bathroom birth


Against Me’s Laura Jane Grace burns birth certificate on stage in North Carolina  

The band turned the concert into a protest over the trans-bathroom law recently approved by the North Carolina legislature.

Watch the full clip here:

“This is what 24 hours postpartum looks like. Baby in sling. Skin to skin. Adult diapers. And a rosy glow. My body feels like it ran a marathon and my heart is wide open from yesterday’s travels. Birth opens us like an earthquake opens the earth and I am still in the intimate, fragile throes of that opening. I feel raw. Emotional. Different. I feel like I’m on the undulating surface of the rippling ocean being tossed back and forth between happiness, gratitude, melancholy, and grief. 23 hours ago I held life within and 24 hours ago I surged and transformed allowing life to flow through me, into my waiting hands. The emptiness in my womb brings a heavy feeling crashing into reality but then this new little life whimpers, searching for the breast with soft rooting, and I feel whole again. I am still processing the beautiful transition my whole family has traveled through and I am in complete awe of our strength as humans, women, and mothers. This time is simply unlike any other.
Texas senate advances anti-transgender "bathroom bill" SB6
The bill requires people to use restrooms based on "biological sex"
By Katy Steinmetz

Yesterday, the Texas state senate voted to advance a bill that would ban transgender people from using bathrooms that affirm their gender identity. SB6 will now move to the Texas house of representatives.

If passed, SB6 would apply to public schools, universities and government buildings (i.e. that’s where trans people would be forced to use bathrooms based on their birth-assigned sex), but not privately-owned businesses.

The primary sponsor of the bill, Republican Sen. Lois Kolkhorst, gave an emotive speech to begin the debate on Tuesday, taking issue with the notion that the bill is a solution in search of a problem, as many of her Democratic colleagues alleged.

“I will tell you as a woman, this is not a joke. This is about dressing rooms, lockers, showers and restrooms. This is about privacy and protection for all people,” Kolkhorst said. “It’s not perfect. It’s not easy when we talk about these issues. Cisgender. Transgender. How many genders are there? Are we created man and woman? Or do we internalize something different?”

And in final words before the vote on Wednesday, as she asked for her colleagues’ votes, she said she was being driven in part by religion. “I think the god I believe in, the cross I wear today, said there was man and woman,” Kolkhorst said, adding that the bill is “an attempt — maybe wrongly, maybe history will prove that it’s wrong — but I believe in my heart an attempt to be as inclusive as we possibly can when we, men and women … find ourselves in the most intimate situations.”

It’s not over yet. Even if this passes, it won’t be over yet. My heart is with you this week, Texas friends. 

anonymous asked:

Imagine your best friend knocks you up before moving away. You don't tell him. Nine months later he invites you to his bachelor party. You go. You say your belly is just weight gain and act as designated driver. Just as the night is starting you go into labor. You hide it long enough to return your hotel. Your bf has a key to your room and lets himself in talk, but finds you in a hotel bathroom giving birth to his child the same morning he's supposed to marry someone else.

so you want Viagra?

It’s hard to be a 16 year old girl in America. We face a lot of problems just from the fact that we’re teenagers. But we also face societal pressures and institutionalized sexism that seep into every aspect of our lives, including our health. Besides the fact that society has shamed girls for interacting with any even remotely sexual topics, the American society and culture has placed mens sexual pleasure and health over women’s reproductive and general health by making birth control and other reproductive health amenities difficult to access. This institutionalized sexism is what leads to things like teen pregnancy, high abortion rates, and lack of treatment for medical conditions (including ovarian cancer). However, things like access to Viagra or vasectomies are still easily accessed by men.

In order to obtain Viagra legally, there are a couple of different choices. The first, and most common, is to receive a prescription from a doctor, online or in person, then pick it up at a pharmacy. Assuming the man in question receives a prescription, there is a large chance that the medication will be covered by his insurance. If a man decides he doesn’t want to have a child, or he wants to improve his sex life, he can do so easily at little cost.

Birth control, however, is different. Under the Affordable Care Act, most companies are required to cover birth control. However, if a woman is not covered by the ACA, she has to pay out of pocket, and has to have a prescription. This means any woman in a situation where she cannot access a doctor for a prescription cannot access contraceptives.The big difference here is that Viagra is a pill to treat erectile dysfunction. The purpose of the “little blue pill” is to help aid sexual pleasure for men. Viagra does not treat a medical condition that disables a man or is detrimental to his performance day-to-day. Birth control, however, can be used as a contraceptive, or as a treatment for medical conditions ranging from ovarian cysts to cancer.

It’s important for women to have easy access to birth control. It’s important for women to have easy access to medication that helps them control their lives outside of the bedroom. Teen girls should have the comfort and safety of knowing they have options for their reproductive health. Birth control helps women be fully prepared for pregnancy when they want to become pregnant, and also provides health benefits. While condoms are available in drug stores, and even most public bathrooms, birth control still remains out of reach of many women. Our society should not prioritize men or erections over women’s health.
Bar tells trans woman she has to use the men's bathroom because she'll "make women uncomfortable" in women's room
"They don’t get to dictate which bathrooms trans people use."
By Lauren Strapagiel

Here’s what anti-trans discrimination looked like last week in Alberta, Canada:

River Rising, a transgender woman, was told she wasn’t allowed to use the women’s restroom at a bar after showing the bouncer her ID. The bouncer asked her inappropriate questions about her body and told her that if she wanted to use the bathroom, she’d have to use the men’s room. 

A female bartender even told River that she would “make other women uncomfortable” in the women’s room, and that if the owner were there, he’d kick her out of the bar altogether. A few days later, the bar put up a sign that said “You must use the bathroom of your birth gender.” 

And then things got even weirder: 

On July 26, the bar posted an apology on their Facebook page and announced that a bathroom had been designated as gender-neutral. But even that, Rising said, contained very problematic language.

First, the bar began the statement by claiming they’ve had “numerous complaints about males going into the women’s washroom” since the passing of Bill 7.

“The clientele that we serve are often under the influence of alcohol and some young men who are not transgendered [sic] have been claiming to be, to enter the women’s washroom,” the statement said.

The bar also said it has “no bias against those who are LGBTQ.”

Rising said that while gender-neutral washrooms are great, especially for nonbinary and genderqueer folks, everyone still has the right to use the men’s or women’s washrooms if they prefer.

Plot twist: In Canada, all of this is illegal. Transgender people are protected under human rights legislation — not that this wouldn’t have been humiliating and uncalled for if they weren’t. What an absolute mess. Hoping River is okay.

Stand Up For Yourself; You Will Never Be Alone, If We Are Legion.

If you believe transgender people need to use the bathroom of their birth gender, you are a bigot.

If you want people to have to show ID in order to use the toilet, you are a bigot.

If you stand outside a store, any store, protesting against trans rights, you are a bigot.

If you protest abortion clinics because you disagree with their existence, you are a bigot.

If you go door to door handing out religious propaganda, you are a bigot.

If you live your own life according to your own principles, do research before presenting an opinion, don’t judge those who are different than you, and help those in need regardless of identifying factors like race, religion, political party, sexual preference, etc., you are NOT a bigot.

This is the only way.

We are all human.
We are all the same, in our differences.
Biodiversity conquers bigotry.
Healthy self-esteem starts when you realize you are the same as everyone but also different from everyone.

The only way to achieve true peace is through total acceptance of humanity with all its faults.

🎶🎶People are people,
So why should it be,
You and I should get along so awfully?🎶🎶

The Prom Mum 
Melissa Drexler 

On the 6th of June 1997 at her New Jersey high school, 18 year old Melissa Drexler was attending school prom. Halfway through she used the bathroom and gave birth to her baby and cut the umbilical cord on a sanitary wear dispenser, she then strangled the baby to death and put it in the trash bin and returned to prom, ate food and danced with her boyfriend. 

Teachers became concerned after they saw a lot of blood, but Melissa shrugged this off as a heavy flow. The school janitor found the newborn hours later. 

2 weeks later Melissa Drexler was arrested. Prosecutors didn’t seek the death penalty and she pled guilty to aggravated manslaughter. Sentenced to 15 years in prison she was released in 2001. 

We are told our core identities are a delusion that needs fixing. The ignorant believe we should be put in camps or thrown in mental hospitals. Pockets of supposed professionals push their unsupported theories that gender identity doesn’t exist, that all transgender individuals are either self-hating homosexuals or heterosexuals with a fetish.

Either way, we are told our identities are wrong, and that in being wrong we are worthy only of pity, disgust and violence.

Our culture perpetuates the narrative that when we are mistreated, bullied, fired, denied housing or refused service, it is exactly what “those people” deserve.

In a post-Lawrence v. Texas America, where lesbians and gays have had the right to be with whom they love for over a decade, transgender people are on the verge of losing the right to use the bathroom without presenting a birth certificate.

We are told that we are rapists and violators of women and children.

We are told the only difference between a transgender person and a convicted pedophile is the conviction.

We are ordered to accept the fact that other people’s irrational fears supersede our actual need for physical safety, because we are too alien and loathsome to ever hope for empathy.

When we do try to set boundaries, the reaction is swift. We are told that jokes that involve ridiculing “men in dresses” and the use of the word “tranny” are all in good fun, that we should expect the kind of language we endure, that people have a right to know about our bodies, and to stop being so sensitive.

When we try to preserve ourselves from actual physical harm, we go to prison like Cece McDonald. When we die at the hands of our attackers, they try to mitigate the crime with the worthlessness of all transgender people.

All the while, most of the LGBT people murdered in hate crimes are transgender women, and most of those are people of color.

In the face of such unremitting and remorseless treatment by society, it is no wonder so many of our lives are marked by despair. We dream of simply being loved by anyone, even if it is only in the internal security of believing a higher power does so. Yet even that simple hope is often asking too much.

In response, we do not dry up, fester, sag, crust over or explode.

We implode, crushed by the omnipresent violence that is why we are here tonight.

Yet somehow we resist the narrative that our lives lose all value the instant we come out. We fight to show the world that there is a person worth loving beneath the label. We endeavor against all odds to just be loved for who we are.

Being loved requires friends, partners and family to embrace a belief that runs against our cultural dogma, to speak up and act despite the stigma of being seen with “those people” and embrace a marginalized people who are not their own.

This is why loving a transgender person is a truly revolutionary act.

People can’t maintain a positive sense of self when there is literally nothing in their day-to-day life that they can touch, see, hear or feel that affirms their identity.

For a transgender kid in Nowhere, U.S.A., who is being treated like an abomination every day by virtually everyone, it does them next to zero good hearing that someone they will never meet who lives in a place they have never been “supports” them, in a nonspecific “I’ve-never-met-you-and-never-will-but-I-value-people-like-you” sort of way.

Support and love need to be tangible to resist tangible hate.

It is up to you, those who have had the courage to see past labels with one transgender person, to speak up against the dehumanization of the rest of us. Whether against depictions in media or in personal conversations, it is up to you to challenge narratives that demean the worth of transgender people.

It is up to you to find the daily courage to take on these conversations.

The only way we can someday look back at days of remembrance like these as things of the past and wonder at how far we have come is if we change our culture from one that sees transgender people as less than others to one where transgender lives matter.

In Gizzy’s last Facebook post she wrote, “If you want to keep me, you gotta love me harder.”

If you want to keep us here with you, we have to be loved harder.


Transgender Day of Remembrance: A Call to Action for Trans People and Our Allies Alike | Brynn Tannehill for the Huffington Post Gay Voices

This is the best piece on TDOR I’ve ever read. Please read the whole thing, especially if you’re still uncertain about why we honor this day. 

anonymous asked:

How would Jackson bambam and yugyeom ( if you were married ) react if they came home one day after the studio and found you sleeping, and went to the bathroom and spotted a birth test thingy lol ( idk what it's called ) and it was positive.


Gave the loudest gasp, my whole family turned around and stared at me for a while…anyways it turned out more like a scenario but oh well :D


Jackson: Okay, he’d walk in carrying his backpack and then give you a small smile, admiring how your sleeping so calming. He would do everything quietly and tip toe around the house, making sure not to wake you until he walks into the bathroom. He’d be pissing or washing his hands or something then notice the small packet. Jackson’s eyes would widen and he’d rush to it and fumble it in his hands until he’s got a good grip on it and sees the positive sign! First, he’d be surprised, because the idea of becoming a father isn’t that easy or simple. He’d probably do his hyena screech which would obviously wake you up. Then, he’d hop out of the bathroom and jump on the bed where you were and start overflowing with joy! You’d then realize why he was so happy and he’d probably spin you around in his arms and cover you with kisses and whisper in your hair, “I’m going to become a father!”

Bambam: I feel like Bambam wouldn’t even notice the pregnancy test until he was about to go out of the bathroom. Like, he’d shut the lights and exit but then, he’d rush back in and close the door slowly and search the room to where his eye caught the word “pregnancy” and rush over to it. He’d look at the test and see the small pink plus sign and just stand there. Frozen. In. Time. Processing everything. A big, goofy smile would appear and unlike Jackson, I feel like he would gently awaken you because he couldn’t wait till morning and ask you about it. Then, he’d find out its for real and give you such a warm, comforting, loving hug. He’d kiss your forehead then he’d probably start talking to your stomach!

Yugyeom: He would just blink a few times as he kept staring at the test in his hands. So many question buzzing through his head. He’d look back out the bathroom door to where you were sleeping and then come back in and stare at the test for 10 more minutes. Having a little fanboy moment, he’d calmly exit the bathroom like nothing happened, trying to resist the urge to scream out loud, y'know, since Yugyeom is such a shy cutie! I feel like he’d wait till morning to ask you and I can guarantee you this, that would be the only thing on his mind the whole entire night. While you cuddled up next to him in bed, I can imagine him stroking your hair and smiling down at you, so delighted that you guys were starting a family!

anonymous asked:

As a trans guy I feel like I'm invading the women's restroom every time I go to a public restroom... Do you feel like that when using the men's?

honestly the ‘correct’ answer would be “you’re a man so obviously not” but the reality is that life isn’t always that clear-cut for us.

The truth is that yeah, trans people will use the ‘birth gender’ bathroom simply because the correct one isn’t an option for them, often because of safety or even just anxiety. (I was nervous enough using the bathroom in a conference specifically by and for trans people)

Especially with all the anti-trans legislation popping up I can really consider it invading on women’s spaces when the only other option they give you is getting fired.