autisticsspeakingday

November 1st is the third annual Autistics Speaking Day (#ASDay)

A day to concentrate and broadcast the messages and stories of Autistic people around the world. 

Your messages, your method of communication, your day. 

For more information, see the Autistics Speaking Day blog, where all entries will be posted. 

To Submit to the blog, please use our submission form, found here.

Can’t wait to see you all there!!

~Corina, Co-founder

I am Autistic and I am Tired

I am Autistic and I am Tired by Steve Summers on Facebook


Today I feel tired. – Tired of being rejected. Tired of being ignored. Tired of being excluded. Tired of being treated like an outcast. Tired of being treated like a misfit. Tired of feeling like others look down on me for being different. Tired of being expected to try and act ‘normal’ to have a 'normal’ life. – I am not 'normal.’ I am Autistic.  Tired of people who think that just trying harder will make Autistic people 'more normal.’ – Would you tell a blind person to try harder to see? Would you tell a paraplegic to try harder to walk? Would you tell a colorblind person to try harder to see the colors that they can’t see?  Tired of people who don’t understand Autism and who don’t make any effort to learn about Autism so that they can cure their own ignorance. Tired of people who refuse to accept Autistic people just as they are.  Tired of people who presume incompetence.  Tired of neuro-bigotry.  Tired of the silence of others. Silence is *not* support.  Want to help us? –  Listen to Autistic people. Make an effort to learn about Autism. Educate yourself about what we go through each and every day.  Learn about how negative attitudes make us feel. Practice Autism Acceptance. Accept that we are different, not less.  Accept that we are different, but *not* defective. Don’t try to make us into a poor copy of your idea of 'normal.'  Accept that we are okay to be ourselves – just as we are.  Accept that we are  humans with feelings just like everyone else. Accept that Autistic rights are human rights.   Presume our competence.  Don’t avoid us, include us.  Most of us have have social anxiety. Please be kind and reassuring to us. Please reach out to us. We won’t often make the first move after suffering from a lifetime of rejection, exclusion, and being bullied. Please practice inclusion.  I am Autistic and I want to be valued and accepted for simply being me. 
My post for Autistics Speaking Day 2012

Descendant

By: Lucas Scheelk

Through intuitive familiarization

I am an Autistic descendant

Of Frankenstein’s Creature,

Sherlock Holmes,

Sondheim’s Georges Seurat,

Jerry Espenson,

And Jake Bohm.

Some might claim illegitimacy.

With each word I write

I carry that badge

I know the responsibility

And I accept the challenge

To help change the discourse

Of my Autistic ancestry.

“Nothing about us, without us.”

Yay!!!  we have our Tumblr up!!!

I’m playing with the background colour a bit.  But just a bit.  I’m a bit biased towards blue colours, but I want something neutral so that everyone feels comfortable reading on it. 

ASDay is also looking for volunteers for November 1st.  It’s a big day for just two people (Kathryn and me, Corina) to handle it all.  So if you’re available and have moderation experience on tumblr, facebook, twitter or IRC/Second Life, then pleeeeeeeeeeease contact us.  Or if you know someone who might be interested, send them our way!!  Even if they can fill in for an hour or so, we’ll be glad to have you! 

Standing

Standing by Duckie


Today is Autistics Speaking Day. What does that mean to you? Maybe nothing. To the Autism Community, particularly those who believe in self-advocacy, today is a day to celebrate standing up and speaking out (using whatever form of communication works best for each individual).

What does it mean to me? As of today I have been Autistic for over 36 years. I’ve only known I’m Autistic for a little over a year now. About 2 years ago I sat on the edge of my bed and told my wife that I was afraid a day was soon coming where I wouldn’t be able to leave the house anymore. That conversation really triggered my quest for answers.

When the answer came (kicked off by this wonderful post http://eruditeaspie.blogspot.com/2011/01/i-am-me.html), my initial emotion was joy. Not regret, not fear, not shame. Joy. For once, I understood me. And I discovered a community that understood me. That started my journey, one I’ve undertaken on many subjects before, to learn everything I could about Autism and Asperger’s.

Though bullied, misunderstood, and misdiagnosed for many years, I can stand today. I am one of the lucky ones. Many Autistics go through life, diagnosis or not, and continued to be bullied, misunderstood and misdiagnosed. That’s not to say that I’ve reached some magical nirvana where bad things don’t happen to me anymore. Quite the opposite is true. Very much in the spirit of why Autistics Speaking Day was started, I refuse to be a victim anymore.

Refusing to be a victim encompasses more than just rising above what others do to me. It means refusing to use my Autism as an excuse. You see, by the time my Autism was discovered, I was already a husband and parent. I never had anyone tell me Autistics shouldn’t marry and they most certainly shouldn’t have kids. I did it never being told those things till after I had done them. Granted, it has been incredibly hard work. I have one failed marriage to prove it. But don’t let that be a deterrent to you if you are Autistic and considering marriage. Fall madly and deeply in love. Don’t let anyone tell you different.

Before I knew about Autism, I thought I couldn’t succeed as a parent. Today, I know I’m Autistic and yet have full custody of my four kids. It is incredibly hard work. Sometimes I have to retreat to the silence of my room just to recharge a bit so I can keep going. But I keep going. I will not be a victim of those who say Autistic adults shouldn’t raise kids. My kids don’t know I’m Autistic. They know dad is different but they also know I love them and will protect and provide for them.

Much like many other Autistic adults, I appear fairly “typical” on the outside. I have a career, a family, and I manage to maintain my responsibilities. However, so much of that is 36 years of learned behavior. I stim, its just that I chew my tongue to stim so no one ever sees it since it goes on in my mouth. I melt down, ask my family they’ve seen it. I live in constant fear when out in public. I can’t take last minute changes in plans. I won’t wait in line. I will take the long way through the grocery store to avoid aisles with people in them. 

The one area of my life where I still give in is that I am not public with my Autism. In 2012 there is too much risk for me to go public. And this too is part of what Autistics Speaking Day is about. To show the world that Autistics can do many things society and the “experts” say we can’t. One day, I pray, someone like me can be public with their Autism and not fear losing their job or their kids.

I will not be a victim even if that means I have to be silent sometimes. But I won’t be silent today.