It’s ok to swipe left because you don’t like their hair cut, it’s ok to not text someone back because they use the wrong form of ‘your,’ it’s ok to turn down a second date because he didn’t walk you to your car or because he doesn’t like country music or because he refuses to vote. Be picky, have standards, say no. This doesn’t mean that you don’t value other people, it just means that you value yourself more. This year, stop settling. This year, put yourself first.