aspies

anonymous asked:

a lot of anthropologists and historians actually theorize that most ancient egyptians looked like your modern day arab person, dark eyes, dark hair, tan/olive skin. They didn't start getting lighter until they met the romans and greeks, or even the mysterious sea people (some even theorize that maybe the vikings made it down there because cleopatra allegedly had green eyes but that's heavily debated)

huh, based on the actual hieroglyphs the typical ancient egyptians had an afro-asiatic look to them so they were a mix between ‘semetic’ and ‘black’ and maybe some other groups as well(like greeks and perhaps some group from east,south, or central asia i guess).

no the vikings didn’t go to egypt. if cleopatra had green eyes, they came from her greece/macedonian heritage. 

yes i’m aware that ramses II had red hair, but i’m 100% sure he didn’t have noorthern european heritage.

~the aspie one

why I love borderlands

1: there’s an ace character that I identify with and I’m glad she exists
but I’m really glad for;
2: Tannis having Aspergers syndrome, I’m glad that Aspies like myself, are getting some recognition.
I really am.

anonymous asked:

'important disclaimer i am probably not an aspie at all but i DO have that going on for me as a thing i do' it literally says dont reblog unless youre autistic. dont reblog posts that arent for you. thanks.

It finally happened: I got a piece of territorial passive aggressive “thanks uwu” anon hate for something innocuous on tumblr. I am finally up there with my tumblr heroes. This is a happy day.

Possible Traits of Aspergers in Females

This by no means a comprehensive list, it is simply a reference point, not a diagnostic tool. If you identify with a majority of this list and wish to receive a diagnosis, consult a medical professional, preferably a specialist in autism spectrum disorders who has had experience diagnosing women.

  • Tends to analyze everything constantly
  • Often straightforward and practical in nature.
  • Often gets lost in own thoughts and zones out (may display a blank stare)
  • May appear naive or innocent (despite not being so)
  • Prone to honesty, has difficulty lying
  • May struggle to understand manipulation, disloyalty, vindictive behavior and retaliation.
  • May be gullible and easily taken advantage of, misled, or conned.
  • May have feelings of confusion and isolation in relation to others
  • Escapism frequently used to relax or avoid overwhelming situations.
  • Often holds fixations, obsessions, and extreme interest in specific topics.
  • Finds comfort in escaping through imagination, fantasy, and daydreaming.
  • Often has slower reaction times due to need for mental processing.
  • May have had imaginary friends as a child.
  • Frequently imitates (takes social cues from) people on television or in movies.
  • May obsessively collect, organize, count, categorize, or rearrange objects.
  • Often highly adapted to social imitation.
  • May find math and numbers easier to deal with due to logic and lack of objective answers.
  • May struggle to relax or rest due to many racing thoughts.
  • Often has comorbid conditions, such as OCD, anxiety, ADD or ADHD, depression, bipolar disorder, etc.
  • Often has sensory processing disorder (sight, sound, texture, smells, taste)
  • May have dyspraxia (Poor muscle tone, lack of coordination and depth perception)
  • May have dyslexia
  • May have an eating disorder or food obsessions
  • May have been misdiagnosed or diagnosed with other mental illness or possibly labeled a hypochondriac.
  • Tends to drop small objects
  • May frequently engage in “stimming” (self-stimulation) i.e., flicks fingernails, flaps hands, drums fingers, rubs hands/fingers, tucks hands under or between legs, clenches fists, twirls hair, taps foot/shakes leg, sways side to side, spins in circles, bouncing up and down, rocking, etc.
  • May use various noises to express herself rather than using words.
  • May have a tendency to over-share with friends and sometimes strangers
  • May have little impulse control when speaking
  • May accidently dominate conversation at times.
  • Often relates discussion back to self (sharing as a means of reaching out)
  • May be incorrectly seen as narcissistic
  • Often sounds eager or over-zealous at times.
  • May feels as if she is attempting to communicate “correctly.”
  • Often struggles with and is confused by the unwritten social rules of accurate eye contact, tone of voice, proximity of body, stance, and posture in conversation.
  • Eye contact often takes extreme focus, which may lead an individual’s eye contact to be darting and insufficient, or over-the-top staring/glaring.
  • May have difficulty regulating voice volume to different situations. Is frequently observed as being either too loud or too quiet.
  • Conversation, specifically small talk, can be exhausting.
  • May have trouble focusing on/engaging in conversation that is not centered on one’s primary interests.
  • May observe and question the actions and behaviors of self and others continually.
  • May have difficulty with back-and-forth conversation
  • Trained self in social interactions through readings and studying of other people.
  • Visualizes and practices how she will act around others and before entering various social situations.
  • Difficulty filtering out background noise when talking to others.
  • Has a continuous dialogue in mind that tells her what to say and how to act when in a social situations.
  • Sense of humor sometimes seems quirky, odd, or different from others.
  • As a child, it may have been hard to know when it was her turn to talk, may still be true as an adult.
  • Often finds the norms of conversation confusing.
  • Tend to say what they mean. Are often brutally honest, coming off as rude when they do not mean to be.
  • May feel misunderstood and tend to over-explain/ramble in an attempt to compensate for possible miscommunication.
  • Feels extreme relief when she doesn’t have to go anywhere, talk to anyone, answer calls, or leave the house.
  • Feelings of dread about upcoming events and appointments on the calendar.
  • Knowing she has to leave the house causes anxiety from the moment she wakes up.
  • The steps involved in leaving the house are overwhelming and exhausting to think about.
  • Must prepare herself mentally for outings, excursions, meetings, and appointments.
  • Question next steps and movements continually.
  • Often needs a large amount of down time or alone time.
  • May feel extremely self-conscious and uncomfortable in public locker rooms, bathrooms, or dressing rooms.
  • Tends to dislike being in crowded areas.
  • Difficulty sleeping due to sensitivity to environment
  • May be highly intuitive to others’ feelings, although may not appear to react to them ‘correctly’ in social situations
  • May take criticism and judgement very personally
  • May frequently adapt her viewpoints or actions based on others’ opinions
  • Dislikes words and events that hurt animals and people.
  • May have had a desire to collect or rescue animals, usually in childhood.
  • Often holds great compassion for suffering.
  • May try to help, offer unsolicited advice, or formalize plans of action.
  • Imitates others without realizing.
  • May exhibit codependent behaviors.
  • May frequently reject or question social norms.
  • Chameleon-like in social situations. Often switches preferences and behaviours based on environment and other people.
  • May outwardly appear to have little investment in hygiene, clothes, or appearance, often prefers fast and easy methods of style.
  • Clothing style is likely more focused on comfort and practicality, especially in the case of sensory issues.
  • May possess a youthful appearance and/or voice.
  • May have trouble recognizing what she looks like and/or has slight prosopagnosia (difficulty recognizing or remembering faces).
  • The emotions of oneself and others may seem confusing, illogical, and unpredictable.
  • Expects that by acting a certain way certain results can be achieved, but realizes in dealing with emotions, those results don’t always manifest.
  • Often speaks frankly and literally.
  • Certain kinds of humor, such as sarcasm and metaphors, may be difficult to understand.
  • Can be confused when others ostracize, shun, belittle, trick, and betray.
  • Often has trouble identifying feelings in others unless they are extreme.
  • Trouble with the emotions of hate and dislike.
  • May have feelings of pity for someone who has persecuted/hurt her.
  • Situations and conversations sometimes perceived as black or white.
  • The middle spectrum of outcomes, events, and emotions is sometimes overlooked or misunderstood. (All or nothing mentality).
  • May notices patterns frequently.
  • May be fascinated by words or song lyrics.
  • Tends to best remember/learn things in visual pictures (visual thinkers).
  • May have a remarkable memory for certain details, i.e., may find it surprisingly easy to remembers exact details about someone’s life.
  • Executive function is often a challenge
  • Learning to ride a bike or drive a car may be rather difficult.
  • Anything that requires a reasonable amount of steps, dexterity, or know-how can rouse a sense of panic.
  • The thought of repairing, fixing, or locating something can cause anxiety.
  • May have a hard time finding certain objects in the house, but remembers with exact clarity where other objects are.
  • May frequently second-guess oneself and ask a lot of questions before engaging a task or situation

This list was compiled from various personal accounts and symptom lists. It is subjective and does not include every identifiable trait. Nor is it entirely medically accurate. Please do your own research into AS before self-diagnosing. 

When reblogging, feel free to add additional traits you believe to be common in AS females that will be useful for others to know.

anonymous asked:

Weird question, but do any of you know if there exists any pro-sj/anti-sjw blogs with mods in the autism spectrum? I'm mostly asking because I'm tired of the "autistic" side of tumblr, and the image they create about autistic people, so I would like to follow some blogs that won't make me rip my hair out when talking about problems us autistic people may face... I hope you can help and have a nice day :)

i can’t think of any blog with mostly autistic mods atm, sorry.

~the aspie one

I recently came across this book. 
It is a book about the struggles of a family, a dad, with two children who have autism.

I am absolutely disgusted by it. By the title, the content and by the summary given. 

I’m autistic myself, aspergers, and yes, there are struggles and yes, it’s really hard sometimes. But for a person, a dad, to make this book with a title like that? It’s just disgusting. 
And I think (hope) that everyone, not even just the autism community, would gladly see this book off the racks.

It now has a 2.5 star rating. Which means, that if you search on average costumer review, in the catogory autism & aspergers, this book will pop up pretty fast.
I myself (and hopefully lots of other people who come across this book) am fortunately good in handling bad talking about autism, but I’d hate for an insecure 11 year old who happens to have asperger or some form of autism, try and find a book on amazon about it and stumble across this. It is pretty triggering. Not only for people with autism or people who know and love people who have autism, but I think also for people who have lost loved ones from a form of cancer, or currently are struggling with cancer in their family and/or friend group.

So please, everyone with a amazon account, try and rate this down. 
I’d love for this book to just disappear, but since that’s not really an option, try and help do the second best thing, which is trying to make it disappear from the shelves.

This post is for...
  • Aspies who sometimes can’t speak, despite having no speech delay in early childhood.
  • Aspies who have permanently lost the ability to speak, despite having no speech delay in early childhood.
  • Aspies who are quiet and sensitive, not loud and blundering.
  • Aspies who sit out entire conversations because they can’t figure out where and how to join in, or how to initiate communication.
  • Aspies who stim, a lot, visibly, to the point people assume they’re “low functioning” and are surprised to hear them talk.
  • Aspies who can’t take care of themselves at all, despite what the DSM says about no significant delays in self-help skills.
  • Aspies who have the stereotypical high-tech computer job… and secretly wear diapers because they’re incontinent and always have been.
  • Aspies who are very echolalic, very ‘sensing’, other things more commonly associated with 'auties’ than 'aspies’.
  • Aspies with autistic catatonia who have gone from being considered very high functioning to very low functioning in a fairly rapid time span.
  • Aspies who are 'passive’ or 'aloof’ rather than 'active but odd’ or 'formal’.
  • Aspies who look exactly like many of Kanner’s original patients.
  • Aspies with extremely severe visual processing issues and other sensory issues, well beyond finding certain stimuli painful.
  • Aspies with something resembling visual agnosia.
  • Aspies with an IQ in the 70-90 range.
  • Aspies with an IQ slightly below 70, who got diagnosed with AS anyway (despite this being against the criteria) because some doctors will diagnose AS in people with, say, a 65 IQ, if every single other thing about them fits the Asperger criteria and not the autism one.
  • Aspies who did badly in school, and never made it to college, or did horribly in college or university and never got a degree.
  • Aspies who grew up partly or entirely in self-contained special ed classrooms or schools.
  • Aspies who find it easier to gesture than to speak.
  • Aspies who find body language easier to understand than understanding language.
  • Aspies who are extremely polite and careful about respecting people’s boundaries.
  • Aspies who are quiet and gentle and shy.
  • Aspies whose speech sounds like that of a very young child – they had no early delay in speech, technically, so they got an AS diagnosis, but their speech stalled at the age of five or so, and never got any better than that.  And somehow that doesn’t count as a speech delay because it happened too late.
  • Aspies who grew up being considered severely intellectually disabled, didn’t speak until they were 15 (after first learning to type at age 13), but didn’t have an autism diagnosis at the time.  And now they’re adults and are being diagnosed with Asperger’s because they can speak now and there’s nobody to corroborate their speech or diagnostic history so the doctor just doesn’t care about getting it right.  So now they’re officially an aspie.  (I’ve seen this happen more times than you’d be surprised by.)
  • Aspies who more than meet the criteria for autistic disorder, but aren’t being diagnosed with it because their doctors are ignoring the DSM entirely in favor of their 'clinical judgement’ that someone has Asperger’s rather than autism based on seeing them as an adult.

Basically, this post is for 'aspies’ who fit stereotypes normally reserved for 'auties’, but had (or were presumed to have) no speech delay and (often) don’t meet the criteria for autistic disorder, so got diagnosed with Asperger’s.  Because such people are all over the place, yet when people say 'aspie’ they never mean them, of course.  Even though they’re frigging everywhere.

It is said that autism is like having a different operating system from other people. I think that is a good way of seeing ourselves and how we operate. Most people are Windows PCs, the artsy people are Macs, and we run on Linux. We will need programs to help us interact with the majority of Windows people. And at our heart is a different, not inferior, operating system.
—  Richard Maguire, Been There. Done That. Try This!: An Aspie’s Guide to Life on Earth

anonymous asked:

My boyfriend and I tried an open relationship 3 years into our relationship. It was half sided, meaning only he took apart in the open part since I'm uncomfortable with other guys and it's just not me. But we agreed on it. I wasn't okay with it 100% it made me feel really insecure and alone and hurt and I never told him that because I only see it as cheating, I've tried to see differently but couldn't ever. He ended up breaking up with me and dating another girl for four months. We're now back..

why did you go back to him? you shouldn’t have imo.

~the aspie one

One of my favorite descriptions of Aspies that I’ve found so far.

“They feel their feelings more intensely, experience texture, temperature and taste more powerfully, and think their thoughts more single-mindedly. In many ways, this ability to focus is the great gift of Asperger Syndrome, and is the reason why a great number people with Asperger Syndrome have become gifted scientists, artists and musicians. It is as if the Asperger brain is born speaking a different language. It can learn our language through careful instruction or self-instruction, but it will always retain its accent.While Asperger adults go on to successful careers and interesting lives, they will always be considered unusual people.”

From http://jane-adamson.hubpages.com/hub/Aspergers

i can’t possibly be the only one angry about the fact that autistic people are always portrayed as either horrendous monsters that tear apart families and ruin their parents’ lives, or magical talented geniuses who just happen to have bad people skills

like, it’s harmful to allistic people because they start to treat us like abominations, and shun and bully us until we display some magical talent, so then they can fawn over us and glorify how “great” autism is until it’s no longer convenient for them to do so

but it’s also harmful for actual autistic people, who are neither monsters nor unparalleled geniuses, because then we get constantly treated like we’re inferior no matter what we do, and we start to feel inferior too, because we have all the “downsides” of autism but we can’t do calculus in our heads or memorize 600 digits of pi at age 8 like autistic people are “supposed” to do (as portrayed by the media/pop culture/society)

anonymous asked:

"Shipping is very different though." Your right it is but SJW still feel that if you ship a young girl with a older guy even if in real life you would never support that type of relationship your a sicko but shipping young boys with other boys is okay. Similarly I'm dealing with a fandom of a horror game that has some incest themes & some are attacking to those who are not bashing the game b/c we get that it's a game & it's not real. Going as far as saying we're defending incest irl when no 1 is

to be fair there are pro-incest people,  but i doubt everyone who ships a pairing like that supprts incest irl.

~the aspie one