"For the White Person Who Wants to Know How to Be My Friend"- Pat Parker

Poem I read today that made me think about racial stereotypes..

The first thing you do is to forget that i’m Black.
Second, you must never forget that i’m Black.

You should be able to dig Aretha [Franklin],
but don’t play her every time i come over.
And if you decide to play [Ludwig Van] Beethoven–don’t tell
me his life story. They made us take music
appreciation too.

Eat soul food if you like it, but don’t expect me
to locate your restaurants
or cook it for you.

And if some Black person insults you,
mugs you, rapes your sister, rapes you,
rips your house, or is just being an ass–
please, do not apologize to me
for wanting to do them bodily harm.
It makes me wonder if you’re foolish.

And even if you really believe Blacks are better
lovers than Whites–don’t tell me. I start thinking
of charging stud fees.

In other words, if you really want to be my
friend–don’t make a labor of it. I’m lazy.

By Pat Parker

Treat me like I’m just like you. Feel free to enjoy and learn about black culture, but don’t treat me like that’s all you can talk to me about.

How in the hell could a man enjoy being awakened at 8:30 a.m. by an alarm clock, leap out of bed, dress, force-feed, shit, piss, brush teeth and hair, and fight traffic to get to a place where essentially you made lots of money for somebody else and were asked to be grateful for the opportunity to do so?
—  Charles Bukowski
The Thin Green Line Between Frugal and Cheap -Len Penzo

There is absolutely nothing wrong with trying to stretch your dollar, but like anything else in life, sometimes that philosophy can be taken to its extreme. When making a purchase, frugal folk always consider a multitude of additional factors including the price of their personal time and/or the trade-off between quality and cost. On the other hand, cheapskates are much less pragmatic, usually focusing entirely on the price tag.

The bottom line: Saving cash is certainly a noble goal. However, we cross the dreaded rubicon from “thrifty” into “cheap” the moment we stop caring about getting the best value for our money.


[Read after video]

The Key To Happiness is knowing when to stop caring.

From time to time I watch this video because it makes a valid point. Paying attention to petty problems doesn’t make you any cents, nor does it make sense.  There’s no point in stressing or worrying about anyone else’ problems but your own, and even then, you need to be able to put a value on how much attention you choose to give each. If it’s not going to trigger a drastic life-changing situation then there’s no point in reacting so harshly to a problem.

I personally (and based on opinion’s by others) believe that I’m one of the most laid back people you’ll ever meet. “Laid back” is usually the second set of words used to describe me by my friends, only being second to “Drummer.”

My ability to know my own limits of stress and being able to just say “F it” have helped drastically in that I hardly ever panic or get too angry on situations that are infinitesimal compared to the bigger picture; Living life as it happens.

Thirsty Thursday: Songs of the week ~Oct. 27

Music is one of the best forms of communication and sharing ideas. I’m going to start posting a post on most Thursdays of 2 songs; one lyrical, and one instrumental. These songs may be a blast from the recent past or something current that I believe is interesting. Music is not classified by  the race of people that make it, so anybody should feel comfortable listening to whatever genre they like, whether its made by someone of a different race or not. Enjoy

Dizzy Gillespie said it the best: “I don’t care much about music. What I like is sounds.”

Moonlit Sailor- Waiting For Nothing
  I became a fan of this band through an Animals As Leaders playlist on Pandora. I like the progression of this song and the guitar talent is pretty awesome for a band that isn’t so common. Some of the best music artists are hard to find, but I prefer it be that way, so listeners can get to them before the money does.


“Music speaks what cannot be expressed, soothes the mind and gives it rest, heals the heart and makes it whole, flows from heaven to the soul.”

Chumbawamba-  Tubthumping (I get knocked down)
An “older” song but it is easily recognizable by my generation. I associate this song closely with the “American Pie” movie series because it reminds me of them so well. Obviously I chose this song for the lyrical song of the week because of it’s main chorus line:

(We’ll be singing, when we’re winning, we’ll be singing)

I get knocked down, but I get up again
You’re never gonna keep me down 

Building Steam With A Grain Of Salt on Flickr.

“No matter how well a person can be described, some people will quickly point out the smallest, insignificant detail, and let it override all other details in a negative way. Last time I checked, everyone was born human; then the labeling came.” - Michael Hawkins

Title of picture credits to the song “Building Steam With A Grain Of Salt” by DJ Shadow. Listening to it during usual sleeping hours inspired the creation of this photo, and the caption.

Side note: Enjoy the wristwatch tan.


Stereotypical Facts

Workout Blog: #3, #4

No detailed posts for the last 2 workouts but roughly followed this schedule:

15 mins incumbent Bike

half mile jog around indoor track

10 min ab circut

tricep/bicep burnouts

bench press/cable cord chest workout

lower back extensions

tons of ab and obique work

Military/regular style pullup bar exercises

Successful “Nastia Liukhin” ab workout attempt..1 rep :D 

Squats @ 200lbs and Leg press @420 lbs…I hate squats

Overall, my workout regiment is paying off. Starting May 6, 2011 I weighed in at a solid 130 lbs; 6% body of 8pm tonight (17 day of November, 2011) I am 145.2 lbs with ~6.47% body fat..still keeping the same lean but looking a bit more toned in the upper body region.

Great improvement knowing I can look back and see the progress I’ve made in 7 months..Looking to gain more size which should still be challenging, I need to consume about 400 more calories a day than I am currently to put on weight…

Eat Big. Lift Big. Get Big.

December 1, 2006

‎5 years and it feels like just yesterday..

Miss you making me stay at the dinner table to clear my food plate..

Telling me to keep my elbows off the table..

Sitting and watching Walker Texas Ranger with you for hours..

Leaning in towards the middle of the car because you drove too close to the right side of the road..

Grandpa always calling you Jos (pronounced “yose”)..

Spoiling me and my bro with Dutch Letters and Coconut Macaroons..

And countless other experiences…

Everything you did, you did with no complaints.

Miss you Oma (grandma) more every day


Time Lapse of Manhattan by Mindrelic. Awesome.

I never seem to reach complacency

I need to get back on my workout schedule, in an attempt to get the same Motivation and drive back, I’ll try to do a daily post about how my routine went. Also for my followers or frequent readers. I’m going to start queuing my posts (except the exercise ones) to post at 1:30pm central time whenever there is one to post

Workout Blog: #1

***This isn’t the first day I’ve worked out, just from now ( 8Th of November, 2011) on starting a blog/commentary on every day that I work out so I can track myself/stay motivated and also show others that consistent workouts can improve your health***

Motivational quote for this day: “I ain’t sh*t……….yet” -JB (SpokenReasons)

The Workout

First day wasn’t too bad, started a little late due to some photography obstacles for a good project. Even with the delayed start (10pm) I got right on task right when I entered the rec center.

30 mins of cardio around the indoor track then hit the weights. I’m classified as a hardgainer/ectomorph Did lots of chest and ab work today, benching 160 on free weights and 180 on machines..not my max but hey, for weighing 144lbs, I think I’m getting along great. Concerning abs, I did a circuit of bosu ball pushups, bosu ball crunches, decline bench crunches, and 2 different ab machines.

For the rest of my workout, I concentrated on a lot of biceps, triceps, quadriceps, upper and lower back, and calf muscle exercises. I’ve been taking it easy on leg exercises due to swollen tendons but I imagine I’ll heal up in no time.

Music/Miscellaneous Notes

For today I turned my iTouch to shuffle Coldplay’s new album, Mylo Xyloto. I like their previous albums better, but this one seems to be growing on me.

One random comment today is about the people who go to workout, but are on their cellphones for a ridiculous amount of time. I get the idea that they want to go work out and get in shape, but when they’re in a gym, they should use the gym for what it’s for. I personally leave my phone in my room so it’s not a distraction. I also don’t like being in the gym longer than I need to; leaving the cellphone at home can cut the time spent in the gym drastically.