A Single Girl's Guide to Being Happy this Valentine's Day

It’s Valentine’s Day this weekend. Which means a weekend of enduring the sight of couples wearing cheesy coordinated outfits and men presenting stuffed teddy bears to girls, as well as the barrage of commemorative photos on social media. #truelove4eva

Funny how it’s been years since this occasion was first given so much commercial value, and people still buy into the whole fanfare.

Maybe I’m just a cynic, or I don’t understand what it’s like to be in love. But while I’m sure there’s much to appreciate about being in a committed relationship with someone, there’s also a lot to be thankful for as a twenty-something singleton.

As I navigate the dating minefield, I’ve also been collecting dating and relationship advice from well-meaning friends of mine (who have witnessed me at the height of an infatuation and suffered through my tales of unrequited interest, on my part and on the chaser’s).

Here are some that struck a chord in me, along with other lessons I’ve learned on my own:

1. Know Thy Worth

If you make someone your everything and he only treats you as his something, it’s going to end in tears. You expect too much. You want more. You start getting resentful. It’s only going to wear you out in the end. And you deserve more than that.

So remember what you are worth. If the guy isn’t putting in any effort at all, then he isn’t worthy of you.

2. Focus on Being You

Nobody likes a wallflower with the personality of a sock. Be happy in your own company. If you don’t even enjoy being with yourself, then you can’t expect someone else to. So fill up your life with the things that make you happy. Have goals. Strive to achieve them. Start creating a version of yourself that you will be proud of. When you’re so busy being you, you won’t need validation from anyone else but yourself. And that itself is a powerful thing.

3. Take Your Time

While my Facebook feed is choked with pictures of friends and acquaintances flaunting their engagement rings, anniversary photos and even (gasp) babies, I feel like there are also many of them who are also single.

Sometimes, it can feel like this:

But I don’t see the point in going into a premature relationship and then half-assing it. “Trying out” with someone I’m not 100% into would eventually just wear out an INFJ like me. Like my friend Liz said, timing is important. If two people are at different stages of their lives where they are seeking different things, then it’s likely that they will run parallel to each other and never meet, even if they do like each other. Tragic, but true.

So I guess time takes time. Better a happy singledom than an unhappy relationship.

4. Be Open … But Have Some Standards

I’ve been told that my expectations are too high - a statement that I really don’t agree with, by the way - and that you could have someone who ticks all the right boxes in your checklist (if you have one) but it still wouldn’t feel right … as Glamour’s experiment below proved.

That doesn’t mean you settle for anyone who shows the slightest bit of interest in you. Rather, it’s taking the time to know more people so that you understand what you’re really looking for so that you don’t end up rushing into a relationship.

5. Don’t Sweat It

A rejection isn’t the end of the world. A non-reply - or a curt, half-hearted one - may dent your dignity, but what doesn’t kill you does make you stronger. Sometimes, you can do everything right and things would still not work out the way you hope it would. What are you going to do, mope and cry?

Once you start placing less importance on one thing, you’re freeing yourself up to many other things. You’re giving yourself the space to pursue other things, and saving yourself a whole lot of angst in doing so.

Besides, no one said you only had to go after one thing in life. And frankly, you have better things to worry about than why he blue-ticked you on WhatsApp.

6. But Don’t Ever Give Up on Love

This one came from my dad. Despite all the horror stories we’ve heard about relationships gone wrong and people being screwed over by love, he still believes there’s someone out there for me. And according to him, the worst thing you can do for yourself that would diminish your chances of ever falling in love is to become disillusioned by the notion of love.

So even if consecutive lacklustre dates and humiliating rejections may convince you that you’re better off alone after all, I guess the key is to have faith that someday someone will appreciate you for being you, and vice versa. In the meantime, stay awesome and get comfortable with solitude.

What other dating advice have you received that you think is worth imparting? Share them in the Comments section below! I’m all ears.

“As quickly as the attack began, it ended, the sound of shells replaced by the sound of the shelled. Bain and I barely heard it far in the distance. ‘Gotta get up… gotta get up…’ It sounded like Joe Toye. I popped my head out of the foxhole and looked around for Buck Compton, for orders. That’s when we heard what sounded like Toye again. ‘Gotta get up… gotta get up…” Hearing that, Guarnere, Toye’s best friend, scrambled out of his foxhole like a mad man, heading for his pal. He was playing right into the Krauts’ hands; hit ‘em with a barrage, allow them a little time to go after their wounded, then hit ‘em again. But there was no stopping Guarnere.” - p.177 Easy Company Soldiers by Don Malarkey

XCOM 2 Guide: How To Deal With Archons, Codex, And Avatars

XCOM 2 Guide: How To Deal With Archons, Codex, And Avatars

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XCOM 2 Enemy Guide

Yesterday, we gave some tips and tricks on how to deal with XCOM 2’s newest and deadliest aliens. Today we continue, taking a look at some of the more challenging members of the Advent Army.


Archons serve as the main airborne troops of the Advent; functioning as battlefield leaders to the lower-ranked Advent soldiers. Their natural flight ability allows them to gain height and aim advantages over XCOM troops. They are adept at both ranged and melee combat and can unleash a deadly explosive barrage called ‘Blazing Pinions’. The Archon will mark a soldier and, after a one turn delay, reign down destruction on the target. Killing the Archon does not cancel this attack, so be sure to move your troops out of the way.


These mysterious mechanical aliens can be a pain to deal with. A Codex can teleport around the battlefield, avoiding soldiers in overwatch and appearing in prime flanking position. Any time the alien takes non-lethal damage, it will spawn a clone that deals the same damage and has the same abilities as the original, minus the teleportation. Once the original has been killed, the teleportation ability will be transferred to one of the clones.

The original Codex’s hit points will be split with newly created clones, so try to deal large chunks of damage to reduce the amount of clones that spawn. Stringing together overwatch shots is also useful because clones are only spawned once the original Codex has finished its move. Multiple overwatches can kill a Codex before it has a chance to clone itself so try to set up good concealment traps whenever you encounter one.

The Codex’s deadliest ability is Psionic Rift, a large AOE attack of psi energy that renders all primary weapons in its radius useless. Soldiers caught in a rift will have their rifles emptied of ammo. Pistols and secondary armaments aren’t affected. After one turn, a Rift will detonate dealing huge damage to soldiers caught inside.


The deadliest members of the Advent force, these powerful psionics represent the pinnacle of alien technology. Be sure to have Psi Operatives in your squad when facing an Avatar to counter the alien’s powerful mind control ability. Much like the Codex, Avatars can unleash powerful rifts that deal heavy damage to those caught in the radius. These rifts don’t have the ammo depleting side effect however. Avatars can also fire powerful energy beams that bypass cover so be very careful.

The Avatar’s teleportation functions like the Codex’s cloning ability. Whenever it receives damage, it will blink to a new destination on the map. Overwatch is also an effective tool because teleports are done only once the Avatar’s move is finished.

Are you having more problems in XCOM 2? You can also check our XCOM 2 guide on how to improve the Avenger, basic tips on how to survive, and how to unlock overpowered hero soldiers for campaign mode.

Rush Snap Streak with 4-1 Win

What a great win tonight for the Rapid City Rush #StreakSnapped

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LOVELAND, CO — Cody Ferriero, Lindsay Sparks, Winston Day Chief, and James Melindy each recorded 2 points or more on Wednesday night as the Rapid City Rush rode a three-goal second period on three power play goals to defeat the Colorado Eagles by a 4-1 score.

Despite an offensive barrage from the Rush in the opening frame, Colorado opened the scoring entries in the contest.  With 3:13 gone by in…

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Star Wars MimoPowerBot has power but is not unlimited

“Power! Unlimited power!,” screams Emperor Palpatine as he releases a barrage of Force Lightning against the newly dismembered Jedi Master Mace Windu, electrocuting the master of Vaapad style lightsaber technique before sending him flying to his death below, while the newly turned Anakin Skywalker looks on helplessly, knowing that he has but little choice to be a Sith as there is no apparent room for redemption with the Jedi. Well, …

hotmessmuses asked:

"I love everything about you." Eirik whispered, finding it a bit difficult to speak while he was assaulting Anton's face with little kisses all over. Every part of him that was within kissing range received multiple and it didn't seem as though Eirik was likely to ease up any time soon. "You're sweet, creative, unique, handsome, and have amazing style. I'm so lucky to have you in my life."

Anton wouldn’t have guessed that Eirik would have been such a romantic, fluffy type of person when they first met, but he was glad his first impression was wrong in that respect. Whether anyone knew or not, Anton himself could be extremely affectionate, soaking up all of the hugs and kisses and feeling rather spoiled with all of this attention. He put both hands on Eirik’s cheeks and managed to pull him away from his face for just a moment, long enough to interrupt the barrage of kisses with one big smooch to the lips. “If you keep flattering me like that, it’ll just go to my head.” he told him, pressing his nose against his. “But on that note, you’re pretty amazing yourself.”

Star Wars MimoPowerBot has power but is not unlimited

“Power! Unlimited power!,” screams Emperor Palpatine as he releases a barrage of Force Lightning against the newly dismembered Jedi Master Mace Windu, electrocuting the master of Vaapad style lightsaber technique before sending him flying to his death below, while the newly turned Anakin Skywalker looks on helplessly, knowing that he has but little choice to be a Sith as there is no apparent room for redemption with the Jedi.

theprincessclarkegriffin asked:

✉ (Bell, who else)

    ( @theprincessclarkegriffin​ | barrage of texts )

[text; princess] whatever Murphy tells you, I didn’t set anything on fire.
[text; princess] it was literally his fault.
[text; princess] he was the one who suggested we play fireball.
[text; princess] and he was the one who used your clothes to put out the fire.
[text; princess] also we may be in the hospital.
[text; princess] Murphy may have slightly set me on fire.
[text; princess] i really shouldn’t be left alone with him.
[text; princess] so arguably none of this was my fault.
[text; princess] Murphy wants to know if you’ll bring him an ice cream.
[text; princess] he also wants to know if you’re going to kill him.

catlibero asked:


Send me a ✉ and my muse will send yours a barrage of text messages.

Send to: Yaku

Sent: 2/10/16 2:03 AM


>> so like

>> if i were to go to the beach rn

>> like rn this v second

>> would i be able to swim or nah

>> ????

>> do cats swim

>> is that a thing that they do

>> Bokuto said owls can swim

>> specifically Great Horned owls

>> we cant let him beat us

>> cats ftw


[Blog Tour & Review] What The Bachelor Gets by Kristina Knight

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The Billionaire Cowboys trilogy by best-selling author Kristina Knight kicks off with a seductive story of long-simmering feelings and hot Vegas nights.

When Vegas Nightly names local property developer Gage Reeves as its sexiest bachelor, he’s barraged with a stream of showgirls, local socialites, and entertainers who all expect something from him. But all Gage wants is to make a success of his new luxury shopping development.

Enter Callie Holliday. Callie dreams of having the hottest day spa in Vegas, but she’s saddled with a bad location and an account balance full of zeroes. When she walks into a last-chance meeting with an angel investor and finds herself face to face with Gage, the childhood friend on whom she had a huge crush, she’s not sure his reputation is the right match for her business. But then he offers her a storefront in his new high-end retail complex, and she has to admit it’s a thoroughly tempting proposition. But feelings she thought were long buried threaten to turn their deal from strictly professional to decidedly personal.

It’s risky business gambling on love …

Teen Wolf.

It’s finally getting better? Like, the barrage of new characters is kind of starting to fit in, pack is solidified again and working together? Even making good diplomatic choices in working the chimera pack? These last two episodes were not hell to get through? Dylan is still on the show despite the fact he can act circles around this concept? Parrish is hella interesting as the hellhound? Baby Liam and Stiles are silly and fun? Scott isn’t being shitty to anyone // is back to the Scotty I love? Little bb Mason is shining his brightest? Marrish weird death supe connection confirmed as canon? Stilinski punchlines are back?

I’m still in, even if I complain.

I miss Derek, tho.
So much.
Is he drinking 8 glasses of water a day and getting enough sunshine, maybe even making small talk with his neighbors?

I wonder sometimes.

Dancers live on hope. They hope they can get through a performance. Hope they get the job, hope they won’t fall off their center when they turn, hope that the studio is warm, hope they get a larger role, hope their practice clothes are dry.

Their needs are simple, their aspirations great. They are also alone too much inside themselves. Pitying themselves, nursing their wounds, hanging on, trying to make sense of the emotional and physical barrage which is always tearing them apart. Their inner roles are not to be envied, regardless of how admired their outer performances may be. All a dancer wants to do is dance. Hand in hand with the glory of achievement rests the terror of getting out of shape. From the magnificent to the mundane….

May I propose a toast. To dancers. For whatever personal hell you may go through. For whatever professional calumny may be heaped upon you. For whatever comfort this may bring, be assured, you are not alone. You are the profession. Without you there is no dance.

—   Murray Lewis from “Inside Dance: Prologue”
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I really wish I had been able to save the last conversation I had.

I got a message from someone claiming to be Jewish telling me I was a disgrace to my people.

Surveying their blog, I found liberal use of the n-word, as well as a song by Johnny Rebel. (HEY FUCKHEAD, WHITE NATIONALISTS HATE US TOO IN CASE YOU HAVEN’T FUCKING NOTICED)

I poked at them gently with a rhetorical stick out of morbid curiosity, and then I let them have it. I was rather proud of the verbal barrage I threw at them.

Dammit. I should’ve copypasted before blocking them. Dammit dammit dammit dammit!

Also, Jumblr folks, I’ve already forgotten their screenname, but make sure you copy paste the conversation of that sack of shit talks to you.

interstellarisms asked:

sun, scorpio & pluto!

SUN: what makes you feel like you?

reading. i’ve loved/loved/loved reading ever since i was very small and actually it’s less about feeling like me than about completely forgetting that i am an actual distinct entity. i often go through periods of time where i /can’t/ read and when i finally pick up a book i always become human again. 

SCORPIO: what’s your most kept secret?

i’m not quite sure what to define as my most kept secret, but the one i’ve found myself lying about most is my brother’s autism, just because i often want to avoid the barrage of assumptions-based-on-some-fictional-character-phrased-as-questions. i’ll happily answer your questions but it’s called autism spectrum because it’s a range of behaviours. :)

PLUTO: what is your biggest aspiration and why?

talk about difficult questions. i don’t know what i want to do with my life at this point but i really want to make some kind of difference in the world~

send me some placement asks