”A girl is like a young tree, you must stand tall and listen to your mother standing next to you. This is the only was to grow strong and straight. But if you bend to listen to the words of other people, you will grow crooked and weak. You will fall to the ground with the first strong wind.”
Hey everyone! A lovely man named Mike Strangstalien, MA, MFT, LPC, NCC decided to compile a list of 8 things successful people do. He has been working on this list since 1994 and continues to update this list as he does more research. I decided to share some of his amazing work here with you all by summarizing his main points. Enjoy and good luck!
1. They raise their hand in class.
Now, this may seem trivial and sometimes you’re left with the question, “How can I speak up in class if I don’t even know what I don’t know?”. However, its been proven that people who raise their hand and ask questions tend to do better. If you are unsure of a question to ask, a good technique is to go home and review the material and the next day at the beginning of class, ask your question. This not only gets you to actively participate in class, but you begin to think about the information you learned and are able to commit it to long term memory.
2. They establish routine and structure.
During the day you should try to complete your homework so that at night you can spend your time studying, reviewing and consolidating. Its been proven that studying something before bed can commit it to long term memory. Doing work at night when you’re tired can lead to poor performance and may not commit things to memory if its the first time you’re seeing the information.
Also, try to go to bed BEFORE 1:30 am! Why is this important? Your serotonin is used up during the day (about 90%) and is reassembled if you get to bed by 1:30. If you go to bed past 1:30 twice in a row, you miss your key opportunity to replace it and you’re left with only 10%! Do this again and you’re down to only 1%. This affects your concentration, focus, attention, motivation and memory.
3. They go to office hours.
Those who go to office hours at least 8 times during the semester yield, on average, 0.5-1.2 grade points HIGHER than their non-attending counter parts. The main reason people don’t go to office hours is a fear of looking “dumb”. However, if you just admit to your professor or TA that you’re completely lost, they can help re-teach. Remember to be honest about your confusion because otherwise they may start their explanation off the assumption that you already know something and you’ll have wasted your time and your professor’s. This can be the difference between a C and an A!
4. They prepare for each lecture.
Preparation for each lecture is essential. Begin by reviewing any information from the last lecture within 24 hours of first receiving this information, otherwise you lose valuable time to commit it to long term memory. Additionally, quick read assigned readings so that the lecture can consolidate what you read. After the lecture, spend about 5 minutes summarizing the major points and look up any vocabulary you didn’t recognize. This all compiles into the three-read principle. 1. Read the textbook (or other materials) beforehand. 2. Reread after the lecture and try to find the main points in the reading. 3. Reread a third time and write notes as though you plan to teach the information. This means simplifying and not writing down unnecessary information.
5. They remain actively involved when learning, attending lecture, and while studying.
I have a post about active studying techniques which you can find here. Active learning requires not only that you consciously try to pay attention, but also that you maintain your motivation to learn the material, the willingness to complete the tasks at hand needed to learn it, and saying to yourself, “I am excited to learn something new and I am thankful that I have the opportunity to do it”. Remember, there are kids in other countries literally dying for the right to an education. Your education is luxury, not a right. Additionally, every 15 minutes, stop and ask yourself, “how does this fit into the main idea,” and “what is it that I just read and how can I form study questions from it?”.
6. They take responsibility for their learning.
Although your professor is there to provide you with the information, it is not their job to make sure you learn it. Often times students fail because they expect the professor to try hard to help them. This is a harmful way of thinking and it can lead to failed exams. Those who take responsibility will make sure they seek help when they need it and they will make sure they search for resources outside of what is provided. If you’re really struggling with a concept, try Kahn Academy, YouTube or asking a TA.Its up to you to earn the A, not your professor. Also, keep track of your own grades and assignments that you turn in. This way if you need to see someone for help, you’re not disadvantaged because you waited until the grades were updated online after you threw away graded papers.
7. They understand the work load and are prepared to study 7 days a week.
Not everyone can study for hours on end every day. For this reason, those who are successful make sure they break down their studying into 25 minute intervals. Additionally, make sure you touch on this information every single day to keep your brain ready for the class when it comes time and you can avoid procrastination. You also need to be prepared for repeated exposure. This means reviewing the same material 3-7 times. This highly increases your likelihood to not only learn the information for exam, but not become guilty of the “pump-and-dump”. This is especially helpful for anyone pursuing medical school or graduate school.
8. They have no use for negative self-talk and they are honest with themselves.
You cant commit things to memory if you feel down or you are angry with yourself! Those who are successful maintain the mentality of, “I know that hard work and commitment will lead to success,” and, “I am capable, intelligent, and worthy of excellent grades”. They also understand that any grade they receive is earned and not given. Additionally, they understand that even at the end of the day, if they get bad grades they know for a fact that they tried their hardest. Self-criticism can be more harmful than good. Never scold yourself for missing homework, doing bad on an exam, or being confused. Instead, search for ways to actually CHANGE your behavior.A change in you mentality may sound silly, but it may be the difference between having the motivation to study a little harder and laying in bed feeling bad about yourself. BE HONEST. If you are really struggling and going to office hours and studying isn't helping, drop your pride and try to find a tutor. If a tutor isn’t in the books for you due to financial situations, explain this to your professor and see if you can schedule more one-on-one time.
-Blue wears a strange combination of floral dresses and combat boots everywhere. it drives gansey insane but in the best way ever.
-ronan is dreaming thousands of fireflies up and adam fills mason jars with them. they never die, but make the most amazing night lights. the pathway from the house to the barns in lined by these jars.
-blue steals 4 jars and goes to noah’s grave and leaves them there.
-henry ends up convincing the gangsey to finally join social media. somehow they’re all some connected by snapchat and instagram and Facebook messenger. it’s great.
-blue’s instagram contains pictures of dead flowers, blueberry yogurt, feminist novels and many pictures of trees (as well as sneaky shots of gansey labeled ‘dick’)
-ronan uses messenger to send obnoxious pictures to gansey of squash.
-henry however decided to provoke the angry irish farmer by endlessly sending pictures of him holding stuffed animals of cows and pigs through snapchat, each labeled ‘who’s the real farmer now?’
-ronan blocks him.
-adam is finally sleeping eight hours a night and is down to one job due to blessed scholarships that paid for both his residence and tuition and he has not felt this safe and happy in years.
-lots of hiking
-gansey drags them out to the woods at ungodly hours and talks about their next great adventure and quest and holy shit this boy will not stop.
-henry plays pokemon go and ronan nearly throws his phone out the window when he insists that they stop for the super rare pokebaby even if there are cars right behind them and they’re on a highway like wtf henry your priorities are sad.
-“one more time cheng”
-“YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND, LYNCH!”
-he also names the beedrill after gansey because he’s a bit of an ass.
-adam is getting boxes from nino’s for moving. blue turns his bedroom into a massive cardboard box fort, complete with cupcakes and lemonade and blankets.
-ronan likes to take naps there and dreams up flower crowns.
-gansey grows more mint plants. they’re a symbol of life to him and he never wants a single one to wilt.
-he also keeps losing his boat shoes.
-ronan looks suspicious but in the end it’s been blue all along.
-ronan steals his polo shirts. gansey is not impressed.
-driving to amusement parks! blue and henry take an unimpressed selfie each time gansey insists on pulling over to look at some historical monument at some point.
-adam is hella not convinced about the rollercoasters
-neither is gansey lets be honest because our sweet two times dead child does not want to go a third time. he dutifully follows blue on each ride though only because she is a wild child that lifts her arms up in the air and likes the rush and damnit if gansey isn’t holding tight to her hand each time.
-henry thrives on the drop tower.
-and cotton candy
-and funnel cake
-ronan takes roughly a million photos of henry’s hair since all the rides completely wrecked his carefully styled ‘masterpiece’.
-also: adam and ronan kiss and it tastes like lemonade and suddenly ronan starts craving lemonade all of the times.
-gansey has been trying to find apartments. he has a year off between school and blue wants to live for the first time uncursed.
-eventually they find a loft halfway between ronan’s farm and adam’s school.
-it’s above a used bookstore and cafe and blue falls in love with it.
-she makes curtains for the windows that are different colours and nothing in the loft matches in terms of decorations. wind chimes made from coca cola bottles and prints of frida kahlo and fairy lights hung everywhere.
-adam and ronan give them firefly lanterns.
-henry makes them paint the spare bedroom yellow and black because they all better know he is going to be crashing there.
-summer is ending and they are all painfully aware of it
-gansey has been sleeping like a normal human
-adam has been as well
-ronan still can’t be called a normal human
-blue takes a photo for her instagram account on the very last night of summer of the group in the field surrounded by the stars and fireflies and it;s beautiful, and in the photo you can almost make out the sight of smudgy boy standing next to ronan
-they all drive adam to his new dorm the next day and completely terrify his roommate
-three boys in the hallway attempted to catcall blue and had a face full of a pissed ronan and gansey, and even worse, an annoyed blue.
-henry brought far to many cactuses to decorate adam’s desk with just so he would have something to remember ronan by
-”because, you know, your boyfriend is a giant prick”
-ronan also brought a snow globe with glitter.
-blue also strings up more fairy lights because try and stop the five foot girl wearing the shirt with the words ‘not your babe’ across the front.
-ronan assists in stringing them above the desk and bed because she wasn’t quite tall enough
-gansey tears up a little bit at the sight of his boy going off to his school.
-henry takes photos and eventually talks in one of the traumatized boys that blue tore skin off verbally into taking a group photo of them.
-it’s a bit crowded, since they’re doing it in adam’s shared bedroom.
-henry has blue on his shoulders and one her hands is messing up gansey’s hair while ronan is wearing a flower crown that adam brought with him, one arm around his waist and has the smuggest smirk on his face while adam looks so blissfully happy.
-a week later blue and gansey quietly move into their loft
-three days after a doormat shows up saying “fuck off”
With the school season well started, this little bottle is meant to bring focus back to your important tasks/ goals/ studies. Doesn’t have to be for those who are going back to school, but anyone who needs to re-focus!
Salt to clear away any disrupting thoughts.
Rosemary to clear your mind and bring clarity.
Basil to prevent mental fatigue.
Lavender to ease the mind and reduce anxiety.
Peppermint to stimulate the mind and boost your energy for that last push.
Blue glitter to catch your attention, inspire positivity and refocus.
When you find your mind wandering away from your task, pull this little bottle out and give it a nice shake (it doesn’t smell too bad either!). Take some deep breaths, clear your mind (however works best for you), focus on the bottle while thinking about your task. It’s not so bad/ daunting/ boring. You can do it and you’ll knock it out of the park. Once it’s done it’ll be over and you can move on to other things you might want to do more.
This is meant to be a super simple, very quick, practical bottle. It was made with school in mind (for my husband who is going back to school, specifically), but of course can be used for any sort of task you may need to spend time and effort doing.
There is no liquid, so it’s not quite like those cool swirly glitter bottles. It’s just dry ingredients with a fair amount of glitter. The jar is full, but not packed. It took some experimenting with to get the glitter showing well even after shaking.
Because I thought the smell was also quite helpful, I didn’t seal it with wax.
Let me know if you try this, or what you change to make it your own! I always enjoy seeing other people’s creations!