In aid of Asexual Awareness Week, I’ve decided to make a post about autochorissexualityand just what it is.
The term ‘autochoris’ was coined by Anthony Bogaert, and essentially translates to 'identity-less sexuality’. It is a sub-section of asexuality, which he describes as:
A disconnection between oneself and the object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacking any desire to be a participant in the activities therein.
Essentially, we like the idea of sex, and/or enjoy reading/writing/watching sexual content, but don’t actually experience attraction or want to have sex with anybody.
You might be autochorissexual if:
You get aroused by sexual content but don’t actually want to engage in any sexual activities yourself.
You masturbate, but are neutral or repulsed by the idea of having sex with another person.
When you fantasize about sex, you envision people other than yourself, and/or you view it in third person, as though you’re watching it on TV, rather than imagining it in first person, through your own eyes.
You predominantly or entirely fantasize about fictional characters or celebrities, rather than people you actually know.
You identify as asexual and feel no sexual attraction to people, but enjoy masturbating, are aroused by sexually explicit content, and/or have sexual fantasies.
This isn’t an exhaustive checklist, and ultimately nobody can give you a label but yourself. But hopefully this post has brought you a little closer to understanding autochorissexuality, whether you are asexual, grey/demi, questioning, confused, or just wanting to raise awareness.
Here are some further resources if you want to learn more:
Asexuality is OFFICIALLY not a disorder, according to the APA.
The images above are from the DSM-5, which is the latest edition of the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. The DSM-5 is a really important book. It is used by doctors and mental health care providers around the world to diagnose mental disorders.
The DSM-5 explicitly and clearly recognizes asexuality, and says that if a person is asexual, that they should not be diagnosed with Female Sexual Interest/Arousal Disorder or Male Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder.
This book says that you are valid, your feelings are real, and that you do not have a disorder because you feel this way.
Anyone who claims otherwise is wrong.
They do not know what they are talking about. You can point them at this book as proof that they are wrong.
On page 434, in the section on Female Sexual Interest/Arousal Disorder (302.72), at the end of the “Diagnostic Features”, it reads:
If a lifelong lack of sexual desire is better explained by one’s self-identification as “asexual”, then a diagnosis of female sexual interest/arousal disorder would not be made.
On page 443, in the section on Male Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (302.71), at the end of the “Differential Diagnosis”, it reads:
If the man’s low desire is explained by self-identification as an asexual, then a diagnosis of male hypoactive sexual desire disorder is not made.
I’m asexual. Yesterday, while having sexual education class, my teacher said that the only sexual orientations were heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality. So I asked her why nobody talked about asexuality in sexual education classes. This is what she said: “That’s because asexuality isn’t a sexual orientation. Asexuality is a disease. Asexual people were born wrong, because everybody feels sexual attraction.” And then, the bell rang and she leaved the classroom. Guess who cried for about… 15 minutes? Yeah, me. All my classmates saw me, and one of them (a girl who I thought that was my friend, and she already knew about my asexuality) asked to me: “So you have that disease??”. I’m tired. I’m so fucking tired. It is horrible being told that “it is a phase” or that “you haven’t met the right person yet” or, even worse, “it’s a disease”.
Asexual Awareness Week starts tomorrow. We’re going to be busting some ace myths, and raising awareness of asexuality! To keep up to date with our Association, follow us on tumblr, facebook, or twitter.
I think that to be able to share my experience and views without being criticized or judged was one of my favourite things of this week, and thanks to the acceptance of this community I’m finally able to identify myself as a proud asexual.
Thanks for the support, and (probably late) happy asexual awareness week!
Charlie wondering why everyone is so focused on who’s dating who
Charlie shyly turning down all the girls that ask him out
Girls getting mad at him and guys asking him what the fuck is wrong with you! After he turns down hot girl after hot girl.
Bill being super protective over Charlie and beating up on anyone who makes fun of him
Bill asking Charlie if he’s into guys and Charlie telling him no he’s not into guys or girls. He’d rather focus on his studies
Charlie coming across asexuality and realizing that it describes him perfectly. Then finding aromanticism.
Charlie coming out to Bill who smiles and says “I knew it”
Mrs. Weasley constantly asking him when he’s going to bring home a nice girl and when he tells her never she moves on to how about a nice guy?
Aro Ace Charlie having enough of it and deciding to come out to the rest of his family. They are confused and have questions but mostly accept him (helps that Bill just came out as bi not too long ago)
Mrs. Weasley agonizing over not having grandchildren and how unhappy Charlie will be all alone
Charlie going off on his mom telling her that he doesn’t want kids and he is quite happy studying dragons thank you very much. You have plenty of other kids who will give you grandchildren.
Charlie going back to Romania and getting a package from his mum containing a sweater in ace flag colors with a C on it.
Whenever anyone questions him about dating he just smiles and says he’s “more interested in dragons that he is about girls”