Hello. When would you consider a behaviour abusive?
Depends on what kind of abuse it is. If you think it’s physical abuse, it’s at any point when they are physically hurting you, at all. If they might not know that it hurts, and you tell them it hurts and they don’t stop, it’s abuse. It doesn’t matter if it was used as punishment, no punishment for anything should be physical pain.
If it’s emotional abuse, I’m not good at defining boundaries for it, if advise asking justemotionalabusethings, but yelling at you is def abuse, insults are abusive, there’s other stuff and if I’m given a specific situation I could prolly determine it.
Sexual is just… If they touch you in spots you don’t want to be touched, especially if they touch you in sexual regions (and it’s not for some other purpose, like one girl helps me out with my titties all the time fitting them into my binder, and I used to get naked in front of my safety family all the time cuz we didn’t have the time or the space for all of us to change alone before school) or if they make explicit comments about you that don’t serve a purpose (“your dick is showing and were at a black tie event” is fine but “u have a cute butt” is gross for anyone to say if they aren’t a sexual partner)
Other types I’d need some specific examples of.