As a long time Jonerys fan(going back to 2000) I'm so happy they are finally together. I used to argue with uppidy book fans and recent show fans about Jon & Dany being endgame. GRRM didn't make their stories very similar for no reason. Yes they both sometimes parallel other book characters but out of all of those they've always had the most in common. I never got those who thought that Dany wasn't good enough for Jon when he was with a Wildling.
First. We were right. You were right. You read the book and watched the show and followed the narrative and took the hints.
Second: I don’t trust fandom with female heroes.
They invariably want to erase their heroism and give the bigger part to the male hero… particularly when the male and female are set up as equals and partners.
The women are judged harshly for behaving in the way a leader should. The women are expected to never make mistakes. To be above any trouble. To be perfect.The women are judged as cruel for leading a battle, even though those they target are ONLY only other warriors, no civilians, even though THAT is exactly what battle is. The women are judged as HEARTLESS for not breaking down in tears on the battlefield.
You tell me what warrior is allowed to start crying in the middle of a pitched battle with zombies and dragon killing ice kings?
No warrior gets to cry when they lose someone in battle. It’s battle. You keep on fighting. You cry later.
But because Dany is a woman who is a hero and has power no one else has, and takes responsibilities no one else does, Dany is compared to other mothers sad for the loss of her children and found wanting. Although NONE of those mothers were in a pitched battle.
They say she’s not good enough for Jon, because fandom, and society, believes that a woman’s place is as a helper to a strong heroic man. So they prop up the man and tear down the woman and declare her not good enough, even if she is BETTER than any one else. Even if she wins the loyalties of fierce warriors and saves and entire country from slavery. Nope. That’s not good enough. She made mistakes. She struggled. She was mean to her enemy on the battlefied, therefore she is bad.
Give me a break.
Let me clarify.
This is misogyny. They hold Daenerys up to standards that no one else is held up to, not male heroes and not supporting female characters. Not even female villains.
Dany put herself forward and stepped out of the place that society said was hers. And so society must put her down. What a nasty woman.