because i don't know what do to with text

people who don’t like hunk genuinely confuse me. what has hunk ever done wrong? name one time hunk has done something wrong. see? you can’t. he is perfect.

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I Can’t Think Straight (2008)

Context: Leyla, a Muslim British-Indian woman, is coming out to her mother, telling her “I’m gay.” Her mother reacts with horror and disgust, telling her “You’re up to your neck in sin” and going so far as to ask “Who did this to you?”

But it’s this scene that sums up the reality of LGBTQ+ desi youth. Our parents may very well love us and want the best for us, but the absolute bottom line is: our parents do not want us to be happy. They want us to be appropriate, to be respectful, to have children and well-earning careers, to fit into the mold of heteronormativity and gender roles, to be religious and pious. But no, they do not want us to be happy. Happiness doesn’t fit into it. To them, happiness is indistinguishable as a separate characteristic because according to them, doing all of these things should already be making us happy. The ideal created for desi children is that they shouldn’t strive to do what makes them happy, but what makes them “good.” Unfortunately, under this context, good is defined as anything that isn’t seen as immoral or out of the norm. 

A woman who is not straight is rejecting her role as a wife, and to a lesser extent, her role as a mother. She is rejecting the notion of subservience to men, of obedience and inferiority. Under our current system that is hugely patriarchal, a woman who does not submit is a threat. 

Now, I’m not saying desi parents are bad parents or hate their children because it’s pretty clear this happens in nearly every other culture in the world. But I am saying that desi parents do not make their children’s happiness a priority, they make their children’s success a priority: successful careers and marriages and children = successful lives. So if you ask a desi parent “do you want your kid to be happy?” they’ll immediately say “yes, of course.” But if you add on “do you want your kid to be gay if that makes them happy?” the answer will be a lot less positive.

This movie tackled Leyla’s sexuality and coming out to her parents absolutely head-on with no coyness about it. She goes straight up to her mother and admits that she’s a lesbian. But her mother’s reaction is really the thing that most “coming out” stories try to gloss over, or sugarcoat, or just in general avoid. Her mother admits with frank and brutal honesty the truth that all LGBTQ+ desi kids know: our parents would rather see us miserable and straight than queer and happy.

Once, someone told me that my art looks like painted with wind and I never stop thinking about this comment since then. It made me smile, because my art reflected - at least for someone - the way I behave when I paint. I never realised that on my own. My brain accelerates and I hear all kinds of noises except my own thoughts. I paint fast, but it’s not like I want to win a race. Painting fast doesn’t leave time to think or hesitate.  Thinking avoid accidents. My art is made of accidents.

If I stop, for any reason, there is silence and my inspiration to paint that particular piece simply disappears. it’s like my painting or drawing is something brief. Like. not exactly a feeling, but a sensation that I translate into the canvas and it only last in that particular moment.

As a Digital Artist, I started to ask myself if I would be able to surprise myself again. Nothing I was doing now seemed to be enough in Photoshop or any other software. I tried to find solutions without knowing the solution was out of the computer this time. I got out of my comfort zone a lot of time, but when do I got out of a one called technology? Rarely - and this was making me doubt about my hability as a visual artist.

Watercolor is exactly what I need at this moment of my life. Every bushstroke is a surprise for me. It’s more about my feelings and sensation than technique and execution itself. There are no ctrl+z this time. It is what it is and I love this, because it shows more of my identity than any other media. I trully believe I’m doing something weird with watercolor, technically. I should spend more time mixing colors - but that would break my concentration and it just doesn’t work for me to spend 5 minutes mixing colors in the palette. And, honestly, I don’t want to be technical. I just want to feel good. And it’s working :)

(more watercolor sketches at instagram @blvnk.art!)

This is what you don’t do.
Don’t let this world make you bitter. Don’t let the actions of other people turn you cold on the inside. Certain things happen that hurt us, people come that leave us, and most of all there are moments when you’re bound to fall. Don’t let those things make you unkind. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be sad. But it’s never okay to do other people wrong just because you were done wrong. We’re human. We break. We make mistakes. But don’t let pain and sadness run your lives. Wake up in the morning and do what you think is right. There are moments in your life where you feel like giving up and you can’t take it anymore. It’s okay. Breathe. Inhale. Exhale. I know you’re weak. But the things that show your weak side are also the same ones that make you stronger in the long run. It’s all about taking whatever life throws at you and learning from it.
—  via @wizdomly
Jikook Stans #2
  • Jungkook [in the bathtube]: What the hell is a 'jikook stan'? I dosen't know what a jikook is but stan is the first name of a man.
  • Jungkook: ....
  • Jungkook: Who the fuck is Stan? Where did Jimin-Hyung meet him? What have they made?
  • (at the same time in Jimin's room)
  • Jimin [searched on tumblr & giggles]: Jikook stans are so damn cute. I love it to make them insane.
  • Jungkook [bursts into Jimins room]: Who the fuck is Stan?
  • Jimin: What?
  • Jungkook: You have something to do with Stan!
  • Jimin: Who the actual fuck is Stan?
  • Jungkook: That's what i ask you!
  • Taehyung [enters Jimins room]: What's wrong?
  • Jungkook: Jimin and Stan!
  • Taehyung: Who is Stan?
  • Jimin: I don't know.
  • Jungkook: You said you will jikook stan make hot!
  • Jimin: ....
  • Taehyung: ...
  • Jimin & Tae [burst into laugher]: Oh my gawd!
  • Jungkook: What?
  • Taehyung: Jikook Stan isn't really a person.
  • Jungkook: So what is a jikook stan?
  • Jimin [rolls over the bed because of laughing]: Nothing!

literally nobody asked but……………… i really wanted to draw attention to ‘you never look before you leap’ in regards to not only kara / maggie but maggie herself.

maggie is prone to saying things in canon that could easily be seen as advice for her younger self (e.g. 'you deserve to have a real, full, happy life’ vs. 'she said i didn’t deserve to be happy’). i feel like this can be classified as one of those instances. for example:

  1. maggie putting the card in eliza’s locker when she was fourteen. although maggie declaring her feelings for a girl isn’t a bad thing or something she should regret, the way it happened still resulted in a horrible outcome for her. maggie had only just discovered her feelings and clearly wasn’t ready to be out. this makes her have negative associations with a lot of things, including coming out, her parents, and valentine’s day. it should’ve been a positive thing, whereas it was primarily negative for her. it’s not exactly something that a fourteen-year-old would put a lot of thought into when they harmlessly like someone.
  2. cheating on emily, which can be classified as a mistake she’s made. even to this day, years later, she feels remorseful about it and was even willing to sit through dinner with emily to try and bridge the gap. although we have no details in regards to the cheating (thanks writers), we can safely assume it’s one of her biggest regrets, and that she didn’t mean to hurt emily.

obviously we don’t know what happens in the rest of the kara / maggie scene, but in a way, it doesn’t matter. maggie is quite literally just reiterating to kara something she wished she knew when she was younger. to think about things before she does them. to take a second to breathe before she dives in headfirst and / or freaks out. and kara’s response is interesting to me, because it clearly shows the age / maturity difference between the two of them. again, we’d have to see the rest of the scene for context and whatnot, but it’s an interesting contrast about how kara and maggie are completely different people. it’s also a glimpse into how they’re possibly going to deal with the alex situation (kara wanting to dive headfirst / maggie wanting to be careful and do things properly).

this isn’t the first time maggie has said something like this either. in 2x10 when kara is worked up over livewire in the jail cell, maggie says 'until we know for sure what happened, let’s just stick to the facts’. she even comments on kara letting livewire go later in the episode, and it’s clearly something she’s not happy with. it’s like, in a way, maggie is attempting to teach her something. maggie wouldn’t want her to make mistakes the way she did. she wouldn’t want kara to suffer in life. that’s just not the kind of person she is.

the dynamic between them is fucked at the moment (thanks again writers), and the way they’re talking is argumentative, but this is a dynamic i could get behind. nothing judgmental, but somewhat of a mentorship. not even that, because that sounds so formal. just maggie being there for kara in a way that nobody else is. sure, kara jumps into things headfirst and it all works out in the end because she’s supergirl and that’s the whole point of the show, but there are going to be times when she isn’t able to do that. i assume saving alex is going to be one of those times.

maggie isn’t a superhero or a vigilante or a deo agent or someone with special training or skills beyond what she’s learned as a cop. she’s just a plain old human, and yet, kara could still learn something really valuable from her.

I was thinking ooh what about Annie and Mikasa doing the whole my boyfriend is better silliness but then it hit me that wouldn’t work at all because Mikasa would never trash talk Armin.

Annie: my boyfriend is incredibly intelligent

Mikasa: yeah I know, he’s the smartest of us all, a incredible strategist and really level headed.

Annie: …wait no your supposed to …

Mikasa: honestly he deserves better then you

Annie: … bitch

Mikasa: :)

Annie: at least my boyfriend’s doesn’t throw temper tantrums like a child

Mikasa: he’s sensitive ok!

Annie: *shrugs*

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I don’t know how long ago the rest post about muscular trans women was posted or when these amazing people posted their selfies but when I saw them, something washed over me.
All of you looked so happy and feeling gorgeous and confident that i got inspired to draw you all! I’m sorry in advance if those selfies were posted on earlier stages of your transition, I can always take down the drawing, I have no problem on doing so! In order that are @rocketmermaid @lady-feral @snarlahazard and @sogay4rey

I hope you all are having a great day, you have lighten up my day just by being yourselves. ((NOTE: from the text post I reblogged the only one ibdid not post was @/that-dyke because she left tumblr and it feels disrepectful to post it here. If anyone knows if she would like to see the drawing please contact me.))

laya2195  asked:

My daddy thinks I'm letting someone else leave marks on my body. I was attacked & bitten by a dog recently. I texted him the picture & there were bruising around the bites. He has it in his head that I'm lying & I let someone do that to me. He's been ignoring me for 2 weeks because of it. I want to crawl into a dark hole & dissappear because my Daddy won't speak to me. I would NEVER let any man who isn't Daddy put his hands on me. I don't know what to do. What do you think I should do Mister?

I think you should drop his sorry abusive ass. I mean seriously, this type of thing infuriates me to no end. When will daddy’s understand that neglecting and ignoring their Littles is out right abuse and abandonment.

Abuse isn’t always physical.

Would you take a four-year-old child and lock them in a cage and shove them into a dark room and walk away?

UHHH NO

would you drive your sweet loving caring grandmother out into the middle of nowhere and push her out of the car and drive away?

UHHH NO

Would you repeatedly punch the person in the face that you’ve pledged to love and give your devotion and admiration to… The person that you’ve sworn to take care of and watch over and make sure is safe?

UHHH NO

then why is it OK to essentially treat your little in this same way? Because all of those things are what’s happening in her mind when you ignore her and leave her to be.

He clearly doesn’t trust you… And he clearly doesn’t deserve you either. You need to get out of this abusive relationship and run as far away from this idiot as possible.

Guys who behave in this fashion are manipulators first. They will use techniques like this in order to keep you crushed under their thumb because they know that you will put up with it and that you will endure it.

STOP IT.

Realize your worth and get yourself out of the situation. Because there’s a ton of actually loving daddy’s who are not abusers out there who would probably love to have you as their little.

7,000,000,000+ people on this planet at least a good portion of them have to be within this lifestyle according to statistics.

Please for the love of all things Pete, end your abusive relationship, realize your worth, and stand up for yourself.

You are being abused.

Do you think if Lena and Kara got into an arguement and like Kara stopped speaking to Lena, she would just like be a drama queen and jump off the roof to get her girlfriends attention because being face to face, texts or calls weren’t working (obvs she knows Kara is SG)

Lena: babe, pls talk to me

Kara: …..

Lena: *jumps from L corp balcony* Oops, I fell

Kara: for the love of Rao *flies after her*


Smooches at the end

I don’t want to have to be fine this time.
I don’t want to hide that I’m falling apart.
I don’t want to apologize again for telling you I’m human.
I don’t want to cry myself to sleep because I can’t curl up and cry in your arms.
I don’t want to spend another night wishing I was there not here.
I don’t want to be strong anymore.
I don’t want to be the girl with the words when everyone needs it except me.
I don’t want to just be here when it’s easy for you.
I don’t want to wait just because you’re having a bad day.
I don’t want to make excuses for why you don’t text.
I don’t want to feel like there is a hole in me anymore.
I don’t want to hold back because I’m afraid you won’t know what to do with all of me.
I don’t want to wonder if you want me.
I don’t want to let my brain and heart eat me alive from the inside out.
I don’t want to keep this all in anymore.
I don’t want to break.
I don’t want this.

anonymous asked:

My mom took my snake to her ex's house against my will because "it will be easier to feed there" (when it isn't) and then she didn't bring her back. I waited. Always got excuses. It's been a month. I finally get a text saying he was pissed and sold them all. Even mine. She was the love of my life and she was mean to everyone but me and I just wanted her to be happy. She's gone. I'm so depressed and angry. I don't know what to do with myself. She was my child. My world. I've cried for 5 hours now

holy shit dude i am so so so sorry to hear this. it’s really fucking awful that she did that! even worse that he did that out of anger. Wow what a terrible situation :(

Us, As Told by Other People

Written for the 28+ Phandom Meetup, this fic grew too long for me to finish in time. But here is it. 

(~8k, pining, smut, getting together, friends to lovers) | [AO3 Link]

Big shoutout to @killingmeitsso2yearsago​ and @adorkablephil​ for listening to me rabbit on about this one. And to @cosmicphandom2k16​ for hosting the meet up that inspired me to write this. 

Summary: People make a lot of assumptions about Dan and Phil, but what happens when Dan starts believing some of them. You can’t actually ship yourself with your best friend, can you? 

Or: the five times Dan was guilty of over-thinking things, and the one time he wasn’t.

Keep reading

I just want to wraps this up and wanted to thanks to those who were very supportive and helpful with the whole situation. But let’s all move on from this negativity and stop tormenting on both sides. I already let tumblr know about the situation and waiting for them resolve the matter.

You are bound to encounter people like this on social network and sadly, you can’t do much about it but to be a bigger person and move on. I’m taking this as a lesson to think critically before making any move or just simply ignoring it.

It’s not going to stop me from doing what l love to do, because their words don’t matter to me. Words only have powers over you when you agrees to them.

Hey friends I’m here to tell you that it’s actually 100% okay to turn to food for comfort if you’re upset and that’s what you need. I’m not gonna be that person to say to find something else.
I just got some really bad news (well bad for me) at work and since I came home I’ve been upset, in tears, messaging people for comfort, you name it. And I know that I’m not gonna feel much better for a while. I’m going to still go for my run tonight, I’m still going to drink lots of water, but honestly, right now, what’s going to make me feel better is sitting in this chair with a blanket and a big big bowl of mac and cheese and to just chill and eat and watch sex and the city and get my mind off of it. I am 100% an emotional eater and I would never tell another emotional eater not to turn to food to aid in comfort because food is so social and so cultural and people associate certain foods with certain things and I KNOW that it can really fuck you up to be shamed for eating when you’re upset.
What I will ask of my fellow emotional eaters is to still take care of yourself. Don’t let yourself binge and don’t let the guilt over what you eat keep you from your self care, from your exercise, from your water, from your healthy snack later. Do not throw your health or your recovery away because of something you ate when you were sad because you needed it.

aleprbla  asked:

Yknow what really keeps me up at night? The blog houseofpatdmemories has the screenshots of some of the texts the patd stalker sent ryan while pretending to be brendon and on one of them ryan says "Well I don't know what I was doing or where I was going" "But I liked trying with you" "Sorry i was so mean to you bud" ????? More questions than answers tbh

It’s very sad because whatever it was, a relationship or a friendship, it went (even more?) downhill from there. C'mon if you found out you were being catfished wouldn’t you be reluctant to talk to the person you thought you were talking to all along?