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anonymous asked:

How would you go about trying to make friends with someone online? There are so many people (you included) that I want to talk to but I get so fuckin nervous... And, while its my own issue, I tend to not message/reply for weeks sometimes and I fuckin hate it... Sometimes I feel like its better if I just don't interact w people one on one. Hell, I prefer talking in a public space.. But its just so... I don't know man sorry for the ask love ya. You keep doing your thing.

eh this might just be me but i rly dont click well with people who are specifically ‘trying to be friends’, if that makes sense. like im always open to chatting w people who hit me up (well usually. im not keen on it w people like 16 and under just cuz it makes me uncomfortable) and if we talk regularly thats just how it ends up

but when someone says like “can we be friends?” or tries to awkwardly force conversation (like “hey!” “how are you” “what are you up to” all the time even when im non responsive) i usually just kinda drop contact eventually. it feels disingenuous and its easy to tell when it’s only bc im Scotch™ cuz like, no way would someone care that much about pushing a “friendship” along with anyone else who seemed disinterested. it rubs me the wrong way.

please tell me I’m not the only bothered by posts that are like “the reason Zevran isn’t in Inquisition is because what would stop him from sleeping with Dorian/Bull/all of Skyhold lmao” 

I saw this super out of character post the other day that was like a fake conversation post between Zevran and Leliana and he was doing a mission for the Inquisition but then he didn’t get the job done because he got distracted and had a threesome instead???

like???? If this fandom isn’t erasing a bisexual character they’re demonizing them into some sort of predatory sexhound and it’s gross??? The dude is flirty and likes sex, doesn’t mean he can’t physically stop himself from fucking anything that walks. Also doesn’t mean that’s all he cares about. Please stop twisting Zevran into that. I’m Tired™ 

Did anybody else notice that Steven said that Bismuth wanted to shatter “gems” even though Bismuth specifically said that she was only going to shatter the diamonds and higher ups like Holly Blue Agate?

Like did the writers realize that their is no reason for her to be bubbled so they had to misquote Bismuth so they could villainize her and justify her being bubbled? Because it sure looks like it!

anonymous asked:

I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?

HI darling,

I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:

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Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:

Reasons to move out of home

You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:

  • wishing to live independently
  • location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university
  • conflict with your parents
  • being asked to leave by your parents.

Issues to consider when moving out of home

It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:

  • Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.
  • Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.
  • Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.

Your parents may be worried

Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:

  • They may worry that you are not ready.
  • They may be sad because they will miss you.
  • They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.
  • They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.

Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.

Tips for a successful move

Tips include:

  • Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?
  • Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
  • Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.
  • Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.
  • Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.
  • Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.

If your family home does not provide support

Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.

If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.

If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.

Where to get help

  • Your doctor
  • Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800
  • Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44
  • Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325
  • Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
  • Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50
  • Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577

Things to remember

  • Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.
  • Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
  • Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations. 

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» For I am the daughter of Elrond. I shall not go with him now when he departs to the Havens; for mine is the choice of Lúthien, and as she so have I chosen, both the sweet and the bitter.

aesthetic asks:
• send me a fandom/character/etc. and i’ll make a picspam.
Arwen for @tinkernat.

anonymous asked:

Lol have fun studying medicine for 6 years and having absolutely no social life or life experiences

ummm yeahhh ok… 

so yeah I will have fun because studying medicine is - surprisingly - what I want to do, and usually when you are interested and passionate about something you have fun doing it? 

another revelation… you can have a social life and study medicine
*dun dun dun*
I know it’s hard to comprehend, but there are actually some medical students out there with… friends (omg who knew it?!) and they do things together like go to dinner or out to clubs just like normal people *gasps* (medical students, normal people?? nooooo)

and yeah you compeltely lost me on that last point about not getting life experiences?! the experiences you get as a doctor are - in my opinion - some of the most exciting and worthwhile experiences you could ever get. having the opportunity to go on an elective anywhere in the world during med school, being responsible for someone’s life, literally saving lives, meeting and interacting with a massive range of types of people - god you’re right, those things don’t sound like life experiences I would want to have…

Originally posted by usedpimpa

battlefieldheart  asked:

20 years after i said i was gonna send this....okay I'm all for Noah headcanons if you wanna because I need more Noah Czerny in my life. And like....if you wanna do a name aesthetic, hi hello my name is Caitlin and I'm awful at picking my favorite anything including color but if I had to make an educated guess...purple.

bitch,, i love noah czerny it’s lit let’s do this

  • noah is really fucking good at skating but would die on a ripstick
  • he was low key a stoner in school (not like one of those annoying people who know way too fuckin much about weed but he just always seemed to have a joint on him)
    • he watched harry potter high when it came out and it freaked him tf out so he wouldn’t see the others despite whelk wanting to
  • absolutely terrible with plants. he follows all the instructions to a tee but somehow they never last
  • he loves loves loves disney movies, he knows all the easter eggs and the obscure trivia
  • once let his sister pierce his nose in their bathroom at 2am
    • speaking of which? his sister is his best friend
    • he’s always been kinda dorky and sweet so he got picked on as a kid and sister has fought people for him numerous times
    • she’s his hero and he loves her so much
    • every time he’s home they yell out a goodbye to their mom and duck out to go spend the day together walking around the city, talking, buying street food, and catching up. it’s the only time they don’t have curfew bc mom knows by now there’s no use when they lose track of time chatting and hanging out
    • why is noah always playing with blue’s hair? his sister’s hair grew long and he’d braid and style it for her ever day while she was brushing her teeth before school
  • noah loves dandelions because he thinks theyre brave for growing through sidewalk cracks
  • he didn’t have a lot of friends growing up because he was always flitting between groups of people, always excited about something but never sticking around long
  • it’s the promise of a magical wish that gets noah to stick around whelk because honestly, what’s more exciting then waking an ages old welsh king?
  • he called whelk “barry” and was the only one allowed to. whelk had a weird fondness for noah (outshone by his greed, yes, but it was there) that no one at aglionby understood. whelk literally looked down on everyone, but for some reason the hyperactive part time stoner with a habit of skipping class to chase butterflies caught his attention and kept it. somehow, noah’s intensely bright personality balanced out whelk’s dour one. 
  • he swears he’s seen mothman
    • “noah mothman is in west virginia…and he isn’t even real….”
    • I meant what I said”
  • who can honestly be bothered to tie their shoes he definitely knots his laces on every pair he owns so he can just slip them on
  • mint candies are his absolute favorite thing on the planet, but peaceful fun-loving noah would actually Commit Homicide for thin mints
    • whelk has definitely given noah Apology Thin Mints when noah called him out for being a little too much of a dick
  • all the seniors are kind of in love with him?? like they all love him and say hi to him all the time. there’s a varsity football player that gives noah rides on his shoulders, the guys on the swim team with him are always giving him bear hugs in the hallways or sharing their snacks at meets
  • he’s got a cracked tooth from the one (1) time he tried ice skating
  • LOVES the beach so much oh my god. the amount of times he dragged whelk to the beach only to be in the water and running around in the sand by himself while whelk was grumpily parked by a dune with a huge book
  • so……..all in all, noah was very loved. 
  • when he went missing it went like this:
    • the swim team was putting up posters everywhere
    • his sister and mom were at the police station every day for weeks
    • whelk didn’t show up to school for a week and by the time he came back he’d lost a considerable amount of weight. he refused to speak to noah’s sister or mother. his statement to the police was that they were to meet after school, but noah never showed
    • the most solid piece of evidence henrietta pd had was an officer calling in that there might be a car fitting the description of the one missing along with noah. the recording cuts out after what sounds like a second voice (many voices?) whispering.
  • when henrietta pd declared him presumed dead it went like this:
    • raven boy blue goes black for the rest of the year in remembrance of noah czerny
    • anyone who tries to express their condolences to his closest known friend, whelk, is lucky if they meet silence, and unlucky if he instead decides to rip them a new one for deigning to speak to him.
    • his mother and sister go home and bury an empty casket with the rest of their family
    • the swim team drops out of the state tournament. they refuse to do it without noah, and the coach doesn’t blame them.
    • teachers find their eyes drawn to his empty seat, waiting for his hand in the hair, waiting for him to be incessantly tapping his pencil, waiting for his spot to not be empty, because it doesn’t feel right that he’s gone
  • noah doesn’t really know that he’s noah until gansey and ronan finally get through the sticky broken door into monmouth
  • but then in walks a king and a dreamer and noah isn’t a shadow anymore, he’s a soul, he’s solid, he’s part of something again until the day he gives himself again for gansey but it’s okay, because this time around he’s not just a town legend or warning. 
  • he’s a friend, remembered.

anonymous asked:

i feel like i could get behind jonerys if it wasn't so rushed and kit could bring some chemistry??? idk this whole season felt so off because they spent 6 seasons taking everything very slowly and building it up but this season is like "oh shit we only have 2 seasons to finish it so we need to cram in as much as we can" which is such poor planning on d&d's part

they didn’t have a single scene where they connected with each other on a personal level ??? they never shared anything intimate ??? they know fuck all about each other ?? kit harington was more expressive when he was lying dead in the snow at the end of season 5 than in any scene he had with emilia, there is no spark, no foundation, no chemistry nothing to justify this lackluster, basic af, boring “romance” lol 

also don’t even get me started on the pacing like remember when brienne and jaime literally spent a season getting from the riverlands to kings landing?? lol meanwhile mr. jon “I’m bending the knee whatevs” snow has been teleporting his treacherous ass over half the continent 4 fucking times in like the last 3 episodes lol

anonymous asked:

I'm curious, why are you anti-mon el? I'm genuinely confused as to why he gets so much hate.

  • he is the reason a healthy interracial ship broke up bc they wanted to pair him up with kara
  • he is the reason the female characters and poc are getting less screentime for a really predicable storyline
  • he is a straight white men who is getting a storyline and is a love interest, yet, maggie sawyer still doesn’t have any scenes outside sanvers :))
  • he only wants to be a superhero to impress kara, boring??
  • the fandom is constantly defending him while bashing at james olsen at the same time, who is brave and has courage and really wants to make a difference
  • he literally guilt tripped kara in the last 2x10 scene for not liking him and congratulations, we have a new unhealthy ship!!!!!
  • uhm he is white and straight and he i just annoying ://
  • he was funny for like two episodes, now it’s just annoying
  • did i already mention he is straight and white aND BORING??

anonymous asked:

Your thoughts on Akutagawa this chapter? I was honestly disappointed that he's STILL not over his obsession with getting Dazai's approval and it kinda undermines his development in the guild arc.

First of all I had a long reply lined up for this ask but tumblr hecked it up and I didn’t get to save. I’ll make this the shorter version because I’m a bit tired. My apologies.

This is one of the most beautiful and poignant moments in BSD and you can’t convince me otherwise. For Akutagawa, Atsushi was this lucky schmuck who grew up in unfavorable circumstances similar to his, but somehow ended up retaining his morality and keeping his hands clean, therefore gaining Dazai’s trust. Akutagawa detested Atushi, and make no mistake, Atsushi also hates Akutagawa’s guts. But at a decisive moment where their actions would determine the fate of Yokohama and its people, Atsushi says without any hint of mockery or ill-intent that he thinks Dazai has already acknowledged Akutagawa a long time ago. And then we have that panel where Akutagawa’s eyes regain a bit of life, as if he was processing what he had just heard. And we don’t see him argue anything about it because a part of him probably wanted to believe… had already believed that. Dazai later affirms this by telling Akutagawa he did a great job, surprising Akutagawa so much he fainted on the spot.

Needless to say, it was the perfect moment for Akutagawa to start becoming less fixated with Dazai so he could seek his own path without relying on anyone for validation. It didn’t matter if he did it by staying in Port Mafia, what mattered was that he made his own choices and did it without considering what Dazai would think.


But then we get this scene! This damn scene that has me losing it because what the hell?? Dazai is saying he wants to see if Akutagawa would be more useful after 4 years. Since this is Dazai we are talking about and a lot of unpleasant things can come out of his mouth, the line wouldn’t have bothered me too much. But look at Akutagawa. It’s like he was a robot which malfunctioned… or worse, a trained dog showing its belly as soon as the master comes in waving a treat. It crumbled all my hopes of Akutagawa gradually finding a life and purpose outside of Dazai’s influence. You may consider this an overreaction, but for someone who has always rooted for Akutagawa to grow as a character, this was devastating to read. No, not going stabby stab on Atsushi does not count.


I’ve come to terms with the fact that Akutagawa will never completely forget Dazai. Not only was Dazai Akutagawa’s mentor, he was also essentially his savior. He’d given Akutagawa a reason to continue living, albeit not the healthiest of ones. But this puppet show’s gotta end. If Akutagawa can’t cut the strings off himself, someone would have to do it for him.


(cr: DazaiScans, EGScans)