because i just have so many feels

anonymous asked:

You have the biggest fangirl crush On (John Stamos, Johnny Depp, Geroge Michael etc. all really cute 80s guys btw) And have all these posters on your wall so Steve asks how come you don't have that many pictures of him to wake up to and any time you talk about him Steve always gets really jelaous so if you guys are watching one of their movies he just grabs you from the couch and places you on his lap,, like this is so cute??? Please feel free to add on 😂❤

I’m rollin’ with John Stamos because I’m a slut for him, heh

You had just put on Never Too Young to Die, and Steve was already muttering his breath.

“What was that, Stevie?”

“Nothin’, princess. C’mere,” His arms were out, his hands reaching out for you as you made your way to the couch. You sat next to him, resting your legs on his lap as he wrapped his arm around you. 

John Stamos hadn’t been on the screen for more than 5 minutes before you started practically drooling, a big smile on your face. Steve knew it was stupid to be jealous, but he didn’t like the fact that he, your boyfriend - the love of your life! - was being overshadowed by John Stamos, of all people. 

“I’m done with this,” He muttered under his breath, catching your attention.

“What? Oh shi-” Steve pulls you onto his lap, one hand on your hip, the other on your back, pushing you down onto him. You support yourself on the back of the sofa, your forehead resting against his. 

“Can I ask what’s happening here, Steve?”

“Just wanted to remind you who loves you the most in the world,” He whispers, kissing you before you have the chance to say a thing. You knew why he was acting this way, and you couldn’t help but think it was kind of cute, even when it got somewhat annoying.

anonymous asked:

I wish you would share your thoughts about Harry. I feel like you want people to catch on on something they might have no clue about or haven't even considered. Would be great to hear your vision and opinion.

Thank you for wanting to hear my opinion. You’re right. I want people to see what I see. So many people seem to love Harry without seeming to see what I see, and it just baffles me to no end because what I see is what makes me stay here. It’s what makes me respect the hell out of him, and all the boys, by extension. I feel like I don’t understand any of them nearly as well as I do Harry, but the things I see from him help me figure out the others. I’m sure some of that is projection and bias- I often wonder if I’d be a bit more like Harry were I raised differently (and had his talent). I often try to put myself in each of their shoes, and Harry’s just fit the best. I’ve been able to understand his past actions and predict others because it’s exactly what I would expect for myself.

Harry doesn’t like to lie, but he has no problem pretending to be someone else if everyone knows he’s not being himself, because he’s not really lying that way. He’s incapable of not taking into account others’ feelings. He respects other people, sometimes more than he really wants to. It’s reflex. He can’t deal with hurting anyone, and will gladly hurt himself first. It’s a strength, and it’s a weakness, and tptb know it.

Tptb wanted him to be the cash cow. He was supposed to be the rockstar heartthrob that everyone had a chance with. Imagine the dollar signs that flashed in front of their eyes when they found someone young, impressionable, charming, a bit androgynous, and eager to please. He was the perfect person to take advantage of. And they did. I think they still are.

Think about his current image. He’s still being pushed as the heartthrob rockstar. He’s not allowed to publicly interact with anyone in a way that doesn’t support the idea that he’ll love anyone and everyone. It’s a truth that they’ve twisted, so it’s hard for him to ever fight it.

Think about what he said he wanted when he was younger. He liked being domestic. He liked being with one person only. He hated being seen as a womanizer. I think that had less to do with the fact that he was with a man, and more to do with the fact that he could never be harmful to someone else like that, and it hurt that anyone could think that of him.

I think all he wants is to be able to be himself, privately and publicly, and he’s not there yet. I see so much two-sidedness in everything he has done as a solo artist, and it’s very him except for one thing. I think he likes being a bit mysterious. I think he likes sharing things about himself, but only if you earn it- only if you put in the work to meet him halfway. That way it’s communication and human interaction instead of just screaming into the void.

I think he has a much easier time expressing himself through actions and other nonverbal communication, but he loves being able to verbalize his thoughts, too, especially in creative ways. He loves a good puzzle, especially if he makes it. He needs that intellectual challenge and outlet.

I think he loves rock music but has zero interest in being a typical rock star. He just isn’t, and as I said, he doesn’t like to lie. Beyond that, I think he despises anything that puts him into one box or another. He doesn’t like being tied down like that. He wants to be free to explore, to keep his mind and his options open. He appreciates nuance and variety.

All that said, he needs his routine. He needs his home base. He needs some constancy. Back to tptb, think about the one thing they can always hold over his head. The one thing that he will always hurt himself for first. The one thing he will give up everything for; just ask him to.

I think Harry is doing everything he can to be more powerful, but I think all of this is why and how he’s doing it, and so much of what we see is that battle. I know who I want to win, and I know who is already on his side, fighting too.

I hesitated to say some of this, but I hope I made some people who believe we’re on opposite sides really question if that’s the truth, or just the story we have been told.

BTS Reaction to: Finding out their s/o is struggling from severe atychiphobia

Anon asked: "if this isn’t an inconvenience to you, may i request a bts reaction on how they will react if they found out that their s/o is struggling from severe atychiphobia (fear of failure)? but it’s totally fine if you dont, if it violates any of your rules or regulations. Thank you! 💕"

Author’s note: First of all I’m sorry it took me so long to write this. Second of all I’ve no problem writing about this because I struggled with this myself. Gifs aren’t mine. x 


Originally posted by bwiseoks

Seokjin would be such a sweetheart. He didn’t want you to feel insecure anymore so he’d try to give you as many compliments as possible. Whenever he saw that you were struggling he’d gently take your hand in his in attempt to make you feel a little more comfortable. 

“Just know that I’m here Y/N. You don’t have to do this alone.” 


Originally posted by sugagifs

Just like Seokjin Yoongi would be so soft. He knew that were something different about you but he didn’t know what. So when you told him everything fell into place. He suddenly understood why you were always so stressed when you had to hand in assignments. From then on Yoongi would try to help you as much as possible because he didn’t want you to go through this alone. 

“Y/N, just know you can tell me if I can help with something, okay?” 


Originally posted by parkjiminer

The actual cutest. Hobi would sit down with you and talk about it to understand it better. When he realized just how much you were struggling he’d try to help you so you wouldn’t feel so stressed anymore. The last thing he wanted was seeing his sunshine all stressed out. His caring nature would come out and he’d try to do as much for you as possible. So much that you’d have to tell him that you could still do some things by yourself. 

“Hobi, it’s okay I can do this myself.” 

“You sure Y/N? I just don’t want you to feel stressed.” 


Originally posted by parkjiminer

He’d actually be the one to ask you if you had atychiphobia. Namjoon noticed how stressed you’d get when you’d have to hand in something for your school and that’s why he thought you might have it. When you told him he obviously wasn’t surprised and would try to help you with it as much as possible. He’d give you compliments and tried to boost your self esteem so you wouldn’t be struggling so much anymore. 

“Y/N, I’m so proud of you for doing this. It’s really not easy I know that but you did it anyways. Wow.” 


Originally posted by sweaterpawsjimin

At first Jimin didn’t know what it was. He had never even heard of it. He didn’t even know there was such a complex name for it. Once you explained what it was he suddenly felt the need to protect you even more than he already did. Jimin didn’t like to see you struggle so he’d try to keep you out of situations where you might would. Just as long as you were happy he was too. 

“I’m sorry I didn’t know what it was at first. I hope you know i’ll be here to help you.”   


Originally posted by jjilljj

Just like Jimin Tae didn’t know what it was at first, so he went to google and found out what it was. Suddenly it hit him why you were always so stressed when you came back from work. He thought it was because your boss was being a jerk but turned out it was much more serious than that. He’d ask if you maybe wanted to get some serious help for that so you wouldn’t be struggling so much anymore. 

“Please don’t take this the wrong way but I think getting some help for it might actually make you feel a lot better Y/N.” 


Originally posted by mimibtsghost

Just like the rest of the Maknae line he didn’t know what it was at first. In fact he was so confused he went to Namjoon to ask him about it. When the leader explained what it was Jungkook instantly felt worried. He quickly grabbed his coat before making his way over to your place. You had told him that you had an exam today and that you were stressed but he didn’t realize just how stressed you were. So once you opened the door he embraced you tightly, giving you a kiss on your forehead. 

“I love you Y/N. Sorry for not realizing it sooner.” 

these types of posts always make me feel so awkward and cringe-y because like who the hell cares how many followers i have? i could see if i was c/ole s/prouse and just hit 10m but even then he had to make a joke about it because it just feels so awkward pointing out a fleeting number of people. angst aside i do appreciate that 800 of you find me entertaining enough to keep hanging out and, even if i don’t interact much, i adore you guys.

special shout out to @hotsforbughead, @zumpie@gershwinn, and @teiubescdraga/@sprouseharttea for putting up with my obnoxious ass. love you.

anonymous asked:

Should I feel guilty about missing the amas because I have to study for an exam tomorrow? I can catch the last part but I heard their performing third. I just see so many armies doing so much and I feel bad that I can’t do anything

UMM NO?????????? you have to live your life and do what is best for you and your life. NEVER feel guilty for living your life and doing what you need to do for your future. that’s what’s most important. and bts wouldn’t want you to put your life on hold for them

study for your test! that’s the most important thing

anonymous asked:

Hey! So I really just need some advice and to hear someone say how I feel is valid. I identify as genderfluid and non binary but it has taken me a long time to figure it out. I went from cis female to non binary to ftm back to non binary and I have changed my pronouns several times with my family and partner. I really want to go back to they/them but I feel like that ship has sailed because I have changed so many times already and I don't want to make it hard on my loves ones. Am I okay?

that ship has not sailed. that ship is anchored firmly in the marina and it’s not going anywhere. 

no such thing as “too many times” here. you’re keeping your loved ones updated with how to treat you with respect and dignity- you telling them about your status/pronouns is a gift, not a hard time. 

some peoples’ pronouns even change multiple times a day. but anyone who has the slightest bit of care for them is happy to stay in the loop instead of hurting that person by misgendering them unintentionally. 

you are okay. and honestly, it sounds like your family and partner are supportive and have listened to you this many times already, so it would really be quite odd and hypocritical for them to say “no, THIS time is too many changes.” 

you’re self-aware and brave and i’m so proud of you for grappling with these labels and working so hard to find one that feels right. this is hard work. and coming out multiple times isn’t a cakewalk either. 

so this pronoun change? you got this!

-Mod Artemis

celestialcyndi  asked:

The interview BTS did with Zach Sang is up! He really gave the boys the questions they deserve. I know you felt strongly about this (as did most of us 😭) so I think you'll really like this interview. It's great to see them so happy being asked questions that really matter to them as individuals rather than just random questions picked out of a hat. I really hope others could learn from this.

I saw it when I woke up earlier - and you’re right I did feel so strongly about this! I loved the interview and I really have so much respect for Zach, because he asked questions majority of us were dying to hear. Non of that repeated bs. Joon looked hella impressed and happy when he said thank you for asking and how he was the first to ask about the Love Myself Campaign - can you believe that they’ve been in the US for this many days, been on this may radio shows and interviews, have they only just been asked about it once? I really hope so too! It’s honestly given me hope!

idk do people want my advice about art styles?  i’m gonna give it anyway

style can be conscious or unconscious, but basically it’s doing something, deciding ‘I LIKE THIS’ and then continuing to do it

sometimes you actively look at your art and say wow, i like how i did this nose, i’m going to do it more.  sometimes you don’t THINK about it, you just somewhere along the line start scribbling all your hairlines because when you move faster it feels more natural somehow.  both of those are ways to change your style.

now here’s where it gets more nuanced–there are BIG style changes, and little style changes.  when you’re first learning how to art, YOU CAN’T MAKE LITTLE CHANGES.  you don’t have the consistency to do that.  that’s why so many young artists ‘adopt’ a style, like manga.  it’s easy to see, easy to visualize, and you make a LOT of progress when you teach your hand to copy shapes and formulas from someone else.  and before that elitist says anything about ‘just copying everything’, lemme tell you–this is something legit art teachers promote in their classes.  most formal art classes will at some point give you a famous painting/sculpture/etc and ask you to recreate it, to copy it.  you learn things that way.

once your hand knows how to move and how to handle your materials and your eye knows what to look for, you start to deviate from what you’ve been taught and make it your own.  you make little changes–you change your lines to be thinner, or you focus more on the shape of the profile, or you exaggerate the hands, etc etc etc, and once you do that for long enough–tada!  you have a style of your very own!

it’s all about those two steps: teach and tweak!

and you can repeat them indefinitely!  if you decide your anatomy looks off, you can teach your hand to build things using the coil method!  if you want to use colors differently, you can teach your eye to mix them closer together!  you’re never really done teaching yourself, and you’re never really done tweaking your work.  not even the people who LOOK like they’ve had the same style for thirty years are done.  i promise if you look at early peanuts comics and compare them to the end of the line, they’ll look slightly different.  don’t get discouraged and think ‘well i’ll never get there’ because you will!  it’s inevitable, really.  one day you’ll look at your work and go HM MAYBE IF I CHANGE THIS ONE LITTLE THING and then there you are!  you’re making your own style!


@ My VIP mutuals & firends.

I suggest you guys just delete and ignore the hate anon asks. Someone is obviously having fun by sending them to different blogs. DO NOT give them the power and reaction they are looking for! They want to upset us and pull nerves. They have nothing better to do.

It’s so obviously there is like 1 or 2 of the same anon who keeps sending these hate asks. Just let them go because they want you to feel like shit. They’re going to Lee harassing us and he boys. You can explain to them how many times and they’ll just keep on going. Pls take my word!

Thank you

Mark, words cannot express the many ways I thank you. You have given me so much joy in these couple of months I’ve been a fan. I just wished I knew you before. Please continue being who you are because I can honestly say you have made me into better and happier person.

It’s getting late here so I’ll sleep. And I hope you somehow see this. :3

This is all too relatable. I’ve been at the point lately where I feel like there’s nothing about my body/self that I like. I feel so insecure about myself that I don’t want to leave the house and I don’t like people touching me or looking at me. It’s rough. I’ve become so incredibly isolated and reclusive. This is what it is to be trans and dealing with dysphoria. I’m in a relationship right now and luckily it’s going alright, but I’m always hesitant to get in relationships because I have many days (sometimes months) of feeling like this and I won’t talk to people and I’ll just stay hidden away as much as possible. It sucks. If you’re dating a trans person, please keep all of this in mind. They’re going through a lot and you have to be flexible and understanding. Let them have space if they need it. Communicate with them and see what they need/don’t need and support them the best you can.

anonymous asked:

Something I never quite understood about P&F - From the Christmas Vacation special, we can see that there are a lot of agents. But in Quantum Bugaloo where Perry is hurt and put out of commission for a while... somehow there was no one available and Dr. D took over? I mean, come on! With all the agents around (because I doubt there are that many evil scientists in the tri-state area) and how often Dr. D ends up /c/

/c/ ruining his own inators, how in the world was Dr. D actually able to take over?! What about Peter the Panda? He seemed pretty okay. It’s not like Perry is the only agent. I’m just confused and wanted to vent. Thank-you!

Thanks for the message, and sorry it took so long to get around to.

Perry’s officially OWCA’s best agent, iirc. And, while Heinz does have self-defeating tendencies, I feel like part of that’s based on knowing Perry always shows up the next day, after they form a bond over the course of the show.

I mean, It’s About Time was a major turning point, and I believe Lights Candace Action was one too even wrote a meta about it once and those both came after the rollercoaster incident where the timeline diverged.

As for Peter the Panda, well, Seattle. (There’s also the possibility he was going easy on him in It’s About Time to get him and everyone else in the right place for his real scheme. Again, that’s my own headcanons showing through :P)

So, the handwave I’m going with is, no other agent could stop him as well as Perry does, and with no reason to hold back (such as a budding friendship), he grew bolder and less self-defeating with each victory over a lesser agent.

Something like that, anyway.

i sometimes wonder if there’s anything special about my writings. i sometimes wonder if any of the stories i want to tell are even worth reading, are worth being told. i wonder if anyone really enjoys them or just recommends and reads them out of pity. i feel like all of my works sound very similar and boring. i don’t see anything special about them and it makes me feel inadequate, it makes me unmotivated to continue. because it would just sound the same again, i would get no feedback on it, as usual. 

and as much as i enjoy writing as an action, expressing my creativity in a way that could make it enjoyable for more than one person. as much as i write for myself, because there are so many things churning in my head that want to be written. there is still such an appeal in getting mail about your works. sure, i might not have much up but i will gladly take any kind of feedback or comment on what i have.

anonymous asked:

I'm conflicted and i don't follow a exo blog so I hope you don't mind me doing this here but I LOVE exo so much they are VERY dear to me however I believe exo and bts should be taken off of mama because it really just is a popularity contest at this point people aren't even considering the other candidate's and I feel really bad for them cause they are just being ignored :(

as someone who stans both groups I agree. of course it’s unfair if exo n bts aren’t a part of it, but I kind of wish they weren’t. there are so many other groups who are so talented, but have a much smaller fanbase. I’m glad that the voting only counts 30%? but still. For example nct’s cherry bomb chore is so detailed and amazing, but they have (almost) no chance against bigger groups. honestly, sometimes I wish that fans couldn’t control awards at all, but that’s my opinion. Also don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that exo n bts don’t deserve it. but sometimes they do get awarded for something that another group deserved more.
thank you so much for bringing this up anon<3


Don’t forget Gorillaz fans, Jamie Hewlett exist! He made all you’re favorite band members come to life in the music videos, shorts, ect! He continues drawing them countless times and works day and night to give you new content with the band members! So please appreciate him!!! ❤❤❤

Lance moving on from Blue to pilot Red is blatant foreshadowing for Lance’s love-interest trajectory, and heres why:

So I don’t know if anyone’s touched on this before, but it has always seemed obvious to me and I’ve never seen any metas on it so I thought I’d lay down dome FACTS. 

In my opinion, the Blue Lion is representing Allura and the Red Lion is Keith, respectively. 

In Season 3 Episode 2, Blue starts rejecting Lance. The canonly-female lion won’t open up for Lance, and is not responding to any of Lance’s pleas. 

He then begins to try various tactics, saying him taking an interest the Black Lion (canonly male lion, Keith’s current lion) was just a phase

This may just be a cute joke, but in my opinion it has a lot of internalized-biphobia connotation. Bisexual people are constantly told/may even believe that their sexuality is just an “experiment” or “just a phase”, that doesn’t mean anything. I truly think this has significance for Lance and his sexuality, and this joke was put in for a reason.  Bi Lance foreshadowing, anyone? 

Then, Lance starts flirting with the lion, trying his best pick up lines to get Blue to open up. But none of these work. 

Hm. What does that remind you of? 

Lance constantly flirts with Allura, trying everything he can to get her to notice him and reciprocate feelings. But she doesn’t respond, and it has never worked on her. In this sense, she is the Blue Lion. And in a few minutes after Lance gives up trying, Allura walks in and literally becomes the paladin of Blue. This scene has always seemed very platonic to me, but that’s another meta. The point is, Allura is now the pilot of the Blue Lion, which only further draws the parallels between Allura and Blue. Lance resigns in his position and platonically hands over his job to Allura. 

Personally, this whole scene seems like a foreshadowing for Lance giving up on Allura and moving on. This is something he should have done a long time ago, because Allura never reciprocated his feelings, but Lance is persistent. Even so, I think eventually Lance will resign because Allura just isn’t responding to him, like Blue.

We see the Red Lion call out to Lance. Allura sees it as the canonly male lion calling to Lance. Lance’s immediate reaction is to think that Keith trained his lion to bite his head off. But Allura assures him otherwise, and helps him accept that this is his role now. 

In a way, I think the whole “Maybe its roaring for you” is a jab at Ka//ura, where many fans wrongly think it will be canon because of the 80s version. But that’s just a further stretch. 

Anyway, this may parallel a conversation or an event in the future. Lance inherently thinks that Keith doesn’t like him, based on their rivalry and general relationship up to this point, despite the bonding moment and Lance communicating with Keith in this season. Could this be holding Lance back from realizing his crush on Keith? I think so, yes. He’s only extending their rivalry further, using it as an excuse for why he shouldn’t have feelings for Keith, because they are enemies and Keith hates him and would never like him back. But is this true? No, we all know that Keith is fond of Lance and they do have a connection. 

I could see a scene in the future where Lance goes to Allura with his feelings for Keith, and she reassures him that Keith doesn’t hate him and this is part of who he is now, just like with the Red Lion. It may be a reach but it’s plausible.
What’s even more plausible, however, is how Lance assuming Keith’s previous position in Red is foreshadowing his crush on Keith and their eventual relationship. Lance gave up on Blue and was pulled in an entirely different direction, not what he wanted (Blue) but to what he needed (Red). And what does this already parallel? Lauren’s description of Lance’s future love interest: someone he needed not someone he wants, ending up in a different place than where he started. 

Lance even looks back at Blue, what he’s used to wanting and is comfortable with (Allura, women) before moving on to something that is different and more of a risk, but he needs right now (Keith, men). It’s a reach, I know. But it’s quite cinematic if you think about it. 

I could go on and on about this, but I think you get the jist. 

TL;DR Klance is cannon king. 

This week, just so you guys know, I’m overwhelmed in the best sense. It’s all because of you and all of the amazing, insane, wonderful, loyal acts and feelings you’ve expressed not only this week but the past year, the past 10 years. I’m not trying to get up here and bore you with my feelings but I’m about to be 28 and there are so many of you here tonight that have been hanging out with me online, or listening to my music for 10 years, 12 years, 6 years, whatever it is. I am trying so hard to process the way that I feel about what we’ve done this week. It’s just different this time, it just is. I used to feel happy and just jump around. This time I’m so happy and I’m so proud of us. It’s a different kind of happiness. It’s like a contentment and a pride that I have for you and how close we are and that you guys would come here and went to the pop-up show yesterday. That was crazy. It’s all just so much to take and I am so happy to see you. I just hope you had a good time tonight so far. I’m going to say hi to you guys, I’m going to take pictures, and that’s what’s gonna happen next. I don’t even know what to say. I’m so happy that you like me, thank you for being here. I’ll see you in a minute!
—  Taylor at the Taylor Swift Now reputation celebration (x)

1.03 // 3.04

[TRANS] non-no Magazine 2018 Jan Issue - 100 Answers w/ BTS

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Q1. Your dream job when you were a child?
A badminton player when I was in elementary school. After that my parents bought me a computer so I got into gaming and wanted to do a job about gaming.

Q2. How did the members celebrate your birthday in 2017?
We were all practicing singing and dancing and the lights suddenly went off, then the door was opened and Jimin-san and V-san came in holding a cake.

Q3. When do you feel like you have become an adult!
I turned 20 in Japanese age in September! But actually I’m still a kid at heart, so truthfully I don’t really feel like I have become an adult.

Q4. In which moment do you feel like you’re still a kid?
For example, when I watch and think about a video or an interview. When I read people’s comments, I feel like even with the same question, they think from a much bigger point of view than me. That’s when I feel like maybe I’m still lacking in depth.

Q5. A work that touched you recently?
“Love, Rosie”. It made me touched because it’s a sweet but sad love story.

Q6. The kind of song you’re planning to compose?
Song of styles like future base and chillstep which I enjoy and listen to a lot.

Q7. Favorite dessert?
The Japanese snack kinako mochi. I like that it melts in my mouth because it’s just so fluffy! Also I ate cheesecake before the photoshoot for <non-no>. That one was delicious too♡

Q8. How do you take care of your beautiful voice?
I don’t pay particular attention to it… Like I just sing with my original voice I’ve had since I was born…

Q9. Any habit?
Covering my nose when I yawn. Not mouth but nose somehow. (laughs) And I pull the baby hair on my face unconsciously. I know about these things because fans told me.

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anonymous asked:

I've always thought in terms of personality, arya is much more like catelyn and Sansa much more like Ned. Popular opinion seems to like it the other way round though. Maybe it's because of looks, maybe it's because Sansa/cat less popular arya/Ned more so they group them like that. But I firmly believe personality wise, arya gets more from cat and Sansa more from Ned. I was wondering if you could expand on this and share your opinion?

Hey there anon :). I’ve picked up on this many times before and for some reason its often overlooked by many in the fandom. I’ve always thought that while Arya resembles Ned and Sansa resembles Cat, their personality and mannerisms are actually more like the other parent. I personally think this is often denied because a lot of people love Ned and Arya but don’t like Cat and Sansa, so I’m hoping this may help change their opinion.

Catelyn and Arya:

Feminism: Despite the very patriarchal society they live in, both Cat and Arya are essentially champions of women, recognising the worth of women and also almost scorning how they’re seen as second value citizens in Westeros:

  • Catelyn: ‘A woman can rule as wisely as a man’: When Brynden seems to worry that Lysa intends to rule the Eyrie, Catelyn says this, emphasising her belief that women can do just as much of a good job ruling (and to be fair, Brynden does agree that the ‘right’ woman can)
  • Catelyn: ‘Girls are not important enough, are they?’: This is her response when Robb tells her that he could’ve traded Jaime for Ned, and she realises that Sansa and Arya aren’t worth as much, lamenting how society favours men over women.
  • Arya: ‘The woman is important too’: This is when Jon spots that Joffrey wears both the royal Baratheon sigil of his ‘father’ and the Lannister lion of his mother and says that the royal sigil should be enough but he wears his mother’s house sigil as equal and Arya protests that, saying that women are just as important.

Both Catelyn and Arya are actually rather intelligent: Now I’m not saying that Sansa and Ned aren’t intelligent, but Arya definitely takes after Catelyn, she’s a lot more intuitive than Sansa is, and that is all Cat. Catelyn manages to outwit Tyrion, and he acknowledges that himself: ‘All his life Tyrion had prided himself on his cunning…yet this seven-times-damned she-wolf Catelyn Stark had outwitted him at every turn’. Arya is intelligent as well, for example, she uses her wit and intelligence to manipulate Jaqen into freeing them from Harrenhal, she manages to learn how to speak Braavosi, despite her young age (I also love how when she’s in Braavos, ‘Cat of the Canals’ is a name she uses, it breaks my heart).

They both have a massive taste for revenge:

  • Arya: ‘Every night Arya would say their names. Ser Gregor…The Tickler and the Hound, Ser Amory, Ser Ilyn, Ser Meryn, King Joffrey, Queen Cersei’: The list of names that Arya has of people she wants to kill is very well known in both the books and the show.
  • Catelyn: ‘I want them all dead, Brienne. Theon Greyjoy first, then Jaime Lannister and Cersei and the Imp, every one’: This is before Lady Stoneheart, so there’s not even the excuse of the ruthless, resurrected zombified Catelyn who is taking this stance on revenge.

Catelyn literally has a list of people she wants dead, not necessarily by her hand, whereas Arya actually wants to kill the people on her list, but if this isn’t a huge pointer to who Arya takes after, then I don’t know what is. Now Catelyn isn’t violent, but she’s certainly after vengeance. Ned isn’t a someone who seems like that. Yes he went to war, but I’d argue that was more about finding Lyanna. And if he had got the chance, I’d say he would’ve killed Aerys without blinking, but I firmly believe Arya’s stance on revenge and vengeance comes from Cat, and not Ned. Here are some of Cat’s other quotes:

  • ‘You are the gentle sex’ said Lord Karstark…’A man has a need for vengeance’…‘Give me Cersei Lannister, Lord Karstark, and you would see how gentle a woman can be’
  • ‘I have no skill with swords, but that does not mean that I do not dream of riding to King’s Landing and wrapping my hands around Cersei Lannister’s white throat and squeezing until her face turns black’

Not only is Cat demonstrating her taste for vengeance, but particularly in that second quote, she’s describing it gruesomely. Cat has a fierceness that is seen in Arya. Arya’s list is almost purely based on a desire to get revenge for the deaths of her family, that sounds pretty similar to a certain resurrected character. This fierceness we see in Arya is all Cat, Ned is not a fierce person at all.

Emotion: Both Cat and Arya are driven by emotion, and this can often mean them doing reckless things. While Cat (for the most part) is more rational, and that comes with age and maturity, she can be impulsive at times. For Arya, things like hitting Joffrey (although he was attacking Mycah, Joffrey is the crown prince and it’s punishable by death to strike him) is an example of her recklessness, but she does it to protect someone. Catelyn releasing Jaime strikes me as something similar, it is a reckless act, but driven by a desire to protect her daughters and get them safe. Yes, it wasn’t a good move and severely weakened Robb’s cause (Though I don’t think that cost him the war as others do. They just place the blame on Cat), but it reminds me of Arya, because that is something she would do.

Cat is very emotionally driven when it comes to Jon. Jon’s presence (not his existence, contrary to popular belief, Cat doesn’t hate the fact that Jon exists. She actually says she wouldn’t mind if Ned had many bastards, as long as they were kept away) affects her emotionally and it hurts her to see him every day, to be reminded of the honourable Ned Stark’s infidelity. She acts on emotion and chooses to ignore him over something he had no choice in, and it is driven by her hurt over the situation. Arya is similar to this, in the show, not the book, when Gendry is taken. Gendry is like an anchor for Arya at this point, and it really hurts her to see him being taken by Melisandre. However, she adds Beric, Thoros and Melisandre to her list for this. A list that includes Cersei, Joffrey, Walder Frey, people who helped murder her family. Now, Gendry being taken really hurt her, but do them three deserve to be on her list? Not really, it’s purely driven by emotion.

Childhood: Arya is obviously well known for her play during childhood. She’s messy, enjoys playing with the boys, wants to swordfight, and just wild in general. People often liken that to Lyanna, but Catelyn remembers her own childhood where she used to make mud pies with Lysa, and used to play with her and Petyr. Although she didn’t swordfight, Catelyn’s own childhood mirrors Arya’s quite a bit, since she also enjoyed playing as a child (I have a headcanon that Arya’s archery skills come from Catelyn because as a child, Cat was taught how to use a bow and arrow by Brynden Tully, but there’s no evidence for that, it’s just a headcanon). People may then call Cat a hypocrite for wanting Arya not to engage in play activities, but people also forget that Cat was forced to grow up very quickly after her mother died and it likely was a quick transition that she wasn’t prepared for and I argue that she wanted Arya to be more prepared than she was and she’s also aware of how harsh society is for women, especially those who don’t fit into the roles of ‘looking pretty’ and producing babies.

Strength: Another similarity is both of them remaining strong.

  • Arya: ‘I am a wolf and will not be afraid’ and the repeated ‘I’m not afraid’ in the show’ demonstrate Arya’s strength. Arya is afraid, and the Hound picks up on that, but she tries to push the feeling of being afraid away out of fear of being weak, she can’t allow herself to be weak, instead she resorts to her inner strength.
  • Catelyn: ‘I want to weep, she thought. I want to be comforted. I’m so tired of being strong. I want to be foolish and frightened for once. Just for a small while, that’s all, a day, an hour’ While Catelyn is talking about grief and not fear, she also shares the similar belief that she has to be strong, so she pushes her grief away because she also can’t allow herself to be weak, like Arya, demonstrating the inner strength she has.

I said in a previous ask Cat and Arya’s relationship is undervalued, but there are so many things Catelyn loves about Arya and now Arya will never get the chance to know how much her mother loved her. One thing that is heartbreaking is that we know how desperately Catelyn wanted to give Ned a son that looked like him, but she never got the chance to. I believe that despite the fact that Arya is not seen as ‘pretty’ and doesn’t get the nice Tully features the other four do, Cat wouldn’t change Arya’s appearance because Arya is the brown haired, grey eyed child she’d always wanted.

LSH doesn’t look like she will be introduced in the show, but in the books, I firmly believe that it will be Arya, to put her out of her misery. And I like to think that having to kill her own mother, Arya will stop her quest for vengeance and head north to find her family.

Ned and Sansa:

Naivety: Sansa has obviously changed since season 1, but in season 1, her and Ned shared the same naivety. Both of them go to Cersei in the hope that she will listen to them, and it backfires on both of them. Ned confronted Cersei with the fact that he knew the truth about her and Jaime, and that was essentially him signing his death warrant. It was naive of Ned to believe that Cersei wouldn’t try to fight back in any way. Cersei has watched Robert’s vengeance follow the Targaryen children around in exile, and she didn’t want that for her own children, Ned’s naivety cost him his life. Sansa also runs to tell Cersei of Ned’s plans to leave, and it backfired. 

Too Trusting: Ned obviously doesn’t trust Cersei, but he places trust in her that he believes she will take up his offer and flee. He trusts that she will put the interest of her children first, and she doesn’t and he was too trusting of her.

  • Ned: ‘Distrusting me was the wisest thing you’ve done since you climbed off your horse’—‘I did warn you not to trust me’: This is the classic example of Ned being too trusting. Placing his trust in a man who literally tells him not too.
  • Sansa: ‘Once she had loved Prince Joffrey with all her heart and admired and trusted his mother, the queen. They had repaid that love and trust with her father’s head: Sansa places her trust in the wrong people, just as Ned does, and unfortunately for her, she finds out the hard way and it’s certainly a learning curve for her. The too trusting thing is all Ned, Catelyn is much more wary of people, as is Arya (Roose Bolton at Harrenhal for example)

The Eyrie: This is much more of a simple parallel, but it is still one.

  • Ned: Grows up in the Eyrie as a ward of Jon Arryn
  • Sansa: Spends time in the Eyrie under the ‘protection’ of Littlefinger as his bastard daughter (niece in the show)

It’s a very simple similarity, but I believe there is a purpose to everything that George writes. It’s funny that LF is almost trying to make Sansa turn into Catelyn, but he’s doing so in a place where Sansa will feel connected to Ned.

Traditional: While Cat and Arya very much champion women and are essentially medieval feminists, Ned and Sansa are much more traditional. Now, that’s not to say that they don’t value women, because they do. Sansa has probably been beaten down to think that women aren’t worth much but by season 7, we see that she’s really starting to believe in herself as a woman. Ned definitely valued women, respected them, he had a lot of trust in Catelyn, but in reality they are both traditional and fit in with the patriarchal society. Sansa despises of anything unlady-like that Arya does, because it’s not how a woman should act. Certainly in book one, Sansa is convinced that she has to look pretty for Joffrey, smile for him, give him babies, a very traditional medieval view of a woman’s role. Ned certainly doesn’t see Catelyn as a breeding machine, and that’s not what my point is here, but he is still traditional in the fact that he is in charge, and what he says goes. He doesn’t give Cat a say in Jon’s situation and then forbids her to talk about him, using his authority as the male over her. That’s not to say Ned is mean, it’s him being traditional, the man is superior to the woman.

Gentleness: Both Ned and Sansa are much more gentle than Cat and Arya. Cat and Arya have a fierceness we don’t see in Ned and Sansa. Sansa is a gentle young lady, made for the south, doesn’t know how harsh the world is, a very gentle soul. Despite his rough exterior, we know that Ned is actually a very gentle person: ‘Eyes that could be soft as fog or hard as stone’, ‘Once I found the good, sweet heart beneath Ned’s solemn face’. Sansa’s gentleness towards people and life is 100% Ned, even though he doesn’t seem the gentle type.

Armour: Their metaphorical suits of armour are pointed out:

  • Ned: ‘You wear your honour like a suit of armour, Stark’
  • Sansa: ‘What was it that Septa Mordane used to tell her? A ladies armour is courtesy’

It’s another simple similarity, but a fascinating one again, because they are both using these metaphorical suits of armour to almost shield them from real life. Ned holds honour in high regard, as Sansa holds courtesy as well, and they are the things that they use to shield themselves, as armour is supposed to do.

General Personality: Ned is known as the most quiet (his nickname is the ‘Quiet Wolf’), sensible, patient, dutiful and this is definitely evident in Sansa. Sansa is also rather quiet (in comparison to Arya), sensible and patient, she’s not rash or reckless, she’s slower to act to things, idealistic, she has a great deal of empathy. That’s not to say that Catelyn is the complete opposite, Catelyn does have empathy and she’s not completely reckless, but these qualities are much more evident in Ned.

Reassurance: This again is only a small one, but in the show only, we’ve seen a similarity between Ned and Sansa, trying to reassure Catelyn and Jon respectively that they belong in Winterfell

  • Ned: ‘All these years and I still feel like an outsider when I come here’ — ‘You have five Northern children. You’re not an outsider’
  • Sansa: ‘I’m not a Stark’ — ‘You are to me’

It’s a very simple parallel, but an important one. They are both reassuring someone who isn’t sure of their place, that they belong. We saw Sansa through season 6 continue to try and assure Jon that he had a place, that he was a Stark. She made him a Stark cloak, she told him he should have the lord’s chamber, she convinced him to be the person to lead them retaking Winterfell. I imagine that Ned throughout his marriage, assured Catelyn that she belonged in Winterfell, the North was her home etc.

Like Cat and Arya, Ned and Sansa’s relationship is massively undervalued as well. Sansa is his first daughter, and while he obviously loves Arya too, that’s something special to him. She’s the first child he would’ve been present for the birth, seen her as a newborn. We don’t actually know when Ned and Cat fell in love, but Sansa could’ve been the first child out of love. Sansa is precious to Ned, she’s just like him in personality, but she looks just like the woman he loves more than anything, and her innocence and gentle look on the world is why I think he doesn’t tell her what the world is really like, he wants to shield his little girl from the horrors of it.

In the end, people talk a lot about Ned sacrificing his honour for Jon, but they often ignore the fact that Ned loved Sansa enough that he was willing to be deemed a traitor to his best friend in order to save her and that is Ned Stark summed up in one scene. He thinks honour is important, but it’s nothing compared to family. Sansa is one of the last things he sees before he dies, and Ned would be proud of the woman Sansa has become