“Sometimes, as actors, we sit up and we don’t have no fucking answers. And it’s important that we point that out: I’m a stupid human, just like you are. I’m not the fucking messiah, I’m a goddamned actor!”
Unnamed (deceased) deity from Among the Hollow – the goddess of chaos, mischief, and crossroads. Some of her more charming hobbies include turning her mortal lovers into eternally faithful hounds, giving bad directions to wanderers, bargaining for souls on moonless nights, and starting wars between nations just to watch their cities burn.
So, I’ve been thinking about this a lot and I’ve come to the conclusion that she is not. And it’s not just wishful thinking and/or because I can’t stand him. There are actual clues in canon that show that Kara is not in love with her boyfriend. Here’s why:
The way Kara acts around her love interests. She gets flustered, blushes a lot, acts awkward around them.
around Mon-El: error 404 example not found. I can’t recall a single Karamel scene where Kara acts like this.
Bonus: around Lena:
The trope that a love interest watches and looks at their crush dreamily as they leave.
I know that Mon-El looked at Kara like this at least once too, but I’m really not in the mood to gif him so I’m gonna skip that since that’s not the point of this post. The point is to show that Kara is not in love with Mon-El, not vice versa.
But another person also looked at her like this, and even received this look from Kara herself in the latest Supergirl episode…
These are actual quotes that Kara said about/to Mon-El:
“You are so selfish!”
“You are still the same macho egotistical Daxamite!”
“It’s not just the jealousy. It’s the patronizing ego thing.”
“Well, the first bit about your infuriating male ego, that part I meant.”
“More like you’re an arrogant dude-bro.”
“I can handle Mxyzptlk, but it’s Mon-El who’s infuriating.”
She’s never said things like these to James, and definitely not as excessively as she’s complaining about Mon-El. On the contrary, she said “You make me better.”
Another bonus; things she said about/to Lena:
“Kara Danvers believes in you.”
“I believe in her.”
“You are too good and too smart to follow in her path.”
“Now you have someone that will stand up for you, always.”
This is Kara’s reaction when Mon-El first tells her about his feelings for her:
This is Kara’s reaction when Mon-El says “I love you” for the first time:
In conclusion: I honestly don’t believe for a second that Kara has feelings for Mon-El. The most logical explanation is that she felt obligated to give Mon-El a chance because that’s what everyone told her to do or that she felt lonely and Mon-El knew what it’s like to lose a planet. We know how Kara behaves around the person she’s crushing on. There are patterns. And we can’t see any of these patterns when Kara is around Mon-El. Besides the occasional kiss and “I’m happy” she doesn’t show any signs of having feelings for him. They haven’t even gone on any dates, not counting the one she took him on to “save” Lena.