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hey guys i am desperately broke and took a pretty big gamble by buying a bunch of blankets with the intention of making SENSORY FRIENDLY pants! they are all $10, regardless of size and color. I have only made a fifth of my money i need for rent and food this month and i have no money in the bank really left after all my health problems. i am unemployable because of a degenerative back disease and bad anxiety. sewing really helps calm me down and these pants are the only pants i can wear without being uncomfortable. They are 100% cotton, warm and soft, with a waistline that is basically invisible sensory-wise. Please reblog and help me out I’m seriously in the hole. I am autistic and need help, please.

etsy link

reasons I repeat things

  • I’m trying to tell you something but I don’t have words to say it.
  • I really like how it feels to say those words, and I’m stimming by repeating them.
  • I’m upset and trying to calm myself down. for me, when I’m upset like that, I’ll find a “good” piece of what I’m saying and repeat it in threes. (reasoning: threes are a “good number” and nothing bad happens in threes.)
  • I literally cannot stop. (I get hung up on words sometimes and can’t stop repeating them, even if I want my sentence to move on.)

“You wouldn’t self diagnose cancer, so why would you self diagnose autism?”

This is such a ridiculous comparison that it should be obvious satire, but these people are serious.

Cancer is a life-threatening illness. If someone has cancer, they’re going to want medical care so they can cure it or at least survive it. Without the medical care, they’d most likely die, even if 100% of society accepted them.

Autism is simply a harmless difference. Everyone has some things they’re good at and some things they’re bad at. Autism just makes it so the things that someone’s good at or bad at are not within the bounds of what’s socially acceptable. Some autistic people want professional help, while others can function just fine if they simply understand themselves better. Autism is not inherently life-threatening and does not need to be cured.

anonymous asked:

my mom doesnt believe i have autism, and i try and tell her about the symptoms and shes in denial. i had a bad meltdown todya at school and i tried to tell her it was bc i have aspegers! but she got mad at me and said labels arent everything. i need labels a lot they make me feel safe and i love to categorize things. what do i do?

Call yourself autistic and who cares what your mom says? Autism is a word that explains how your brain works and why it makes you think or behave in certain ways. 

Intellectual disabilities, Downs syndrome, epilepsy, depression, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, dissociative identity disorder, Tourette’s syndrome, dwarfism, cerebral palsy, osteogenesis imperfecta, fibromyalgia, spinal muscular atrophy, muscular dystrophy, chronic fatigue syndrome, deafness, blindness, multiple sclerosis, dementia, Parkinson’s disease, post-traumatic stress disorder, Marfan syndrome, psoriasis, retinitis pigmentosa, etc…

…they’re words that describe how / why a brain / body will look and / or function the way it does. Sometimes a person is born that way and others develop later in life. 

Ask your mom if she would refuse to call a bird a duck if it quacks, waddles around on webbed feet and definitely isn’t a pelican, penguin, goose or a swan.

Also, refusing to say someone is autistic doesn’t make their autism go away. ;P

That autism feel when sometimes you make someone uncomfortable and have absolutely no idea, while other times you try to avoid that by directly asking people if you’re making them uncomfortable and they wonder why you even asked that because you weren’t even close to making them uncomfortable.

anonymous asked:

Hey, last anon about autism and self diagnosing... I have trouble with social cues a lot I can't tell if people are trying to be my friend or are trying to make fun of me. I don't get why people feel certain ways sometimes and sometimes I have trouble with certain sounds that people make, or something makes and it might bother me for a really, really long time...

Hi, sorry I’m a bit late!

You could be on the spectrum, I won’t deny it. I’m also not the best, France is… really, really late regarding our knowledge about autism. Having a diagnostic as an adult woman is almost impossible.

Maybe you already know them, but I follow those two blogs : @autism-asks and @adulting-with-autism
They are really good with any question you could have and are really helpful. I’m still learning a lot of the things I do/feel are due to having autism. For me they have the best answers any french psychiatrist could have.

You are of course welcome to come back, ask any question or tell me if you have learned anything more about yourself, I would be glad to have some news :)

Ok i need to talk about Keith and that vlog for a sec cause like….yes it was heartbreaking as fuck. But at the same time something beautiful is happening with it too? And its honestly kinda helping with my own MI issues that Im dealing with today.

Cause I personally have always seen Keith as BPD and C-PTSD to a certain extent. I thought I was just projecting but after the vlog it basically confirmed it for me. But then I also see people seeing themselves in him with autism, aspergers, bipolar disorder etc. and it just….it makes me so happy? For myself to see my mental health issues be shown in a positive light, as a HERO when they’re so often vilified. But also that other people are seeing that positive representation in this character and are relating to him and it just makes me really goddamn happy.

anonymous asked:

I am so, so thankful that you run this blog and that you're so open about your autism. I've hated myself for years for being the way I am, and seeing you be the same way, as a happy adult, is just so good, you know? It's helping me heal and I think, for the first time in my life even, that I might be able to become an adult. Thank you.

I’m glad my blog helps. Society loves to live in a box and say everything outside the narrow box is abnormal, and everything outside that narrow box of normal is something shameful. It puts shame in places where it doesn’t belong, so being open about being autistic is my way of taking that box and shoving it up society’s ass. ;)

The only box I belong in is a TARDIS. It’s bigger on the inside, so there’s room for everyone!

[Animated gif of the TARDIS in Doctor Who spinning as it flies through space.]

Can I get some advice?

My cousin is in a unit, but there are two new kids.

He’s a vocal stimmer, screaming and echoing noise.

There are two kids with auditory processing disorder, and they’re getting violent. The school wants to lower his volume and use “indoor voice”

They want to implement it at home. Any one else know of any ways to implement it? He doesn’t like visual cards.

I'm using my story-writing skills to drag Autism Speaks but i need help

so the plot revolves around the characters trying to build a lawsuit against an “advocacy group” for disabled kids that’s super corrupt and evil

but i don’t have a name for the bad organization yet

if you have ideas that A. sound like a real title a group like this would have and B. aren’t already a thing that exists, tell meeeeeee! 

If you make plans with an autistic person to hang out, keep them.

Last night we were supposed to have a double date. Usually I don’t want to make new friends but yesterday I was so ready. This friendship could land me a steady job where I will most likely have little to no chance of a melt down. So we go to a restaurant and my husband tells me at the table “He’s the type of person where if someone’s in need of help he will help them so he canceled on the plans to continue working” (they have been working taking shutters off homes ever since Irma left) ok wonderful. So I’ve been harbouring mental energy to make friends for nothing. I'vebeen mentally prepared for meeting new people and he cancels on us. This is wasted social energy because I never even got the chance to use it. When an autistic is ready to be social you be social. Even a Neurotypical would be upset.

ok but

the thing I love so much about Voltron: Legendary Defender is that I can see two, yes TWO, main characters on the show as being autistic. Pidge? Autistic. Keith? Definitely autistic.

seriously Keith’s vlog, though. he doesn’t understand that he’s feeling human things. I can just imagine Pidge getting wind of this and slapping some sense into him, “check out these symptoms of a human disability (that I have).” Keith is just like, “holy crap it’s ME.” It’s OK, you’re not alone anymore, Keith.

let them have this wonderful friendship that they deserve, Dreamworks. 

spoookystardust  asked:

I have a few questions hopefully you could answer. haven't asked anybody for fear of appearing rude, but they're genuine. Do you (and others) prefer "autistic person" or "person with autism"? (Reading books, people have said to use the latter, but I heard some don't like that) What are other words to use besides "high functioning" and "low functioning"? How do you talk to someone with autism? I don't want it to appear as if I am being condescending when my intentions are the opposite. Thanks!

Hey!
My apologies for taking so long to respond. I’ve been super busy lately (aaaa 17 credit hours; 0/10, don’t recommend). 

Thank you for asking so politely!

First: the majority of those on the spectrum do prefer “autistic person,” which is what we call identity-first. The people who push the person-first for autism are mainly parents and clinicians. You will find some people on the spectrum do prefer person-first (which I respect), but the default is definitely “autistic person.” It’s part of who we are and how we experience the world, and isn’t necessarily something that needs to be separated. We’re autistic, and people shouldn’t need to be reminded that we’re people, you know?

Second: wooo yep functioning labels are no good. I use the term ‘high support’ - but only because I deal with a lot of parents who ask questions. I cringe every time, but I also have to try and avoid arguing with the humans.
If I had my own way, I would just describe what help that particular person needs.

For example:
“Oh, she’s autistic. She uses AAC to communicate, and can cook with someone’s assistance.”

“They’re on the spectrum. They usually communicate verbally, and need help with coping in difficult sensory environments and with personal care tasks.”

I know it’s a little more wordy, but each individual person is different. We all have different strengths and areas where we need help. Functioning labels aren’t useful in determining what supports someone needs, because they all vary from person to person. As well as this, they can create stigma.
Someone who is considered ‘low functioning’ may be denied autonomy and self-determination. They have a voice and their own opinions and thoughts, but are constantly ignored - which can put their mental health and even safety at risk.
An autistic person who is ‘high functioning’ might be denied supports and a voice in the community because “you’re not bad enough” or “you’re not like my kid.” And then when these supports are denied - burnout, mental health crises, and breakdowns happen. 

As for talking to us, assume competence. Even for those of us who can’t really communicate verbally, we can still usually understand what you’re saying. Be understanding, be kind, and just be respectful. 

Thanks for messaging me! I appreciate you reaching out. :)