as someone who is around crying people often

Soulmate AU

…in which your skin gets colder everytime you get a heartbreak - either being hearbroken or break one, till the pont you are literally freezing to death. But when you touch your soulmate the first time, you get your warmth back.            Not that they are sad or crying all the time - just that they get colder and colder, until maybe their skin is blue one day.
And maybe, when your soulmate dies, you die with him/her because it breaks your heart so hard, it literally breaks into little pieces of ice? 

Imagine just … Someone walking around with blue skin, because they were left so often, meeting a someone in a coffee shop, handing them over their coffee and suddenly, they feel warm again?

Or what is about people, who like to watch movies and shows and read books and are too empathic for the world, so when they see their character heartbroken, they feel that themselves. 

Or someone, who is cold as ice and tries to hide it, being all sarcastic and everything, but one day, meets his soulmate and is totally flashed by the feeling.

anonymous asked:

They should know he's a guy by now but anyways how are u doing today ?

// Well between dealing with a handful of people stealing, tracing, and otherwise reposting my art, telling me I’m wrong for politely calling them out and handling it like an adult in DMs, trying to help handle the #savebendy bullshit, people ripping off my designs for Lendy & Acute & Alice, having my characters misgendered repeatedly after already making a post on the matter, being insulted directly to my face on a handful of servers, handling some personal drama, and generally feeling alone in groups of people (not their fault) I’ve been… okay. Mostly just extremely tired and admittedly a bit pissy. I haven’t hardly eaten this week and today I can’t stop so if I don’t post a lot its because I’ve made myself sick, sorry in advance.

anonymous asked:

Headcanons for an s/o that can sense when a person is nearing their death? Imagine the angst throughout the journey with the chocobros ;-;

Oh man :(

  • The guys can always tell when their s/o is around someone who is near death. They get really quiet and somber, and have this look on their face like they know something they don’t know.
  • If they meet someone who is near death, at the end of the day, the guys can find their s/o isolating themselves from the others, often trying to keep themselves from crying or hastily wiping their eyes and telling them that they’re fine.
  • If it’s Noctis’ s/o who can sense when people are near death, he’ll wake up in the middle of the night to hear them crying, or they’ll hold onto him a little too tight after a battle.
  • At the final battle, they’ll beg Noctis not to go. He’ll tell them that he’s known about this moment for a long time and that he knows they’ve known it too. The other guys have to keep his s/o back, because they beg him to let them help. He tells them that the only way they can help is by living a long, happy life––even if it’s without him.

octaviasherwood  asked:

Yo (sometimes I pretend to be cool then I remember I'm so not). Anyway I was wondering what the stereotype of INTP stress is as I am a stressed little INTP and I am having a break down too often which really isn't helping.

INTPs under stress generally tend to go into a dominant-tertiary loop, which means that they only use their dominant Ti and tertiary Si cognitive functions for a while. When in a loop, an INTP is generally moody and extremely introverted and a bit snappish with anyone trying to invade his privacy. Also, he is going to spend lots of time in pointless research or study or busywork, or else he’ll maybe deepclean his room in an attempt to take control of a small part of his life. Stressed INTPs often procrastinate heavily.

If they are emotionally stressed, INTPs often fall into the inferior Fe grip, which generally means they are going to have an emotional outburst. This doesn’t often last for long, although the amount of stress is obviously a big factor in the length and amount of outbursting going on. The INTP might rage pointlessly at a someone near or nothing at all, or might cry. These outbursts are usually looked on with great embarrassment later, although the INTP can recover from the pretty quickly, often surprising any people around who might have been expecting longer-lasting results.

There are, of course, better ways to deal with stress than the two above ways. However, these are pretty typical for an INTP who isn’t necessarily paying attention to his reactions. Someone who is more in control of himself is probably going to make sure to watch himself so that he doesn’t slip into a prolonged loop or grip. 

I hope this helps, and thanks for stopping by.

sassturn  asked:

my boyfriend just got diagnosed with ADHD. He's 20 so he has struggled his whole life and is now just discovering he has this problem... is there anything that i can do to help him? i'm his exact opposite when it comes to my attitude towards work and mental health so i'm a bit lost. what would you want someone who loves you to do/understand?

I apologize for the long wait! This was such a good question and I wanted to make sure I answered it well.

First of all the fact that you are looking for ways to be supportive shows that you have the caring and desire to be informed that really makes the difference. Here is a list of things I’ve found helpful in the relationships in my life:

1) Make your priorities clear. It is easy to get overwhelmed and either try unsuccessfully to balance everything at once or else completely avoid everything altogether. While your average person can determine what is most pressing and work from there those of us with ADHD often have trouble prioritizing. It’s not that we don’t care, in fact it’s quite the opposite. Everything seems extremely important and we don’t even know where to start. So let us know. Tell us “X would be nice but Y is critical right now so honestly don’t worry about anything else until that’s taken care of”.

2) When we’re struggling with executive dysfunction it can be frustrating for everyone. We can’t get much done and we have so much we have to do, and so many more things we’d like to do, and other people are expecting something of us and we don’t want to let them or ourselves down. Yet doing anything is so difficult and draining.

It’s easy for even well-meaning reminders to sound disappointed. In my experience “don’t forget about X” is a a downer because in all likelihood the thought of X haunts my every waking moment but now I think that you think I have blown it off to the point of completely forgetting it.

“When will Y be done? You’ve had 2 days/weeks/months to do it.” is worse because now I’m focusing on my past failure and it will be that much harder to get the energy and motivation I need to power through.

The best is “I know you’ve been working on Z. How is that going? I do need it by this actual deadline. You’ve got this. I believe in you.” Sometimes I need to know there is someone who hasn’t given up on me so that I can believe in my own ability to accomplish things again. Reminders of past successes are also really encouraging. It’s easy to feel like a failure during a difficult period.

3) Emotional regulation is often a weak spot for people with ADHD. Often times the people we love offer us a supportive voice of reason and some emotional stability in our weaker moments. I a tend to be more reactive and I laugh, cry, and anger easier than others. Knowing that I can trust the people around me not to judge, poke fun, or blame is such a relief. My actions are obviously still my responsibility and a loved one knows when to back you up and when to call you out (and when to just walk away for a little bit).

Well those are some of the big ones. If anyone would like to add on please do.

Headcanons for the Birthday Boy!

It has become clear to me that I can no longer remember the birthdays of my favorite fictional characters. And since my fandom identity is currently being compromised, I don’t have the power in me to write anything real right now. So, as I have for the past few big days, enjoy some head canons for our baby boy, Eren Jaeger: 

(P.S. I tried to make these able to fit in any au, as well as with any pairing. Enjoy!)

  • Eren is horribly oblivious to all things romantic until it is too late. It always takes him a while to realize his feelings for someone, and he’s often the last to know who his friends like cause he just doesn’t pick up on it. 
  • He hates seeing people cry because he doesn’t know how to handle the situation and make them feel better. He’ll usually settle for a hug. 
  • Eren gets super flustered by his crush or S/O when they do cute things such as laugh a certain way, or flash that smile, or blush at one of his jokes, or grab his hand, etc. This is especially bad when they are in public, around other people, who can also see the cute things. 
  • Eren is a big fan of dressing up, and encourages the group to regularly take part in Well-Dressed Wednesdays or Fancy Fridays
  • He’s a sucker for cupcakes
  • He’s actually a pretty neat, organized person, and doesn’t mind cleaning. It’s just that his organization style is a little close to organized chaos, so his desk and room only make sense to him and no one else. 
  • Eren is a cuddle bug. He absolutely loves to cuddle. In bed, on the couch, smashed together in a chair meant for one person, sitting on the curb in a parking lot… Anytime, anywhere. He’ll be big or little spoon, he doesn’t have a preference. He’ll play with his S/O’s hair, or let them play with his. He just loves to cuddle. 
  • He has a very nice singing voice (I’d say he’s a tenor, but has a really large range that can go from baritone to the very bottom of the alto spectrum.) He can also play the guitar
  • He has an overactive imagination
  • That being said, he’s very prone to nightmares, (in any universe you put him in.) When he was little, he’s wake up screaming and crying, but as he got older, he got used to it and it able to remind himself they’re just dreams. Every now and then, he’ll have a particularly bad nightmare that will make him cry or scream or thrash around a bit, but they aren’t super common. 
  • On the nights when he doesn’t have nightmares, Eren had a habit of talking in his sleep. He never says anything of worth, although they make amazing one liners. 
  • He positively abhors getting sick, and tries to simply ignore it when he starts to feel sick. This results in his body throwing a lot of “bitch fits,” as he’s dubbed them. His ignorance leads to him getting much sicker than he would have if he’d just taken the time to rest when he first started feeling off, and that usually leads to a lot of clingy cuddles with whoever’s kind enough to take care of him. 
  • That being said, Eren’s prone to what he’s dubbed “Season Change Sickness,” which basically means that he, without fail, gets sick every time the weather changes with the seasons. And that depresses him. Cause try as he might, he’ll never win against Mother Nature. 
  • He’s always super intense while playing games, (sports, board games, etc.) That can either be really fun, or really annoying
  • Eren hums when he does chores. He doesn’t even realize he’s doing it, it’s just a natural reaction
  • He doesn’t like people telling him he’s wrong, especially over matters of opinion. The trouble is, he’ll fight them back, forgetting that it’s a matter of opinion and neither of them are right. 
  • He’s perfected the art of making fun of Jean. 
  • He’s a really good kisser. Like, really good. Surprisingly good. And it’s all natural talent. 
  • He’s a drunk kisser, meaning exactly what you think it means. Armin and Mikasa learned very early on that they had to remain by Eren’s side all night after he’s had a few drinks just to ensure he doesn’t start making out with a stranger against their will. 
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(( Okay guys, I didn’t say anything since now but it is kinda really submerging my dashboard. 

GUYS. DON’T TALK ABOUT SUICIDE SO EASILY. PLEASE DON’T. 

I don’t know if some of you just want to have some attention from people ivl and in reality you don’t attend to do it at all. Tbh, it doesn’t matter. I know that life can be hard sometimes, but the suicide isn’t the SOLUTION.

Hey, you only has ONE LIFE

It is okay to be weak, it is okay to cry, it is okay to want people to care about you time to time. It is okay. 

But you need to be STRONG too. 

Why? 

Because if you look carefully around you, you will realize that there is a beautiful world out there, not perfect but pretty in its own way. 

You will realize that there are people who really CARES about you out there. Some people love you deeply but don’t show it quite often. 

You will realize that if you do it, you won’t be able to come back ever again. 

You know what will happen after you do it?

Someone who treasures you will find you corpse, they will call the ambulance while crying, as you will be carried to the hospital, they will pray for your safety, believing that there is still a chance that you will be still alive. But no, the path of the life ends here for you. Your death won’t resolve anything, it’ll make people who care about you cry and sadness will overwhelm them. They will live along with this burden in their heart. Always thinking 

“I could save them. If only I could… They will still be there today…”

You know what is there after death? Your dreams, your future, EVERYTHING will end if you die. Only darkness will stay. 

It is okay to rely on other people, it is okay to ask for help

No one is going to blame you. Just do it. Don’t wait someone to reach out their hand for you, sometimes you need to do the first step. 

And everything will change. I believe in you.

April 2016, EXO in Ray Magazine: Kyungsoo

D.O.’s Answer:

Q. Your ideal type’s style:

A simple fashion! I like fashion that gives off a neat feeling. I like standard colors too - for example, one-tone navy. I would like it if she dressed simply. I have a preference for pants too.

Q. Who likes to play around the most?

D.O.: Baekhyun is someone with the gift of making the people around him happy. That’s his strength. He always plays around, like jokingly tapping you on the shoulder!

Q. Who is the most tearful?

D.O.: Chanyeol. Drama, movie, cartoon, if whatever it is touches him he will often cry. It just means he’s that sensitive. He told me once he even cried reading One Piece.

Q. Who would you most like as a boyfriend?

D.O.: Chen, because he has a really warmhearted side. He concerns himself with everyone, like the staff, and is good at being considerate. When I see that, I think he’d be good as a boyfriend.

Q. Who is the manliest?

Kai: You might not be able to tell at first glance, but he’s surprisingly manly, which is why I picked him. Something about him where it seems he can firmly say what bothers him, or what is a little difficult to bring up. That’s something I personally like too, so D.O. hyung!

Chen: Me, ahahaha! Just kidding (laughs). It’s D.O. The reason is in his reliability. Although he usually doesn’t have much to say, he’s a reassuring presence among the members. The expression suits him well.

Xiumin: Time’s passed, and I feel he’s matured a lot since we first met. He has a very simply honest side, so though he doesn’t speak much, each word has weight. He doesn’t talk frivolously so he has a lot of depth.

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Call for Advice: Empathy

Hi there, followers and autistic people of Tumblr! We at ScriptAutistic are trying to answer one of our recent asks, and we got into a bit of a debate about a sensitive topic. We’d like to do a survey of the community before we post our answer to make sure we represent all autistic people as accurately as possible.

The topic is empathy. By empathy, we mean feeling the emotions others feel: it being upsetting to see another person hurt or upset, for example.

In one mod’s experience, it seems the vast majority of autistic people are very empathetic, even hyperempathetic, and that even behaviors that might appear to show a lack of empathy (not talking to someone who is upset, not comforting someone who’s crying, avoiding emotional situations) are most often actually caused by an excess of empathy or other autistic traits (being unable to handle the overwhelming emotions of others, being afraid of making the situation worse due to a history of social rejection, etc.). A genuine lack of empathy (being unable to feel the emotions of others) seems very rare.

The other mod has a somewhat different experience. A lot of autistic people do have empathy or hyperempathy, but not the vast majority - their experience is that around a third of autistic people genuinely have (self-reported) reduced empathy and have difficulty sensing, understanding, or caring about the emotions of others.

It seems a survey is in order. We therefore request your personal answers to these two questions:

1. Do you consider yourself an empathetic person? Please briefly describe how strong your sense of empathy is.

2. In your experience, are most autistic people strongly empathetic?

Please only answer this question if you are actually autistic yourself. We are not looking for answers from allistic people. Even if you know someone autistic, please do not speak for them. Either ask them to answer the questions for themselves, or skip answering.

You can send your answer in an ask or in a reply to this message. Thanks a lot for helping us represent our community as accurately as possible!

anonymous asked:

Hey darling can I get a ship? I'm a straight girl with curly brown hair and brown eyes. I have the tendency to be quiet, especially when I'm just meeting someone. I'm an observer and pay close attention to the people and things around me. I have a short temper and I often say what I'm thinking which gets me into a lot of trouble sometimes. I'm someone who doesn't tend to show emotions and I can come off as unattached, it doesn't help that I don't cry easily. (Pt1)

I ship you with Reggie. You two actually met when he seemed to be bullying this kid. It made you and to see him being rude to someone so you stepped in. He was speechless to see someone like you stand up for someone else. But he did find you cute and liked how you stood up for the kid, since the kid was his lil cousin who had been annoying him all weekend. At school he tried to get your attention by being really nice and helpful. (which freaked ppl like Jughead out.) this did get ur attention you two became friends and slowly ended up dating.

what do you think you live for?

I live in and for the idea that the person I am, and the things I will do will affect someone else in a real way. 

whats your favorite month? 

I honestly couldn’t pick one. 

if you could go straight/gay/like someone you wouldn’t normally think of liking, who would it be (famous person)? 

Interesting, hmmm. I rather fancy Rebecca Hall.

perfect day?

Writing, reading, bon fire, cooking dinner beside my mother, a night surround by people (or a person) who make(s) me laugh and smile, and I make them laugh and smile as well. Dancing. Running around yipping, shouting and reciting playful phrases, dialogue or proverbs. 

who would you want to play you in your biographical movie?

Greta Gerwig

what was your most treasured memory?

I have many. Many many many. 

do you cry easily/often?

Yes, I am very much susceptible to shedding tears of joy and sorrow. 

if you could only save one thing in your house/life what would it be?

My pets. 

do you believe in the supernatural? 

I believe in the supremely fantastic. 

do you have a lot of dreams when you sleep?

Not of late. 

..whats the worst thing you ever done?

well, I wouldn’t very well tell you. 

whats your favorite condiment? 

Salt

have you ever been in love? tell me about one of the times.

No. Maybe. Probably. Yes, but it was the type of love that exists only so long as you don’t look at reality. 

would you ever date someone a lot older/younger than you?

I’ve dated 12 years my senior. And only 2 years my junior. 

whats the craziest story thats happened to you?

I have several, if you ever buy me a drink, I’ll share one. 

who is your favorite family member/friend?

Now that’s just not fair. No, wait. Cooper, my parent’s Jack Russell. Yes. Him. 

have you ever gotten into a fist fight?

Yes. I punched my sister in the chin when I was a child and then promptly burst into tears. However, I have been tempted to throw a punch since then, and I wouldn’t have cried. 

which would you choose if you had to choose between joining the army, navy or air force? 

Air Force

what are your alter egos like?

A little rougher around the edges. 

have you ever known someone that you really thought you could marry?

No. Not in the realistic “I’m going to grow old and take care of you, sickness and health” way or the “I can spend the rest of my life loving you and only you” way. 

do you fall for people easily?

No. I stumble a bit, then right myself. Fall? Nope. It takes a bit. 

How did you get one of your scars? 

Baking bread. 

fav flavor ice cream?

I haven’t ever had ice cream. Nor will I. 

tell me about a crush past or present?

I have a pretty big crush on @thecountryfucker. But, who doesn’t? 

Pay Attention

Sometimes the happiest people are really the saddest, those who smile the most cry the hardest, and those who often have people around them feel the loneliest. Pay attention and take the time out your day to ask someone if they’re okay and make sure they feel loved.