Hey bearded trans men trying to get into restrooms with the governor’s wife: you forgot about us! Stop scapegoating trans women who don’t pass as cisgender, gender nonconforming folks, and nonbinary people. We should be allowed into whatever restroom we want, regardless of what we look like.
Happy birthday to me pictures FT me, hard cider, ice cream cake, and a few old pictures. When you turn 26 all that’s left to look forward to is 😤deaths😩sweet😏embrace💯 and he’s coming for me. Still a little bit left for you to 1. Send me birthday nudes or 2. Kill me. Get on it 😤
Time to unite and fight the right, not collude and be co-opted
appalled by WoLF and other radical feminists walking into the
co-optation trap with the Heritage Foundation and Fox News. We are in a
political emergency. Now is the time to unite and fight the right, not
get in line with them. If radical feminists are going to stretch outside
their comfort zone to try to win protections for women, the Heritage
Foundation is not where to go to achieve that end. Finding common cause with
liberal feminists and trans people is difficult work, but possible and
necessary. Many trans people do not recognize their own lived
experiences in the rhetorical excesses of the extremist trans
activists–and many do not find their real interests represented by
these extremists’ current campaigns. Many, many liberal women feel ill
at ease with their own interests being run over–they are simply afraid
to stand up or second-guessing themselves. Many are unsure and confused,
watching and making their decisions about where to stand based on who
else will be standing with them.
If WoLF’s interested in coalition work, it could make bridges there.
But as we’ve seen, they’ve been unwilling even to listen to other
radical feminists when we’re also detransitioned women. These collusions with the Right are
exactly the type of wildly off target actions we’ve tried to question
and interrupt in their strategy approach, brought
to a worst-case scenario conclusion. I watched the Heritage panel discussion in
horror as a Fest dyke spoke about transwomen infiltrating Michfest–as
though the likes of the Heritage Foundation had not also infiltrated and
tried to shut down Michfest, infiltrated the Land and the message
boards, tried to dig up some salacious s&m content in order to paint
us all as
perverts–and as a sinister threat to women and children. The right doesn’t
differentiate much between those they consider perverts and deviants.
When the Right says they’re concerned about who is using women’s
accommodations, don’t think for a minute that lesbians, gay men, or
anyone who gets mistaken as such will not be harmed by their “solution.”
are working with one of the women who passed HB2 in North Carolina. To
my knowledge, she’s the only one in their so-called “coalition” who has
been part of actually passing legislation on this issue, and it was HB2.
Do they not understand what HB2 is?
It’s not just a bathroom bill, but even
if it had been, you gotta ask the question–who will be hurt by this law
in North Carolina? Safe bet Black lesbians will get hit the worst. Not
white autogynephiles, primarily–they’ve got their white male privilege
to insulate them. It’ll come back on Lesbians. Butch dykes. Bearded
women. Flaming gay men, particularly if they’re Black. Getting everyone
on high alert about “evil interlopers” in the bathroom does cause additional hardship for anyone who is perceived as ambiguously sexed, trans or not.
it was not just a bathroom bill. HB2 eliminated rights and employment
protections very broadly–removing anti-discrimination protections on
the basis of RACE, SEX, NATIONALITY, RELIGION. It removed any chance of legal
remedy for any such discrimination in North Carolina. It removed all
protections on lesbian and gay rights to public accommodations. It
banned any future ordinances which could try to win them back. It eliminated minimum wage standards and health insurance
standards for public contractors. It eliminated family leave policies,
child welfare protections, and requirements for workers to be allowed to take breaks. It banned future
ordinances to reverse those losses.
And the blond lady on the
panel with Miriam Ben Shalom and Mary Lou Singleton–Kami Mueller–you
know, the one who
could barely conceal her distaste for those she sees as freaks whether they be lesbian,
gay, or trans–spoke proudly about how she helped pass that legislation. She
told a story about being a mom against having her children, nieces and
nephews forced into
co-ed bathrooms and against insane gender ideology being forced on them in school. And
that story was the ammunition she brought to the battle for HB2. That’s
a nice story, I guess, if you ignore why she has an issue with these things. But it’s not the story of what HB2 actually is. Or who
she actually is. She’s not some random mom who happened into a conflict
with her kids’ school.
She’s been working in PR and strategy for the Republican party,
organizing against women’s reproductive rights, and generally doing
Focus on the Family-esque campaigns for her entire career. In fact, both of
the right wing women who participated on that panel are PR and Communications
professionals. The WoLF women…do not have that background. They have so badly underestimated the right wing
women. This is no equal coalition between individual women from
different walks of life. This is a power move by the right, co-opting the only visible feminist resistance in order to entirely neutralize any
chance of its message gaining traction or appearing reasonable.
of conscience is going to stand with WoLF when it
cozies up to the elite power-holders on the right. They are allowing
themselves to be co-opted and used. Being co-opted isn’t just about what
you believe or what you say. It’s about what you represent, what you
have been willing to compromise, and what you are being used to
accomplish. It doesn’t matter what anyone says.
It matters what end you’re serving. Just like HB2 wasn’t about the compelling stories some women told about
protecting the legal category of “female.” The right’s only interest in
that legal category is as a mechanism of control and repression.
says a lot when WoLF can see their way clear to “common cause” with
those whose stake in this particular issue is the repression of women, including
lesbians; gay men; and anyone they mistake for one of the above. Please
understand who we are talking about here. The
Heritage Foundation is funded in part by the Koch brothers and the DeVos
family, was instrumental in selecting Trump’s transition team. They did
oust Jason Richwine for being too overtly white supremacist, but I
think that was strategic with regard to his being too obvious about it,
not a real difference in values. Now that “MAGA” is the order of the day,
the game has changed on
that front too. The Heritage Foundation’s current leadership is a Tea
Party guy who has been taking them in an even bolder direction than
It’s not clear whether there are direct ties with
The Family, but these people are of that ilk. The Family are the
US-based right wing political organization that
brought Uganda its “kill the gays” bill. These are people who want a
here in the US, and they are closer to achieving that than they have
ever been. Many of them literally think lesbians, other “bad women,” and
gay men should be stoned to death.They are anti-poor, anti-worker and
white supremacist as a matter of course. But they’re getting savvier
about how to represent those values. They have dressed it up pretty and
they are smiling politely to your face. For now.
Miriam Ben Shalom noted that she wasn’t being yelled at and was treated
respectfully at Heritage Foundation, whereas radiqueers shouted her down
at the last panel discussion she participated in. The Heritage crowd might not be yelling, but it’s only
because they know how to cook a frog–and what they are up to is far,
far more dangerous. WoLF’s strategy is to set aside “differences” to work with them.
WoLF–despite its stated value of female solidarity and the greater
salience of sex over “gender identity”–could never and would never do
the work to make common cause with, say, transmen. Hell, they couldn’t
even work with radical feminist detransitioned dykes. We were ready and
willing to talk to them about refining their strategy into something
less allergic to nuance and help equip them to bridge subcultural
differences–but instead they’ve doubled down on their bludgeon tactics, metastasized their strategy into something dangerous to most women. It’s
very telling that they got down with Heritage instead of ever listening to the likes of us.
not a “coalition” when you’ve walked into the den of patriarchal power
and handed over the collective credibility of radical feminists in an
attempt to make a devil’s bargain. Do not think for a minute that a right wing think tank and social engineering force would champion your radical feminist cause if they thought it would actually help you win. Understand–at this political moment, if all you have to say to the Heritage Foundation is “look, we have this one thing in common, for opposite reasons”–you are basically asking the big mean daddy to protect you. That is never gonna work in favor of women, of female human beings, collectively.
And make no mistake about which women will be hurt first and worst.
And because WoLF’s the only big public
radical feminist organization, by extension they’ve allowed any women who
organize or write under that banner to be co-opted as well, unless we
speak up loudly enough to say no to this. Fox News is pretty
loud. The Heritage Foundation is pretty loud. WoLF have made our
work–those of us who actually try to organize on points of female
solidarity, regardless of political difference–next to impossible. And
maybe that was the point, at least from the right’s perspective.
But I’m interested in
doing the opposite of what they’re doing. I actually don’t care about
radical feminism. You can call it whatever you want. Call it George. I
care more about what it accomplishes in our lives than in the name. I
have plenty of common cause with many who believe radical
feminism is anathema, though they may not truly understand it. (Allying with the right will not help them understand.) Regardless, I can hold those disagreements, some of which come down to semantics, far more readily than
a “disagreement” over whether female human beings ought to have bodily autonomy, or a “disagreement” over the human rights of women,
including lesbians; gay men; people of color; Muslims; or Jews.
like TBH i appreciate those posts about not infantilizing trans men but PLEASE don’t throw feminine trans men under the bus. i’m feminine, i’m a bottom, i’m a “soft flower prince UwU,” and i’m still every bit as trans as a trans man who goes to the gym every day, rocks a beard, and tops the fuck outta his partners. trans men already get pressured to present as masculine 100% of the time with no exceptions and any hint of femininity is used against us to prove we’re “not really trans.” let trans boys be soft.