do you known how to deal with intrusive thoughts?? im going to therapy but i wanna see if there’s anything else that might help too!!
Ohohohohohohohohoho, friend. Intrusive down faults are literally my biggest downfall, I mean, constantly, all day everyday. It’s ruined me and countless relationships. However, after about three years I’m starting to get the hang of it and I would gladly share my advice. Sending you love! 💕
- The very first thing I’m going to recommend is that you read the book “Unf*ck Yourself: Get Out of your head and into your life” by Gary John Bishop. I’m not the type of person to recommend selfhelp books because so many just haven’t really reached me. However, this book drastically changed the way I view intrusive and obsessive thoughts. Most friends I’ve recommended it too have found it in the library. Seriously, check it out. I can not recommend it enough.
- I constantly have to remind myself that thoughts are not facts and I shouldn’t believe everything I think.
- Sometimes when I have an intrusive thought I visualize myself as this dope ass paladin and I literally fight my thoughts away? I just close my eyes and meditate and focus on being the strong person I want to be and slay my own dragons. Sometimes that’s too hard and I just picture All Might because he’s Best Dad, if you have a favorite character I would give it a shot.
- Aromatherapy bracelets and necklaces can be super helpful as well. Medicinally speaking lavender, chamomile, and opium would be the most mentally easing. Magically speaking pine, oak, lavender, valerian root, and hawthorn are all great for stability/protection in my experience.
- I personally carry around a sachet of onyx, rose quartz, lavender, pine, and oak.
You can minimize the damage of intrusive thoughts with self-help. This includes being mindful in the wake of an intrusive thought. Don’t waste your time obsessing over why you had that thought or what it all means. I’ve noticed once I learned to get past asking, “why am I thinking this?” all the time they don’t weigh as heavily on me. You are not your thoughts.
- Intrusive thoughts are kind of just like a really loud boombox to me. Usually, if I listen to music I can really get into I can quiet down the thoughts. For the past four months or so Nujabes has been amazing musician to turn too. This past month Modal Soul has been the album that helps the most. It usually takes me a full album to feel normal again and I feel albums give me more stability than a playlist but honestly do what’s best for you.
Compulsive behavior can manifest when you try to change who you are based on the intrusive thoughts you experience. Changing who you are and your reality because of a thought that isn’t necessarily rational is the worst way to go about it. Stop trying to change who you are so you can adjust to your thoughts. Try to think about yourself in a third person perspective, “what would (insert name here) do in this situation?” This might not work for everyone but it’s helped me out once I started noticing the patterns.
- From a magical perspective I’ve noticed moonstone is the stone that helps me the most. However most of my intrusive thoughts are PTSD related and I feel like moonstone helps me because it’s also stabilizing and can help prevent dissociation. I do also really enjoy onyx, tigers eye, and rose quartz as well!
- Learn to recognize the starting signs for your intrusive thoughts. When my intrusive thoughts begin, they usually start off pretty simple. It’s one thought that feeds into a bigger insecurity or fear. Once you can spot the first thought you can start fighting it.
There are definitely a few more things but I’m not comfortable recommending them to someone who’s history I don’t know! I’m sure your therapist will have lots of great ideas too, I learned some of my favorite coping mechanisms from therapy!