battle hymn of the tiger mom

Dear Tiger MOM and MOMS

The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother has become more than a book, it’s close to becoming a bible. It has spark more debate and controversy than let’s say demarcation of the Palestine’s border. This is a lady whose regimented ways of bringing up her children, both daughters have made many guilty, others ashamed but a handfull like me go “are you crazy????" 

Here we have a mother who called her daughter lazy, cowardly, self indulgent and pathetic. My God, how do you teach your daughters about courage, humility and humanity when you disallow sleepovers, television and friendship!!! How do you teach your daughters not to be self indulgent when you allow yourself to indulge fully and totally in them. How do you teach them about life if they can’t see and live it for themselves.

Here we have a mother that will tear up a personally made birthday card because it was not good enough. What does that teach them except humiliation, shame and worthlessness. If you really think that will teach them to try harder, then you are not as bright as I thought! Though I have to admit you look remarkably intelligent!!!

Here we have a mother who probably gave up everything for her daughters. (I know she is Yale law professor.) Yes sacrifice we must but sometimes by sacrificing all for our children we end up placing all our dreams and hope on them. We must live our dreams and that itself is how we teach our children!!!

Now we have 2 beautiful young ladies molded by this mother. They in their designer wears and self assured mannerism. But to be human, where do they start? Have they learnt to be sympathetic, do they have empathy, will they know love, and humility; can they differentiate sincerity??? Most importantly CAN THEY SAY THEY HAD FUN!!!! Coz despite all the grooming and pushing THEY ARE JUST KIDS!!!