What are your thoughts on Jon initiating sex? I know there was a ridiculous idea about LF writing a letter to Jon about him marrying Sans and which resulted into him going to D's cabin but what can we hold unto now?
My thoughts are… muddled.
But I am of the opinion that Jon is deceiving Danielle. This is part wishful thinking and part backed up by really great metas. Here are two that I particularly love: here & here. So with that in mind, Jon initiating sex seems fitting with that theory. It also makes sense that he would use sex as a way to really garner her trust. It’s underhanded and awful, yes, but Jon did the same with Ygritte. While he didn’t initiate sex with her, he gave into her sexual advances knowing that it will prove he’s truly broken his vows to the Night’s Watch. It made Ygritte trust him, and Jon as someone who grows and learns from his experiences would remember this and think that perhaps this will make Danielle trust him too. After all, anyone with eyes can see the way she looks at him and Jon isn’t blind to women being sexually attracted to him.
I think the idea that LF writing a letter to tell Jon he’s marrying Sansa is probably more wishful thinking. I remember this theory going around as well at the start of the season. This wasn’t in the leaks, right? I never actually read them so I don’t know, but it seems too obvious. Jonsa deals in subtleties because they have to this season. Jon3rys is the red herring, so anything explicit will be directed towards them. But remember that every leak that has been right thus far has been utterly wrong about context. You can put lines on a paper and it can show one thing, but an actor’s portrayal and the cinematography of the scene plays a huge part in how it’s perceived by the audience. So right now, we’ll just have to wait and see how that works out.
Someone wrote a meta as well about how boatbang happens is foreboding for the relationship. I can’t remember who wrote it so I’m really sorry to that person for hijacking this great piece of analysis, but apparently, the leaks suggest that the boatbang scene is interspersed with scenes of Rhaegar and Lyanna, and Sam and Bran’s voice overs. Now, if a relationship was truly of the epic love variety, why would their love scene not get the full unadulterated attention it deserves?
Let’s look in comparison though. There have been 2 sex scenes this season thus far. Missandei and Grey Worm and Jaime and Cersei.
Missandei and Grey Worm’s scene was long, tantalisingly slow, with the camera completely focused on them. Their love was palpable because we, as the audience, was allowed to watch as these new lovers took each other in. We can believe their love is real because we’ve not only been given a long build up over seasons but also a scene that pays special focus on them together in this moment.
Jaime and Cersei is a little different. We’ve already had previous sex scenes with them so there’s less need to draw out this scene, but even so, the camera focuses on them entirely without cutting away to anything else because we know Jaime is in love with Cersei. What’s interesting is the dynamic between them. Cersei initiates even despite Jaime’s meagre protest. She’s the one that performs oral sex, which is a power move on her end. Then it cuts to them in bed with Jaime looking fondly at her before someone knocks and Cersei is up and striding across the room, again despite Jaime’s protests. It’s an interesting subversion of the usual power dynamics in sex scenes, where it’s the man who strides to open the door to a third party while the woman lies in bed, covering up and protesting the invasion of her privacy. Jaime is the one who covers up and Cersei is the one opening the door. It’s definitely an interesting demonstration that Jaime is in love with Cersei but Cersei is more interested in having power over him.
How boatbang happens will be very important in displaying what the nature of that relationship is like. We don’t know yet since we have yet to see the way it’s filmed, but the very fact that it’s not being given the full attention of the show is really quite foreboding. They’re new lovers. This is the first time they’re seeing each other naked to put it crassly, and frankly, that should be exciting not only for them but for the viewers. If they were so deeply in love already at this point or with the potential to be in the future, this scene should focus entirely on how they take each other in and how they come together as a pair. But it’s not. It’s being shot in between scenes of Rhaegar and Lyanna, which is frankly kind of gross already because… well, who the hell wants their sex scene to be in any way related to their parents? That’s just going to make the audience uncomfortable. Not to mention having said sex scene have voice overs is also incidentally not very sexy at all, especially when one of the voices happens to be the ‘brother-turned-cousin’ of one of the participants.
All in all, it’s a suspicious way to film an Epic Love. Mostly because it probably isn’t. Some might say it’s an Epic Tragic Love Story doomed to end badly, but it’s not even that. Jon and Ygritte were a Tragic Love Story and their sex scene was given 3 minutes of buildup including the actual sex. We were allowed to watch new lovers learning to be intimate with each other. They might not have been in love then but it set them up quite nicely for their future love. The focus on their scene made it seem inevitable and it made us want to root for them.
That’s what you should hold onto, Anonny, because boatbang is definitely not going to be as people expected and how it’s filmed and portrayed plays a huge part in demonstrating what exactly is the dynamic between these two characters.
I hope that answers your questions. Sorry it’s so long-winded.