as is the way with most people

anonymous asked:

i would really like to be more educated, so i was wondering if you could explain if there is a way to politely ask someone what pronouns they prefer? again, i really would just like to make sure i am not offending anyone and doing it the right way.

It is wonderful to want to be more respectful, thank you for asking this question. Simply saying, “Hello! my name is —-! I use X pronouns. What are your name and pronouns?” or anything similar is a perfectly tactful way of making sure that you start off on a respectful foot. Or, just ask, “by the way, what are your pronouns?” most people will be thankful. 

anonymous asked:

Rowling did not create the idea of goblins and the description of them is pretty typical of the myths they come from. Maybe you should actually educate yourself about the stories they came from before ascribing your own ideas on it.

Hi, Mod H here, fairytale and mythology nerd with a particular interest on English and British folk tales. Yeah, goblins as a myth have been around for a long time - yeah, the depiction of them in HP is pretty typical to how they’ve been portrayed in folklore.

You know what else has been around for a long time? Antisemitism. It’s a historical fact that medieval Christians stereotyped Jewish people in the most horrific of ways. I wouldn’t be surprised if the two were interlinked, and the goblin came from this Middle Ages stereotype of Jewish people.

Not to mention the fact that this doesn’t really matter. Harry Potter was written in the 90s, JK Rowling as an author had a responsibility to be aware of what she was writing and adapting from folklore, and the implications of that.

Also, as we’ve said, these aren’t our own ideas. This is the criticism we’ve seen actual Jewish people say about the topic - and as you’ve seen here, not every Jewish person agrees that it is or isn’t anti-semitic. We were restating those views for the people who asked about them.

If somebody asks me what executive dysfunction is, I’m gonna point them to a web article or suchlike that explains it better than I can. 

If somebody asks me what executive dysfunctions feels like, though, I’d say that it’s like waiting for a video stream to buffer or for a web page to load. You could do so many other things, except you’ve only got a few minutes at most to wait, so most of them aren’t worth starting. So instead you read a few lines of an article or check out your tumblr dash or go get a glass of water. You fill time, because most people don’t like to stare at a loading bar for several minutes if they have other options. Sure, you’re doing things, but if anyone asked what you were up to you’d probably just say “waiting,” because you’re really just doing whatever you can to make the time go faster. 

Now just imagine that instead of doing this for a couple minutes, you’re stuck in this state for hours on end. You’re waiting for the thing to finish, but every time you check it’s still not done so you just keep waiting, breaking your day down into chunks too small to do anything with. You think about playing a game, but you don’t actually start it up. You get a drink, but you don’t make lunch. You open your word processor, but you don’t actually start writing. You’re stuck in a holding pattern, killing time minute by minute, and by the time you realize you don’t actually know what you’re waiting for, the day is already gone. 

It isn’t a matter of being lazy or undisciplined, or a case of making bad decisions. Executive dysfunction is a problem with the organ responsible for making decisions in the first place. When it stops working properly, stops being able to decide between doing this or doing that or doing nothing at all, you end up just going with what comes naturally. You fidget. You kill time. You wait, in expectation of a decision to wait no longer. It may be a long time coming. 
 

anonymous asked:

Yixing isn't someone who walks away from commitments & considering how hard he's worked to be in exo there's no way he's leaving (and that's not even thinking about how much he loves the members and fans). I hate seeing people say he's leaving 😠 do they know the type of person he is?!?!?

the people who say he’s leaving are the ones who pay no attention to yixing and make no effort to get to know his character because if you paid attention to him for half a second you would know he’s one of the hardest working people and most loyal and most resilient person in existence 😖

It upsets me how most people don’t know the conection voltron and ‘gasolina’ have??? I just saw someone getting an ask about why is gasolina so popular in the voltron fandom and their answer was like ‘it is because Lance is hispanic and white people like the stereotype of hispanics liking that song :^//’ AND LIKE??? NO IT IS NOT????
THE SONG IS FILLED WITH PUNS! IF YOU READ THE LYRICS IN A LITERAL WAY IT TALKS ABOUT 'KITTIES OF ALL COLORS THAT NEED GASOLINE’ AND IT IS SO FUNNY BECAUSE IT IS LIKE THEY SING ABOUT THE LIONS, THAT’S WHY IT IS A THING NOT BECAUSE OF LANCE!!!

I guess marriage to me, isn’t exactly just two people signing a contract to solidify their love for one another. It’s the next step in life. People say that being married shouldn’t change anything. But it does. It does change everything. You will go from being my girlfriend to my wife, to the mother of my children. You will go from being a plus one to “mrs & mrs.” You will go from being my live in, to my life partner. Marriage does change a relationship. It does change everything. It changes it for the better. It creates a new bond, a new found respect and a new responsibility to care for each other. In sickness and in health, for better or worse. It unites to people in the most solid, most formal way possible. For me written words, words of affirmation, is a formidable for of love. What better way to affirm something you already love than to bond for life.
Ceremony aside, there is something to be said when I can call someone my wife. A greater respect is given for my relationship. A deeper bond is seen, and felt. Marriage to me isn’t just about a binding contract, to let my “relationship stay the same,” it will change it, it will make it stronger, it will make it deeper it will make it much more incredible.
—  It’s a little more than “I do.”

anonymous asked:

I hate when people say something is canon when it is not even romantic, like nothing in that interview you just linked about the ackerbond suggests romance to me? Like the only canon thing is Ymir/Historia (I think, my info could be wrong for that) but people insist on it being canon (and not just in the lighthearted or jokey kind of way, but in a serious way). This goes for a lot of ships, but I've seen it for the two in that post the most, and it puts me off them (this is just me venting btw)

You can come vent here anytime because it annoys the shit out of me when people keep saying their ship is canon when it is not? I’m not saying it could never be canon, but jesus put off your shippers glasses and look at the facts for fucks sake. Ackerbonds are made on the fact that they look up to a person and see them as their superior, romance doesn’t have to be involved. Like I said in that post; Kenny wasn’t romantically interested in Uri Reiss. Romantic feelings could be involved ofcourse but that isnt something that has to be there to make someone your liege. And Yes what you said about Ymir and Historia is right, as far as I know that is the only ship that is actually canon. (And Bertholdt that he had/has romantic feelings for Annie, apparently)

Each of us plays four roles in relation to the brain. We lead, we inspire, we invent, and we use it. Most people do not actively use their brains. They passively let their feelings and thoughts control their lives. They don’t invent new ways to use their brains, either, settling instead for the same routine and repetitive thoughts every day. But if you master all four roles, you create your super brain. When you are the active observer of your feelings and thoughts, you become the user of your brain. Your super brain then serves you, not vice versa.
— 

Deepak Chopra

eene-fangirl  asked:

How important is Edd and Eddy's scene at the end of the movie? When Eddy admits his faults and Edd telling him he has just learned.

I’d imagine it’s THE most important scene in the series because it’s the one moment of growth that Eddy doesn’t try to undercut or undo in some way.  I feel like it holds together the movie’s tone, because each act contains enough scenes that capture the mood of the scenario for me to be satisfied, but there are WAY MORE scenes trying to be comedic and ignoring the extremes of this plot than scenes taking advantage of the emotional potential. Without this final moment of Eddy NOT trying to entertain the audience, actually talking to the people around him, and starting to articulate self-analysis, although I think “so people would like me, think i was cool“ is a huge simplification and just Eddy’s first attempt to find the words for how he lives his one-track life.

Oh, and Edd and Eddy hold hands and gaze into each other’s eyes and the creator so obsessively directed that shot that it’s said he drew Eddy himself, which is just an all-around sweet note that I’m glad the show lingers on and finally preserves instead of denying it.

Backtracking to Danny drawing one or two Eddy faces, to my understanding that is a rarity, we don’t hear a lot about Danny drawing for the show after season 1.  The credits are pretty long, you don’t hear about him stepping in to add faces like current CN creators, I think he lets the artists control the actual art and leaves his direction to sticky notes.  The most recent drawing I’ve seen by him of them was a scribble of the Eds next to his signature on someone’s ComicCon merch in 2007.  So I also really appreciate THAT about the scene, that it’s emotional and sincere and not undercut, and Danny did it himself, no push-back despite all the times he’s reset Eddy.

The most effective way to destroy people is to deny and obliterate their own understanding of their history.
— 

George Orwell

Orlando is the latest city to designate a Confederate monument known as “Johnny Reb” to be taken down after some complained it is offensive.

The monument has stood over a century. It was dedicated to honoring soldiers who lost their lives in defense of the Confederate States of America.

anonymous asked:

You get death threats from show fanboys, seriously?! I'm not even disgusted, I'm kind of astonished. I mean, I stopped liking GOT somewhere in S4, but I can totally get a viewer (especially a non-reader) enjoying it in a mindless "wars, dragons, ice zombies, lots of characters" kind of way. But taking it seriously? To this point? Like, Dorne in S5... it's something in the same ballpark as Xena: Warrior Princess. And as much as one can enjoy Xena... can you take it that seriously? This much?

Last season was not nearly as bad as Season 5, but Season 5 was also the first year I was watching critically, and all my thoughts were on this blog. But yeah, idk, people can get very defensive, I guess.

Most “negative” comments I get are just ones that call me dumb or say I’m wrong or that I should just stop watching, so it’s not like death threats are the norm. I’ve kind of become inured to those though, lol. Oh, I don’t have to watch this? Wow!

“As an autist, I always wondered if Eripon has some form of mild autism / hyperfunctional aspergers, because that’s what her behaviour sometimes looks like. The way she interacts with people and all, it’s a bit different from most other girls around there and many think it’s quite weird.”

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It’s been a tough week.. I haven’t been on my bike as much as I would like, but my pain has been kicking my butt. Today on my ride I passed a guy struggling to walk.. It made me realize how blessed I am to notice those things.. Other people’s pain, is plan as day now. I notice the way they hold their face or how tight their shoulders are. I know all the signs because I have them too. Most people may not look at it as a gift, but, I do. There should be more empathy in this world. Most are too busy to even stop and notice. Let alone empathize. Until it happens to us, we choose to ignore the world around us. It’s not such a bad thing I got sick.. On the good days.. I would tell you, I’m glad I did.. On the bad I would give anything to be normal.

anonymous asked:

Hi! in this day without updates, i've got a theory: i don't think JA changed Even's plot because of Dickie. Dickie's comeback was kept open from the beginning. I think she got feedback from the *experts* at NRK. We tend to forget that Skam was created by a state funded network to provide help to teenagers. I think it's no stretch to assume that the way JA dealt with Even's m.i. and esp his S.A. wasn't approved by the professionals (see Vilde's ig video etc), so she had to get rid of it last min.

that’s giving too much credit to the state, ahem. seeing how most countries treat mental illness, i really don’t see a division of the government or whatever sending a memo to julie being like “u fucked up, it’s gonna hurt people, u better bury that shit deep”

she just pulled a moffat: she hinted at a lot of deep stuff coming but never actually properly brought them up, she didn’t resolve anything, and she made too many important things happen off camera to try and trick us into filling the gaps for her because she couldn’t be bothered to actually write them

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It’s been quite some time since I last wrote something on this blog. Lately, I have been so busy with my life but I am really enjoying everything that’s been happening. This post is to let you know that I still breathe and that I am finally at peace with myself most especially at times of my solitude. This is also a testimony that things really do get better.

i. I finally got back to school and I am very much busy yet so motivated. I have a long way to go but I know I’ll get there. I learned to not be so hard on myself. I’ve always been so patient, but now I am finally patient with myself as well. It feels so great to get back on track. 

ii. I don’t think people will ever understand how much violence it took to be this kind and gentle. Now, I am even kinder and more patient when dealing with others but I have also learned so many things like how to say no, how to refuse bullshit from people, how to stand up for myself, and how to live my life unapologetically. I can finally be so kind without letting people abuse me for it.

iii. I celebrated my 19th birthday last month (May 2 to be exact). My birthday wish was to have my life and all my shit together again (hahaha) and it actually came true. A few days after my birthday, I adopted a cat (yes that one in the photo). I named her Lexi. I went out alone one night at around midnight to buy some ice cream and coffee at a nearby convenience store and stayed there for a while. Lexi (who was just a random stray kitten to me then) popped out of nowhere and just approached me, played with me, and sat on me and beside me that night. I took her home. My mom hated me for it but oh well, I fell in love with Lexi. She’s my soulmate in cat form. Now I’m busier than ever because I’m taking care of my Koko (my dog), Lexi, plus my four little turtles. Proud mom right here.

iv. I didn’t think I could love again, but I fell for this amazing guy named Geir. He’s been taking such good care of me since day 1. Even though I am still in the midst of fixing myself and my life, he’s the reason why I am in a much better place right now. He was (and still is) so patient with me. He’s always trying to make sure that I’m alright. He never fails to make me feel so happy and loved. He taught me how to love myself and he helped me get my strength back. I can now do things that I couldn’t do before because of him. I am waaaaay too thankful to have Geir. My daily routine sounds boring (waking up, going to school, going home and sleeping) but God, it feels so great because I always get to see him, talk to him, and spend time with him. As mundane as my life sounds, he fills my days with wonder. It truly feels amazing to have someone love me and take care of me for a change. 

v. I still get anxiety attacks every now and then but not as bad as when I was still stuck in that dark place. I finally feel secure. I have Geir and I have my friends and family to take care of me. I am soooo soo thankful. I am finally happy. Genuinely happy. I now know that 1.) no matter how awful things get, problems are only temporary and we can all surpass them. 2.) There will always be people who truly love and care for us even though we don’t see them. Have faith in them. Talk to them. Stick with them. Let’s get rid of people who make us feel worse. And 3.), we have to be patient with ourselves. Let’s forgive ourselves for our mistakes and try to figure out how to become better. Let’s strive for growth. Live life unapologetically. xx

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“Mom, I’ve already decided what I want to be when I grow up”. 

“Really honey. I’m glad you figured that out so soon”. 

“I’m gonna be the most powerful criminal boss in history”. 

“Are you sure? Because that’s not the easiest way to make a living. You need to work every last drop of it you’ve got”. 

“No, that’s the funny thing. As a criminal boss I can order people around. I’ll make sure they fear me, so they do whatever I want”. 

“It seems that you already got it all figured out”.

 “I’ll make you proud, mama”. 

“I’m sure you do”.

Now I’m thinking about the events of last summer when I got my whole unit fired. That… really fucked me up. No one meant anything maliciously and most of them are good people who’d never intentionally harm a child. I think. But witnessing that… the way they put the kid on the spot and sexually interrogated them, laughing at their confusion and discomfort, I can barely articulate how horrifying that was for me. Obviously the kids were the victims there, even if they thankfully they didn’t realize it… but I had to realize it for them. It was so surreal and terrifying, it felt like my friends and coworkers had suddenly started happily eating human flesh and expected me to join in the feast like it was no big deal.

anonymous asked:

would you say it was possible with adhd to have a good memory for little details and things from a long time ago, but then a pretty poor working memory? for instance I can remember lots of things about things I like, or things from childhood, but all the time forget where i put things or what I was thinking a few minutes ago

Absolutely! I actually have a similar pattern.

One reason could be that, like most people, we are better at remembering things that are associated with a strong emotion, or something meaningful to us. Childhood memories and details about our interests are like that but where you left your keys is not.

Another reason is that working memory and long term memory rely on different brain networks. Long term memories end up stored all over the brain but forming new memories relies on the hippocampus, medial temporal lobe, and limbic system. Working memory relies on the frontal lobes and also the basal ganglia. ADHD affects the way the frontal lobe develops and connects with the basal ganglia. I’m not aware of research that suggests it consistently affects the hippocampus and medial temporal lobe. (If anyone else does let me know!).

So, what you’re talking about is probably pretty common for someone with ADHD!

anonymous asked:

So my fancast Jessica Chastain is out most likely of playing Ivy in the DCEU. Who do you want to play Poison Ivy?

Hi, 

I saw that she’s up for some “X-Men” movie right? Well good for her lol. I think Chastain would’ve been great because she’s a great actress but I don’t think someone should be picked for Ivy because they have red hair. Not saying that’s why you picked her but I often see - when people are fancasting- that they just go for the obvious. People can dye their hair for roles, isn’t Margot Robbie’s a natural brunette? Her roots seem to grow brown and I once saw an interview of her on Jimmy Kimmel where they showed a young picture of her and she had dark brown hair.  Obviously Jared Leto’s hair isn’t naturally bright green. I’m not trying to offend you or anyone so don’t take it that way please. 

This is David Ayer. He made the most diverse superhero film ever. He said in a press conference that “kids need to see people that look like them” on the big screen. This is Warner Bros. who have shown that they want to show as much diversity as possible both in front of and behind the scenes. I would be willing to bet money that “Gotham City Sirens” will NOT be three white female leads. I would actually be kinda disappointed if it was to be honest. WB is not a white sausage feast that is only 14 movies in getting diverse like some other movie studio. Just remember who is making this movie they have all shown that they are very driven to show as much diversity as possible. 

So if you’re asking me who my fancast for Poison Ivy is? I’ve had this person in mind since I saw her speak at the Oscars then I watched ‘Hidden Figures’ and she was fantastic in it. My fancast for Posion Ivy is Janelle Monáe. (x)

Thanks! 

Oh my god. Tumblr has marked a whole bunch of my recent posts as NSFW and it’s all totally clean photography that happens to involve LGBTQ people or relationships. Very angry right now, as that is disgusting AND it’s some of my best work.

Like some of these posts aren’t even TAGGED as LGBTQ. But the people in them, doing totally harmless things, happen to be queer. So Tumblr @staff is stereotyping now? Just making their own assumptions? Why the absolute hell are you marking someone’s identity as NSFW so only a small portion of users will see it? You’re censoring our normal everyday lives now? I am so angry right now. One of the most important things I do as a queer photographer is represent marginalized people in my work and the Internet is the only way to promote my art because I don’t have the funds for gallery shows or advertising. The irony here is just unbelievable.