ask me how im doing

anonymous asked:

do you known how to deal with intrusive thoughts?? im going to therapy but i wanna see if there’s anything else that might help too!!

Ohohohohohohohohoho, friend. Intrusive down faults are literally my biggest downfall, I mean, constantly, all day everyday. It’s ruined me and countless relationships. However, after about three years I’m starting to get the hang of it and I would gladly share my advice. Sending you love! 💕

  • The very first thing I’m going to recommend is that you read the book “Unf*ck Yourself: Get Out of your head and into your life” by Gary John Bishop. I’m not the type of person to recommend selfhelp books because so many just haven’t really reached me. However, this book drastically changed the way I view intrusive and obsessive thoughts. Most friends I’ve recommended it too have found it in the library. Seriously, check it out. I can not recommend it enough.
  • I constantly have to remind myself that thoughts are not facts and I shouldn’t believe everything I think.
  • Sometimes when I have an intrusive thought I visualize myself as this dope ass paladin and I literally fight my thoughts away? I just close my eyes and meditate and focus on being the strong person I want to be and slay my own dragons. Sometimes that’s too hard and I just picture All Might because he’s Best Dad, if you have a favorite character I would give it a shot.
  • Aromatherapy bracelets and necklaces can be super helpful as well. Medicinally speaking lavender, chamomile, and opium would be the most mentally easing. Magically speaking pine, oak, lavender, valerian root, and hawthorn are all great for stability/protection in my experience. 
    • I personally carry around a sachet of onyx, rose quartz, lavender, pine, and oak.
  • You can minimize the damage of intrusive thoughts with self-help. This includes being mindful in the wake of an intrusive thought. Don’t waste your time obsessing over why you had that thought or what it all means. I’ve noticed once I learned to get past asking, “why am I thinking this?” all the time they don’t weigh as heavily on me. You are not your thoughts.
  • Intrusive thoughts are kind of just like a really loud boombox to me. Usually, if I listen to music I can really get into I can quiet down the thoughts. For the past four months or so Nujabes has been amazing musician to turn too. This past month Modal Soul has been the album that helps the most. It usually takes me a full album to feel normal again and I feel albums give me more stability than a playlist but honestly do what’s best for you.
  • Compulsive behavior can manifest when you try to change who you are based on the intrusive thoughts you experience. Changing who you are and your reality because of a thought that isn’t necessarily rational is the worst way to go about it. Stop trying to change who you are so you can adjust to your thoughts. Try to think about yourself in a third person perspective, “what would (insert name here) do in this situation?” This might not work for everyone but it’s helped me out once I started noticing the patterns.
  • From a magical perspective I’ve noticed moonstone is the stone that helps me the most. However most of my intrusive thoughts are PTSD related and I feel like moonstone helps me because it’s also stabilizing and can help prevent dissociation. I do also really enjoy onyx, tigers eye, and rose quartz as well!
  • Learn to recognize the starting signs for your intrusive thoughts. When my intrusive thoughts begin, they usually start off pretty simple. It’s one thought that feeds into a bigger insecurity or fear. Once you can spot the first thought you can start fighting it.

There are definitely a few more things but I’m not comfortable recommending them to someone who’s history I don’t know! I’m sure your therapist will have lots of great ideas too, I learned some of my favorite coping mechanisms from therapy!

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THE BATS OF GOTHAM (for @aelin)

Starting today, we fight ideas with better ideas. The idea of crime with the idea of Batman. From today on, Batman will be everywhere it’s dark, no place to hide.

How Dan and Phil probably broke up #23
  • Dan: Phil you left all the cupboard doors open again
  • Phil: godDANit
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I will say, hands are some of the hardest things to grasp when learning how to draw! Even people who have been drawing for years can be intimidated by these lil appendages! My methods for drawing them might be a bit weird, but I’m happy to share some of the things I try and keep in mind while trying to capture the essence of The Hand

I hope some people can find this useful! I could probably have gone on and on about drawing hands in this post but it’s already long enough-

#this is not going to go…the way you think !

2017 version of that —> one

Introductions between two Americans
  • American 1: Hi!
  • American 2: Hello!
  • American 1: How are you, hi?
  • American 2: Hi how are you so good to see you
  • American 1: So good to see you!

counting stars

art from stream - thank you to @crescentmoonrider, @owlsshadows, @sonikku0691, @arodote, and anyone else who stopped by the stream!! ‘twas super fun doing ink and talking with yall in the chat. Very glad everyone likes the whales because hooo booooy am I into them right now. Majestic creatures. 

until next stream ;)

this kid was telling me her birthday’s in two days and when i asked her how old she would be she said 10 then she asked ME how old i am and i did my usual, age-old gimmick of asking “how old do you *think* i am?” bc i love to suffer/am always interested in hearing what always ends up being the same thing, continuously, and she just stood there for a second before being like “….hmm 🤔 14? 😯” sincerely and i just felt my soul ZOOM out of my body.. and she kept that expression as i explained that i’m 21… like.. complete surprise and disbelief.. am i technically the same size as my younger brother? who is 14? yes. but how could she know that.. how can i come across.. that young.. fucking destroyed by this 9 yr old in front of her 5 other family members.. didn’t need to decimate me like that but she did

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Kravitz (taz) aesthetic

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OKAY I REALLY, really dont draw animals like EVER but this was a really cute ask SO I GAVE IT A TRY SLDKFJLDS i tried making jasper a giant golden crowned flying fox and pearl a gambian epauletted fruit bat

since i dont feel confident in my animal drawing skills here are some batty jaspearl chibs too lol

@ anyone following me: Thank You

micaxiii  asked:

can you recommend any ZaDR fics?

OKAY, NOT GONNA LIE, I’VE BEEN MAKING A LIST??? CAUSE WOW <3 I’ve been reading them a lot lately and I HIGHLY recommend:

Dig Your Own Grave and Bury The Hatchet

This one is my fuckin favorite. I believe it was the second one I REALLY got invested in?? But I LOVE how they portray Zim and Dib and how the chemistry happens and I… IM SO SAD IT WON’T UPDATE FOR A LONG WHILE OTL It’s written so well and the satirical shit both boys throw at one another is amazing?? By far my favorite v/w/v I want everyone to read it //cries. And here’s some other nice ones!

Polaris - This one took me a bit to get into but it got interesting as the story moved along, especially when shit starts goin down. I do like the slow ass burn to the eventual ZADR and the other characters are pretty interesting :> I finished it within like…2 days cause I’m a trash bag hungry for more. 

Challenge - NSFW, an AU where Dib’s a sex worker and Zim is actually a great Invader with actual bros. I really??? Like sex worker AUs???? I made one with fuckin Usopp/Sanji back in my One Piece phase, BUT THIS ONE!! I loved how beautifully written it was. It was my first ZADR fic that like set me off on this journey to read more. I really relate to Zim in this one like…goddamn. 

Here and Now - Just finished this one and I… I gotta say I liked the angle this one went with (As you can see this is the writer for Challenge) and I’m. Fucking. Alive. lol, I love the direction for Zim’s character, particularly in one of the chapters when he discovers something, sort of a revelation and it’s just… Goddamn. I also love the chapters where they text to one another v/w/v <3 It’s a really sweet one!

Goodbye to a World - A VERY interesting one I also finished today! I’m captivated by what the fuck is gonna happen next cause damn does the shit hit the fan in this one. Very great for the writer’s FIRST FIC <3 I enjoyed ;w; Also has some art in there too v/w/v 

Massive Screaming - NSFW, JESUS CHRIST IM READING IT NOW AND GODDAMN. EXACTLY WHAT I WANT IN MY ZADR…..////////////////////

That’s what I’ve read so far ;w; I’m currently looking for more to read and I can update this as I go along ;> I’m so excited, it’s been a LONG time since I’ve gotten so into a series I’ve actively searched for fics to read as well. It’s ..intense. My otp is so strong rn. 

Natsu Dragneel’s portrait
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“He was the first person to value me,
So until Elias lets go of my hand… I belong to him.“ 

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uhhh i have no excuse for this….. (phone doodle)