weird how you think its ok to tell probably queer kids not to show affection to their girl/boyfriends
i’m gonna do my best to be neither very angry or very condescending with you, because i’m assuming this is coming from a very authentic, but good-hearted place. and i’m gonna say this also assuming you’re a queer kid. so i’m gonna talk to you like you’re family.
a. that is quite a leap from what was deffo some gentle teasing.
b. i’m gonna go ahead an guess that most of the people worries about them “standing too far apart” aren’t looking for queer representation. the phandom is not, and *fandom* is not as queer and good-hearted as we like to tell ourselves.
c. if you want to talk to me about the very real mental and emotional toll it takes on queer people of all ages to decide if any public space is a safe space to be affectionate with one another, you’re gonna have to come off anon.
but look. i’m from the american southeast, probably one of the top 3 most conservative states and have been out, dating women and faab nb people since i was 15. so understand that i’m speaking from experience when i say *yes*. there are situations where i’d absolutely tell queer kids not to show PDA. there are situations where my partner and i decide whether or not its safe to hold hands. i’m gonna go ahead and assume that deps experience the same phenomena. not because its not “ok” but because its not safe, either to their health or their career or whatever. don’t let glee fool you. don’t let degrassi or 13 reasons why or whatever show has decent queer representation now fool you. this is the reality of being queer for a lot of us. negotiating who we can show our whole selves to, and who we can’t.