…Well first of all, if he doesn’t understand a word anyone is saying, how do you know he doesn’t want to be autistic? Because that sounds a lot more like you don’t want him to be autistic. And people like me speak for your brother more than people like you do. Since I suspect you would call me “high functioning” (let me repeat, functioning labels are silly, inaccurate and used to divide and silence us), I’ll direct you to this post by someone probably more like your brother. You might also want to check out this blog post about why you shouldn’t divide us like this.
As for people who don’t want to be autistic, I admit, there are some. There are also gay people who don’t want to be gay. And black people who don’t want to be black. You know why? Because gay people get told that being gay is unnatural and immoral and disgusting. Black people get told that white people are cleverer than them and prettier than them and better than them. Oh, and people are murdered just for being black or gay. I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you don’t think there’s anything wrong with being black or gay and that it’s just the attitudes of society, and a few terrible people in particular, that make people hate themselves like that.
And the same is true for autism. When autistic people don’t want to be autistic, it’s for two reasons. It’s because they’ve been abused and bullied for being autistic, because they know people get discriminated against and sometimes murdered for being autistic and they just want their lives to be easier and safer. And it’s because they’re told all the time that there’s something wrong with being autistic. If you’re an autistic child with parents who resent your autism, with an organisation claiming to be the world’s leading autism charity telling you you need a cure, getting training to seem more “normal” and praise when you do, then yes, it’s likely that you’re going to grow up believing that autism is something bad that needs to be cured. That doesn’t mean it’s true.
And that’s why I’m as autism positive as I am. I want everyone, including autistic people, to know that there’s nothing wrong with being autistic. Yes being autistic can make life harder, but that’s because we lack acceptance and we’re judged by the same standards as allistics (non-autistics) are. The way to help autistic people is not to convince them us we need a cure, it’s to accept us for who we are (and we wouldn’t be the same people if we were “cured” - autism is part of our neurology) and help us love ourselves. The problem is with society, not with autism.
We’re not broken, we’re not missing, we don’t need a cure and I am going to keep on spreading that message until every autistic person loves themselves like they should.