autistic fixations

  1. Be aware of your surroundings. Bright lights and too much noise are hell for autistic people. Is there anywhere quiet or dim that you could take them to if they got stressed? Is there a way to lessen the noise and/or brightness?
  2. Don’t tell us to “stop acting weird”. Chewing on things, flapping our hands, rocking on our feet, and so on are all natural, healthy behaviours that help us to process emotion and sensory input. Telling us not to do them is akin to telling an allistic (non-autistic) person to stop smiling.
  3. Most autistic people are happy as we are. Some would rather not be autistic, it’s true, but most of us just want to be ourselves without shame or stigma. It’s generally bad manners to talk to us about a “cure” or “treatments” for who we are.
  4. Non-verbal communication – vocal sounds, text or written communication, sign language, etc – are all valid forms of communication which we sometimes have to use. (Or always have to use, in some cases.) Sometimes, we have to text the person sitting next to us because we can’t talk. Please don’t try to make us use our voices when we’d rather not!
  5. Research autistic groups before supporting them. What do actual autistic people say about this group? We like self-advocacy groups, we don’t like allistic people trying to talk for us. Not every group that claims to help autistic people is actually our friend!
  6. Special interests – things which autistic people fixate on and obsess over – are healthy and important. Don’t make fun of us for getting really into things, even if they’re “childish” things like Minecraft or Pokémon. It’s incredibly hurtful when someone we like just dismisses our interests without a second thought.
  7. When an autistic person is having a meltdown or shutdown, listen to them! Don’t fuss over them or get up in their face. Just listen to what they want you to do to help them, if anything. Let them write or text it, if they have to, and keep your voice down!
  8. We don’t process the world the same way you do. Sometimes things which seem obvious to you require explanation before we’ll understand them. Sometimes an explanation you understand will be one that makes no sense to us. Please be patient. We’re not being difficult on purpose! We want to understand, we really do.
  9. Be understanding when we say we can’t do something. Our energy gets used up a lot quicker than yours. Often we’d really like to do something, but we just can’t, and it can be difficult for us to explain that. Don’t guilt trip us for not going out or whatever – we already feel really bad about it!
  10. Listen to our boundaries. If we don’t want to be touched, don’t touch us. If we want you to leave our possessions alone, leave them alone. If we aren’t up to talking, don’t try to make us talk. We need boundaries a lot more than you do, so please try to respect them. It’s common courtesy!

[I originally posted this on Facebook, but I decided to post it here, too.]


When you are autistic you have fixations, and when you have fixations, people become irritated.

Because they will not care about why pigeons were just so important in World War I, and they will not care about why it is important to never, ever release little white doves at little white weddings, because there is a good chance that they will be eaten by little white cats.

And they will not ever care about the little homing pigeon named Cher Ami, or how she flew twenty-five miles in sixty-five minutes with a bullet in her chest, and they will not care about how she delivered her message with a leg hanging from a tendon and blind in one eye, and they will not understand that little white doves are not little white homing pigeons that know how to find their way home after release.

And they will not care that Cher Ami means “dear friend” in French, and they will not care that it is masculine, and they will not care that her name should have been Chère Amie, with e’s at the ends and an accent grave because she was a hen.

And you can certainly forget about them caring about your very own little white homing pigeon named Chère Amie, with e’s at the ends and an accent grave because she is also a hen.

And they will not care if you are in love with these animals, because it is strange to always be talking about the life of a little white bird that sits in a little white cage.

And it is excruciating, because it almost seems like they do not care that your little white bird that sits in a little white cage keeps you waking up every single day.

Because when little white birds do not get out of their little white cages for several hours every single day, those little white feathers turn a really shitty brown, and the fox said that you are responsible forever, because you tamed her, and forever does not end when you die, so if you have to remain fixated forever to remain tame, to keep that tie, then it is worth it to be the only one who cares.

Autism Vs Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder: Is This ASD or PTSD ?

@askaboutautism and @undiagnosedautismfeels have gotten quite a few questions regarding autism and PTSD, specifically ones asking about the differences and how to tell if you’re autistic if you’ve also got PTSD. I had troubling finding resources that clearly laid out how the two could look like each other, and also what the differences were when I was first researching autism. It make figuring things out rather difficult. I also got a positive response when asking if anyone would be interested in a post like this, so as an autistic with PTSD, I’ve written up this post.

This post is written with PTSD caused by chronic or long-term trauma (often called Complex or C-PTSD, but is not officially recognized as a dx in the DSM 5) in mind, and obviously influenced by my PTSD. My official dx is PTSD (chronic per the DSM IV and still included on my records as of 2017 for some reason) with dissociative symptoms.

So, here’s the Diagnostic criteria for Autism Spectrum Disorder pulled off the CDC website. With examples of both how PTSD could resemble the ASD criteria, and how being autistic would fulfill the criteria. These are by no means exhaustive or iron-clad, they are simply a starting point.

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Inspector Javert is autistic
Here me out

•strong send of what he believes to be right or wrong (a fairly common trait for us autistics)
•always calling Valjean by his number
•gets upset and thrown when a situation doesn’t go as he scripted
•because I said so

dawnandchoco  asked:

How about Selina Kyle?

  • sexual orientation headcanon: pan without any particular preference.. she’ll kind of date anyone
  • gender headcanon: trans woman!!!
  • mental illness / neurodivergent headcanon: selina is autistic and fixates on things easily (cats are, very obviously, her special interest asdlkfj) .. she has some issues with compulsive lying
  • 3 random headcanons:
    • this is barely a headcanon but she always donates a huuuuuge amount of the money she gets (steals) to animal shelters and animal hospitals.. she volunteers as much as she can
    • she is sort of kind of in a relationship w/ harley and ivy? not as dedicated as the two of them are to one another but they call her their girlfriend all the time. it’s sweet
    • she … loves all the robins ………. she tries to be cool about it but she’s really really defensive over them and gets pissed off whenever anyone complains abt them
In depth post on Josh & Autism

Josh from Banana is autistic and I am going to explain to you how and why in a long ass in depth post because I fucking love autistic headcanons and Josh is my autistic gay son

To start off though, maybe check out this post. I made it originally to calm down because I was close to a panic attack, and it’s very vague and short and doesn’t go into much detail, but it’s a good place to start.

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Autistic Rhaegar (ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*:・゚✧

Autistic Rhaegar teaching himself to read early on (ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*:・゚✧

Autistic Rhaegar having special interests on Targaryen history !! (ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*:・゚✧

Autistic Rhaegar prefering to read than interact with other people as a child, and prefering the company of maesters because they’re the only one who talk of interesting things and can answer his questions about everything (ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*:・゚✧

Autistic Rhaegar learning to understand this confusing world through his books (ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*:・゚✧

Autistic Rhaegar having very strong empathy and literally feeling the tragedy of summerhall through his body and getting sad (╯_╰)

Autistic Rhaegar being really quiet and private because he just does not like interacting with people much and does not know what to talk about but everyone thinks it’s because he’s so deep and sad (ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*:・゚✧

Autistic Rhaegar using his harp and music as a stim to calm himself down but also express his feelings and interact with people his own way !! (ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*:・゚✧

Autistic Rhaegar getting fixated and obsessed on the prophecy  (◡‿◡✿)

Autistic Rhaegar fixating so so much on Lyanna he forgets all perspective and completely fails to see the big picture (╯3╰)

Autistic Rhaegar !!! (ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*:・゚✧

Everyone acts like they’re so understanding of the symptoms of autism in people, being sure not to treat people badly for having “uncommon” special interests, and not making fun of people on the spectrum for their various quirks or social difficulties. And that’s good! No person should be made fun of for obsessing over a specific interest or character or anything, especially with ASD.

But once autistic people develop or fixate on “weird” or unusual sexual fetishes (the harmless kind like vore, inflation, bondage, transformation, more obscure stuff, etc etc), they’re suddenly FAIR GAME for public mocking, ridicule, judgement, shaming, and hatred.

So like yeah cool guys way to pick and choose which autistic traits are “funny” or not and which ways their sexuality develops (whether it be asexuality or the total opposite) are acceptable and which you can ridicule.