be happy with youself

10 Things I learned while I was 18

1. Never take anything for granted. Appreciate life and everything in between.

2. Sometimes you really miss a person and they miss you too. But when you meet up the connection is not there anymore. Sometimes best friends can become strangers again. And that is okay. People change. You change. Life goes on and you will find new friends.

3. Sometimes you were only friends with people because you saw them everyday. Don’t worry too much. You do not need them.

4. Most of the time you won’t have any idea about what to do with your life. You worry about your future and you will start to panic. Everyone else seems to have a plan for life, but believe me there are as lost as you are. Everything will work out in the end, I promise.

5. Just because you turned 18 and are officially considered an adult, you don’t have to be one all the time. Be scared. Go on the swing you loved when you were little. Cry as much as you want. Hug your mother when you are sad. Mother’s hugs can do wonders.

6. As much as you hated school you will finally start to miss it. Not school itself but all those times where you were on break and laughed with you friends. You will also miss to learn new things. Those song you always had to sing in music class? On some days you will listen to it again and again and again. It is okay to miss old times. It is good to remember. Just don’t forget that you live right now.

7. Don’t worry too much about a special boy. He is not worth your time. And if he is, everything will work out in the end.

8. You won’t see your friends as often as you used to. But when you meet up everything will feel exactly like it used to feel. You will have fun and sing those pretty songs together like the last time you met up was just ten minutes away.

9. Life gets harder when you get older. That is athing when you grow up. Don’t let it scare you. Fight for what you want and know when it is time to give up on something.

10. Allow youself to be happy. Be proud of you. Live your life to the fullest.

anonymous asked:

i'm super confused about my sexuality and i don't know what to do. some days i feel like i like girls and other days i don't. there's a guy that i'm kinda friends with that i might like but i don't know. i know he likes me but i'd never really want to date a guy. whenever i think about my future and dating i always picture it with a girl. but i also feel like why would i like a guy if i never wanted to date one

Many questioning women have a hard time sorting through their attraction because of hypotheticals. Our culture, in general, disregards or challenges wlw’s attraction and it gives this anxiety that we need to know 100% that we are not and will never be attracted to men no matter what in order to claim labels.
It’s hard to do that as a young person who is just learning about themselves, flooded with “what if”s about the future. Because of this, you might feel like you can’t rule out being attracted to men because you might hypothetically be attracted to one someday. Who knows?

Attraction vs. Compulsory Heterosexuality


Actual Attraction: You imagine a hypothetical future where you end up with a man and it feels exciting and makes you feel good and hopeful and happy and right. It’s a nice feeling and is comfortable to think about. Reassuring.


Compulsory Heterosexuality: You imagine a hypothetical future where you end up with a man and it makes you feel uncomfortable, scared, sad, disappointed, wrong. It’s an upsetting thing to think about and you hope it doesn’t happen. You don’t want to end up with a man even if you feel like you could.
(Also note that if you feel nothing, you imagine a hypothetical future where you end up with a man and you feel indifferent about it, that could be compulsory heterosexuality as well.)

My advice is to always follow your heart. You don’t have to label yourself if you don’t want to. You also don’t have to date men if you don’t want to, even if you do find youself attracted to them. Do what makes you happy.

x

The most important day is the day you decide you’re good enough for you. It’s the day you set yourself free.
SHOUT OUT TO EVERYONE: YOUR PASSIONS ARE VALID. I REPEAT: YOUR PASSIONS ARE VALID. DO NOT LET SOMEBODY TELL YOU THAT SOMETHING YOU LOVE DOES NOT MATTER. WRITE THAT BOOK. DRAW THAT COMIC. PAINT THAT PICTURE. MAKE THAT GAME. DO THOSE BLUE PRINTS. START THAT COMPANY. BECOME A DOCTOR. DISCOVER A NEW LAND. DISCOVER A NEW WORLD. YOUR DREAMS ARE LIMITLESS. BE HAPPY. YOUR DREAMS AND DESIRED FUTURE AND YOUR PASSION ARE ALL VALID.
Women aren’t responsible for men’s lack of self control. I shall not hide my lovely features. I will love my body however I want to, be it either covering it up, or showing it off. It is my body, and I am allowed to appreciate it, no man will stop me from wearing the clothing of my choice. My body- my decisions, if you don’t agree, then sir, you can go fuck yourself.
—  L.A.
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I’m pretty sure they did mention that in this AU everyone is Vincents kids (sorry that i made this, I just needed someone atm). So this actually kinda helps me feel better. cause of some personal thoughts and memories. Though one thing I’ll tell you about my childhood that is appart of this, is that as a little Kid I always wanted to wear a tie but never was allowed to cause I was told by…uhh a person, that it was a bad thing and it symbolizes a snake so, I never was allowed to wear them. Until that person was taken out of my life. Though I still don’t know how to tie one XD I’ll learn some other day. 

But yeah. Best way to try to vent, is to first draw something that you feel first, and then try to make youself happy by drawing something happy. Or at least that’s what helps me when I do vent art. 

I’m so happy that you are so good at making yourself happy. I’m so glad you make yourself good food, read a book in the evening and decorate your room the way you like it. When I was at your age, I’ve never done that. I’ve thought of it… But I’ve never done it. To lose your mother is the hardest shit ever, and that you make yourself happy and that you take care of youself shows me that you are your own mother AND yourself at the same time. And this is so strong.
—  favorite person in the world

anonymous asked:

Can we trade...? Please... I really wish I didn't exist... this seems like the perfect opportunity to finally erase myself from this universe... if I never existed... lots of people wouldn't have been hurt...

A LOT OF PEOPLE WOULD SUFFER IF YOU DISAPPEARED TOO.
YOU ARE LOVED. YOU ARE CARED FOR. YOU ARE WONDERFUL, AND EVEN IF IT’S HARD TO SEE SO RIGHT NOW, YOU HAVE TO DO YOUR BEST TO REMEMBER THAT.
AND EVEN IF WE HAVE BROUGHT HARDSHIPS UPON OTHERS, GOING THIS WAY ABOUT IT WON’T SOLVE ANYTHING. IT WILL ONLY CAUSE MORE PAIN, AND DESTROY ANY OPPORTUNITY FOR YOU OF EVER BEING TRULY HAPPY.
ALL WE CAN DO IS LIVE, RIGHT OUR WRONGS, AND DO OUR BEST TO BECOME BETTER EVERY DAY… AND YOU HAVE PEOPLE WHO WILL SUPPORT YOU ALL THE WAY THROUGH THIS.
PLEASE DO NOT THINK OF YOURSELF AS SOMEONE WHO SHOULD NOT BE HERE. YOU ARE IRREPLACABLE, MY YOUNG ONE, AND YOU ARE NEEDED TO MAKE THIS WORLD A BRIGHTER PLACE.
PLEASE REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE, AND YOU ARE NOT UNWANTED. PLEASE, STAY WITH US. LIVE AND MAKE YOUR LIFE THE ONE YOU WISH TO HAVE, AND PURSUE YOUR HAPPINESS. DO NOT DWELL IN THE PAST, AND DO NOT BEAT YOUSELF OVER WHAT MAY HAVE HAPPENED IN IT.
YOU ARE STRONG, AND YOU HAVE US TO BACK YOU UP.
I LOVE YOU. I LOVE YOU, AND I KNOW MANY OF THOSE AROUND YOU DO SO TOO.

anonymous asked:

I don't think people understand how much it hurts my feelings when I explain that I am asexual and their immediate response is "you just haven't found the right man yet. He'll change your mind." I've heard it multiple times and it hurts every time.

the next time someone tries to pull that crap, look them dead in the eye and say “if this man is going to be right for ME, then he’s going to respect me for the way i am and not try to change me in any way i don’t want to be changed. it’s going to be the person right for ME, not the person YOU think is right for me. any man who isn’t going to accept me for who i am, is not a man i ever want to meet because he is never going to be right for ME.”

and if they persist, you tell them you don’t need the influence or approval of some hypothetical stranger in order to be happy with youself. you don’t need someone else to love you in order to validate the love you have for yourself. you are not half of someone else’s soul; you are whole all by yourself and you aren’t going to waste any time waiting on some Perfect Man to come sweep you off your feet, because you’ve got better shit to do. and if they say you won’t ever get a man with that kind of attitude, you tell them that’s exactly what you want

~Mod Q

Unsub from CTFxC for good. Charles is so full of shit. Now I know that it was fun because of Alli! She helped build this channel to what it is today and got no respect. He choose to make divorce video without her. Like WTF.  I can’t deal with his childish bullshit. Trying to convice everybody how fucking #happy he is. Keep calling youself  a rockstar for taking a shower outside and not taking care of yourself. Fuck him, fuck his bullshit and also his squiggels/drunk driver new girl. 

Today I was driving home with my windows down while the lumineers were playing and the sun was shinning perfectly. In that moment I realized I was happy. And it made me realize that for so long I was basing my happiness off of other people. I thought I needed a certain group of friends or a boy for me to enjoy my life. But now I realize that those things only offer in the moment happiness that are short term. To be truly happy it really comes within yourself.