With thanks to @stuffedart who is probably sick of me by now. Although I went much more low-key because I’m a coward shy (⸝⸝•́દ•̀⸝⸝) I don’t think I’m gonna upload these to dA for exactly that reason.
I also decided to throw in flower language even though it doesn’t really have anything to do with anything.
Oak-Leaved Geranium for Papyrus, which is “True Friendship” Ox Eyes for Sans which is “Patience” And Amaryllis for Frisk which is “Determination”
Some of the things said to me when I came out as aromantic:
- you don’t fall in love? Isn’t that a symptom of sociopathy???
- you’re going to die alone if you keep going like this
- so you’re a gold digger
- you’re a bad person
- that’s internalized homophobia
- even animals fall in love what’s wrong with you
- You’re A Bad Person
- you just ha ven’t found the right person yet
- were you raped as kid?
- did your parents not hug you enough?
- you need to eat more vitamins
- YOU’RE A BAD PERSON
The aromantic tag needs less of discourse over our existence and status as lgbt and more positivity and resources so THIS ^^^ kinda shit doesn’t happen to more people
Shout out to all the a-spec people who have really hard to figure out identities. Who took ages to find a label or labels that fit, or even had to coin their own. Who stayed up late reading through a-spec blogs and forums trying to find other experiences that resembled theirs. Who spent years feeling different and unable to understand why. Who still haven’t figured themselves out yet.
Not everyone has a simple orientation or an orientation that’s easy to pinpoint and that’s OK. More complex orientations are valid too.
hey ! due to some neurodivergence issue, i cant really read the post about arophobic microagressions... if it isnt a bother, could you please sum up its points ? it seems interesting
Here are some of the main points:
Aromantic people face similar issues as aces but they also have unique problems. Arophobia is not the same thing as acephobia.
Aromantic people tend to be erased when it comes to representation. Raphael Santiago from Shadowhunters was originally aroace but the aromantic part was left out in the show. Rather than fighting against aro erasure, lots of aces ignored it and focused on the ace representation. Jughead was also originally aroace but ended up straight in Riverdale
There’s a lot more studies/awareness/positivity for asexuality compared to aromanticism. Aro issues are often lumped in with aces or ignored all together
so obviously i’ve made space flags to make the userboxes but what you didnt know is that they’re 200x200 so they’re great icon sizes so i decided to post the ones i’ve made so far!
In order they are: rainbow/gay, lesbian, bi, bi, trans, trans, ace, aro, agender, aroace, bigender, demiboy, demigirl, nonbinary, polygender.
there are 2 bi ones because of proportions - the first is Technically Correct but some people prefer even bars, and there are 2 trans ones because uh the first one was made first but the second one looks better imo
credit is appreciated but not mandatory but do not claim as your own.
i’m also going to make a page on this blog dedicated to the images that will be updated as i make more!
Reminder that people will frequently take blatant troll posts, even ones from years ago that had no support, and use them as justification for saying nasty shit about aces and aros as if aces and aros all share an evil ideology with each other instead of a (definitely not privileged) identity/orientation.
Reminder a lot of people will jump at the chance to spread lies and misinformation about us that can be used to portray us as horrible and clueless, and that with how many people have been demonizing and painting us as worse ppl than others, the sheer amount of shitty people who’ve outright wished harm on us is less surprising than it could be.
Reminder that anyone who talks about “ace tumblr” like we’re not a diverse group of actual people is not to be trusted.
Fun idea - Stop mocking aro culture for once. I keep seeing posts joking telling people to go outside in reference to aro people trying to explain squishes and other alloromantic people are mocking the idea of queerplatonic relationships and saying it’s literally just friendship and that people are idiots.
Please, just… Stop. If you don’t understand it, that’s okay! You don’t need to, but if you don’t have the experience you can’t tell people that the way they experience things is invalid or identical to some other thing.
tl;dr: mocking squishes and queerplatonic relationships isn’t funny and I really hope some of you guys will understand that and stop.
Can we get past the phase where everyone thinks the a is for allies? Like… It’s been too long to keep having to explain that it’s for ace/aros… Please??? I really didn’t think it was that difficult to grasp
Reminder that people here have said asexuality is not a valid sexuality, have frequently equated it and aromanticism to behaviors and ‘preferences’ and said they can not be orientations.
Reminder people have said no one should identify as ace or that everyone should “get checked out” by a doctor before doing so or, constantly, that yeah cool we can id as ace/aro but we’re gross if we want to talk about it with others