocates for NOT naming your children after abusive teachers.
  • Ron: Who threaten to kill students' pets...
  • Hermione: And verbally abuse students who are just doing what you asked...
  • Ron: And willingly joined the Death Eaters despite having a Muggleborn friend...
  • Hermione: And hate students just because of their parents...
  • Ron: And are just generally terrible people...
  • Harry: Hey, he loved my mum, okay?
  • Draco: But – but that reason doesn't even make sense! Shouldn't that just make you hate him even more, since, despite being her child, he treated you so badly?
  • Ron: And also just because your most hated teacher mooning over your dead mum is just creepy?
  • Hermione: And besides, if he loved her so much, then why did he LITERALLY join a terrorist organization with one of the main goals being to exterminate everyone of her race?
  • Harry: ...
  • Harry: ...
  • Harry: I need to rethink some major life choices.
  • Draco: Welcome to the club...

What can I offer to the gods so we can have companion-Ravus on Episode Ignis, what?

Filet Mignon

@notedchampagne man, I hope there’s enough fluff in this to make up for the lame title.

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Mary shouldn’t have asked this of you,” Molly says softly.

“It was the only way to save John.”

“No, it wasn’t,” she says. “And even if it was, she didn’t have the right to ask you to hurt yourself for John’s sake.

—  A conversation Molly and Sherlock should have in canon. I’m just saying.