Autistic femininity

Autistic femininity is wearing the same makeup look every day,
and hating how stiff it feels on your skin.
Autistic femininity is stimming with your brushes and powder puffs,
and loving how well they apply.
Autistic femininity is hating the feeling of false eyelashes on your eyelids,
and mourning your disuse of them.
Autistic femininity is cursing your dyspraxia when you use liquid eyeliner,
but loving how it looks on your eyes.
Autistic femininity is wearing dresses or skirts for the sensory input,
but hating the lace trimming they place on the ends.

Autistic femininity is conflict and fascination.

150706 Jung Yonghwa Weibo Update 
Sweet message from Yonghwa on caring for autistic children. He tagged JJ Lin & 2 other artists from China Hunan TV Station:
[Eng Trans] @jyheffect89#2015ONENIGHT# Caring for “children with autism” starts with a smile :) More understanding, more patience, and more sense of responsibility towards these children who need our care! Spread smiles through smiles. Received a smile from @Dapengm. Inviting @JJLin, @WuXin and @WuLeiLeo to continue forwarding

[Spanish] Dulce mensaje de Yonghwa para el cuidado de los niños autistas. El etiquetó a JJ Lin y a otros 2 artistas Chinos del canal Hunan TV
@jyheffect89: #2015ONENIGHT# Preocuparse por “Los niños con autismo” comienza con brindarles una sonrisa :) Con más comprensión, más paciencia y más sentido de la responsabilidad hacia los niños que necesitan de nuestro cuidado! Haz que sonrian sonriendo. Recibí una sonrisa de @dapengm . Invito a @JJLin, @WuXin y @WuLeiLeo para que lo sigan publicando

Spanish Trans: CNBLUE.CL | twitter.com/CNBLUECL | Eng Trans: yongyongjii
Take out only with full credits / Tomar sólo con créditos completos

do any other autistic people have an extremely difficult time drinking water? every part of the experience is horrible, from the taste and feel of it in your mouth to the way it feels swallowing it and having it sit in your stomach. i usually even feel sick afterwards. how about you?

Autism query

I am currently waiting on my doctor to get back to me regarding how to pursue and autism diagnosis. He said he wasn’t sure how to go down that route and that he needed to speak to one or more of his colleagues.  

If anybody is autistic themselves or knows a bit about it, could you please either fanmail me or reblog this? All I want to do is educate myself about autism and the autistic tendencies that I have seemed to display my whole life.

I am a twenty-two year old female and I suffer from acute anxiety and depression. I am on medication for the depression and have been for the last 8 years.  

I am starting to read and research about autism because my mum has told me on more than one occasion that she thinks I may be autistic or at the very least have autistic tendencies. 

I’ll list some of the tendencies that I have been told are autistic; 

  • I find social situations very difficult 
  • I hate meeting new people
  • I find it difficult to make friends 
  • I don’t seem to have a ‘filter’ 
  • I am often the last to understand a joke 
  • I don’t react well to change 
  • I go through obsessions; when I was little I used to watch ‘Snow White’ over and over and over, always watching the same scene. I listen to the same song over and over and over. 
  • I can’t stand to be touched (though this is likely because of a history of sexual abuse) 
  • I HAVE to be on the left hand side hen walking or sitting 
  • I HATE the feel of velvet and the sound of a nail file
  • I don’t particularly like loud noises
  • I can sometimes come across as rude and tactless 
  • I do tend to take things literally 
  • I’m quite sensitive 

That’s all I can think of for the minute. My mum has described me to a lady who is apparently an ‘expert’ in autism, and she thinks I may have PDD-NOS. I understand that anybody who reads and responds to this cannot give me a diagnosis, but I think it would just help to have someone else’s opinion. 

I hope I have not offended anybody with this post, I just want to educate myself :) 

Please respond if you have anything to say! :) ♥

[Image shows three teenagers: Meg Thornhill, a wary young woman with red hair and glasses; Cody Blair, a smiling young man in a waistocat and a tie; and Izzie Lado, a young trans Latina woman with a crooked smile.]


Meg, Cody and Izzie are three of the heroes of Eastern White Pine, a murder mystery that soon uncovers some darkness beneath the town. Think Twin Peaks meets It. These three are friends in high school. Another of their group is found brutally murdered in the woods near the school. Fearing the police will not be up to the task of finding the killers, they team up with an out-of-town con artist (and love interest of Izzie) named Jenny and others with connections to the victim.


As for representation in general, in addition to the characters with disabilities above, the novel contains many Latino, Black, Jewish, and Asian characters, LGB characters and specifically a young Trans woman (Izzie, see above). 


Eastern White Pine
is a new Young Adult / New Adult fantasy horror novel currently being written by Scott “Scix” Maddix (me), author of Chunnel Surfer II. Completion expected in the fall of this year. Sales and distribution as yet unknown.

#GavinJoseph #EDUCATION #BAWSE #Repost @centerforautism with @repostapp.
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#Autistic teenager beaten up by bullies makes them watch a 20-minute video about #autism.
Gavin Joseph from Illinois has asked that instead of being punished, the attackers should be better educated about his life and his condition. He has also asked that the assailants each write an essay about #Asperger’s and to undertake some community service working with people who have disabilities.
What does everyone think about Gavin’s approach?

what if i made like

a lifehack blog for autistic people? like autistic people can submit ways that they ease their sensory issues (substituting __ with __ in a recipe to make it less spicy for example, or using a certain brand of toothpaste)

is there already a blog for that? i havent seen one, but please tell me if there is !

reblog this if you think that it would be a good idea :>

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A little while ago I ordered some toothpicks and a chew toy in an effort to stop biting the insides of my mouth.

I chose Nopro toothpicks because of their positive reviews and I’m very happy with them. I’ve been using these things for 3 days and I’m hooked. They’re strong enough to withstand a some nervous chewing and they only have one sharp end. The non-sharp end has 3 grooves on it which are nice because the pick won’t slip around in my mouth. I keep them in a tin in my pocket and I can get away with chewing them in public and at work.

Contrast this with the “ARK Krypto-Bite.” This thing is large, conspicuous, and  the rubber squeaks against my teeth. Due to this, I really don’t think I’ll use this thing on a regular basis. Probably more of a panic-attack kind of situation rather than just for casual stimming.
That being said, this seems like a quality product so far. I got it in “extra tough” which, according to them, is for “moderate chewers.” I personally would have gone with a softer one because my jaws are terrible, but this one seems fine. I’ve been chewing on it for about 15 minutes and it has kept its shape. As you can see from image #2 (which shows the toy after I bit it fairly hard several times), it retains its shape very well and I don’t think I could chew through it if I tried.
Another wonderful thing about the “Krypto-Bite” is the dimensions at .25″ wide and a smidge over 3″ long, this thing can reach my back molars without being too big to carry around. Image #4 shows it stowed away in a tin with my toothpicks. Perhaps more importantly, it’s about the width of a fingertip. This allows me to easily close my mouth around it, keeping this from becoming a gross, drooley situation. Plus, it came with a caresheet which is always nice.

To recap, I love Nopro toothpicks and I use them regularly for casual stimming.
The “ARK Krypto-Bite” is also a great product, but probably not one that I’d use regularly due to it being conspicuous and unwieldy.

– Rahel

Autism Awareness Failed Me

I was aware of autism five years before I even started to consider that I could be autistic. It was six years of that awareness before I was diagnosed by a doctor who knew autism is a lot more complicated and varied than what fits neatly into “autism awareness” campaigns. I was never like the poster children for autism, who are white, cisgender boys (never adults) from (upper)middle-class families. I didn’t think I could be autistic until I found what actual autistic people had to say about autism.

Autism awareness, at least as it currently exists, fails a large segment of the autistic population. Most people aren’t white, cisgender boys. We need awareness that includes atypical autism traits. If I or my family had read that list of traits when I was fifteen, I might have realised I’m autistic a lot sooner and found the resources and support I need much sooner, too.

My autistic traits are atypical, and they’re full of contradiction. I’m intelligent and even good at language, even metaphorical and idiomatic language, but sometimes I can’t remember how to form sentences or forget words for everyday things like chairs or my own native language just starts to sound like complete gibberish. I struggle to answer “how are you?” but I’m often complimented on my self-awareness and understanding of both my own and other’s emotions. The tiniest sounds can distract me or give me a headache, but sometimes I can’t even hear someone shouting my name. Autism is inconsistent. It’s complicated.

If you want to know what autism looks like, if you want to spread real awareness, then you need to listen to the people who know autism best: autistic people. Maybe this “Autism Awareness Month,” instead of wearing blue, walking to raise money for a dangerous organisation, sharing stories meant to incite fear or pity, or putting blue ribbons on everything out of the irrational belief that ribbons solve everything (seriously, stop it; ribbons don’t cure cancer either)–instead of spreading unhelpful awareness created by non-autistic people, you can help spread and deepen awareness of what autism actually is by reading and sharing the accounts of actual autistic people.

I’m starting by picking up a copy of Loud Hands: Autistic People, Speaking, written and published by autistic people (autisticadvocacy, to be more specific). Click here to find it at an independent bookshop near you on IndieBound. Or see if a library near you has it.

Autism Masterpost

Stim Toys:

stimtastic

autism-products

autistictoys

autismshop

Shirts and Jewelry (without the puzzle piece!!)

Autistic Pride Memory Charm

Autistic Pride Classic Braided Bracelet

Rainbow Heart Pendant

Autistic Pride Long Sleeve T-shirt

Anti-Puzzle Piece Pendant

Autistic Pride T-shirt

Boycott Autism Speaks

Background Noise:

Relaxing Rain

Space Odyssey

Private Jet

Box Fan

Shower Sounds

Calming Seas

Forest And Nature Sounds

Soothing Summer Night Sounds

Electric Heater Fan

Resources:

musingsofanaspie autismhousingnetwork
Autism Gothic

-You try to book a flight, but the website redirects you to one for a train station.  You hail a taxi, but the driver only points you toward the train station.  You try to board a boat, but there is only a train station.  The world is a train station.

-There’s a lowing of cattle in the distance as they speak her name.  Temple Grandin.  You look in the mirror and a cow’s face stares back at you.  Your skin still feels like your own, but the cow is all that anyone will ever seen.

-They stare at you with eyes that never look away, even when turning corners or facing a different direction.  Their smiles grow tight as you discuss your interests, translucent as onion paper, and you can see the annoyance simmering beneath.  Their ears are jammed with puzzle pieces.  The puzzle pieces are blue.

-Each of you wears a brand.  The brands read either High or Low.  When the time comes to discuss your people, the Highs are cast out the nearest window.  The Lows sit under the table as They talk about them.

-A sea of faceless children of indeterminate age follows you wherever you go.  They are between the ages of three to seven,  mostly boys.  They act nothing like you, so how can you be autistic?  What are you really, hiding beneath a human skin?

-”My child is missing!” a mother screams, though the child stands right there.  Other voices join the chorus, a deafening wail that you cannot comprehend.

-The walls mutter when you move, drown you out when you speak.  “Quiet hands,” they whisper.  “Person-first language!” they shout.

How to provide pelvic exams for people on the autism spectrum

ASD, or autism spectrum disorder “is a neurological variation that occurs in about one percent of the population and is classified as a developmental disability.” (source)  While all autistic people have variations in personality and character traits just like all humans, this is an abbreviated list of some common characteristics typical of autism (click here for the full article):

  • Heightened sensitivity to sensory input (light, touch, noise, etc)
  • Non-standard ways of learning and approaching problem solving.
  • Deeply focused thinking and passionate interests in specific subjects
  • Atypical, sometimes repetitive, movement
  • Need for consistency, routine, and order.
  • Difficulties in understanding and expressing language as used in typical communication, both verbal and non-verbal.
  • Difficulties in understanding and expressing typical social interaction.

Read more about autism here & here.

Making accommodations for people with ASD:

  • Tropical fish tank in waiting room
  • Incandescent instead of florescent lighting
  • Low volume calming music
  • Attention to the temperature of both the waiting room & exam room
  • Lower ringer volume of office telephones
  • Weighted blankets available in waiting room & exam room
  • Pillows for the exam table
  • Offer tours of the clinic ahead of time
  • Close windows & cover them with blinds as the patient requests.
  • Offer a face/eye mask to pts having difficulty with visual stimulation

Taking a history:

  • Don’t assume that autistic folks don’t have sex or are asexual.  Many autistic people, all throughout the spectrum, have sex in varying ways and need and want your guidance to do it safely and comfortably.
  • Ask questions neutrally and specifically.  For some people questions like, “Are you sexually active?” are simply too vague and the patient will not be able to answer you.  Explain what you mean without being condescending and treating the patient like a child.  For example try, “Do you have sex?”  If that’s too vague, specify, “Do you have sex where someone puts their fingers or penis or sex toys inside of your vagina?  Do you use vibrators or stimulation on your clitoris by yourself or with a partner?”  Etc.
  • Don’t judge.  If the patient is having a hard time or not able to respond, ask what you can do to make it easier for them.  Be prepared to move slowly and explain things more than once.
  • Discuss with the patient ahead of time how they want to undertake the exam.  If they’d rather listen to music/focus on something else during the exam, let them do so and work quietly.  Agree on a code word or physical sensation ahead of time (such as tapping the knee) to let them know that you need their attention because you have a question or request.

Making the exam more comfortable:

  • If possible, schedule a longer time slot.
  • Establish a code word or non-verbal indicator for the pt to use at any point if they want to stop or take a break
  • Talk about sensory preferences before you start the exam.  For example, some people find the sensation of lubricant intolerable, while others find the sensation of not using it uncomfortable.  Discuss temperature and materials.   If you have access to more than one type of speculum, ask the pt if they’d prefer  metal or plastic.
  • Explain everything before you do it: “I will now be inserting an instrument called a speculum to open up the vagina.  This instrument is made of metal (or plastic), and you may feel the muscles in that area stretching.  This is being done so it will be easier for me to be able to see that your cervix, ovaries uterus & vagina are normal.  Now you will feel a slight twinge.  This should not hurt.  I am using a plastic brush to collect cells to test in the lab to make sure your cervix is healthy.”
  • Provide clear, written out instructions on how your pt can obtain their test results.  Explain ahead of time possible side effects of the test (“you might have some spotting or cramping after the exam, this is normal and healthy.  However, if the bleeding…..”).

Sources for the above material HERE and HERE.

Side note: if it seems like too much to completely re-do your clinic for the few autistic patients you see, consider that all patients will be soothed and appreciate an ASD-friendly atmosphere, whether or not they realize that’s what it is.