When we say “executive dysfunction”, I think it’s important to acknowledge to ourselves (and make clear to those who don’t struggle with it) that we’re talking about a basket of different struggles that we’re labeling with one name for convenience. One person’s executive dysfunction may not look like another person’s, even though the outcome (not being able to complete a task) may look similar from the outside.
Some people with executive dysfunction struggle to break down tasks into their component steps. Others struggle to connect cause and effect (’if I do this, this other thing will likely happen’), which makes daily life a confusing and sometimes terrifying black box. Still others can break down steps and parse out cause and effect, but they can’t start the first task (hello anxiety my old friend), or they get partway through and get distracted by a tangent or forget what the next step was because there were more than three (ah add i never miss you because you never leave), or they run out of energy before they can finish (tons of situations can cause this, both physical and mental). Sometimes people have a poor sense of how long it will take to do tasks, never seeming to budget enough because they don’t track time internally well. Others can only complete a task when they have sufficient adrenaline to spike their brain into focus, which usually means working in panic mode, which associates those tasks with Bad Feelings and further reinforces any anxiety the person may have.
And this isn’t just a few people. This is large-scale, across many groups struggling with different issues, from heavy metal poisoning to autism to add to chronic illness to anxiety to schizophrenia to mood disorders to traumatic brain injury, and more.
What we need, as a society, is to build better structures for supporting those with executive dysfunction, structures that acknowledge the multiple different types and causes. Because we cannot keep throwing the baby out with the bathwater here. We throw away incredible human potential that could help all of us because our society is set up to require a single skill which a large percentage of our teen and adult society doesn’t have and can’t easily develop (or they would have, trust me), or previously had by has temporarily lost due to injury or illness.
Instead of treating executive function as something that some people have developed and others haven’t, like artistic skills or a talent in maths or the ability to visualize systems or managing people, we treat it as a default that some people haven’t mastered because they’re [insert wrongheaded judgment here].
What if we treated the visual arts that way? If you can’t draw skillfully, you must be deficient in some way. How can you not draw? Anyone can draw. You start as a young child with crayons, what do you mean you can’t do this basic task?
Never mind that it’s a really complex skill by the time you’re expected to do the adult version, rather than the crayon version. Never mind that not everyone has been able to devote energy to developing that skill, and never mind that not everyone can visualize what they want to produce or has the hand-eye coordination necessary to accomplish it.
Now, I have friends who say that anyone can draw, and maybe they’re right on some level. But it’s hard to deny that it helps that drawing is optional. That you can opt out and no one thinks any less of you as a person. Executive function is treated as non-optional, and to some extent, since it’s involved in feeding and clothing and cleaning and educating oneself, it’s not entirely optional. But we make all of those tasks much harder by assuming by default that everyone can do them to an equal degree, and that no one needs or should need help.
If we built a society where it was expected that I might need timed reminders to eat, I would probably remember to do it more often. I certainly did as a child, when the adults around me were responsible for that task. Now that I’m an adult, the assumption is that I somehow magically developed a better internal barometer for hunger. Many people do. But I and many others did not. Recognizing that there are many of us who need help and treating that need as normal would go a long way toward building support into the basic fabric of our society.
But then, I guess that’s been the cry of disability advocates for decades; just assume this is a thing people need help with and build the entire structure with that assumption in mind.
Taemin looks soso small and skinny but his cheeks are still round as ever. he doesn't like that so even when he loses weight they won't go away. it must be so hard for him;; pbs twimg com/media/C4iwWFoUcAEIrPp jpg
Ah… he’s so beautiful. Tbh, these last days I’m thinking a lot about Taemin, about what he feels. I didn’t see any people shocked about what Taemin said about boygroups concerts but there’s so MUCH behind about what he said, but…
(There it goes my opinion because you got me ready to write in my personal blog about this LOL) I guess we get worried because we can’t forget the fact that Taemin is a human being and that he also has his insecurities and he also finds flaws on himself even when he doesn’t have them - it’s something that we all do. So I feel these days Taemin is trying to search for a more manly image, because he’s tired of being defined as cute, because I also feel he gets the meaning of cute as something femenine. I read someone’s opinion around here and it made me think about how Taemin tries really hard to create a cool and adult image from himself not only to show himself as a great singer and performer, but also to protect himself. Like… after all this time he might feel insecure about his image, because he has been exposed lots of times as “beautiful as a girl” instead of just saying he’s beautiful as the way he is. He has an image in how to be cool on his head, and it looks like he’s too focused on his chin, like you can feel he feels that having a well defined
chin makes him cooler, while having cheeks makes him look cute.
The reason I was thinking about posting my thoughts was because of this, because I wish someone could stop Taemin and tell him he doesn’t have to force himself to say or act in the ways he does just to create a forced image of himself. It’s true that there’s still people who believes Taemin is cute (in a childish way) or that he’s beautiful (in a femenine way), but the true is that Taemin is cute (sensitive, adorable, funny, shy) and beautiful (handsome, has very beautiful eyes, and a special and unique mouth, etc.). This is why it hurts me so much to see him feeling so insecure about this, because you can feel how he’s actually a very confident person, but he’s fighting against the stereotypes that still follow him. Taemin has such a special beauty and personality, but he’s too focused on being manly to the eyes of everybody, for what manliness means to the public, when there’s no need to do that. It’s really hard to understand because he has been since really young - as the rest of SHINee members - exposed to the media playing a paper that wasn’t his. And I don’t know, lately it’s like he’s going again to search to create a different image just to make people forget about that old image.
Same happened with Jonghyun: he was like the cool, badass and sexy voice of SHINee but he’s a lovely piece of sunshine with a big heart and a big open mind, and some people still don’t want to accept his real self because they go like “ah, I miss the muscles of Jonghyun” like they were something that actually belong to him as a person, you know? Also Onew is not the type of leader who will go to the others and say to them how to act, he’s just a sweet person who just loves his members a lot and just loves to play with them; Key is an incredible person which such a great mind and creativity, members just enjoy playing with him because he’s such a funny and random person, and Minho is not that flaming charisma but also a cutie pie full of love and passion for life.
Ah… I’m so sorry for this long post, lmao. But I wish I could hug him and have at least 10 minutes to talk to him to tell him that he’s just purely beautiful outside and inside. Many people might believe Taemin is rude or cold, but he has such a big heart full of sensitivity and sweetness, I feel he keeps looking for an image to protect himself. Like, “bah, I don’t want to go to boygroups concerts”; he’s himself a die hard stan of Bi Rain, but he’s not the type to expose his feelings that easily. Also, this obsession toward his face… At the end he’s a normal human being full of flaws, fears, dreams… but I wish so hard to tell him that everything is ok… that he doesn’t have to try to follow the rules of genders to look cool. He’s so cool the way he REALLY is.
They’re dressed for a game which took place September 2nd, 2011, where in Austria’s hopes and dreams of qualifying for the 2012 UEFA European Championship were dashed straight to Hell thanks to Germany.
I imagine Austria is a bit of a sulker once losing. Meanwhile, Prussia is bouncing around, expecting a hug and some praise like Old Fritz used to give him.
I’m sure these two always find a way to make up later…
how about freewood where Gavin and Ryan are together but don't know about their Secret Criminal Identities as the Golden Boy and the Vagabond and nearly kill each other before they realize last second who the other is
omg. this reminds me of that super old headcanon dump for raywood mr and mrs smith au i once did for my lil sis. but i could totally adapt and make it BETTER for this idea.
just like. imagine it. gavin tells Ryan he works at some random tech company. he’s just some IT guy there. really he’s running heists with the Fake AH Crew, working mostly behind the scenes, but still sometimes the frontman. He uses an actual mask though. some sort of elaborate masquerade mask, flashy and as overly expensive as he can make it. It keeps more of his identity hidden than a simple pair of sunglasses. after all with the majority of his nose and cheekbones hidden, people can’t face search him.
The fakes know of Gav’s boyfriend. This “Lovely Ryan” that they haven’t met, only seen pictures of because as much as Gavin loves his family, he doesn’t want Ryan to somehow recognize them. and they understand. after all, having a “civi” boyfriend isn’t easy after all
and Ryan. I’m not creative enough rn to think of his cover story but its probably similar to Gavs. Something incredibly boring. something that somehow, despite Gavin’s amazing technical abilities to discover everyone’s secrets, has never bothered to look up. Has always trusted that Ryan was telling the truth. And sure they never talk about work much, but Gavin doesn’t think much of it. Though that may just be because Gavin was also lying.
And of course Ryan never tells Gavin, works hard to keep his secret. Because Ryan is a monster. He’s dark and evil and a killer and maybe a normal person would’ve tried to turn their life around but Ryan, twisted Ryan, has grown a liking to this life. Doesn’t want to give it up. But he does want to keep Gavin as much out of it as possible.
This can go down a funny meeting or a angsty one. Funny, if Geoff decides to hire the Vagabond. The two boyfriends meet each other behind masks, Gavin probably offering some sarcastic comment to the other that immediately has the Vagabond freezing, eyes wide and a “…Gavin?” coming out before he could stop himself. And then Gavin freaking out because “HOLY SHIT RYAN????”
But the angsty path (and my favorite). Vagabond gets hired for a hit on the Golden Boy. The Boy has pissed some people off (but then again when doesn’t he?) and they want him gone. Want to hurt the Fakes. And they’ve hired the best of the best to do it.
"So...did you miss me?" with our jungkookie please! :') holy shit I love you, I hope you're having a wonderfilled day sweetheart! Be sure to stay hydrated too!
jungkook notices how you don’t really show your affection towards him sometimes. no doubt, he knows you love him but in terms of talking about it? that’s something that still needs working on. like, he does feel it, hell yeah he does. you weren’t shy when it came to doing it, but in terms of expressing it into words was a bit hard.
but boy, did he love the times you actually do. it’s like, he tends to treasure them even more when he expects it the least.
so when he comes home after a long day of practice, wanting to just hug and kiss you and drown in your love before sleeping, he gets a fix of loving that he needs.
as he crawls into bed with you, resting his face in your neck, loosely hanging his arms around your waist, his tired eyes open wide at your words that murmur into his ears, “so… did you miss me?”
if being away from you for two weeks would get you to say this, he’d come back every two weeks. then again, that wouldn’t be too nice. it’s too long without you so he decides to swallow his teasing and replace it with something that will give you the confidence to say things like this more. speaking your mind rather than worrying if the response was good.
he gently presses a kiss to your neck, then smiling against it as he mumbles, “of course i did. i always do.”
that night, jungkook slept with one of the biggest smiles yet. because - “i missed you too, jungkook-ah…”
“that’s nice to know,” he nestles his face into your warmth, hugging you tighter, “that’s really nice to know.”
Jungkook and Jimin take the same bus home every day, but they never talk. Once Jimin falls asleep on his way home, and Jungkook wakes him up. Conversations slowly begin after that :D
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Jungkook glanced up as soon as the
bus stopped at the already familiar station. He sat up a bit straighter in his
seat and peered to the front, a light smile stretching his lips when he saw
that red shock of hair in the mass of others getting on the bus.
hair looks really good on him, he thought, quickly ducking away when the
handsome stranger glanced his way to look for a vacant seat.
When the other passed by Jungkook, they
quickly exchanged shy smiles and it made his heart beat faster.
he’s so gorgeous.
He let a heavy sigh slip through his lips as
soon as the red-head was out of hearing range and pushed his headphones harder
against his ears.
I will have the guts to talk to him. One day, he promised to himself.
But he knew that he would never do that,
because he’s an awkward, shy teenager with a major crush on a perfect stranger,
so he’ll just keep staring at him whenever he sees him on the bus. God, I wish I was braver.
The next morning, the seat next to
Jungkook was still vacant when they stopped at the red-head’s station and he
was about to wave the other over when he already sat down next to an older lady
in the front of the bus.
He slumped down on his seat with a sigh,
tugging his backpack out of the way when another guy sat down next to him.
could have been my chance to at least sit next to him!
Jungkook was in horrible mood for the rest of
the day; it was so bad that his best friend Taehyung asked him if he wasn’t
When he got on the bus after college classes,
he dropped himself on one of the seats with a disgruntled huff, immediately
tugging his headphones out of his bag to plug them in and listen to music.
He leaned back and closed his eyes; he had a
one hour bus ride in front of him and he was really drained from the day, so he
decided to at least try and rest a bit. He barely opened one eye when someone
sat down next to him, but he did a double take at the familiar red-haired boy
as soon as he recognized him.
“Hey!” the other mouthed cheerfully, before
plugging in his own earphones and even if Jungkook couldn’t hear his voice
through the music, he was sure that it sounded as sweet as honey.
“Hi” he mumbled back sitting up a bit
straighter and willing himself to keep from blushing.
The whole bus ride, he kept glancing over at
the other, letting his eyes wander over his soft, slightly chubby cheeks, his
pretty eyes and straight nose and those pink little plump lips.
Jungkook gulped, before turning his head to
the other side to stare out of the window. God
damn it, he’s even more beautiful up close.
He was on edge the whole time and resting was long forgotten. Every time
their elbows brushed accidentally, it sent a shiver through Jungkook’s entire
body and he was sure that he was blushing heavily. The stranger got up when
they were nearing his station; he smiled at Jungkook and waved before jumping
out of the bus.
Jungkook sighed heavily, leaning his head back
with a dreamy little smile on his face.
Yes, he didn’t exactly talk to the other, but at least they sat next to each other and
they could work up from there, right? At least that was what he kept telling
himself on the last fifteen minutes to his place.
That night, he dreamt of his red-haired crush,
dreamt of the feeling of their arms brushing against each other in the bus and
of the possible outcomes of their next meeting.
He dreamt of sweet little hugs and kisses and
of romantic dates in his favourite coffee shop.
The next morning was the first time he ever
woke up early with a smile on his lips.
Some days later, Jungkook sat in the
back of the bus, eyes focused on that familiar shock of bright red hair. He had
a quite short day at college, so he was in even better mood than usual,
cheerfully listening to music while ‘stalking’ on his crush.
As far as he could see from his spot, the
other was sleeping or at least resting; his head tilted back against his seat
and eyes closed. Jungkook shuffled to the side a bit, trying to get a better
view of the other and he smiled to himself when he found the red-head’s mouth
must’ve really fallen asleep. Maybe he had a stressful day. His lips
unconsciously formed a little pout when he thought of the other being stressed.
He shouldn’t be stressed. He should be
Jungkook glanced out of the window when the
bus held at the next station, widening his eyes a little when he recognized
that they would reach his crush’s station soon. And he’s still sleeping.
Jungkook gulped as an idea formed in his head
and before he could overthink it, he got up and walked towards the front of the
bus. The seat next to the stranger was vacant, so he sat down and, after
contemplating for a few more seconds, tapped the other’s shoulder.
It took a while for him to wake the slightly
smaller male up, but eventually, his cute eyes opened and he glanced over at
Jungkook sleepily. “Hm?” he hummed confused, rubbing his eyes with cute little
“Y-you’re missing your s-station…” Jungkook
stuttered, a light blush painting his cheeks red.
The other glanced towards the small info
screen, his mouth dropping open when he realized they would reach his station
in about one minute. “Oh my God, did I fall asleep?” he asked, running a hand through
his bright hair. “You saved my life there.” He chuckled a bit. “I think we’ve
met before, right?”
“U-uh…yeah, we drive the same bus home
for…about one hour” Jungkook answered, a bit taken aback by the other’s sudden
“Oh…well…I’m Jimin! And I think…this is
my station” the other – Jimin – said with a little grin.
Jungkook quickly got up to let the other out
of his seat. “I’m Jungkook” he said, just as the bus stopped.
“Nice to meet you, Jungkook-sshi” Jimin said
with a smile. “I’ll treat you to coffee one day; as a thank you!”
And then he hopped off the bus, leaving a
dumbfounded Jungkook behind.
he…just…ask me out for coffee?
After that day, they ended up sitting
next to each other every time they took the same bus home; what happened about
three times a week.
Jimin held his promise of treating him for
coffee, but since both of them were quite busy with college, he brought two
take-away-cups of coffee in the bus one day.
He brought Jungkook a caramel macchiato (the
best coffee he ever had in his life) and the younger kept the plastic cup
standing around on his window sill – after he cleaned it of course.
“I was worried because you didn’t show up
yesterday” Jungkook mumbled as Jimin sat down next to him.
“Ah, I missed the bus because I had to talk to
one of my tutors about a dance routine.”
“You dance?” he asked surprised.
“Yeah, why? I dance since I was little. I
study dancing and vocals in university” Jimin answered, chuckling softly.
“Really?? I study producing and vocals! Why didn’t
we ever meet??” Jungkook shook his head a little.
Unbelievable that they even shared the same
subject – in different years, though – but never met on campus.
“No idea, man. Maybe it wasn’t meant to be”
Jimin giggled, before pulling his phone out of his bag to check his messages.
“Oh man. My best friend is sending me weird stuff again.”
“I also have one of those friends.” Jungkook
grinned when he thought of Taehyung texting him about random subjects like ‘Do
you think chicken would eat fried human legs if they took over the world?’.
“Yeah, Taehyung is one of a kind” Jimin
mumbled to himself, as he typed a reply.
“WAIT. Taehyung!? Did you say your best
friend’s name is Taehyung?!?”
Jimin glanced up with raised eyebrows.
“Taehyung as in Kim Taehyung?? Tall, a bit
skinny, always cuts up his shirts and sweaters, brown hair, handsome face. Aka
my best friend?”
“Don’t tell me you know Taehyung!” Jimin
exclaimed and they both stared at each other with widened eyes for a while,
before bursting out in disbelieving laughter.
“Wow, we were really meant to be, huh?”
Jungkook scoffed eventually, not realizing what he just said before he met
Jimin’s surprised gaze.
“Meant to be you say?” the other said
teasingly, a grin tugging his lips upwards.
Jungkook blushed in the colour of ripe
strawberries and Jimin giggled.
“You’re cute” he said, smiling at him before
focusing back on his phone.
Cute. He called me cute.
Jungkook buried his face in his pillow to
muffle the squeal forcing itself out of his mouth. It was already past
midnight, but he was still lying awake in his bed, unable to fall asleep.
He rolled to his side when his phone vibrated
with a message on his nightstand and unlocked it, squinting at the bright light
of the screen.
From: Jimin ^///^
Hey~ uh…are you still awake?
Jungkook smiled to himself and
quickly typed a reply, deleting the message a few times until he was sure that
it didn’t sound too desperate.
To: Jimin ^///^
Yep~ and you?
His eyes widened and he slapped his
hand against his mouth. You’re so stupid,
Jungkook!! OF COURSE HE’S AWAKE HE JUST SENT YOU A MESSAGE!! God damn it, he
surely thinks I’m stupid now…
From: Jimin ^///^
Of course I’m awake, dummy :’) I kind of can’t sleep T^T entertain me!!
To: Jimin ^///^
I also can’t…uhm…how exactly should I entertain you..?
From: Jimin ^///^
Idk~ tell me something about you that I don’t know yet :D
To: Jimin ^///^
Uhhhh…I like drawing^^ but I’m not exactly good at it….
From: Jimin ^///^
I bet you’re better than you think \^__^/ show me some of your
To: Jimin ^///^
Jungkook ended up taking pictures of
some of his favourite drawings and sending them to Jimin, always waiting for
the other’s opinion while gnawing on his lower lip nervously.
But Jimin liked every single drawing he sent
him and praised his skills every time and eventually, around 2AM when both of
them were too tired to write without mistyping every second word, he got a
message that made his heart jump, waking him up immediately.
From: Jimin ^///^
Jungkookie~ I know this…may be weird but…would you go out with me? This
Saturday. There’s a new movie in the cinemas that I’d like to watch and we
could go together…uhm…I mean…as a…..date?
“Oh my God” Jungkook whispered in a
high voice, throwing his phone to the side and getting off his bed to jump
around in his room like a scared kangaroo, flailing his arms around. “Oh my God
oh my God oh my God!!”
He pressed both hands against his mouth to
keep from waking his parents up, squealing into them excitedly, before
scrambling to get back to his bed to reply to Jimin’s message, just to find
that the other had sent him two more while he was celebrating.
From: Jimin ^///^
From: Jimin ^///^
I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have asked you, I know it’s weird, sorry…uh…just…forget
it, okay? See you…
This time, Jungkook screamed out loud
and he was unbelievably lucky that his parents were deep sleepers as he hurried
to type his message.
To: Jimin ^///^
NO NO NO NO, I’m sorry, I…was just slow with replying!! I want to go
with you, really!!
From: Jimin ^///^
To: Jimin ^///^
From: Jimin ^///^
Okay! :3 I’ll…pick you up at 6PM?
To: Jimin ^///^
Their first official date was the
most awkward hours they both spent with each other by now.
They were both so nervous and excited that
they barely managed to talk to each other without stuttering or blushing.
When Jimin brought him home afterwards, they
stood outside of his door for a long while, none of them really wanting to end
the evening for good.
When Jimin eventually was brave enough to
initiate a goodnight kiss, their noses bumped into each other before their lips
could meet and they both giggled embarrassed before leaning in for the second
And this time, their lips touched for real and
even if it only lasted a few, short seconds, Jungkook would call it the most
perfect kiss of his whole life.
And when Jungkook lay in bed that night, he
thought that it was indeed the most perfect date he could have asked for, shy awkwardness
A/N: Thanks for the prompt! I hope you like it :3 AGH I’m so sorry that I left you waiting so long, life was crazy and busy the last week and I barely got to write T-T I’ll try to get a few more requests up this weekend to make up for it!!^^
Y: ”I can’t wait untill you get home so we can cuddle!”
S:*Chuckles to self and can’t help but to smile to him self*
W.H:’’ You’re blushing’’
S:”I am?Well, I can’t help it.” He chuckled.
S:*Texts you* “Ah! Just the thought makes me want to be there with you! Love you”
W.H:*Texts you*”Shownu is blushing. What did you do?”
Y:“There is a nice warm spot on the couch for you babe, I miss you.”
K*Smiles because this text made his day.*
K:*”Ah I miss you more!I wish I could be at home with you, I bet the spot you have saved for me is warmer than your heart.”
Y.”STOP I AM TRASH!”
K:”You’re not but if you were you are the type of trash I would go dumpster diving for!”
Y.”I miss you!Wish you were here to watch sappy dramas with me! I am a mess right now without you!”
M:*Doesn’t know how to respond*
M.*Texts back after like 15 minutes of thinking and advice from the others* ”Ah I am sorry babe, Hopefully I will be home tonight! I know how much of a mess dramas’ make you, 2 words to remind you.Dream Knight.”
Y.”Ah! I am so lonely with this big bed on my own I wish you were at the dorm to keep your side of the bed warm!”
H.”That is really ironic timing because the boys just had to wake me up to tell me we were home!”
H”Yes see you in a few minutes babe.”
Y:”Oppa, I miss you so much,I want to feel your arms around my waist.”
W:”Awe baby, I miss you too, when I get home I’m gonna shower you in hugs and kisses!”
Y:”Ah! Your gonna make me blush!”
W:”Your so cute when you blush make sure to send me a cute selca?! I need a good luck charm for tonight’s stage!”
Y.”Do well for me tonight!”
W:”Okay. Love you I have to go!”
Y”I miss you do well tonight? I really love your selca you posted! You look really good!”
J:”You probably look better and I know you’ve been rocking sweats and a messy bun all day! Sorry I wont be home till late!”
Y:’’No you look better!”
J:’’You will always look better! Try and stay up until I get home? It’s okay if you crash though, I understand!”
Y:”I will stay up if that means falling asleep in your arms!”
Y:”Uhg I miss you too much, Cant wait too see the stage so I can see you!Then when you get home we can watch a movie and fall asleep because I know how tiring those stages get.”
I:”How do you think I feel babe? I miss you too! This text made my day, I hope you haven’t missed me too much!”
Y:”Don’t worry babe , I haven’t (even if I was I wouldn’t tell you seeing as you have a stage soon and I need you to make me and the monbebes proud!)
I:I will, I hope you have a good movie chosen, I cant wait to be home!”