Toph, for the four types of headcanons meme.
What I think realistically:
I think Toph is both a deeply cool and also in some ways deeply tragic figure. She is really really good at fighting, at earthbending, at helping to win a war, but she never learned so many of the emotional and social skills she needed to exist outside that role. And who can blame her, after a childhood spent in isolation, and then on the front lines of the war. I think she spent so much time trying to prove herself, she never got the chance to figure out who she was trying to prove it to.
What I think is hilarious:
Toph has never forgiven Sokka and Suki for having sex close enough for her seismic sense to pick up.
What is soul-crushing but fun to inflict on friends:
Toph was utterly utterly clueless about what to do with her daughters. She gave them what she had always wanted as a child, total freedom, but this left Lin longing for structure while Suyin ran wild. Poppy Bei Fong, who was still alive, wrote her letters asking if she needed help, but Toph always declined, her own bitter memories of her childhood, stifled and “protected” leaving her unwilling to risk her parents inflicting that on her children. It’s only when Suyin becomes unmanageable that Toph becomes desperate enough to ask for her mother’s help. A small part of her is bitterly jealous, both as a mother and a daughter, over Suyin and Poppy’s relationship.
What doesn’t work but canon sucks so:
This is not so much a matter of canon sucking, as it is something I find too funny to let go of.
Kanto doesn’t exit. He’s the code name Zuko, Toph, and Mai use for the
threesome they will never speak of again. Izumi is also the result of
this threesome, and whenever Toph wants to make Mai and Zuko blanch, she
just says publicly that Lin and Izumi are so close, almost like twins.”