anonymous asked:

I've thought about identifying as aro in the past because I think it fits me sometimes (even usually), but lately I've started to think it's more complicated. There are people I have squishes with, and I think of my best friend as my queerplatonic partner. And then there are people I want to have sex with, but it's never the same as the people I feel squish-y/quasi-romantic about. Is there a name for someone who has romantic feelings that don't/never match up with sexual feelings?

Well, I’d like you to know that you are still aro even if you have squishes (platonic crushes) and also smushes (sexual crushes) that are not also squishes or plushes (qp crushes).

I went through mogai-archive​ and found this!

simultattraction & exclattraction

simultattration: only feeling sexual and romantic attraction simultaneously (mutually inclusive)
exclattraction: only feeling sexual or romantic attraction when the other is not felt (mutually exclusive)
coined by: anon

The only problem here is they use -attraction and only refer to romantic and sexual attractions, and that doesn’t always fit if you also include those you feel platonic and qp attraction for. Excl- is probably from the idea of mutually “exclusive”. So maybe we can start with this as a base idea and tweak it to fit you!

Exclattraction can also be defined as “feeling physical or emotional attractions when the other is not felt”

Physical attractions could be seen as: sensual, sexual, possibly aesthetic

Emotional attractions could be seen as: alterous, quasiromantic, romantic, platonic, queerplatonic

^This is not true for everyone, but it could help a lot of people too!

So while people may experience physical attraction and emotional attraction simultaneously, and others may experience them together but not at the same time, you don’t experience both at the same time at all!

I also want to point out there is this cool def:


sequencesexual: only experiencing sexual attraction to someone after experiencing romantic attraction to that person
sequenceromantic: only experiencing romantic attraction to someone after experiencing sexual attraction to that person
coined by: psychelockings

This can help people who experience attraction that is staggered/only happens after on attraction is experienced, which is kinda what I mean when I say “experiencing attraction together but not necessarily simultaneously”.

I hope this helps, anon!!!

Does anyone have any feedback? 

~ Tabs

Who the signs are attracted to

Aries: Gemini, Leo, Aquarius
Taurus: Scorpio, Pisces
Gemini: Virgo, Capricorn, Sagittarius
Cancer: Capricorn, Scorpio
Leo: Aries, Sagittarius, Leo
Virgo: Pisces, aquarius, leo
Libra: Taurus, Pisces,Gemini
Scorpio: taurus, Leo, Pisces
Sagittarius: Scorpio, Aquarius, libra
Capricorn:Gemini, Aquarius, Leo
Aquarius: Aries, aquarius, libra
Pisces: Gemini, Virgo, Capricorn

sp0tlessm-ind asked:

how would the signs act if their in a relationship but they have feeling for someone else ?

First here is a posts about cheating since cheating can happen in these types of situations.

Aries tend to be honest people and will probably tell their partner what is going on and get ready for a break up. But the thrill-seeker in them might stay in the relationship while pursuing the person they like so they can have physical benefits and some excitement. But this probably won’t last long and the truth comes out quickly.

Taurus might not know what to do if they are in a relationship and then start to have feelings for someone else. They can feel torn between the comfort of their current relationship and the attraction to another. They are likely to spend time with another person until they are 100% sure that their crush likes them and wants to be with them and then they break it off with their current partner.

A Gemini can be a bit of a tornado when it comes to this kind of stuff. Typically they will leave a partner if they start to like someone else. But usually their problem is that they like multiple people. Gemini might go back and forth between two or three people. An extremely undecided Gemini can fall into possible cheating habits but usually if they cheat it is not in a physical way but with communication, flirting, and an emotional bond.

Cancer can feel really guilty for liking another person when in a relationship. They might suppress their feelings until finally something has to be done. This makes it so they might leave their partner unexpectedly and hurtfully.

Leo will probably be very “in the moment” if they like another person while in a relationship. Spontaneously leaving their partner or even running off with this other individual can happen.

Virgo, the over thinker of the zodiac will of course mull over what to do if they like someone else when taken. Eventually they will come to a conclusion and will explain to their partner what has happened.

Libra can feel very uneasy when they like someone else while taken. They might deny their feeling for a bit or try to force feelings. They might test the waters with another person until they are sure about how they feel and their crush feels. From there they will leave their partner.

Scorpio can have a lot of inner turmoil when put into this situation. Eventually their heart will pull them where they belong but until then it is a inner war (however their partner might not know about this until the end). A perceptive partner might be able to end things quicker for their sake or find a way to instill passion into the current relationship (which Scorpio might secretly want).  

Sagittarius goes with the wind on this one. As soon as they have feelings for another person they engage with them. Remembering to break up with their current partner is a different story. A Sagittarius can get caught in a sticky situation if this happens but due to their honesty it is likely an aware and considerate Sagittarius will let their partner know quickly that they are now an ex-lover.

Capricorn will IMMEDIATELY leave if they have feelings for another person. But this doesn’t happen often with Capricorn. They are usually picky about a partner and when they fall they fall hard so they aren’t the one to fall out of love with a partner or be tempted by someone else. But a Capricorn who is secretly dating a partner for something other than love…. that is a whole different story. This can make a Capricorn appear distant and the usual “faithful” to a fault trait doesn’t apply here.

Aquarius is prone to cheating if they have feelings for another person while taken. But Aquarius is also the type who might try to make things into an open relationship for their current partner and new lover. Aquarius is ultimately a communicative and honest sign. They won’t keep secrets for long if at all. But their unpredictable nature makes things an interesting ride when it comes to this type of situation.

Pisces will try to find the most tactful and easy way to break up with a current lover when they have feelings for someone else. For a Pisces to do this they have to really be in love or swept away by someone else. 

Signs Perfect Matches:

Aries: Sagittarius, Leo, Gemini (opposite: libra)

Taurus: Virgo, Capricorn, Cancer (opposite: scorpio)

Gemini: Libra, Aquarius, Aries (opposite: sagittarius)

Cancer: Scorpio, Pisces, Taurus (opposite: capricorn)

Leo: Aries, Sagittarius, Libra (opposite: aquarius)

Virgo: Capricorn, Taurus, Scorpio (opposite: pisces)

Libra: Aquarius, Gemini, Leo (opposite: aries)

Scorpio: Pisces, Cancer, Virgo (opposite: taurus)

Sagittarius: Leo, Aries, Aquarius (opposite: gemini)

Capricorn: Taurus, Virgo, Pisces (opposite: cancer)

Aquarius: Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius (opposite: leo)

Pisces: Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn (opposite: virgo)

It’s so weird how you can see this person who is perfectly handsome and nice and not be attracted to them at all, and then there’ll be this weird little person who makes jokes that aren’t really funny and wears the same jeans for a week at a time and is so awkward they make you wince but just the same all you want to do is kiss their face and buy them coffee and pet their hair and sometimes I really wonder why that is.