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Herbs to avoid during pregnancy

 There’s a lot of reasons to use herbs. You want a more natural medicine to treat something. You enjoy the taste of fresh herbal teas. You practice some form of paganism and/or witchcraft and use herbs in your craft. You should always consult with your medical care provider before starting any herbal regimen. Be sure to look into any herbs and natural remedies you want to try too, to make sure they don’t negatively effect you because of any pre-existing medical conditions.

This particular section though, I’m going to be talking about herbs and pregnancy. Some plants contain substances that we know can lead to miscarriage, premature birth, birth defects and more. I know some people will use this list as a reference for natural contraceptives. That’s fine, but there is an important part to touch on with that.

When we think of contraceptives today, we think of hormonal contraceptives or barrier methods. Herbs are neither of those. Herbs that work as contraceptives are abortive. They don’t prevent you from becoming pregnant, they terminate a pregnancy very early on. It is important to note that if you’re using contraceptive herbs, and still become pregnant enough that you’re aware of it, you should either stop use immediately or look at your other options for terminating the pregnancy. I’m not promoting abortion, but you should be aware that using contraceptive herbs, and having them fail, can result in serious birth defects. If that’s not something you want to deal with, be aware that continuing to take the herbs may make it worse, not just get rid of the pregnancy.

If you’re looking at this for a list of herbs to avoid while you’re pregnant, so as not to risk hurting the fetus and ensuing baby, then you should be avoiding these herbs if you’re trying to become pregnant too. Studies show that 30% to 50% of all fertilized eggs are lost before a pregnancy is actually established, and the woman never even knows about it. Of known pregnancies, 10% to 20% end in miscarriage. So, it’s important if you’re trying to have a baby, to do everything possible not to contribute to those numbers.

So, with no further ado, these are the herbs to avoid if you are now, or are trying to become pregnant.

Saw Palmetto


Donq Quai (used in combination with other herbs to induce miscarriage)



Pay D'Arco

Passion Flower

Black Cohosh (used in combination with other herbs to induce miscarriage)

Blue Cohosh (used in combination with other herbs to induce miscarriage)

Chamomile (roman)



Evening Primrose


Kava Kava



Rosemary (in amounts greater than normally found in food)



Angelica (used in combination with other herbs to induce miscarriage)





Thyme (in amounts greater than normally found in food )



Also, while you (hopefully) don’t ever ingest known poisonous herbs, I’d also advise not handling them while pregnant as some things can be absorbed through your skin. Not a lot, but better safe than sorry. These are herbs that are listed by the USDA as Unsafe or Potentially Unsafe for use during pregnancy.

Birth Control Methods: Diaphragm.

What is a Diaphragm?

A diaphragm is a flexible, latex, dome-shaped cup with a bendable rim. It is designed to fit securely in the vagina to cover the cervix. Diaphragms have been used since the 1830s and require a prescription to obtain. They are considered to be the first major innovation for women seeking personal control to protect themselves from an unintended pregnancy. Due to improvements in design and effectiveness, diaphragm use still remains a popular birth control choice for many women.

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~First Times for the Chocobros Headcanon~

Noctis: Disregarding the more likely scenario that he died a virgin, Noct probably didn’t mean to lose his virginity; it just happened. Maybe he was fooling around with a partner and before he knew it, things got a little more hot and heavy than he had planned. He also probably didn’t use protection, because everyone knows teenage Noctis could barely tie his own shoes without Ignis’ help, let alone have enough foresight to wrap it up like a responsible citizen of Insomnia. Either way, he spends his post-coital bliss wracked with guilt, apologizing to his lover for his oversight and making a mental note to wear two condoms next time so he’ll last longer than thirty seconds.

Prompto: If he didn’t lose his virginity somewhere in a seedy Crown City brothel (no thanks to Gladio), whomever opened up the proverbial erotic gates to Blondie very likely had to deal with a crying lover on their hands in the aftermath. Sure, the deed itself was borderline Nirvana, and Prompto knows better than to spread his genetic material carelessly throughout the kingdom of Lucis unlike a certain someone *coughNoctiscough*, but it isn’t long before he’s burying his face in his parter’s chest and blubbering like a baby. Because for Prompto, sex is much more than just a physical act; intimacy to a boy who has been bullied for his weight and birth origin for years is the ultimate symbol of acceptance, and opens his mind to a slew of emotions he is not entirely equipped to deal with.

Gladio: If it wasn’t his high school History of Eos teacher he bedded, it still stands to reason that Gladiolus lost his virginity at a young age to a much older partner. The big guy was a 6′4″ princely bodyguard by fifteen, so when a prospective paramour assumes he’s already a man tried and tested in the sack, Gladio eagerly plays along. He isn’t as good as he imagined he would be, because the act of sex is not quite what’s depicted in the copious amount of porn the others know he watches the movies, but he doesn’t apologize for his inexperience like Noct, or have an emotional meltdown like Prompto; instead, he makes up for his shortcomings by learning from his rookie mistakes and promptly dives back in for round two.

Ignis: Specs was unlikely in any hurry to turn in his v-card, which meant he was almost certainly the last of his friends to do the deed—a point he feels no shame over. He isn’t driven to prove his masculine prowess (like Gladio), nor does he believe the singular act would move mountains (like Prompto); he does, however, recognize that he can only give away his virginity once, so he waits until he knows himself well enough to adequately shoulder the emotional responsibilities that come with intimacy. When he does finally share himself with another, the strategist in him is prepared; barrier methods have been previously discussed and a suitably private location has been secured, and about the only thing that comes as a surprise to Ignis is how delightfully challenging it is to unbutton his partner’s tunic using only his teeth.

Crystal Elixirs

a crystal elixir (otherwise known as gem water) is essentially water that has taken on the properties of crystals. it’s used for the same purpose regular crystals are used for. this guide on how to make crystal elixirs uses a barrier method to keep the crystals from directly coming in contact with the water. this is because a lot of crystals are toxic and can cause serious harm to you if ingested. some crystals are also water soluble. if you decide to place the crystals directly in the water PLEASE do your research first.   

how to make: 


  • glass jar
  • crystal(s) of your choice
  • a barrier (preferably of glass, this can be a glass sheet, smaller glass jar/cup)

1. fill your jar with water. you can use moon water, rain water, sea water, ect. 

2. put your barrier on top of the jar or within it and place your crystal(s) on top.

3. leave in a window or outside in the sunlight or moonlight to charge for a few hours (some crystals may fade in the sunlight, do research on your crystals first).  

really simple to make & can be very useful. blessed be everyone! 

I have a friend I was counseling through an STI scare and she just got her results and she doesn’t have herpes or any bacterial/fungal infections. However, she has had genital itching and sores for three years.

I’ve given her information on avoiding infections:

Avoid using Bubble baths, soaps, vaginal contraceptives (spermicide, diaphragms, cervical caps, and the sponge), feminine sprays, and perfumes. If you use lube make sure it doesn’t have glycerin or parabens. Never get food near your vulva. If you use condoms try latex free condoms. Using barrier methods during sex (vaginal, oral, manual, and genital rubbing) can help as well.

Avoid tight fitting non absorbent clothing. Wear cotton underwear and loose bottoms.

Avoid disposable tampons or pads. Menstrual cups and reusable cloth pads work better.

Upping the immune system can help tremendously. Using  vitamins like vitamin C and eating garlic and taking Echinacea help. Eating yogurt (especially organic or sugar free) can help a lot.

Only wash your vulva with water. Avoid using soaps, “feminine hygiene products” and douching. Wipe from front to back and never put anything that has been in your anus in your vagina.

Always urinate and clean up after sex.

Drink plenty of water and limit sugars as much as possible. Eat good food and exercise regularly. Get lots of sleep and avoid stress.

and on genital bumps:

If it’s a large, red, painful bump with a head it sounds like a cyst. If you put a warm compress on it it’ll help with the pain. If the bumps are on either side of your vaginal opening it could be a bartholin gland cyst. If it’s painful you need to go to a doctor. Usually the infection goes away before it gets painful but if it doesn’t it’ll need treatment. If it’s a clump of bumps that looks like a cauliflower it’s genital warts. if it’s a few to a lot of painful red blister looking things that pop and crust over it could be herpes. If it just looks like regular acne, vulva acne is common and will go down as you age just like regular acne. If it kind of looks like gooseflesh (or your arm whenever you get “goosebumps” and you’ve always had them, it’s probably fordyce spots. They can occur on both penises and vulvas and are totally harmless. If it is small, painless and kind of resembles a pearl it could be  Molluscum contagiosum. It can also occur in a line of bumps. This is a viral infection and you should see a doctor for it. If you have multiple red lesions and blackheads that enlarge, break open and drain pus it could be Hidradenitis suppurativa. It is a skin problem that’s considered a severe form of acne.

and I told her to make an appointment with her GP and try to get tested for hormone imbalances, blood sugar issues, and immune issues. I also told her to check her medications to see if that’s causing it.

Is there anything else I’m missing that could help her?

anonymous asked:

actually, if you are disregarding the cdc's information about npf and all that, you are as dumb as they come, sister. the cdc is run by people who didn't just get a college education to run around protesting abortion. lol. they are scientists and doctors. but hey, keep pretending you don't want to trap your childfree husband. go for it. it'll be hilarious to see that all happen. lolololololololololol!!!!

How the CDC Screwed Over NFP

Okay. Hear me out. This is the CDC’s page on contraception.

This is the NFP section: 

Natural family planning or fertility awareness—Understanding your monthly fertility pattern can help you plan to get pregnant or avoid getting pregnant. Your fertility pattern is the number of days in the month when you are fertile (able to get pregnant), days when you are infertile, and days when fertility is unlikely, but possible. If you have a regular menstrual cycle, you have about nine or more fertile days each month. If you do not want to get pregnant, you do not have sex on the days you are fertile, or you use a barrier method of birth control on those days. Failure rates vary across these methods. Overall, typical use failure rate: 24%.

Emphasis mine. 

They admit that different methods have different failure rates, but they only give one overall rate to cover all of them. Those methods include the rhythm method (which is not at all accurate) and methods that involve a lot of guessing.

If you want to know which contraceptive method is right for you, overall failure rates spanning multiple methods aren’t helpful.

There are outdated methods, and then there are more modern, more accurate methods. I’m using one of the latter – the Sympto-Thermal Method. It has a typical use failure rate of just 1.8%

Interestingly, the CDC doesn’t lump all the hormonal methods together and give them one failure rate. They even list the combined and progestin-only birth control pills separately, even though they have the same failure rate: 9%

The Depo-Provera shot has a typical use failure rate of 6%.

In fact, if you want to beat NFP with a hormonal method, you need to get an implant. Even then, you’re only 0.45% safer than if you used the Billings Ovulation Method (with only a 0.5% typical use failure rate). 

Typical Use vs Perfect Use

Why do I always quote typical use failure rates? 

Perfect use failure rates assume you have used the method exactly as you’re supposed to. If you’re on the pill, that means never missing a pill and taking them at the same time every single day. If you’re using the shot, that means never missing or delaying an appointment to get your next injection. If you use a condom, it means using them correctly every time. If you’re using the Sympto-Thermal Method, it means taking your temperature at the same time every morning before you get out of bed and keeping track of your cervical fluid every day. 

Nobody’s perfect. I know I’m not. No matter what method you use, something will happen. You forget to refill your prescription. You oversleep. You get sick on the day you were supposed to get your injection. Your partner is using a condom that’s the wrong size. It happens. 

The typical use rate tells you how effective your method of choice will be when crap happens. And crap happens. So when evaluating a contraceptive method, always look for the typical use failure rate of the individual method you’re considering.

For Your Reference

Typical use failure rates of modern NFP methods:

Marquette Method: 10.6% (not one I usually recommend – less accurate and more expensive. Bleh.)

Creighton Model: 3.6% (if you’re having fertility problems, you can use this to find out what’s wrong)

Sympto-Thermal Method: 1.8% (the one I’m using)

Billings Ovulation Method: 0.5% (yeah, only a 0.5% failure rate for typical use)

I live! + No Condom Herpes Sex

Hello to all,

Yes. It’s really me. 

First off, I’d like to apologize for my unannounced hiatus from Tumblr. 

For those of you who know, I recently (about 3 months ago) starting seeing a man that I was working with. It was my first time in over 6 months talking to somebody (in real life, not over the interwebs) who I had genuine feelings for & knew that disclosure would be necessary. It was my first time disclosing in person, and I was terrified. If you’re interested in the whole story, you can feel free to read my post about it here:

Now, here’s a little bit of wise words for those little herpeeps who, like me once upon a time, felt destined to a life of abstinence after diagnosis. I have been having sex with my S.O for almost 2 months now. I take two 400 mg tablets of Acyclovir daily for suppressive therapy & to reduce viral shedding, and I sometimes take 1,000 mg of lysine on top of that. Now, here’s the nitty gritty & an honest truth that I need no finger wagging about: while I do everything on my end to protect myself and my partner sexually (#1 way to do that is by COMMUNICATION), we both feel comfortable not using condoms. In fact, we’ve used a condom once, and that was the first time that we had sex. And want to know a cool little snippet? He doesn’t have herpes. I’m keeping my little herpes muggle 100% herpes free by knowing my body, understanding its signs & taking medication. 

While some of you may roll your eyes at my stupidity (did I not, and many of us, contract herpes in the first place by not using condoms?!) here is the reason that it is okay to have sex without a condom, herpes or no herpes: If you and your partner have an open and truthful conversation about each other’s status, what you’re comfortable with, hopes, dreams & aspirations in this world then you are 100% justified to make any decision in regards to your sexual health TOGETHER. If you have herpes & your partner is aware of this fact but only feels conformable engaging in sexual activity with a condom, then you use that condom! On the flipside, if you have herpes & your partner is aware of this fact and wants to NOT wear a condom, but you feel safer doing so– then wear that condom! Every sexual decision made in a relationship should be communicated from both ends, and when it comes down to it, I think that if a person in the relationship feels safer using some sort of barrier methods then that practice gives priority, because safety is more important than sensation.

To make a short story long, many people in this community are not only petrified to have sex after their diagnosis for fear of transmitting the virus, but the thought of having sex without a condom seems almost downright homicide. The reason I do not have anxiety about this choice that my S.O and I have made together is because we are both aware of each other’s status, & have enough information about each other and our thoughts to make decisions for ourselves. I would be completely fine using a condom each time if my S.O desired that, because I care about his safety (not only about not physically contracting HSV, but possible anxiety that it might have caused him worrying about catching it). So when it comes down to it, I do not feel bad about not using condoms because my partner is educated enough about my status to made decisions for himself. If it comes down to it & he does eventually contract HSV, while it would be tough for both of us to deal with, we made an open, honest decision and there is nobody at fault for that.

I love you all.


anonymous asked:

Can you get pregnant whilst being on T?

Testosterone is not a reliable contraceptive, so yes, this can happen.

If this is something that you wish to avoid and engage in activities where this could be possible then it’s important to take measures to prevent this, either by using barrier methods (i.e. condoms) or discussing contraceptive methods which are able to be used in conjunction with testosterone.

If you were intending to get pregnant then it’s important to stop testosterone before doing so as it can be harmful to the developing fetus.

~ Alex

Can we stop acting like pregnancy is accidental?

I’m 29yrs old and have never had a pregnancy scare. You know why? Cause condoms and birth control work. There are tons of non hormonal options and barrier methods other than condoms too! Do your googles and take charge of your reproductive health.

Obviously this sentiment is geared towards consensual sex

perfection-of-her-creation  asked:

Out of curiosity, is it just hormonal methods of birth control you don't like? Because barrier methods don't effect or work against fertility, all they do is prevent semen from entering the cervix..I mean not everyone wants kids at all, even in marriage. Condoms are the safest "unnatural" birth control.

NFP with barrier methods isn’t NFP, its called FAM or fertility awareness method. You still chart your fertile and non-fertile days, but instead of abstaining from sex during your fertile days, you have sex with barrier methods.

Barrier methods are essentially the same as contraception when it comes to the unity of marital sex. Let me explain it this way, contraception is a rejection of myself, my nature. It rejects the most divine and beautiful part about my womanhood; my fertility. If my spouse told me he would only be intimate if I used contraception, he is telling me he rejects part of my physical body, part of my whole. During the act of sex within the marriage, how could we be united as one body, only with parts of ourselves? Love is unconditional. He cannot pick and choose which parts of my body or self he loves, he must accept me completely. He cannot say, “I love only your best bits, the convenient bits, the rest I reject entirely.”

Using barrier methods are essentially a rejection of a man’s “seed”. I think about how hurtful it would i would feel if my husband only held my hands when he was wearing gloves, or every time he kissed me he put a mask over his face. I couldn’t expect him to do such a thing, so why, during the most intimate and unique part of our marriage would I expect him to cover himself? Wouldn’t this too be a rejection of his body? Barrier methods are just another example of love with conditions.

This is why NFP is so unique. There is a unity and love of rare and profound respect for each other as a whole. Biblically, we understand marriage to be the joining of a man and a woman as one flesh, and in the act of sex with in marriage, the couple gives their entire self, and accepts the entire person completely; a reunion and renewal of the marital vows of a man and woman to become one flesh.

In our society sex seems to be based on pleasure alone, like most relationships. There is a deeper meaning to sex, as there is a deeper meaning to love. It absolutely feels good, it absolutely is for more then procreation, it is the union of two bodies and two lives. We cannot remove important parts of sexual intimacy to reduce it to pleasure alone, this is just lust. Just as we can not reject parts of other people that are uniquely complicated to better suit are partial “love”. People are not tools for our disposal they are beings that deserve dignity, respect and love without conditions.

I think about the words, “ I love you,” compared to “I love you if…”

I understand that this is complicated, and the concept that sex should be unconditional just as love should be is an idea that is not shared by many others, but I believe it to be a truth. I hope you can understand and respect my beliefs on intimacy, and I hope that answers your question :)


Oh look it’s a horribly overdone premise, hurrah. This is what happens when I ask myself one too many “what if” questions.

If you hate unplanned pregnancy storylines, uh, maybe skip this one. I didn’t tag it NSFW because it’s not aside for some swearing, but there is implied sex, so read at your discretion.


It isn’t supposed to be like this.

Her hands shake and she tries to figure out how this happened, how she got here. This isn’t right. They’ve always been so, so careful. True, synthetic hormones made her too sick, so they’d had to rely on good old barrier methods, but they’d been meticulous about it.

Except for one night a few weeks back when they’d both been a little drunk and a lot less careful than usual but it would be fine because there was technically only a 20% chance on any given cycle even if all factors lined up perfectly, so the risk was negligible, really, and he had been so so so hot in those skinny jeans and even hotter out of them.

Apparently the odds were in their favor. Maybe they should head to Vegas and take up gambling.

She stares at the pair of pink lines and her heart pounds in her ears.

It’s not like they’re kids anymore, and it’s not like they’ve never thought about it or talked about it. But it’s always in the abstract, always a maybe-someday fuzzy future vision for down the road. She’d always assumed it would be planned right down to a big red circle on the calendar that said “conception here,” if anything. They’d have plenty of time to mentally and emotionally prepare, they’d be done risking their lives every other week, they’d have a fucking dog or something.

There’s a clatter outside the bathroom door and she jumps a mile. He can’t be home yet. He’s not supposed to be home yet. The room tilts a little.

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