I have only three enemies. My favorite enemy, the one most easily influenced for the better, is the British Empire. My second enemy the Indian people is far more difficult. But my most formidable opponent is a man named Mohandas K. Gandhi. With him I seem to have very little influence.
Gandhi via Jack Kornfield “A Path With Heart”
Greetings my friends, and I hope this wonderful day finds you and yours well. I had promised at least two friends Kittygory and Lzlabs that I would share this with them when I found it. I love this quote and personally find it to be dead on the money. Though clearly most of us will never be world leaders or spiritual guides like Gandhi, we all have “enemies” or people who trouble us. While they can be frustrating and quite annoying, I can think of no one who even comes close to causing the amount of difficulties and conflicts in my life as does a man named Mike. Over the years I’ve slowly learned that my world is always exactly as perfect and filled with beauty, or as cruel, random, unfair and ugly as he perceives it to be, and though it seems easier and often even justifiable to blame our problems on others or life, that line of thought or any actions arising from it will never solve them. In this one instance it truly is all about you. The simple fact is the world, our enemies, or anyone else will never change for us no matter how badly we may wish them to. Tough choice though it may be, this leaves us with basically two options. The first is to be miserable and continue to suffer at the whims and actions of “them”. The only other albeit difficult choice is to change us, in my case a man named Mike. As I’ve jokingly told a few friends I’m usually either one of two people. Gandhi at which times I’m kind, tolerant, understanding and generally quite easy to get along with. However I’m also too frequently a selfish and extremely whiny Attila the Hun. It probably doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out which of the two is more pleasant to have around. Fortunately Attila doesn’t write very often but he has made a few unpleasant guest appearances on my blog, and every single time venomous hurtful words have been the result. Obviously I don’t like him very much, but the truth is that he is a part of me. In perhaps the unkindest irony of all, he is not actually nor does he wish to be mean or cruel, he is simply sadly like so many of you, a wounded child running amok in an adult body. At various times over the years I’ve tried to vanquish or control him, and as you’ve probably already guessed, it never worked. As many spiritually enlightened souls have stated, you can never defeat or eliminate anger, hatred or darkness by fighting them with their own weapons. Apparently they can however be transformed by love. I can assure you from my own personal experience that’s it’s pretty darn difficult to love someone you don’t even like, but it seems to be the only viable solution. Today I’m willing to try. I have no doubt that all of you have a “Gandhi” as well, you know that natural, beautiful loving child that we all inherently are. I’m reasonably certain that many if not even most of you also have a problem child known as a man or woman named ____. Last but not least I’d also be willing to bet that many of you are carrying a wounded Attila around with you as well. Can we all please pause and think about it for a moment? Is waging a perpetual war with yourself and therefore the world actually a pleasant or desirable way to live? I think not, and I also believe that all of us, yes even that trouble maker Mike are curable and totally deserving of love. Beginning today I’m going to work on loving him and I hope you’ll do the same for the beautiful, innocent wounded child in your life.