I almost never go in the ace tags lately, because it’s filled with all sorts of stuff that I frankly do not want to get into, but on the rare occasions that I do, I find myself getting incredibly mad about some anti-black bullshit that I keep seeing people on both sides of the argument do at random.
So I just wanna say: please, if you’re not black, for the love of motherfucking everything, can you stop bringing up black movements and black issues and things that effect the black community as your personal GOTCHA to win arguments?
Like, you wanna wanna talk about cisgender heteromantic aces or aromantic heterosexuals in the lgbtqia+ community? Fine. You do you. But don’t fucking bring up Rachel Dolezal in your argument, because it sure as hell ain’t cute, and frankly, I’m mad as hell I even had to see that argument made more than once.
And while I’m at it, I’m mad I had to see someone “joke” about how they were suddenly gonna decide that they were black now and that everyone was just gonna have to be okay with it. (See: Rachel Dolezal.)
And I’m mad I had to see multiple non-black people in multiple conversations base entire fucking arguments around Black Lives Matters when they’re actually discussing whether or not cishet aces and aros should be considered allies or members. And I’m tired of non-black people bringing up All Lives Matters when trying to insult the other side in order to defend aces and their inclusion!
Seriously, people. It’s both incredibly inappropriate and deeply disrespectful, so can all non-black people please take that into consideration? And please, whatever side of the argument you’re on, take the time to call people out when you see that happening in a discussion.
Note: This does not mean calling out actual black people. I’m gonna say this straight out because I know some of y’all would actually do that. That is not what I am saying.