hi ok. so i'm ace and my friend is a lesbian and i told her that since jughead (a canon ace/aro character in a comic) is ace/aro, it's erasure and awful to ship him with anyone else. she keeps telling me that shipping jughead in an m/m pairing makes it like less bad somehow? she keeps saying it's different like since ace/aro people aren't lgbt but it's still terrible??
i cannot and never will be able to answer this question in a way that like actually makes sense and doesn’t bring discourse down on my head. my perspective on this is never going to be objective or rational bc i’ve literally just been scarred too deeply.
i was raised in the christian church, where abstaining from sex and purging yourself of impure sexual desires is literally the moral objective and homosexuality is an abomination punishable by hellfire. just literally yesterday i had to reread this same bullshit garbled nonsense on someone else’s blog, and i’m still trying to process all the fallout of that.
i understand being upset by erasure and quite honestly i do not want by gay representation coming from characters who say that they’re aro ace, nor would i advocate that this is the place it should be coming from.