babysitting advice

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Dating Sherlock Holmes Would Include...

Originally posted by blurryfandoms

~ Him dragging you to cases

~ You helping him with experiments

~ John giving him dating advice

~ Babysitting Rosie together

~ You helping him quit drugs

~ Him teaching you to dance

~ Him calling you “love” and you calling him “honey”

~ His parents adore you

~ Mycroft actually likes you

~ John and Mary constantly telling Sherlock to propose to you

~ Mrs. Hudson teaching you to cook

~ You constantly cleaning up his messes

~ Him teaching you to deduce

~ You reading to him

~ Letting him be when he’s in his mind palace

Parents Cranky About Nap Schedule

By Amy Dickinson

October 23, 2017

Dear Amy: My wife and I have a 14-month-old daughter. We often clash on our parenting styles.

Our daughter is on a very strict schedule. This has worked out well for us — she naps well and sleeps through the night.

I’m all for the schedule, but sometimes life should come first. This weekend my wife and I are going to a wedding. My parents love to watch our daughter, but they had already made plans to go to the local homecoming parade.

After my wife sent my mom our daughter’s schedule, my mom said that they would take our daughter to the parade, and bring her back for her nap, about an hour later than normal. She said that if my wife wasn’t comfortable with that, it was OK to try and find another option.

My wife thought this was rude and that my mom wasn’t respecting her wishes. I feel like my parents are doing us a favor, and putting our daughter down for her nap a little later isn’t a big deal. I want my wife to realize that we can deviate from the schedule on occasion.

I feel like my wife’s issue is more about controlling everything, rather than being about what is best for us and for our daughter.

Grandparent babysitting is free — we would have to pay the sitter $150 or more to watch our daughter all day. We got into a huge fight about this, and now I am not sure what to do or say.

— Dad Needs Help

Dear Dad: I am with you on this. Your mother, also, has handled this well.

Your wife’s reaction is not only unkind, but it also doesn’t bode well for future free babysitting gigs (or for her relationship with her in-laws). Additionally, she needs to realize that when she isn’t present, caregivers will not necessarily adhere strictly to her schedule.

This episode exposes the reality of parenthood: Parenting is a balancing act between control and letting go.

Your wife’s overreaction to this is really an expression of her own anxiety. This is not about your daughter’s well-being, but about her own.

Children do best when they can function in a variety of settings. At your daughter’s age, I can hardly think of anything more delightful than being exposed to the colors and joyfulness of a little parade (her ears should be protected from loud parade noises, however). This is an opportunity to start the process of taking her further out into the world.

You should discuss these parenting concepts when you are not stressed by a specific issue. Your wife needs to experience the sensation of leaving your daughter in someone else’s care, and having it all work out just fine.

I highly recommend the work of T. Berry Brazelton, whose “Touchpoints” series has helped guide many families through the early days of parenthood. Read, “Touchpoints: Birth to Three,” co-written with Joshua D. Sparrow (2006, Da Capo Press). Reading this together might help you to compromise.

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Of course, boy or girl, if you’re lucky enough to fall in love, you have to be even stronger. Fight like a lion to keep it alive. So that on the day your love is weak enough or selfish enough or frickin’ stupid enough to run away, you have the strength to track him down and eat him alive.

Decide to be fine,
till the end of the week.
Make yourself smile because,
you’re alive and that’s your job.
Then do it again the next week.
—  Frank Devereaux, Supernatural [Season 07, Episode 11: Adventures In Babysitting]
Kids.

For some bizarre reason, kids love me. Wish I could say the same about them but it’s the most annoying children that want to be my ‘friend’. Here’s tips for whether you like them or not.

  • Kids will not judge what you look like or how you speak or what you say (unless you’re talking about 10-13 year olds (they’re the worst))
  • Keep asking them really simple questions like playing what’s the colour of the car going past the window? Educational AND keeps them out of trouble as they just sit at the window.
  • If babysitting, give them a choice of what to do and then let them pick. They think they won the choice when it was actually you as you narrowed down the choices. You will have to give them trouble when they’re bad so just lower your voice, come down to their level and give them a warning. E.g. 'If you do that again you won’t get to play with the [cars, dolls, jigsaw] anymore’ and then follow through if they continue to misbehave. Their parents will be impressed with how you handle them and automatically think you’re a really nice and committed person. Popular with the kids and adults! :)
  • Try speak to them! Even just a few words. Make sure it’s a nice friendly, light hearted tone and use simple words so they understand you. That way you don’t have to repeat anything.
  • I find people younger as me easier to talk to. If you’re the same and you’re overcoming shyness then try babysitting or talking to your little siblings friends when they come round.
  • Join in with anything they’re playing. It might be hard at first but soon enough you’ll be reminded of your childhood and be in the ZONE! You’ll be having more fun as the kids and talking away like you’re one of them!

Hope this helps guys :)