because constantly not caring is constantly losing

SHOUT OUT TO THE ‘VISUAL HOLE’ OF EACH GROUP, WHO PERSERVERE THROUGH SO MUCH HATE AND PAIN ON A REGULAR BASIS. The idols who have suffered endlessly because people force their own standards of beauty on them, or tell an idol they aren’t as attractive as another member. To the idols who are constantly degraded and told they should leave their group because they are ‘dragging to other members down’. Those idols who are called ugly, worthless, idiotic and no-good every day not only by antis, but by managers and fans. To those idols who are forced to get plastic surgery or lose weight because they are constantly reminded of their flaws.

These are the same idols who spend extra time to work out, or to change themselves to make others happy. These idols who are still so kind and caring to their fans even if they feel worthless and destroyed. These idols who work to make others feel good so no one will ever feel the way they feel.

These idols, these ‘visual holes’ are human too, so don’t think for one FUCKING second that they deserve any less than the ‘attractive’ member or that they deserve less success and love.

Not SS Tag

Hey, look, it’s this thing! I was tagged by @prinxietyhell to do this

I have no idea who has done this and who hasn’t so @lampisimportant if you haven’t been tagged yet there ya go.

Logic - Lane - they/them

Lane is the head, both because they’re Logic and because they’re the main side. The learning and consequently spouting out random facts. They also tend to hyper fixate. A lot. Like they find something that they’re interested in and they latch on; researching until they stop hyper fixating. They’re also a huge nerd and when they get into something they try to learn random facts about said thing. On the negative side, they’re an expert emotion bottler. Half the time emotions show up and they don’t even bother to think about it or ask the others, they just bottle it and add it to the pile. They have been getting better about that though.

Anger - Grant - they/them or he/him

98% of the time Grant is ranting to himself, or one of the others. He’s known for yelling most of the time and just generally not being the nicest of the sides. He’s extremely argumentative and a general hot head. He tends to punch things to relieve let some of his anger out (walls, tables, counters, pillows, etc.) but he has never hit a person and wouldn’t be able to forgive himself if he hit one the others. The others understand that he can’t control his yelling most of the time and don’t get offended by how he expresses himself. However, on bad days when Grant is more prone to yelling and punching things, Anxiety can’t be around him for long periods of time. He has actually mellowed out some in the past couple years and is more reclusive than he has been in the past. When he does come out though, he comes out full force.

Fancy - Jamie (Fancy Nancy, Fanc Nanc, J, Jay-bird) - they/them or she/her

Jamie loves dressing up and wearing makeup. Usually, she wears some type of dress, but occasionally she’ll wear a suit. She usually is pretty high energy, seeing as she is the fanciful/creative side. She also won’t take crap from anyone. She is completely willing to kick your ass while in heels just to prove a point. And for the times when heels aren’t enough, she has knives. She would never dream of using them on any of the others, but she does use them thoroughly when she goes on her adventures, or as she likes to call them, her flights of fancy. Her stories have been known to get kinda dark, but they always have a happy, or hopeful ending. For the longest time because of her nickname of Fancy Nancy the others thought her real name was Nancy.

Anxiety - Hunter (Anx, Xiety) - they/them or he/him

Hunter hardly ever hardly ever lets people use his real name, preferring they use either Anxiety or a nickname. Anxiety acts like a cat most of the time and is constantly seeking attention from the others. Contrary to what the others originally thought, Anx is actually extremely clingy. They love to get hugs and just cuddle up to the others. He’s also constantly freezing so his favorite person to curl up with is Anger, who is an actual furnace. Despite sleeping a lot, he’s still constantly tired and grumpy. If he chooses you as a pillow, or cuddle buddy you better not have any plans, or jostle them too much. They also weigh the least because when they get stressed or get upset they lose their appetite and can’t bring himself to eat. Honestly, they are just a smol bean that the others decided to take care of and protect.

Parental - Rory (Dad, Pa, Pops) - they/them or he/him

As his title name states, he’s the parent of the group. Rory is the perfect of mix of dad jokes and mama bear, knowing when he needs to give a joke and when he needs to defend. He’s a sweetheart to everyone unless they’ve hurt someone he considers his child. While he isn’t the peppiest of the group (that title goes to Fancy) he is the one takes care of everyone, sometimes (usually) never taking care of himself. The others know he hates to accept help so they stick to doing small things that get noticed, but don’t call attention to the problem.

How do they work together?

Logic x Anger - This is usually debate and/or rant mode. Emotions shut off and we’re left with a quick-thinking duo with no filter. They can be a tad scary and tend to say things that they don’t mean when working together.

Logic x Fancy - Writing is about the only thing they work together on and even that can be a bit sketchy. “It has to go in this direction!”  “How?! There is no way we can get it to go that direction!”. They fight some, though not as much as… others

Logic x Anxiety - Anx tends to cling to Lane the most, where one is you’ll usually find the other nearby. These two are best friends and have been found curled up and/or asleep together so often everyone is just blind to it.

Logic x Parental - These two. Oh lord, these two. They constantly argue over how to deal with emotions (“You can’t just keep bottling them, I mean look at these older ones, they’re starting to break open!”  “I can at least try! I mean it is only logical to continue how we’ve been doing things for years now!”)

Anger x Fancy - Fancy tends to help Anger vent. Giving him a way to create rather than destroy. Fancy is usually the one to approach him on bad days and just takes him gently into her room to make art. She’ll have him smash things and then make like mosaics and stuff.

Anger x Anxiety -These two’s relationship. On bad days Anxiety can’t be around Grant because of all the yelling. On good days these two will curl up together because of all the body heat Anger gives off. When things get bad and there is a lot of anxiety, Anger will sometimes try to help which leads to lashing out.

Anger x Parental  - These two are the scariest duo of the bunch. Whenever Rory goes into Mama Bear mode, Grant is right there helping. It may be hard for Grant to admit, but he really cares a lot. Do not cross theses two when they’re on a rage together (unless you’re considered their child in which case they will probably stop everything to take care of you tbh)

Fancy x Anxiety - Fancy and Anxiety actually get along most of the time. Mostly because Anx will help Fanc create things and gives her inspiration. However when it comes to how things should be run… They fight a lot. Anxiety used to win most of the time, but Fancy has been winning more lately. (“Matt should dress nice today! It doesn’t even have to be a dress, let’s do a suit!”  “We are not doing that. People will stare at them and question them. We do not want that attention” “Aww, come on, it’ll make them feel good. Boost their confidence!”  “Not when I’m done with them it won’t”)

Fancy x Parental - There isn’t much to say about this pair They’re the positive sides so they tend to stick together.

Anxiety x Parental - Rory is usually able to swiftly pull Anxiety out of attacks. He seems to always know exactly what to say and do to take care of them. On the same note, Anxiety always knows the best way to help Rory even when he refuses to accept help.

quitting a sport because you’re bigger than all your teammates  #growingupfat

wanting to maybe try acting but no one would cast you unless you lost 30 pounds #growingupfat

constantly comparing yourself and putting things off, saying “when i look like this, then i can buy tht cute dress”  #growingupfat

constantly imagining your life as a “better”, skinnier, “perfect” you  #growingupfat

the constant weight loss/weight gain yo-yo #growingupfat

beating yourself up because you can’t lose the weight and you’re too prideful to ask for help  #growingupfat

remembering the days when you used to not care how you looked  #growingupfat

wishing more than anything to go back to before the world told you about your “flaws”  #growingupfat

trying to focus on important things but your negative body thoughts keep consuming you  #growingupfat

Your skinny friends who KNOW they’re skinny calling themselves fat right in front of you, not even realizing the hours you spend hating yourself daily for that word, and having society treat you like dirt like jfc  #growingupfat

knowing you’re disappointing your parents  #growingupfat

trying to promote body positivity when you feel like shit  #growingupfat

people who have never experienced trauma based on their physical appearance just telling you to “love urself hun ;)”  #growingupfat

Things you probably didn’t know about ENFJs.

1. We’re secretly rebels.

Although ENFJs are dominant judgers, we’re not interested in blindly following the rules. The best way to get us not to do something is to reply “Because I said so” when we ask, “Why should I?”. And we will ask why. We don’t like to do things without a good reason. Whom will this benefit? (Fe) How does this fit into my goals? (Ni) If we don’t see how the rules support either of these criteria, we will not follow them, simple as that.

2. We’re cute and cuddly until we’re not.

ENFJs get cast as the cinnamon rolls of the MBTI community, but it’s not always accurate. We can be vicious. ENFJ might be The Protagonist, but we also make formidable adversaries. Some of the most compelling villains, both real and fictional, have been ENFJs. Think Hitler, Regina Mills from Once Upon a Time, Alison DiLaurentis from Pretty Little Liars. If we get fed up with a situation, we can make your life an utter nightmare, either by just being generally unbearable or pushing the one button we know will set you off. Our kindness is only as good as the calibration on our Fe compass.

3. We care more than anyone else…until we don’t.

People don’t realize how quickly we can stop caring. Yes, we’ll be your biggest cheerleader and most loyal supporter, but if you betray us, or hurt us (or, more likely, someone close to us), prepare to get frozen out. INFJs doorslam. ENFJs freeze out. We can go from being your best friend to a complete stranger in the matter of hours. And once we stop caring, it’s very hard for us to go back.

4. We’re leaders, but we don’t always want to be.

Thanks to our Fe and Ni, ENFJs make excellent leaders. We know both how to recruit people to our cause and envision the best course of action to take. However, we’re not interested in bossing people around. Leading can often be exhausting for us, as it involves managing a lot of details at once while ensuring that work is getting done. Our natural drive and ideas tend to push us out into the spotlight though, whether we like it or not.

5. We can be a lot more blunt than people expect.

When people think Fe, they tend to think of people who say only what will make people happy and avoid telling painful truths. This is not the case. ENFJs can be painfully blunt, especially if we see that you’re hurting yourself or others. Our Ni allows us to discern the truth, and our Fe will want to protect whoever is at risk. If the benefits of being blunt outweigh any emotional trauma that it will inflict, we will be blunt. The end justifies the means.

6.  Only talking about feelings can exhaust us.

People tend to assume that because we are dominant feelers, we only care about emotions. That is far from the truth. In fact, having to deal with others’ emotions constantly can be draining, especially if they’re negative or painful. We’ll do it because we want to help, but don’t be surprised if we need time to recover afterward. We also love to talk about ideas, especially ones related to society. Help us develop our Ti by discussing intellectual matters with us. Our overworked Fe will thank you.

7. We need more alone time than most extroverts.

Dominant Fe means we are constantly in touch with other people to the point of losing ourselves and our individuality. Socializing can get addictive for us, so sometimes we don’t notice this until we start to feel a general sense of unease and feeling unbalanced or off-center. It’s very important for ENFJs to have alone time in order to cultivate our Ni and learn to develop an identity outside other people.

8. We’re good at figuring out where we can cut corners and find loopholes.

While ENFJs generally try to be conscientious, if we are pressed for time or simply don’t care (yes, it happens; we’re human and simply don’t have the capacity to care about every single thing), we know exactly where we can skimp. We’re good at picking out what matters in a project and what doesn’t, so we’ll skimp on the less important parts and try harder on the parts that actually matter. Likewise, we can set aside our ideals and give you exactly what you want in order to get our desired outcome.

9. We spend a considerable amount of time trying to be good because we know how easy it is for us to go bad.

ENFJs have a bad reputation for being manipulative, and it’s not undeserved. Unhealthy ENFJs use their highly developed Fe and Ni to read people and figure out exactly how to get what they want out of them. Even healthy ENFJs find themselves unwittingly swaying people to their views. We also tend to be aware of the things we’re realistically capable of doing. Add that to our tendency to fall to dark thoughts when we’re alone for too long, and you have the recipe for a lifelong struggle to uphold our ideals instead of just taking the easy way out. We often overcompensate by being extra good in an effort to prevent such a decline.

10. You might not know when one is around.

ENFJs are human chameleons. We have the ability to observe others and absorb aspects of their personality into ourselves. We tend to mirror who we’re around, so we can come off as their type. But even when alone, we can mistype quite easily. A lot of ENFJs mistype as ESFJ or INFJ, due to imprecise test questions. If their tertiary Se is particularly well developed, ENFJs can even mistype as ESFP. Cognitive orientation doesn’t always translate into action. I’m cognitively extroverted, but don’t always engage my environment, leading others (and online tests) to think I’m an introvert. MBTI can only truly measure cognitive styles, not behavior. 

anonymous asked:

what if Thomas and Alex were together for a long time and then Thomas gets sick, really sick, and Alexander is constantly worried and really fuckin terrified because the sickness that Thomas has is extremely similar to the one he and his mother had

ALEX CANT HANDLE SICKNESS
Like- when its him he’s like “lol whatever im fine just leave me here to suffer its cool”
But when someone he cares about gets sick its immediately to the hospital with you

If Thomas got sick and stayed sick for longer then like three days Ham would lose it. He’d be all shaky and panicked, making Thomas drink like eight glasses of water every couples hours and constantly taking his temperature and just hovering over him. God forbid he be nauseous or vomiting cause Alex would have him in the car so fast. He’s not taking any risks, like hell he’ll lose Jefferson too

Something everyone who cares about games, regardless of side, NEEDS TO UNDERSTAND


Rom Sites and emulators and sites like Gog.com aren’t enough to preserve games. There are no truly functional and usable Mac emulators, and there’s only one surviving repository of mac games… because no-one cared enough about it. Do you really think in another few decades, people will care enough about, say, the Atari Jaguar or the 3D0 to maintain its games or emulators? And that’s just the actual code and making it run.

We’re also talking about the ASSETS. Do you know what companies often do with assets when they’re done with them? Deliberately delete them. (which is the ACTUAL reason why 50% of movies before 1950 are gone — because they weren’t considered worth keeping, so they’d be destroyed because it was cheaper than storing them.) That’s what happened to Kingdom Hearts, and why Final Mix HD had to be reconstructed from scratch based on the finished game.

Even if they don’t delete them, the tech becomes obsolete and/or the assets become scattered, and unreadable. That’s what happened to Grim Fandango. The ONLY reason Grim Fandango Remastered exists is because archival techniques were used to recover the assets.

And files can just degrade over time or become corrupt in accidents — that’s what happened to the Pinnacle Station DLC for Mass Effect, which is why it’s not in the PS3 Mass Effect trilogy, and will likely never be any future release of the games, ever.

And that’s just a FEW examples of the ways we’re constantly, CONSTANTLY losing video game history. An archiver is not just there to preserve the code, but to preserve the game in its entirety, if at all possible, including historical context. They’re also there to make sure that it remains accessible — that current, functional  emulators exist and that it’s on media that can actually be read and is backed up often enough not to deteriorate.

And this attitude is that it doesn’t matter, because it’s too new to take care of, is WHY we’re missing so many films and early TV shows (97 episodes of Doctor Who alone) — people didn’t care enough to actually maintain them. The owners didn’t care enough not to destroy or tape over them for space. Even when people did realize this might be something worth keeping, the proper archival practices to both maintain them and keep track of what you actually had didn’t exist. If we treat video games this way, by the time we wake up to what we’re losing, it will be too late… and an art form without its history has no use.

If all video games stopped being made forever, tomorrow, it would be less of a blow to gaming than failing to maintain video game archival practices.

I  doubt anyone, Gamergate or anti-GG, actually wants to destroy gaming… but I see too many who are acting like they do out of ignorance.

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Between the excitement of the first date and the bitter end of the episode and the fear of what’s a head, I feel like we forgot to stop for a second and appreciate the fact that we’ve made it! And by we I mean Emma (we were only waiting for it to finally happen).

I posted the first gif from 206 above Emma’s in love face from 404 because it really symbolize the long road it took to get to where we are now. In that moment on “Thallahassee” we realized for the first time how far Emma would go to keep love out of her life. She would chain a man down because he threatens to enter her heart.

From this point on we saw Emma constantly struggling against her own fears. If it was the fear of trusting a man after everything Neal did to her, the fear of losing someone she cares about, or even her constantly reminder that she is the savior and she doesn’t get a day off.

This date for Emma meant so much more then just to have a good time, it was about “being there” for the first time in her entire life. It was about stop running from love and embracing its present inside her.

This is what the second gif is about. Emma is in love with Hook for a very long time, but this night was the first time she truly gave in to it. She let herself get lost in the moment and when it was over she had this one little second (before Mary Margaret spooked the hell out of her) where she realized how happy it made her. Finally.

The focus on this date was definitely Hook’s hand, but the effort it took Emma to get to this point is noticeable all over her face during it. You could really see her going against her nature, letting her be “all in” without running away and at the end it made her feel truly peaceful and truly happy.

There’s no doubt we are still not in the “happily ever after” phase for those two, but I think we can take a second there to recognize this achievement and be truly proud of Emma Swan. She made it there with the help of her pirate, but also with a lot of self-work.