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13 reasons why is bad: a summary

- romanticises mental illness 
- incredibly triggering
- no compelling story
- boring main character
- 9000 bike riding scenes honestly what the hell
- main girl wrecks main guys life for no apparent reason
- feels like a john green book, and not in a good way
- just, Yikes

Ranting time

So I’ve been seeing posts about how people relate to Hannah Baker on Thirteen Reasons Why but continue to make people miserable. 

If you relate to Hannah Baker, you shouldn’t be messing with people’s lives. If you’re making people miserable, you are one of those people that made Hannah Baker take her life and you have no reason to relate to Hannah Baker whatsoever unless you can do what Alex Standall did and grow some balls and own the thing you did that was wrong, because no one else that messed with Hannah Baker could even admit what they did to Hannah, they protected themselves for their damn images and went on to blame a dead girl when she did nothing wrong.

People are disgusting to say they understand what happened to Hananh Baker and go on to mess with people lives. You’re absolutely vile! 

I’ve read the book a couple times, I watched the show twice in the same weekend, and let me tell you, there is no reason for you to say you relate to Hannah Baker if you didn’t feel the pain she felt when you pretty much act like the people that tormented her (aside from Clay and Alex cause at least Alex had the balls to admit what he did was wrong and feel sorry about it)

No matter what you say or do, it affects someone else and it needs to stop. Thirteen Reasons Why isn’t just a story someone came up with, it’s not just there as a show that everyone was excited about it. There’s an actual message to it. There’s a point to it. It’s not just a plot made up. It may be considered fiction because it’s based off a book and all, but it’s still about something that actually does happen to kids in school, and out of school. Be careful what words you use towards others. Because it can cost someone their life if you don’t know how to be kind. 

Don’t be one of those people that tortured Hannah Baker. Be the opposite. Be Alex Standall and Clay Jensen. Don’t be a dick to people. Don’t be Justin, Don’t be Jessica, Don’t be Tyler, Don’t be Courtney, Don’t be Marcus, Don’t be Bryce, Don’t be Zach, Don’t be anyone else on those tapes. Because you being like one of them, doesn’t make you a good person. It makes you an asshole. 

Take a second before saying what you say to people, because it could be the last thing they hear before taking their life.

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Translation of the interview with Andi Wellinger in Willingen

(requested by @skijumping-stuff)


Dirk Thiele: Dear viewers of Avia tv, we say hello from the Sauerland in the spa hotel where team Germany is hosted since years and when Andreas Wellinger stayed in Willingen, he didn’t sleep somewhere else as well, right?

Andreas Wellinger: Yes, I always stay here. For the 5th time, just one time I had to intermit.

DT: So last night you got renamed?

AW: Yeah, more or less. They made little pun, made Willingen to Wellinger.

DT: They made Wellinger to Willinger.

AW: Yeah, whatever. Anyway I’m kind of native now.

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anonymous asked:

@your response about married people who don't want kids: the purpose of marriage is to create a family. I do not want to sound condescending or rude, but I urge you to please attend a church ceremony or something to that effect. I think involvement in a religious community could help you to see the true meaning of family the way Jesus wants it to be, and hopefully help to shift your views on this topic.

I’m actually thrilled to get this message, because as someone who is 2 months away from my sociology degree who has taken sociology of the family, anthropology and history courses, I’m really the wrong person to tell this to.

The purpose of marriage historically and culturally has been changing since the concept was created; however, it often served a purpose of creating a method to distribute property or secure alliances or power. [x] As stated in this BBC article, “"You established peaceful relationships, trading relationships, mutual obligations with others by marrying them.”

Throughout history, marriage has mostly been influenced by whatever economic roles it needs to fulfill. One family scholar defines family as this:

“[The family] consists of husband, wife, and children born in their wedlock,
though other relatives may find their place close to this nuclear group; and the
group is united by moral, legal, economic, religious, and social rights and
obligations (including sexual rights and prohibitions as well as such socially
patterned feelings as love, attraction, piety, and awe). (Coser [1964] 2004:13)
But even seemingly broad definitions of the family such as this are contested
by scholars who point out that families are not always based on heterosexuality
and marriage and do not always include children, nuclear households,
romantic love, or consensual sexual relations
(Gittins 1993).”


Also from the above paper:
“Empirical evidence on the origins of marriage is scant, as it evolved crossculturally at different times and has been defined in various ways. There is considerable agreement that as an institution, marriage is not as old as
families.”

Also:

“Across cultures, the most universal feature of marriage has been gender division of labor between men and women.”

And:

“The property-like status of women was evident in Western societies like Rome and Greece, where wives were taken solely for the purpose of bearing legitimate children and, in most cases, were treated like dependents and 8——Families: A Social Class Perspective confined to activities such as caring for children, cooking, and keeping house (Ingoldsby 2006).”

Why is this all relevant? Because marriage is a social institution and constantly evolves and changes depending on what the society’s needs are. Obviously what you consider to be marriage now isn’t what it was like in ancient Greek or Roman times where marriage was used to trade women like property, or like how it was with ancient Anglo-Saxons where you married someone to create an alliance. Even in good ol’ Jesus’s time, if you even look at the bible, there are many parts of marriage written in it that are not there anymore (no one’s going to stone any adulterers or not touch any women on their periods anymore).

I highly suggest you read the “Evolution of Families and Marriages” paper, it summarizes the history of families and marriage very efficiently, and this paper as well.

All of this applies to the current world as well; not everyone abides by your church’s rules about marriage. You can look at the Nandi people of western Kenya as a great example. from this article:

“[…]women who are older (beyond child-bearing age), never married and have no children are prime candidates to become female husbands. This is because they will want an heir to inherit their name, wealth and property. A woman in this situation will find a younger woman to marry and bear her children. She will become a female husband by giving bride-wealth and observing all the other the rituals asked of a suitor by the bride’s family. The wife may have children with any man she wishes, or a man chosen by the female husband, but the legal and social ‘father’ of the children will be the female husband. The giving and receiving of bride-wealth accords the female husband the same rights over the children as any other husband (Sacks, 1982). As the social and legal father of the children, the female husband will support the children as would any other father, regardless of who the biological father may be.”

Essentially, for families that have no male heir to marry off, a woman from the family will take the ‘role’ of a man and marry women. they are fully considered ‘male’ in their society.

And my favorite more modern-day example is that of Nepal, where one woman will often marry two brothers. This is to ensure the survival of the family if one of the husbands dies off, and also avoids the splitting up to property as there is not much farmland to go around.

This isn’t even CONSIDERING that if you want to focus on marriage as an institution in the U.S right now, there are legal privileges that come with being married such as tax benefits of having visiting rights if your spouse is in the hospital. 

So, anon. the point of this all was that yes, you sound extremely condescending, and no, I’m not going to put up with it because you’re wrong in every sense of the way. I *have* been to church ceremonies, I was raised Roman Catholic, but I have been lucky enough to have been able to access an education that has expanded my worldview. 

The history of marriage has always been changing, and to say that your religion’s rather recent rules and regulations about what they believe marriage *should* be doesn’t make it correct. I urge you to look outside your poor little bubble of misinformation and actually read some of the articles I linked, and think twice before sending asinine messages like this again.

YEE-FRICKIN-HAW– Also RvB spoilers?

This only took me two and a half weeks of painting. Ugh! But it’s done. The next time someone asks for a Halo character I’m charging 50$ minimum. What a pain! (Especially this one because i couldn’t find any thorough reference pics grrrrrrr–)

I also got into Red vs Blue because of this commission. I don’t regret it much! It’s pretty dumb humor but it gets super badass–and still pretty dumb– in the later seasons and I gotta say I’m a fan! Mostly of Caboose, but yanno.

So yeah here’s Kimball paying her respects.