asexual awareness

do any of you other asexuals call someone hot and then regret it because people will think it’s sexual but you really just meant that they’re a step up from cute in the aesthetic attraction department? because you both don’t mean “hot” the same way??

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Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise!

Late for #AceDay but I was stuck at work all day, boo!

This is a message to all spectrums of ace peeps out there, from the Ace Trainers: Me, kynimdraws and shoelesscosmonaut!

Just a reminder that

You can be ace and still in a healthy romantic relationship

You can be ace and not be in a romantic relationship

You can be ace and be in a sexual relationship

You can be ace and in a polygamous relationship

You can be ace and have had sex

You can be ace and WANT to have sex

You can be ace and not have had sex

ASEXUALITY IS ABOUT SEXUAL ATTRACTION, NOT BEHAVIOR / ROMANTIC ORIENTATION / LIBIDO

I got a prompt from my older brother: 

“Why don’t you do some big, muscular guy. He has to have at least a 4 pack. Draw that guy with the ace flag as a cape.”

So this is Ace Romero, Ordinary Joe by day, Asexual crime fight by night. His specialty: helping people get out of uncomfortable conversations/situation that involve sex.

This started out as a joke, but now it’s serious and I want to draw him in actual comic strips doing Ace stuff.

Should I?


Go HERE to see the sneak peek of comic #1.

Coincidence?

Skyrim Remastered comes out during asexual awareness week. Skyrim has dragons. Asexuals and aros are often represented by dragons. The dragonborn is a human (elf/beastfolk/whatever) with the heart and soul of a dragon. Coincidence? I think not.

It’s official. Every ace and aro peep is actually dragonborn.

Let’s get serious.

Asexual does NOT mean someone is broken.
I am Asexual meaning that I don’t experience sexual attraction. I personally also have no interest in sexual activity.
Sexuality can best be seen as a spectrum not a box or label because, personally, I know that I am attracted to girls and not to guys which makes me basically straight but I do not feel any sexual attraction towards anyone.
I’ve always thought I was broken because let’s face it. The world is obsessed with sex. People would tell me “it will come”, “You just have to find someone ”, “have you ever explored your down parts?” Etc. I’m done with all this. I am not broken. I can be in a healthy relationship with someone without having sex because I already have been. Kissing will just do for me to feel loved and feel good about myself thanks to my partner. Don’t force yourself into doing something you don’t feel comfortable with. Talk to your partner about it if you’re having trouble with this. They should understand. And like I said. Sexuality is a spectrum so if you do identify as Asexual but do have sexual needs unlike me then that is completely okay. Do NOT put yourself in a box. Do NOT put a label on yourself.
And most important don’t put someone else in a box or put a label on them.
Sexuality is someone’s private business that is between them and their partner.
Thank you for reading.

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Asexuality is OFFICIALLY not a disorder, according to the APA.

The images above are from the DSM-5, which is the latest edition of the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.  The DSM-5 is a really important book.  It is used by doctors and mental health care providers around the world to diagnose mental disorders.

The DSM-5 explicitly and clearly recognizes asexuality, and says that if a person is asexual, that they should not be diagnosed with Female Sexual Interest/Arousal Disorder or Male Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder.

This book says that you are valid, your feelings are real, and that you do not have a disorder because you feel this way.

Anyone who claims otherwise is wrong.

They do not know what they are talking about.  You can point them at this book as proof that they are wrong.

Full Reference:

On page 434, in the section on Female Sexual Interest/Arousal Disorder (302.72), at the end of the “Diagnostic Features”, it reads:

If a lifelong lack of sexual desire is better explained by one’s self-identification as “asexual”, then a diagnosis of female sexual interest/arousal disorder would not be made.

On page 443, in the section on Male Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (302.71), at the end of the “Differential Diagnosis”, it reads:

If the man’s low desire is explained by self-identification as an asexual, then a diagnosis of male hypoactive sexual desire disorder is not made.

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I made this for Asexual Awareness Week in November, but it turned out to be a bigger project than I expected. O.O But better late than never!

Asexuals are often a misunderstood sexual orientation, and many feel lost and alone due to the sheer lack of information about it! It was so hard to find ANY scientific sources about it for my research paper last year, and it’s all but invisible in mainstream media. So I hope this sheds some light on the subject!

Aces, you are not alone! We are valid and beautiful!!