because i don't think she gets enough love

(long post, sorry)

In spite of everything I love Harley Quinn but, damn, writers treat her so badly. I swear, the temptation to make her actually stupid must be terrible because it’s so often implied, or explicitly stated, that she slept her way through school. First of all, it does not work like that.  Second, she’s not a therapist or a psychologist, she’s a psychiatrist, she’s a fricking MD and a damn young one too. Managing pre-med and collegiate gymnastics that she relied on to keep her scholarship? Harley is fucked up, but she’s not the dumb blonde she plays. (also stop making her stacked, she’s a gymnast. she is 4’11” of pure muscle and is not top heavy)

If you want a good Harley backstory it’s simple. She’s ADHD but medicated and slightly robotic because of it. I want to take special care not to demonize meds but, rather, people’s disapproval of neurodivergence and a lack of focus on what is best for a patient rather than what is most convenient for others. So, maybe, around ten years old Harley is a hyperactive space cadet who’s brilliant at tests but sloppy at coursework, who would be a gymnastics prodigy if she could actually focus on technique and put in practice time instead of fooling around. Then the meds come and it’s actually really cool because she can do the things she needs to do instead of just wanting to do them, doing something else entirely, and getting in trouble. People are proud of her, she’s proud of herself. But now there are expectations. Family and teachers and coaches overschedule her, find worth only in her success and don’t care about her mental health at all as long as she’s performing and castigate her when she does fail. Fuck if you don’t internalize that. But she doesn’t look unhealthy and she’s doing amazing. She actually has to choose between the Olympic trials and continuing her grad studies. She probably has some issues with self-harm but it either doesn’t look like self-harm or is well covered up. 

When Arkham accepts her, fresh from her residency, it’s not a mistake. The woman is amazing. All they can see is a mountain of achievements rather than the seething ball of nerves, self-loathing, and imposter syndrome boiling just under the surface. That’s when Joker comes in. He’s got the Hannibal Lecter shtick down. Where everyone else sees an intelligent driven young woman he sees a frightened overwhelmed girl who is working her hardest to convince the world she’s anyone other than herself. Sending her into a nervous breakdown would be too easy so he doesn’t even bother. Instead he’s open with her, almost friendly. The other doctors are amazed, Harley is amazed, she’s not done anything particularly revolutionary but, for the first time in forever, it looks like the clown prince of crime is showing progress. He unravels her and it’s a challenge, she flinches back and gets very serious when he comes too close to the real Harley under the professional. Still, soon she’s questioning everything. She doesn’t even really like her co-workers. She hasn’t had a real friend in years. She’s forgotten how to have fun. Did she ever want this to be her life or did she just do it for other people? It starts so slowly that it looks, at first, like she’s getting better at self-care. Maybe something totally silly one weekend, a trampoline park where she can enjoy the way her toned body moves without stressing out over landings, a face painting booth at a street fair, some garishly colored downright tacky decoration that clashes with her sensible apartment. Suddenly she realizes how much she hates knowing the difference between cream and ecru. The beigeness of her life is repulsive. She hates the person she’s pretending to be even more that she hates herself which is really saying something.

After her weekend of freedom she would have called in sick if it wasn’t so suddenly important to see him. The relief she feels at talking to one of Gotham’s most infamous supercriminals is disturbing but it is relief and she’s been swallowing a slow-motion panic attack for hours. She admits, though she shouldn’t, that she took his advice about doing something fun and he teases her, what would straight-laced Doctor Quinzel do for fun? Did she realphabetize her sock drawer or buy a new clipboard? It’s not important to impress him, it’s really not. He’s dangerous, cruel, and he looks so proud when she admits that she bought a lamp shaped like a lawn flamingo. The only mistake, he says, is that she should have stolen it. She hopes the wicked thrill it gives her doesn’t show on her face. It does. She almost even laughs. He likes it when he can make her laugh and she likes it when he likes things.

It’s wrong and unprofessional, the relationship she develops, and she knows it but her whole life she’s been so high strung. Nothing she’s done has been for her, she’s not sure she knows how to really do selfish things anymore, but he knows the selfish things she needs to do. It feels good when she follows his advice even when it’s small things like the rainbow striped socks she wears concealed under her very bland slacks and sensible shoes. She’s so happy, almost giddy, and he loves her happiness, he loves her, he loves the real her that she’s had to beat down and hide for so long, the her that even she isn’t able to love. She is able to love him, though, and since he loves her she’s able to love herself for him, to protect and nurture something so important to him.

When the choice comes between her old self, the tedious endless labor of making the world proud, and Him, the spectacular man that brought color into her life, it’s not even a question. She kills Doctor Harleen Quinzel, she throws away the version of her that let herself burn just for medals and hollow accolades. She embraces Harley Quinn and it’s so much a part of her nature she can’t even see that she’s still living her life for someone else’s approval, except this time that person is a murderous clown. She hasn’t let her hair down, she’s just put it in pigtails instead of a bun.

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The Mac Tirs + Ferelden
The name "Mac Tir" means "son of the land."
It was bestowed upon Loghain by King Maric after the Battle
of River Dane.
The Fereldan people considered the name highly appropriate:
to them, Teyrn Loghain was a son of the entire nation,
and he was famously said to have told a crowd
that Ferelden would forever be "part of his blood"

anonymous asked:

I've been thinking about what Jen/Colin said when at the Atlanta panel. Jen mentioned again that she loves that a&e don't break up CS, that they work through their problems as a team (don't remember exact wording). At that point they were on 17 I think? Do you think there's anything there? That maybe Emma won't give back the ring? I'd have to imagine that would seem like a break up, at least for a bit. Or maybe they'll work it out quick enough to not seem like a break up like other shows have.

OK I apologize in advance because this might get a little wordy. LOL

There is no doubt in my mind that this is not going to be a standard breakup–even a short term one. And here’s why.

Killian and Emma have never been written as an average couple. They’ve never been staged as as average couple. Their relationship arc has not been that of an average couple. The stakes in their relationship–both on a physical and emotional level–have never been average. 

This isn’t an accident. It’s all been carefully handled since day one. At no point have they ever veered off this path. This isn’t just love, it isn’t just true love, it’s epic true love. 

Of course even epic true love faces bumps in the road just like any other relationship. The difference is how epic true love handles those bumps.

I don’t believe for one second we’ll see Emma give the ring back to Killian in a flouncy “we’re over” type scene. That’s not happening.

Here’s the bottom line. 

In any relationship there are a series of moments when you either trust the other person or you don’t. You either believe in them or you don’t. You either have faith in them or you don’t. These are the moments that define a relationship. 

Emma and Killian have faced every one of those moments unflinchingly. They trust each other not only with their lives but with their hearts. They believe in each other’s vision of not only the present but the future. They each have tptal faith that the other will be there for them in every way imaginable.

You don’t build an epic love story and then damage it with a retread of a plotline we’ve all see 100000000 times. And there is absolutely nothing in what we’ve seen on screen up to this point that shows they have any intention of doing that now.

Speaking from a strictly structural point of view–and those of you who read the bullets know how I love me some structure–the bookend scenes of the proposal were Belle not only understanding but applauding the reason why Gold did the bad thing he did ala the Blue Fairy and Regina wrestling with the idea of reconciling the two sides of herself. I mean seriously–they’re not even being subtle here.

I think anyone preparing themselves for a worst case scenario where Killian and Emma have a big fight, break up, he heads off and they spend several episodes up to their eyeballs in hurt feelings and bad behavior is in for a very pleasant surprise.

And those people hoping for that scenario are going to be sorely disappointed.

Gideon may have something up his sleeve but don’t underestimate Emma. She’s the farthest thing from a brainless little piece of fluff, susceptible to manipulation by a sociopath with training wheels that there is. She’s smart and she’s strong and she loves her man. She’ll behave accordingly.

As for Killian, his only doubt at the moment is in own worthiness. He blames himself for what happened with Robert far more than anyone else will in the end. And yes I include Charming in that.

He’s about to face a test but it won’t have anything to do with Emma. He doesn’t have to prove anything to her. Or convince her of anything. He has to convince himself.

And in an epic love story when one partner is facing a crisis of confidence in themselves the other partner is there to hold them up, to support them, and to love them.

While I don’t think Emma will hurl the ring at Killian in anger I do think at some point it will come off and there will be a second proposal. Because what we see in the sneak peek is Emma realizing that she robbed Killian of his moment. Not intentionally and not with malice but nevertheless she took it from him. 

And at some point we’re going to see her, and the show, give him that moment back.

Get the kleenex.

anonymous asked:

I need ur help pls (for the sake of the yoonmin fandom) my sister, a heavy jikook shipper (jikook is her life I swear) wants me to rec her some yoonmin fics (we watched a serendipity x yoonmin fmv haha) and I don't think I have enough exp to rec her anything good? I rly want something that'll blow her mind. I think she'll like fluffy/angsty fics (w/ a happy ending ofc), and preferably one that doesn't show JK in a bad light cuz she loves JK. Pls and thank you so much 💜💜💜

First of all, I can actually relate to your sister because Ji Kook was my original ship in bangtan (I know, Shocking isn’t it?) but YoonMin came for my ass, and boy, did they get it lmao.  i don’t know if What i rec will necessarily blow her mind but there are a few that i loved a lot. also, don’t worry i love Jungkook too much (Kid’s my phone’s home screen after all) to have anything with him in a bad light!

Yoonmin Fics

ten things i love about you

Baby Blue (I’ll Bloom For You)

Black Cat

Legitimately ANY fic by  Elemir

need a little sweetness in my life

i don’t care if you’re not sorry, i forgive you

The Devil Wears A Leather Jacket (Not Prada)

Just A Set Of Lips

give me a sign

The 100-Day Love Challenge

when you’re in love all the lines get blurred

Heroes, we come in all shapes and sizes

Yoonmin Fics, with good Kook characterization/cameos 

(Because i love him)

Vocal Princess

Pickup Lines

Macarons

half feral, but just right

If You Get The Chance

Impractical Magic

Meeting Us Was What I Wanted

Out of My System

Ice Cream Friday Rides

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I hope this helped, and that she enjoys them, and that they’re what you were expecting/hoping for! maybe even turn her into a yoomin shipper ;) lol good luck! (Also, maybe send me the link to the serendipity yoonmin fan MV??)

anonymous asked:

Imagine Harry and y/n picking out names while she's pregnant with twins and she's all fussy because she's sleepy but Harry has had her up for hours "poppet what about Oliver, cute isn't" and she's getting cranky "no Harry sleep I need sleep or else I will agree with a name I don't like" and he's all "poppet the babies are coming we don't want them to be unnamed".

“ Olivier and Oliver are such pretty names love. Don’ yeh think.”

Groaning she rolls to find Harry sitting with a baby names book. His side lamp on, illuminating the room enough for her to get cranky. She’s been sleepy and tired the whole day. And Harry being get Harry wasn’t letting her sleep. He was so very much excited and wanted to look for the name at 10 pm.

Nowadays the twins had been moving a lot and kicking like hell. Her feet were swollen and her back aching.

“What’re yeh doing?”

“Lookin’ for baby names poppet. Monkeys can come anytime soon.” He said looking deeply into the book, searching for names.

“H sleep. And let me sleep too.”

“Bu’ baby i don’t want my kids to be unnamed ” he replied innocently. She groaned and leaned over him to switch off the lamp.

“Sleep right now and let me sleep or else you won’t be able to get me pregnant the next time!”

How’s your day?

anonymous asked:

imagine if they needed to a true love's kiss and clary tries to kiss jace to wake him up but it does not work. magnus looks at maia and says, "go for it, mango." maia doesn't get it because she thinks there is no way she can wake jace up again by a kiss. so she gives jace a true love's kiss and he wakes up. he realizes that maia has given him a tlk and he smiles and says, "i was hoping it'd be you."

THERE’S JUST SO MUCH GOING ON HERE ANON, MY HEART!!!!! go for it mango, oh my god magnus giving maia a nickname is truly what i need. maia thinking she’s not enough to wake jace up? JACE HOPING IT’D BE MAIA. DON’T. I’M.

anonymous asked:

Any fluffy HCs for our favorite lesbians? I'm in need of more lesbian headcanons because they don't get enough love.

I AGREE!

I have this post here, but have some more!

Charlotte is constantly leaving Cordelia little notes on the back of receipts, and Cordelia saves them all in a scrapbook.

Cordelia has a special heart mug in the diner, that’s only for Charlotte. Once, she saw Mendel gave someone else the mug to use, and she got furious. 

Once, Cordelia walked into the bed room, and fake coughed. Charlotte was like, “are you okay?” and Cordelia dramatically fell into Charlotte lap and said, “I think I’m… love sick.” 

anonymous asked:

I don't understand why people love Danny so much. It's not just about the fact that she's kinda preventing hollestein from happening. I don't like the way she acts, she's trying to please Hollis too much. Idk, i just find her annoying. Why do u like her???

hello anon! sorry for the delay, but i think my heart has finally calmed enough to answer your question. i understand that not everyone loves danny. i get that. everyone is entitled to their own opinion. but to me, danny is something special. let me tell you why I think danny lawrence is so spectacular

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I love Merrill so much

I love how, when Tamlen’s missing, she’s the only one who’s willing to admit to themselves that he’s probably dead. I love that she has that awkward moment of insensitivity but you can tell she doesn’t really mean anything nasty by it.

I love that, even though the mirror was destroyed, Merrill still took a piece along because up yours Duncan, you can’t tell me what to do with an artifact of my people.

I love that she’s genuinely sad when Mahariel leaves despite appearing somewhat cold before. It reminds me so much of a person who cares deeply but isn’t sure how to express themselves.

I love how she willingly alienates herself from her clan because she believes restoring the Eluvian will help her people and she won’t even let those closest to her stop her from pursuing her own path in life.

I love that she doesn’t think blood magic is evil despite her own Keeper seeming to think so. That she has enough faith in herself to know her boundaries with regards to spirits.

I love that she literally builds an entire freaking Eluvian with one shard. Someone get this nerd a medal!

I love that she’s cute and cuddly and lethal at the same time. Talking about baby griffins named Feathers at one point and destroying criminals’ asses the next.

I love that she can talk smack despite seeming like an innocent snowflake. “Oh but there’s not really a fire is there?” and then the next she’s telling people to fuck off when they try to lecture her. Good for you Merrill!

“Ma vhenan! Thank the Creators! How did you escape? Was it exciting? Did you shank someone? *Fist pump*

Gets excited about fighting and party crashing and Isabela’s pirate stories.

Tells Hawke their mother might be with her own Gods despite Hawke and Leandra being human.

Her asking Anders about books to spice up her sexy times with Hawke because if you thought she was some meek virgin, you’re probably wrong.

Zevran flirting with Hawke and Merrill just softly, casually going “I think we’ve heard enough from you.” Like damn that sounded icy and awesome.

Just ughhh get me more of this awkward, cute, bad ass nerd. I don’t want her story to be over yet. I want her involved in the Solas arc so badly, just imagine how much she’d shine there.

evonee  asked:

I was wondering. What do you think of the game's treatment of Rinkah? I know that Rinkah and the Flame Tribe are supposed to be based on Oni, but the way IntSys went about it is pretty gross.

I have Many Thoughts.

I think in part Rinkah gets thrown under the bus due to the lack of attention that the game pays to the tribes. Granted, the games don’t dwell on any place for more than two seconds, but considering the overarching context of the plot(s), it seems a little silly to create all kinds of places with “unique traditions” just to ignore them once you’ve recruited “representation” from them. (IMO Cheve doesn’t count since it isn’t separated from the rest of the in-game world by being referred to as a tribe.)

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anonymous asked:

I don't know if you know who Andy Biersack is, but he' like a hardcore singer, very hot guy, very punk. So can you make one where y/n use to date him for like 2 years and now she's with Harry, but Andy kind of still try to flirt with her or try to get back together, and Harry and Y/n fight about it, because he thinks she don't say enough things to Andy get off her or that she likes the attention, but in the end makeup (y/n famous too) xx.

A/N: Andy used to be the actual love of my life in 8th grade oh my god like I used to love Black Veil Brides more than anything oh god. 

Harry’s P.O.V.

“Do you really think I like it when he flirts with me Harry? Because if you do then maybe you don’t know me as well as you think you do. Andy and I are never going to be a thing ever again and if you can’t trust me then I don’t know if we should even be a thing!” Y/N yelled angrily at me. I couldn’t help but let my eyes flicker back to the vase of flowers that Andy had gotten for her. The stupid red roses taunted me and humiliated me as they sat on the kitchen counter practically giving Andy a open door to run through to get to Y/N. Just thinking about her being with him again made me sick and it fueled my anger even more.

“Then why don’t you tell him that?! Why don’t you tell him that you don’t want him and you’ll never want him again?” I spat. I was angrier than I had ever remembered, mainly because of Andy’s stupid conniving ass. He was trying to wriggle his way back into Y/N’s life and I wasn’t going to have any of that bullshit.

“Do you seriously think I don’t tell him that? Do you hear yourself Harry? What the fuck do you want me to do? Hit him? Kick him? Tell him go fuck yourself? I’m not that kind of person. I tell him as sternly as I can that we will never be a thing again but he doesn’t listen.” Y/N replied, still as angry as ever and maybe she was right.

I knew Y/N so much better than Andy. I knew her like the back of my hand and I knew that if she said she was trying her hardest to get him to leave her alone then she was. I knew that Andy was a complete and self righteous dick who wanted what he wanted when he wanted it, but Y/N wasn’t so compliant. I remained silent as Y/N stood there, her fists balled up at her side and her brows pressed together. Here I was accusing the one person in my life who I trusted with my life of being flirtatious with another guy. She was right, whatwas I thinking?

“I’m sorry,” I began. “I’m sorry Y/N. You’re right. I know you’re not a confrontational person and I’m so sorry that I’m trying to make you someone that you’re not. You’re a good person and I’m sorry that I accused you of flirting back with him.”

The look of anger soon began to evaporate from her face and she sighed. “I’m sorry too,” she began. “I’m sorry that I can’t get him to stop and I’m sorry that I kept these stupid things. I just don’t like being mean to people.”

“Come here,” I said while opening my arms up for her to come in. She moved towards me and I wrapped my arms around her tightly and kissed her forehead. “I love you and we’ll figure this out. No more fighting okay?”

“Agreed and I love you too Harry,” she said softly and I held her tighter.

anonymous asked:

Hi I saw in your tags that you love Chloe! Can I ask, why do so many? She's a bully! She hurts everyone! Even in ep.1 Mari dreads the first day at sch bc she's tired of being in Chloe's class! Isn't that horrible? Tbh if Chloe was a boy no one would like her I don't think. I can understand "oh she's lonely" or "she doesn't get enough attention" but that doesn't make her any less cruel!

I can’t speak for why others like her but for me, it’s because she’s so humorous (Winny has said before this is partially why he likes her too) and I think there is more to her than meets the eye. I don’t get the impression that she is as shallow as she seems. For example, unlike Mandy from Totally Spies, I think there is room for Chloe to become a better person. Mandy was given chances to change, yet always went back to being terrible. The Anti-Bug episode alone gives me faith that Chloe won’t be the same way, since she did grow in that episode when given the chance. Even if it was just marginally, it was still a start. So I’m rooting for her to improve herself and get a second chance! None of her past actions can be ignored or excused (she is definitely a bully) but they can be forgiven.

Plus how could I possibly hate this? She’s ridiculous and always makes a bigger mess for herself than necessary. It’s great fun to watch.

nerdgasrnz  asked:

I totally think Weiss was interested in Neptune just to say she had a hot exchange student as a date for the dance. For the same reason she was interested in Pyrrha in Volume 1 because she wanted to be popular and an ace student with a strong partner for status (which is kind of... ironic now that I think about it...)

WOW THAT IS ACTUALLY SUPER IRONIC

WTF WEISS YOU ARE SUCH A TERRIBLE PERSON

anonymous asked:

Why are people thinking that oliver set felicity up with that plan I i i don't get it, oliver says "I can't get close enough to slade to give him the cure" felicity says "don't let him out think you" and at that moment it seemed like a light went off in their heads,I'm betting she came up with the plan knowing that she might be able to get close enough to slade if she was taken saying the I love you was olivers idea knowing that slade would take her, olicity trust each other with their lives

I have to go back and watch the episode again, to be honest, because I know my brain stopped absorbing information at a certain point out of sheer shock. LOL.

From what I remember, the information as presented, could be interpreted a few ways — either they had the plan together from that Queen Consolidated scene OR Felicity only realized what Oliver was angling toward the moment he pressed the syringe into her hand at the mansion and said, “Do you understand?”

The island stuff at the end seemed to indicate that Felicity didn’t know until that moment (again, I have to go back and watch it), but what I think the important debate is is… was Oliver, at the Queen Mansion, lying when he said what he said to Felicity?  Because I don’t think so, especially not after the way it was done.

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anonymous asked:

How are all you Larry people going to feel when you find out Louis really is with El and you guys are the ones who ruined his friendship with Harry? She was Made of Honor in his moms wedding.

I actually had this conversation with ‘the evil child who introduced me to One Direction’  my eighteen year old sister-in-law and we came to the conclusion that if Louis is with EIeanor we couldn’t give a rats ass what he thinks about what those of us in this part of the fandom say or if we hurt his widdle feelings.  If he is who they, and apparently you, want us to believe he is, a poor excuse for a boyfriend who disrespects his long term girlfriend.  The type of person who is so homophobic and insecure that he lets the opinions of strangers destroy a friendship so lovely and close that it was misinterpreted by literally thousands of people, then his opinion isn’t worth spit.  Oh, and for the record, you do realise that “you Non-Larry people” are the ones who think Louis is a big enough dick that he ended his friendship with Harry because of strangers on the internet, right?   We just think he’s not straight.

Look I love Pablo and I think he doesn’t get enough credit for keeping his sanity while having to deal with us all day long but

His comment about Rey being “raised by sand” and not turning out evil is really bothering me

Because yeah Rey essentially raised herself

But she also didn’t have an evil presence in her mind, whispering things to her and watching her every move 24/7 like Kylo did

anonymous asked:

I don't have a tumblr but I read your blog every day and I think you are so awesome. Just so you know Melissa thinks you are the sweetest too. That's right she knows you. She told me that she loves how you find something positive to say even when things get bleak on the show. I agree with her so much. All the love to you and pooh

I don’t really know what to say.

Thank you doesn’t seem enough right now. 

 I do my best to see positive things in everyone and everything because I know what it’s like to be in a place where that kind of frame of mind helps and can make a difference in the best way.

Well that, and I also have a lot of fluffy feelings that seem to overflow quite often around here 😜

When it comes down to it, I think that what we do here is a collaborative effort - I am just a tiny part of the CAROL/CARYL Feels machine! 

It means so much that Melissa McBride seems to have noticed the joint positivity around here and hopefully we can continue to stay the course ❤️

Thank you so much for letting me know!

Love XOXO

Sanja

anonymous asked:

I've been in an attempt of rape in the pass future. It fucking kills me whenever I think about it. I've been getting bullied, honestly I already have enough bullshit, I even got called a crazy and other shit. I just want to be happy about myself and love myself. It seems like no one cares. I felt so guilty when my crush said "But I fucking care! Why do you think I don't?" Because she did care and I made her feel like shit too...I'm so sorry for wasting your time...I'm so fucking useless -someone

oh my gosh i’m so sorry that this happened to you, the world can be such a shitty place sometimes and you didn’t deserve that at all, i’m so so sorry.
first of all, you’re strong as FUCK for getting through that because i can’t imagine how emotionally damaging it must have been, so please remember how strong you are, you’re way stronger than you think.

it’s difficult to be happy with yourself and your crush needs to respect that self-love is very very hard and feeling that nobody cares is so easy when you’re alone with your thoughts, you’re not alone in feeling this way.
none of this is your fault in the slightest, please don’t feel negatively responsible for your own feelings/thoughts because it is NOT your fault.

you’re not wasting my time, never think that.
also, you are NOT useless, you’re a unique, kind and interesting human being and you’re brave because you messaged me about it.
my advice is to remember that you can’t control the way you feel and you could tell your crush that you’ve been suffering from these negative thoughts and you need her support rather than her anger, you can do this.

it does help when you talk about this with someone, people do care, i care. don’t hesitate to message me again, i hope you’re okay, anon<333333

a hella long list of random lyric sentence starters (pt. 4)
  • "Nobody's gonna come and save you."
  • "We're going down, and you know that we're doomed."
  • "I was the one you always dreamed of."
  • "How dare you say it's nothing to me?"
  • "Baby, you're the only light I ever saw."
  • "You'll be a bitch because you can."
  • "Go cry about it why don't you?"
  • "But we get along when I'm inside you."
  • "Do you think about me still?"
  • "No, I don't like you, I just thought you were cool enough to kick it."
  • "Since you think I don't love you, I just thought you were cute, that's why I kissed you."
  • "You know you were my first time."
  • "You're dead to me."
  • "I was walking away, but she's so beautiful it made me stay."
  • "Tell me that you feel this, and I won't give up."
  • "I never seen a man who looked so all alone, could you use a little company?"
  • "There ain't no rest for the wicked."
  • "Let me be the one who calls you 'baby' all the time."
  • "Surely you can take some comfort knowing that you're mine."
  • "Could stare at your face for the rest of my days."
  • "Why do you take it so far?"
  • "You seem to replace your brain with your heart."
  • "You take things so hard and then you fall apart."
  • "You're all on your own and you lost all your friends."
  • "Your heart's too big for your body."
  • "I know you better than anyone else."
  • "I've never loved one like you."
  • "Man, oh, man, you're my best friend."
  • "Ain't nothing please me more than you."
  • "Home is wherever I'm with you."
  • "I don't believe you when you say you want to leave."
  • "Aren't you going to miss me?"
  • "I just want to kiss you."
  • "You really seem like a prize to me, and you are so mysterious."
  • "How do you know me so well?"
  • "Don't you touch my boyfriend."
  • "Don't judge me tomorrow by the way I'm acting today."
  • "This world is only gonna break your heart."
  • "Please, don't flatter yourself."
  • "I will admit, if you admit it, it's harder than we both thought."
  • "You can't deny the hardest part... I'm not in your arms."
  • "The world will never know we both have tasted tears, my dear."
  • "Don't act like it's okay."
  • "You almost ran the red 'cause you were looking over at me."
  • "This thing was a masterpiece 'til you tore it all up."
  • "Maybe I asked for too much."
  • "I know it's long gone and there was nothing else I could do."
  • "I'd like to be my old self again, but I'm still trying to find it."
  • "I know I'm not the best for you, but promise that you'll stay."
  • "These streets are filled with memories, both perfect and in pain."
  • "All I wanna do is love you, but I'm the only one to blame."
  • "I'm the shell of a girl that I used to know well."
  • "We're not friends, nor have we ever been."
  • "We're not friends, we could be anything."
  • "Friends should sleep in other beds, and friends shouldn't kiss me like you do."
  • "Your negativity was killing me."
  • "I shouldn't love you, but I want to."
  • "I can't look away."
  • "I don't know how to make a feeling stop."
  • "I won't sit around, I can't let him win now."
  • "I've tried my best to let go of you, but I don't want to."
  • "It's getting hard to be around you."
  • "Do you want me to hide the feelings and look the other way?"
  • "Yeah he's a looker, but I really think it's guts that matter most."
  • "All I'm asking for is love, but you never seem to have enough."
  • "I wanna taste you one more time again." "I'm not over you."
  • "Why can't you just love me back?"
  • "You want your independence, but you won't let me let you go."
  • "I would wait a lifetime... I would wait for you."
  • "So why do I try, I know I'm gonna fall down."
  • "Everything could be everything if only we were older."
  • "I'd do anything to make you stay."
  • "Tell me what you want me to say."
  • "It's a conversation I just can't have tonight."
  • "You want a revelation, some kind of resolution."
  • "We’re fighting again, more than usual."
  • "I'm sorry about being me."
  • "Bring me a cat to be my best friend."
  • "It isn’t like you ever said that you were committed."
  • "I got him where I want him now."
  • "Second chances they don't ever matter, people never change."
  • "There's a million other girls who do it just like you, looking as innocent as possible to get to who they want and what they like, it's easy if you do it right."
  • "You're the nicest thing I've seen."
  • "I wish that we could give it a go... see if we could be something."
  • "I wish I was your favourite girl."
  • "You must try harder than kissing all of my friends."
  • "You're alive, at least as far as I can tell you are."
  • "It's not my fault that I fucked everybody here."
  • "We promise each other it's 'til the end."
  • "I say I don't love you, but you know I'm a liar."
  • "You work so hard to get me just to let me go."
  • "You put me in the spotlight just to steal the show."
  • "Why are we acting like lovers? We don't know each other."
  • "You're beautiful, but cause me pain."
  • "You played my heart like it's a game."
  • "And she's so pretty, and she's so sure."
  • "Maybe I'm more clever than a girl like her."
  • "It's alright and it's nice not to be so alone."
  • "Maybe I'm a little bit over my head."
  • "We were all in love and we all got hurt."
  • "We're going way too fast."
  • "It's all too sweet to last."
  • "He's my first mistake."
  • "We gave each other up so easily."
  • "These silly little wounds will never mend."
  • "I feel so far from where I've been."
  • "Maybe you'll remember me."
  • "He's everything you want."
  • "He says all the right things at exactly the right time, but he means nothing to you and you don't know why."
  • "I'm tattooed and fired up and drunk and obscene."
  • "You ask for the truth, but you know you could do so much better."
  • "I love you, I swear it, I would never lie."
  • "I fear for our lives and I fear your closed eyes."
  • "How do I get you alone?"
  • "You don't know how long I have wanted to touch your lips and hold you tight."
  • "I loved you before I ever knew you 'cause I loved the simple thought of you."
  • "There is nowhere else that I belong."
  • "I'm so damn scared of dying without you."
  • "Don't lie, I know we're fixing to die."
  • "I only came 'cause you asked me to."
  • "It's such a shame that we can't renew all those feelings that we shared back a month or two."
  • "I kept everything that reminds me of us."
  • "It sounds weird but your picture's still hung up."
  • "I'm not sleeping too well, now I'm sleeping alone."

fghtoffthelight  asked:

Hey Pastor J, I have a quick question about prayer. How do you pray for someone who is, as far as you know, not a believer, and is making very poor and (potentially) dangerous life choices that could ruin their life (for lack of a better phrase)? I know that more often than not, people come to God when they get to the absolute end of themselves and realize they need a change. There's a guy I know that has shut me out of his life,so the only thing I can do is to pray for him,but I don't know how.

Hey my dear friend: You’re really awesome to be so concerned and loving for your friend.  He or she is very lucky and blessed to have you.

I think prayer is an automatic necessity, and it can’t be emphasized enough.  I’m always wary about giving too many instructions for prayer because it can easily be a formula, but I think it’s certainly okay to pray for a divine face-smashing intervention.  It’s okay to pray that your friend totally gets that uppercut wake-up call.

Here are some other things to consider.

 

1) You can show there’s way better than the world.

I know this will feel like a waiting game until your friend crashes and burns: but you don’t have to wait.  Before I really came to know God, my Christian friends would always take me out to the movies or dinner or their home to show that you can have fun without reckless substances and liquids and chemicals, and that there can be a good time without all the cheap mindless, sexual, gyrating pig-slop.  They didn’t really give me a “Christian lite version” of something, but it was really their total love and laughter and craziness, and most importantly, their vulnerability.

I found that the biggest difference between my Christian friends and everyone else was that I didn’t need to “measure up” all the time by puffing out my chest.  When I was at the club or at a drunken party, there was always this sizing up ego-pissing-contest with certain code words and cool language and false bravado.  It was exhausting.  But most especially with my genuine Christian friends, I could relax.  I could be myself.  I wasn’t relying on alcohol to build a pseudo-interaction or to make me fun.  I could be loud and nerdy and messy and not worry about being the social definition of a “man.”  When I saw a better way, I wanted that.  I wanted how God wanted things to be.

My Christian friends also cooked crazy good food, and that’s one thing you can’t ever enjoy at a drunk drug party where everyone is throwing up on their shoes.  Not to judge anyone: but I like chicken parmesan better than half-digested chips and salsa.

 

2) Open your arms, your home, and your mouth to pour out grace.

There are some Christian friends that I would never ever go to if I get in trouble.  Not in a billion years: because I know that a lecture is waiting.  It’s the “I told you so” finger-wagging.  And when I’m drowning in consequences, the last thing I need is someone to describe the water.

If you can be that friend who loves no matter what, then they will find you.  This also means that you balance out your love with a fair warning; occasionally you do need to speak up and say, “I’m not sure that’s a good idea.”  But overall, you’re the one who helps out with the hangover with some baked cookies and prays for your friend when you drop them off at home.  You’re the one who can firmly say, “You’re better than this, and I hope you find out sooner than later.”

 

3) Bring your friend to churchy stuff.  They’re more open to this than you think.

In the end, your friend trusts you.  No matter how they feel about God or the church, they like you.  And when you invite them to some churchy event, whether a potluck or revival or small group or service or charity, they’ll at the very least go to support you.

I don’t mean to say that your friend is a project.  There’s no checklist where after ten services they’ll suddenly sign up for seminary.  There can’t be any inkling of recruitment or “victory” or bragging rights.  You want your friend to know what you love: and if your friend is your friend, they will care about what you care about, even if they don’t believe in the details.

Sometimes along the way, they’ll start to really hear the small print, and they’ll want to know more.  They might ask questions, and that’s how the awkward conversations get started.  But either way, we keep inviting them, even when they say no and get annoyed and dismiss it all.  Because love persists regardless of the response.  And deep inside, when your friend sees you rejoicing in the God you serve, they will want that too.  Everyone secretly wants the pure love that God offers, but most times they just need a passionate friend to bring them there.

When you do invite your friend, tell them what to expect so they’re not all weirded out.  Pray for them.  Tell your pastor.  Tell your church.  It doesn’t have to be perfect.  It does have to be real.

— J