• the pros of being aware of your own behaviour: you can tell when you're splitting, you can tell when you're being unreasonable, you can kind of tell when you ARE being reasonable, you can tell when you're expecting people to mind read, you're aware of your behaviour and how to mitigate the harmful parts
  • the cons of being aware of your own behaviour: it doesn't actually fix anything and you will still have these as your knee-jerk reflexive thinking and behaviour forever