as someone who is around crying people often

octaviasherwood  asked:

Yo (sometimes I pretend to be cool then I remember I'm so not). Anyway I was wondering what the stereotype of INTP stress is as I am a stressed little INTP and I am having a break down too often which really isn't helping.

INTPs under stress generally tend to go into a dominant-tertiary loop, which means that they only use their dominant Ti and tertiary Si cognitive functions for a while. When in a loop, an INTP is generally moody and extremely introverted and a bit snappish with anyone trying to invade his privacy. Also, he is going to spend lots of time in pointless research or study or busywork, or else he’ll maybe deepclean his room in an attempt to take control of a small part of his life. Stressed INTPs often procrastinate heavily.

If they are emotionally stressed, INTPs often fall into the inferior Fe grip, which generally means they are going to have an emotional outburst. This doesn’t often last for long, although the amount of stress is obviously a big factor in the length and amount of outbursting going on. The INTP might rage pointlessly at a someone near or nothing at all, or might cry. These outbursts are usually looked on with great embarrassment later, although the INTP can recover from the pretty quickly, often surprising any people around who might have been expecting longer-lasting results.

There are, of course, better ways to deal with stress than the two above ways. However, these are pretty typical for an INTP who isn’t necessarily paying attention to his reactions. Someone who is more in control of himself is probably going to make sure to watch himself so that he doesn’t slip into a prolonged loop or grip. 

I hope this helps, and thanks for stopping by.

soft-robo  asked:

I'm fine with you being critical of the show nd all, but making fun of cry typing is majorly shitty. This is of course coming from someone who 'cry types' during panic attacks and what not. You're skirting along the ableism territory.

hoo boy this again? mocking crytyping isnt ableist. the people who crytype are often white kids who cant handle being called out so their anxiety takes over.

there’s even a post circling around where someone explains how there’s a huge difference between the typing styles for someone who has motor issues and someone who is just faking shaky text

Headcanons for the Birthday Boy!

It has become clear to me that I can no longer remember the birthdays of my favorite fictional characters. And since my fandom identity is currently being compromised, I don’t have the power in me to write anything real right now. So, as I have for the past few big days, enjoy some head canons for our baby boy, Eren Jaeger: 

(P.S. I tried to make these able to fit in any au, as well as with any pairing. Enjoy!)

  • Eren is horribly oblivious to all things romantic until it is too late. It always takes him a while to realize his feelings for someone, and he’s often the last to know who his friends like cause he just doesn’t pick up on it. 
  • He hates seeing people cry because he doesn’t know how to handle the situation and make them feel better. He’ll usually settle for a hug. 
  • Eren gets super flustered by his crush or S/O when they do cute things such as laugh a certain way, or flash that smile, or blush at one of his jokes, or grab his hand, etc. This is especially bad when they are in public, around other people, who can also see the cute things. 
  • Eren is a big fan of dressing up, and encourages the group to regularly take part in Well-Dressed Wednesdays or Fancy Fridays
  • He’s a sucker for cupcakes
  • He’s actually a pretty neat, organized person, and doesn’t mind cleaning. It’s just that his organization style is a little close to organized chaos, so his desk and room only make sense to him and no one else. 
  • Eren is a cuddle bug. He absolutely loves to cuddle. In bed, on the couch, smashed together in a chair meant for one person, sitting on the curb in a parking lot… Anytime, anywhere. He’ll be big or little spoon, he doesn’t have a preference. He’ll play with his S/O’s hair, or let them play with his. He just loves to cuddle. 
  • He has a very nice singing voice (I’d say he’s a tenor, but has a really large range that can go from baritone to the very bottom of the alto spectrum.) He can also play the guitar
  • He has an overactive imagination
  • That being said, he’s very prone to nightmares, (in any universe you put him in.) When he was little, he’s wake up screaming and crying, but as he got older, he got used to it and it able to remind himself they’re just dreams. Every now and then, he’ll have a particularly bad nightmare that will make him cry or scream or thrash around a bit, but they aren’t super common. 
  • On the nights when he doesn’t have nightmares, Eren had a habit of talking in his sleep. He never says anything of worth, although they make amazing one liners. 
  • He positively abhors getting sick, and tries to simply ignore it when he starts to feel sick. This results in his body throwing a lot of “bitch fits,” as he’s dubbed them. His ignorance leads to him getting much sicker than he would have if he’d just taken the time to rest when he first started feeling off, and that usually leads to a lot of clingy cuddles with whoever’s kind enough to take care of him. 
  • That being said, Eren’s prone to what he’s dubbed “Season Change Sickness,” which basically means that he, without fail, gets sick every time the weather changes with the seasons. And that depresses him. Cause try as he might, he’ll never win against Mother Nature. 
  • He’s always super intense while playing games, (sports, board games, etc.) That can either be really fun, or really annoying
  • Eren hums when he does chores. He doesn’t even realize he’s doing it, it’s just a natural reaction
  • He doesn’t like people telling him he’s wrong, especially over matters of opinion. The trouble is, he’ll fight them back, forgetting that it’s a matter of opinion and neither of them are right. 
  • He’s perfected the art of making fun of Jean. 
  • He’s a really good kisser. Like, really good. Surprisingly good. And it’s all natural talent. 
  • He’s a drunk kisser, meaning exactly what you think it means. Armin and Mikasa learned very early on that they had to remain by Eren’s side all night after he’s had a few drinks just to ensure he doesn’t start making out with a stranger against their will. 
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(( Okay guys, I didn’t say anything since now but it is kinda really submerging my dashboard. 

GUYS. DON’T TALK ABOUT SUICIDE SO EASILY. PLEASE DON’T. 

I don’t know if some of you just want to have some attention from people ivl and in reality you don’t attend to do it at all. Tbh, it doesn’t matter. I know that life can be hard sometimes, but the suicide isn’t the SOLUTION.

Hey, you only has ONE LIFE

It is okay to be weak, it is okay to cry, it is okay to want people to care about you time to time. It is okay. 

But you need to be STRONG too. 

Why? 

Because if you look carefully around you, you will realize that there is a beautiful world out there, not perfect but pretty in its own way. 

You will realize that there are people who really CARES about you out there. Some people love you deeply but don’t show it quite often. 

You will realize that if you do it, you won’t be able to come back ever again. 

You know what will happen after you do it?

Someone who treasures you will find you corpse, they will call the ambulance while crying, as you will be carried to the hospital, they will pray for your safety, believing that there is still a chance that you will be still alive. But no, the path of the life ends here for you. Your death won’t resolve anything, it’ll make people who care about you cry and sadness will overwhelm them. They will live along with this burden in their heart. Always thinking 

“I could save them. If only I could… They will still be there today…”

You know what is there after death? Your dreams, your future, EVERYTHING will end if you die. Only darkness will stay. 

It is okay to rely on other people, it is okay to ask for help

No one is going to blame you. Just do it. Don’t wait someone to reach out their hand for you, sometimes you need to do the first step. 

And everything will change. I believe in you.

April 2016, EXO in Ray Magazine: Kyungsoo

D.O.’s Answer:

Q. Your ideal type’s style:

A simple fashion! I like fashion that gives off a neat feeling. I like standard colors too - for example, one-tone navy. I would like it if she dressed simply. I have a preference for pants too.

Q. Who likes to play around the most?

D.O.: Baekhyun is someone with the gift of making the people around him happy. That’s his strength. He always plays around, like jokingly tapping you on the shoulder!

Q. Who is the most tearful?

D.O.: Chanyeol. Drama, movie, cartoon, if whatever it is touches him he will often cry. It just means he’s that sensitive. He told me once he even cried reading One Piece.

Q. Who would you most like as a boyfriend?

D.O.: Chen, because he has a really warmhearted side. He concerns himself with everyone, like the staff, and is good at being considerate. When I see that, I think he’d be good as a boyfriend.

Q. Who is the manliest?

Kai: You might not be able to tell at first glance, but he’s surprisingly manly, which is why I picked him. Something about him where it seems he can firmly say what bothers him, or what is a little difficult to bring up. That’s something I personally like too, so D.O. hyung!

Chen: Me, ahahaha! Just kidding (laughs). It’s D.O. The reason is in his reliability. Although he usually doesn’t have much to say, he’s a reassuring presence among the members. The expression suits him well.

Xiumin: Time’s passed, and I feel he’s matured a lot since we first met. He has a very simply honest side, so though he doesn’t speak much, each word has weight. He doesn’t talk frivolously so he has a lot of depth.

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Call for Advice: Empathy

Hi there, followers and autistic people of Tumblr! We at ScriptAutistic are trying to answer one of our recent asks, and we got into a bit of a debate about a sensitive topic. We’d like to do a survey of the community before we post our answer to make sure we represent all autistic people as accurately as possible.

The topic is empathy. By empathy, we mean feeling the emotions others feel: it being upsetting to see another person hurt or upset, for example.

In one mod’s experience, it seems the vast majority of autistic people are very empathetic, even hyperempathetic, and that even behaviors that might appear to show a lack of empathy (not talking to someone who is upset, not comforting someone who’s crying, avoiding emotional situations) are most often actually caused by an excess of empathy or other autistic traits (being unable to handle the overwhelming emotions of others, being afraid of making the situation worse due to a history of social rejection, etc.). A genuine lack of empathy (being unable to feel the emotions of others) seems very rare.

The other mod has a somewhat different experience. A lot of autistic people do have empathy or hyperempathy, but not the vast majority - their experience is that around a third of autistic people genuinely have (self-reported) reduced empathy and have difficulty sensing, understanding, or caring about the emotions of others.

It seems a survey is in order. We therefore request your personal answers to these two questions:

1. Do you consider yourself an empathetic person? Please briefly describe how strong your sense of empathy is.

2. In your experience, are most autistic people strongly empathetic?

Please only answer this question if you are actually autistic yourself. We are not looking for answers from allistic people. Even if you know someone autistic, please do not speak for them. Either ask them to answer the questions for themselves, or skip answering.

You can send your answer in an ask or in a reply to this message. Thanks a lot for helping us represent our community as accurately as possible!

what do you think you live for?

I live in and for the idea that the person I am, and the things I will do will affect someone else in a real way. 

whats your favorite month? 

I honestly couldn’t pick one. 

if you could go straight/gay/like someone you wouldn’t normally think of liking, who would it be (famous person)? 

Interesting, hmmm. I rather fancy Rebecca Hall.

perfect day?

Writing, reading, bon fire, cooking dinner beside my mother, a night surround by people (or a person) who make(s) me laugh and smile, and I make them laugh and smile as well. Dancing. Running around yipping, shouting and reciting playful phrases, dialogue or proverbs. 

who would you want to play you in your biographical movie?

Greta Gerwig

what was your most treasured memory?

I have many. Many many many. 

do you cry easily/often?

Yes, I am very much susceptible to shedding tears of joy and sorrow. 

if you could only save one thing in your house/life what would it be?

My pets. 

do you believe in the supernatural? 

I believe in the supremely fantastic. 

do you have a lot of dreams when you sleep?

Not of late. 

..whats the worst thing you ever done?

well, I wouldn’t very well tell you. 

whats your favorite condiment? 

Salt

have you ever been in love? tell me about one of the times.

No. Maybe. Probably. Yes, but it was the type of love that exists only so long as you don’t look at reality. 

would you ever date someone a lot older/younger than you?

I’ve dated 12 years my senior. And only 2 years my junior. 

whats the craziest story thats happened to you?

I have several, if you ever buy me a drink, I’ll share one. 

who is your favorite family member/friend?

Now that’s just not fair. No, wait. Cooper, my parent’s Jack Russell. Yes. Him. 

have you ever gotten into a fist fight?

Yes. I punched my sister in the chin when I was a child and then promptly burst into tears. However, I have been tempted to throw a punch since then, and I wouldn’t have cried. 

which would you choose if you had to choose between joining the army, navy or air force? 

Air Force

what are your alter egos like?

A little rougher around the edges. 

have you ever known someone that you really thought you could marry?

No. Not in the realistic “I’m going to grow old and take care of you, sickness and health” way or the “I can spend the rest of my life loving you and only you” way. 

do you fall for people easily?

No. I stumble a bit, then right myself. Fall? Nope. It takes a bit. 

How did you get one of your scars? 

Baking bread. 

fav flavor ice cream?

I haven’t ever had ice cream. Nor will I. 

tell me about a crush past or present?

I have a pretty big crush on @thecountryfucker. But, who doesn’t? 

Pay Attention

Sometimes the happiest people are really the saddest, those who smile the most cry the hardest, and those who often have people around them feel the loneliest. Pay attention and take the time out your day to ask someone if they’re okay and make sure they feel loved.