not sure if this is a good place to ask, but is it still okay to call myself a lesbian if i experience no attraction to men but do occasionally call male fictional characters 'boyfriend' or similar terms?
similar ask: Can I be a lesbian yet still find male celebrities attractive but not want to date them?
Yes!!! a lot of the time its tied into compulsory heterosexuality, especially the feeling of being able to want a guy who wont want you back/wont even know you exist
Something that I’ve noticed since coming to terms with being a lesbian is how attraction to males is seen as this kind of universal, relatable thing among women and girls and not being able to relate is an incredibly isolating experience. A straight/bi woman will say something along the lines of “[conventionally attractive male celebrity] is so hot, right?” and you can either laugh along and be like “Yasssss I’d suck that dick” and feel like a liar or be like “Lol sorry I’m super gay” and make things awkward and ugh I love being a lesbian but I also hate how isolating it is, you know?
I did not follow you on social media to see your beautiful significant other. That is not what I signed up for, and I’d appreciate it if you didn’t have a life outside of my slightly scary love for you. Or at least don’t make it so obvious. So that somewhere in my adorably warped mind I can still pretend I have a minuscule chance of licking your face, smothering you with my affection, and rubbing my preciously average body against your perfectly sculpted, godlike frame.
Comfortably Crazy Single Fan-Woman
P.S. - Just kidding lol…but not really
Why are so many male celebrities attractive but all the guys in my league are extremely underwhelming?? And when these guys hit on me I get really uncomfortable?? I must just have Ridiculously High Standards haha…………..oh but girl #3 I just passed on the street is SO beautiful I could write poems about her……