what is your opinion on the girl phil collabed with's stance on gay marriage. and the way the phandom reacted to her? do you think people are overreacting?
ahhhh i haven’t had much wifi in the last 24 hours so i don’t think i saw much of the reaction to it. but as for my personal stance on the whole thing .. it’s tough for me to answer. obvi i believe her opinion is shitty and i absolutely disagree with her viewpoint. for those who don’t know or haven’t done the research she claims that marriage is only valid, presumably in the eyes of god, if it’s between a man and a woman, but that that shouldn’t prevent same sex couples from having the legal right to marry. my genuine reaction to hearing this was disappointment, but also a sort of deeper resignation and lack of surprise because there are so many people i know in my life who share these views. there are plenty of even nominally progressive people who conduct themselves completely cordially and respectfully, but whose religious beliefs constrain their ability to see queerness as valid, as anything but a “sin.” they ostensibly don’t let that belief affect their outward behavior because they also feel that their religion teaches them to be kind and loving but internally they believe something totally different. that sort of judgment and prejudice layered under such a saccharine veneer of faux altruistic concern is something i’ve literally grown up encountering nearly every single day, not just because of my sexuality, but by baseline being a non-christian in a very christian dominated community, and being constantly told by loving and well-intentioned and very concerned friends that not believing in christ would lead to my going to hell despite how lovely and good i was. idk man. it’s sooooo normal to me to hear that views like this exist that i did not have the energy to react with shock and outrage bc the formative years of my life were spent navigating viewpoints exactly like this and learning how not to care. these people are just ignorant, i think. they mean well and they genuinely feel they are acting out of concern for people they love, out of a desire to not see them suffer (for all of eternity, no less). so i tend to focus on that when encountering this sort of ideology–that they are kind people who want to act with compassion but who fail to see the way that their ideology creates and contributes to divisive and prejudiced outlooks.
that’s my view, i want to make very clear. after soooo many years dealing w people w way worse things to say than this i don’t have the energy to be very surprised or upset and i’m mostly just happy that she seems to value conducting herself in a respectful and (superficially) compassionate way. but i wouldn’t fault a single person for being much more upset and hurt by her views. it can be such a jarring thing to hear that there are people who think your very existence is wrong in the eyes of some more powerful being and obvi the implication is that deep down she too believes that homosexuality is wrong on some level. being upset is completely reasonable and i also totally understand why people might want to post about that or tweet her and let her know that their views have upset her. but i wouldn’t condone abusing or harassing her for this. she’s just a human being (albeit one with such a fucked up outlook) and sending her threatening or degrading messages won’t do a single thing to change her mind or to make this sort of ideology disappear and will embolden her in her beliefs that liberals who preach tolerance are actually fundamentally hateful and intolerant (which like, fuck, makes me want to literally yell into the abyss for ten years aiwejroaiwejrar) <– my point is, do that, keysmash all you want on your blogs, but don’t sink to the level of sending her hate or threats or aggression in any form because it just is not worth it
i hope all of you are taking care of yourselves and i think it goes without saying that you are beautiful and valid no matter who you love and marriage is a dumb fucking construct that can be very special and lovely and important if you want it to be but believing that it’s only an option for some people and not all people who experience love is the highest form of bulllshit. i adore yall so so much <3333