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I just hate it when people accuse me of being an ass or “cheating” when it’s revealed that my muse has been lying. Honestly, unless it’s important to the plot or has the potential to offend, I don’t like giving an OOC warning or giving my muse internal monologue because every inexperienced RPer in a five-mile radius then has their character become a mind reader or acts like OOC is the same as IC.

“Oh, your character’s had a rough life? Let me go on about how it’s nothing compared to all the horrible things my character’s been through and how I torture him so much more.”

So many people in the rp community I’m in force awful things into their characters’ pasts practically as fodder to woobify their character or get people to sympathize with them, and make it into a contest of who “tortures” their characters most, as if that makes them a better writer. Believe it or not, you can make readers respond emotionally to your characters without putting them through so much trauma they should be dead!

That’s not to say trauma and abuse can’t ever be part of a character’s story, but when they’re there they need to be treated carefully, respectfully, and realistically and not thrown around like a golden ticket to “Feels”-ville. Especially when they’re things that could be triggering to some people.

My RP community acts like they’re mature and accepting, but all it takes is one unpopular opinion about a fictional character to turn the place into a daycare full of crybabies. Then, everyone breaks out the torches and pitchforks to brawl about something as simple as a single headcanon, and they forget that the least they can do is debate it like adults. 

I am so sick of this place sometimes. 

More of a general thing than a specific rp but god. DAMN. IT.

People don’t always marry who’s best for them, a kid is a lot of responsibility, not everyone is ready for either– but of course, the instant two people/robots/aliens/furries/etc hook up, they GOTTA GET HITCHED and it is going to be FUCKING PERFECT and they are going to be so loving and adorable forever the end. No conflict, only babies.

Roleplay is often built on conflict. You switch it out for domestic fluff exactly all of the time, then what? It’s often called “endgame”, but it doesn’t have to be.

There is more to life than “settling down” and having 3 million kids.

(And don’t force my character who is the exact opposite of ready for kids to look after your child OC. Just don’t.)

This isn’t really a post to point people out or hurt anyone. I’m just need to get something to get off my chest. Whether it’s jealously or I need to man up, take it as you will, but I’m pretty sure a good number of you have had this sort of feeling if not exact.

Do you ever have someone in your group who is well liked by everyone? So much that they jump on to every thread they make? So much that everyone that isn’t that one person gets ignored? I mean I follow the rules, I don’t complain, I don’t cause drama, I’m not disliked(at least I hope not…) and honestly I keep to myself. Lately I feel like it’s been a waste of time even trying to start threads that no one bothers to join because they all prefer that one popular person. I’m talking about how people don’t seem to spare you a glance and you’re constantly coming back to roleplay threads that have like, zero replies. And it’s not just my own threads. I replied to open starters, sent requests, I have been very patient. And yet it takes centuries for me to even get one while the other person is doing over 10 roleplays at once. They have at least 20 different ships and I’d be considered lucky to even have one friendship. I’m seriously contemplating if people just find me boring entirely or they’re too hung up on clamoring for a ship with that popular guy simply because they’re well known and good. I know people have preferences but, I feel like I’ve been given the short end of the stick way too many times.

Because apparently on this website it’s considered more prestigious to play canon characters for some reason? I don’t get it. I mean, not to knock people who do, because it does take work and if you’re having fun it’s totally legit, but why would you put someone on a pedestal when they didn’t make their own character then knock the people who /do/?

Good for people who want to actually be better, but when you have a history of abusing and shittalking people who dare say anything negative about your original character or how you play them?

Congratulations! You are the problem.  And no, no one will be coming off anon to talk because then you can then freely abuse the person and smear their name however you want in public because you clearly cannot take a teaspoon on criticism, constructive or otherwise.

It’s always the same: It doesn’t matter how many opens I make for all my new followers or all my attempts to interact with them. There’s always that time where you feel like no one wants to talk to you because they’re too busy with their clique and you feel like dropping your character. Suddenly, out of the blue, everyone comes to you to beg for you to not leave, but what really makes me angry is the same excuse they all use: “I would LOVE to RP with your character BUT: I’m too busy, I’m intimidated by you, I don’t know how to interact to new followers, I’m out of ideas, I’m sleepy…”

The list goes on. The worst is that the people who often says that to me are lying, they are RPing on dash and perfectly fine with other RPers, which makes me even more pissed. It’s as if they have a problem with me.

Instead of showing fake interest on my character and creating half-assed excuses just tell me truth, tell me my character is not of your interest or you don’t like him/her. It would make me less angry.

It might happen that I have a canon character off-handedly mention, say, getting a latte, and the other person’s character will suddenly and uncharacteristically rudely demand “since when do you drink lattes?"  Never mind that there’s no evidence in canon to suggest that this character would absolutely never drink a latte.  (Do you people really believe that characters only do and like what you see them doing or having in canon?)

Or a character might mention not liking being called by some super-sappy nickname, and the other person’s character will say, "But you liked it last week!” and act like my character is an asshole for not liking it now, even though “last week” never happened in the RP.  Sorry, but I can tell you right now that if my character doesn’t like it now, this character probably never liked it, and I really don’t appreciate your passive-aggressive attempts to force my character into being what you want.

Stop being such RP control freaks.

So once upon a time I played with a female character who had started to date my male character. This female was Sue-ish, but I was young and also not expecting things to go so horribly awry, so I didn’t much care. Then one day I started talking about the fact that I may have a girlfriend and this chick flipped her lid, calling me a cheating liar. I have never been so weirded out due to an rp/rper/character in all my 9 years of rping.