Happy Moment

I work at a High School. I am the school’s Library Aid and Paraprofessional. During passing time the kids cut through the library and I tend to hear a lot of different conversations.

Well, during passing this girl was talking to her friends about her younger sister. Her younger sister identifies as Asexual. 

I cannot tell you how happy this makes me feel. We are talking High Schoolers, the girl passing could have been a Sophomore or a Junior, which puts her around 15 or 16 years old. And her YOUNGER sister identifies Ace. Her YOUNGER SISTER GUYS! So she is under 16 years old! I can only wish I knew about Asexuality and the Ace Spectrum at their age. 

Guys we are growing. We are doing good. We are getting the word out there. Younger kids are identifying as ACE! I could cry. This is so amazing. Kids out there have resources I never had. Kids can identify as ace because they know it exists. Kids don’t have to worry about what’s wrong with them. Kids can realize that they are not broken. Kids can realize that they are ace.

This makes me so happy. This makes me so proud. I love you guys! I love this community! Keep spreading that Ace Awareness! Keep fighting for representation and education! Let’s keep growing!

Stay Amazing. Stay Awesome. Stay Graceful!

Asexual Awareness Week 2015 dates!

Dates for Asexual Awareness Week 2015 have been announced! AAW 2015 will take place from the 19th-25th of October, so let’s start getting ready!

Ok this post is probably going to be a mess of thoughts, but whatever. I have seen some things in the aaw tags saying that we don’t need asexuality or aromantic awareness weeks. People are saying that it shouldn’t be so important to us that everyone knows about asexuality and aromanticism (why is that word so awkward?). I don’t think you’re understanding the point of asexual and aromantic awareness. The point is not to educate allosexual alloromantic people about these things. That’s something we do, yes, but that’s not the reason. The point of asexual and aromantic awareness is to educate people who might be on the asexual are aromantic spectrum, but don’t know it. Because most of us on the spectrum have been there. Most of us remember feeling broken, trying out different sexual orientation labels to try and find one that fits. Wondering if everyone just pretends to be romantically or sexually attracted to people all the time. Or, for allosexual aromantic people, feeling like a heartless slut, because that’s what the world tells you that you are. The primary goal of asexual and aromantic awareness is to spread these words and definitions and stories around so that these people who are in the shoes we were once in can maybe see it and realize that they aren’t broken or heartless.

I’ve noticed that a lot of people seem afraid to ask honest questions about asexuality for fear of being offensive, so I just want to say this here:

  • Questions asked from a place of honestly trying to educate yourself are not offensive.
  • If you ever have questions about asexuality, feel free to ask.
  • No one expects you to automatically know all about asexuality. We’re 1% of the population.
  • Seriously feel free to ask and I’ll do my best to answer as openly as I can.
Asexuality Grant!!!

Once again I’m in the runnings for a grant to fund some asexual awareness/education/humor projects but I need to prove I can provide a large enough audience/reach that it’s worthwhile. If y’all could share this/follow/visit my page it would greatly improve my chances. I really think that some of the projects I have ideas for but no way to fund would be really great for the asexual community and the larger community as a whole. Please follow and share! Thanks!

anonymous asked:

The other thing is Asexual Awareness Week is mostly about educating allosexual people rather than celebrating asexual people or raising visibility of asexual individuals. They're not the same thing at all. Also, Transgender Awareness week is in November- they have a week, too. This is just another tired round of "aces aren't queer enough to be part of our club" and honestly the biggest reason I don't identify as queer despite being asexual.

This. Completely this. 

Save the Anger

There’s a text post making the rounds about how we have an awareness week rather than a pride week because we’re still on step one: getting people to acknowledge our existence. I also see a lot of text posts from people expressing irritation that people do not include aces and aros in general LGBT+ education efforts. Some even go so far as to berate people and express anger at them for forgetting us, and interpret their ignorance as malicious. It’s frustrating to constantly be forgotten, and anger can be useful.

But the question I want you to consider is, should we be directing this anger at well-intentioned people who are ignorant of asexuality and aromanticism?

How old were you when you first heard of asexuality? How did you hear about it? Maybe you’re lucky, and you’re a younger teen who heard about it on Tumblr. Or maybe you’re like me, and you made it into your twenties without ever having heard about it. I thought I knew a lot in high school. I knew all about different sexual orientations, and I had some entry level knowledge regarding transgender and nonbinary identities. I prided myself on my knowledge.

But I had never so much as heard about asexuality and aromanticism. It hadn’t even occurred to me that such people existed. If I had known, I would have been accepting, as I considered myself accepting and an ally. But I just had no idea. If I had been more active in LGBT+ organizations, I would have unintentionally left out aces and aros too, and felt really bad about it had I known.

I think many LGBT+ activists are like I was. I think they just have never stumbled upon AVEN, certain areas of Tumblr, or odd news articles that come out about us. Maybe they know someone who could be ace, but neither they nor this person has any idea what asexuality is. I don’t think we should be angry at them for forgetting us, because we should remember what our world was like before we discovered the asexual and aromantic community.

You know who we should be angry at? People like Dan Savage and FCKH8, who after finding out about asexuality, continue to be bigots (yes, they may have backtracked, but it was a bit late). It’s okay to have never heard about an orientation, but when it’s brought to your attention and you make fun of it, now that’s unacceptable behavior.

Anger has a purpose in activist communities. I don’t believe in the “be polite and quiet” approach. Anger, when harnessed, is powerful and a force for change. But I think it’s important to be careful where you direct it. I just don’t think it’s productive to be angry at people when they don’t even know we exist. We were like them once, too. And for all you know, they could be ace or aro themselves. My personal approach is to give people the benefit of the doubt, as they might be a potential ace/aro ally—if they continue to be jerks, then by all means, unleash your wrath.