aro spec awareness week


I decided to make this post for Aro-Spec Awareness Week (since I’m aro myself)

Being Aromantic is not a choice. It’s just who we are.

This post may help you learn more about aro/ace orientations.

And I forgot to mention the Aro-Spectrum identities:

Demiromantic: only feeling romantic attraction to someone once you’ve formed a strong emotional bond. Can be used with another term or on its own

Recipromantic: only feeling romantic attraction when you know the person is attracted to you

Grey-Aromantic: very rarely feeling romantic attraction towards anyone. Can be used with another term or on its own

Lithromantic/Akoiromantic: experiencing romantic attraction without desire for reciprocation 

 Aroflux: how aromantic you feel fluctuates


Happy Aro-spec awareness week! Today is art day so here’s a short, sappy, messy comic.

There was a reason Charlie didn’t ask Kingston for advice in ‘A-Okay’. It would have been waaay shorter… 

Arospec Awareness Week at AroAceFaq

We are very excited to reveal our topics for this year’s Arospec Awareness Week, which starts tomorrow, February 19th, and goes through February 25th! We have our submissions opened and would love to see your posts on these topics! Submissions can be made through our submissions tab (preferred) but also via asks, or by tagging us on your posts. 

This year’s themes are: 

  • Feb. 19th: Coming Out stories! Share your tips, experiences, and advice with others. Have questions on how to come out as arospec? Let us know! 
  • Feb. 20th: Things you want non-aros to know. Sometimes people get things from, or there are misconceptions about arospec identities and lives. This is your chance to address these! 
  • Feb. 21st:  Arts and Crafts. Show off your arospec themed arts and crafts- they can be any kind of medium.
  • Feb. 22nd: Humor. Its a well known fact that aspec people are the masters of puns and other humor. Tell us your favorite arospec joke here! 
  • Feb. 23rd: Types of love and identities. The aromantic spectrum is a diverse place, full of different experiences and identities, some of which get less attention than others. This day is for sharing those experiences, and bringing more light to them! 
  • Feb. 24th: Advice. Since arospec awareness is such a new thing, and irl communities can be hard to find, online advice is essential for many arospec individuals! This day is for giving advice on things you’ve experienced, or asking others for it. 
  • Feb. 25th: Affirmations day. You’re allowed to be proud of who you are. This is a day for all things positive, including selfies, text posts, etc. Be proud of your identity, and share it with others! 

I started a class about the psychology behind relationships and at first I hated it. It was focused solely on allos and was throwing aspecs under the bus. However during the break, I told my teacher I was aroace and explained to her about how what we were discussing was very exclusionary toward aspecs and SURPRISE… she agreed!

She asked me if it was okay for her mention asexuals/aromantics and if I wanted to talk about it. So I did, everyone was accepting too. After that, she continued to reference that not everyone was allo (not using that term though) and that platonic relationships were valuable as well (she started mentioning LGBP people and the heteronormativity of what we were discussing too). She also asked me on my opinion on stuff as well and listened to my POV. Just that made me love the class, before I spoke to her I was ready to switch out.

It’s so important to discuss the subjectivity of relationships and how they differ. Before I spoke up we never really discussed friendships and it came off as if romantic relationships were better. Just mentioning to my teacher that not all people are allo changed the conversation entirely, in a positive way. A-specs are important and this what I brought to table by myself. We need to open the topic of the differences in people more.

anonymous asked:

Do you have any ideas about aro Courf? Like he's super affectionate and loves cuddles and fooling around but doesn't want to date and never gets crushes at all, he loves everyone too much and can't understand romantic love. Sorry if you don't understand this ask but thanks anyway for being awesome!

Hey so a little lark has told me that it’s aro-spec awareness week!!!  Of course I’m happy to oblige with headcanons . And Happy awareness week!<3

  • There are lot’s of things that Courfeyrac has the desire to do, bake a hundred Christmas cookies on an impulse in July, Go on a cross country road trip with Enjolras and Combeferre, learn how to ride a unicycle- but falling in love is not one of them, not even in the slightest
  • He’s tried dates before, out of pressure to go on them more than anything, but they always felt so strange and wrong to him, and people would often quickly grow frustrated with his inability to return their romantic affections
  • It wasn’t until he was in his early twenties that he discovered the term Aromantic whilst attending a gender and sexuality poetry slam with Jehan and it landed softly in his mind like a the first snowflake to fall in winter
  • He did a lot of self discovery, attended some more poetry events with Jehan (begrudginly), had long and emotional D+M’s with Combeferre, talked in length about the difference between romantic and sexual attraction with Marius (who is asexual but as we all know, a huge romantic), found encouraging words and self assurance when Enjolras gave him a “You’re perfect the way you are and I’ll fight anyone who says otherwise or tries to change you” speech
  • Ultimately it enraged him how little information is readily accessible for people on the aro-spectrum. (“Finding yourself is everybody’s right, and you shouldn’t need a degree in sociology to find this information!”) and made it his mission to spread positive, informative and accurate information on the subject
  • Will give anybody who places the value of romantic love over other types of platonic love a very heated and precise shut down. He’s even written a rap about it. (Bahorel refuses to ever let him perform it though. Comparing it to “a kids bop rendition of X Gon Give it to Ya”)
  • The most kind and loving friend you will ever have the pleasure of knowing, and eventually-confident and proud of himself and the knowledge of who he is.

I made a brooch (not sure if I’ll ever wear it; it’s pretty fragile) for Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week! It’s been over two years since I started identifying as aro. When I first started applying the research I was doing to myself and my own experiences, it was as if I was letting out a breath I’d been holding in for years and years. I’m so grateful that the community exists, and for the individuals who have supported me (both on and off the aromantic spectrum).

Happy ASAW!!!

: )

February 19 - February 25: AroSpec Awareness Week 2017

We have dates! Keep in mind that this year, AroSpec Awareness Week starts on a Sunday rather than last year, which was on Monday. We are so excited for this year’s week!

Expect posts about the upcoming personal prompts and fandom prompts! Also feel free to generate posts and artwork advertising this year’s event. If you have suggestions for activities, please don’t hesitate to send us an ask or respond to this post (we’d love suggestions and other ideas!)

Also consider: we don’t need to approve your own suggestions - feel free to do them on your own! We are available to spread the word about it :)


Aro-spec Awareness Week 2017

Hey everyone :)

As you might (or might not) know, Aro-spec Awareness Week will be from 19th till 25th February this year - less than a week from now!

I really wanted to do something for Aro-spec week this year, but sadly it’s still exam season here, so I barely have any time for tumblr. Since Aro-spec Week is only once a year I didn’t want to miss it completely, though - and this is where you come in.

If you want to celebrate Aro-spec Week 2017 on this blog, share your ideas/thoughts/art/puns/… with me!

I’ve drawn up a quick plan for posts (though this isn’t written in stone, so if you have any suggestions for other themes or have a post that doesn’t fit the theme of the day, please submit anyway):

Sunday, 19th February: Aro-spec headcanons!
You know that one character who is totally aro-spec? The one you could relate to immediately or read that one fanfic of and headcanoned them as aro-spec ever since? Whether you have drawings, stories or just write the character’s name (and series/movie/book) in my submission box, it will be highly appreciated!

Monday, 20th February: Aro-spec Art Day
Quick aro doodles and art of your favourite character or the aro flag or whatever you can think of! Or do you have a favourite piece of aro-spec art on tumblr? Tag me and I’ll reblog it!

Tuesday, 21st February: How did you find out you were aro-spec?
Whether there was one specific event you can recall perfectly or many small moments that still sometimes make you realize that you’re way too aro-spec for this sh*t - share them here!

Wednesday, 22nd February: What I like about the a-spec community
What is says in the title - what do you like about the aro-spec community? The chatrooms, the puns, this very blog? ;) (Okay, I was just kidding with that last one, but really - submit away:D)

Thursday, 23rd February: Intersectionality
Aro-spec and asexual, bisexual, heterosexual, homosexual, pansexual…? Tell me about your struggles or experiences, share art, jokes, whatever!

Friday: 24th February: Aro-spec recommendations
A book/tv show/movie with an aro-spec character? Your favourite aro fanfic? A cool playlist? Share your recommendations here!

Saturday, 25th February: Aro Jokes and Puns
Everyone knows we have the best jokes - of course this had to be part of aro-spec week!

I’ll try to fill my queue with posts related to these topics, but it would be super awesome if you could share your own ideas etc. - either by submitting something to this blog (whether it’s a page-long rant or two words - I’ll happily take it) or tagging me in your posts so I can reblog them!

The earlier you submit, the more time I have to sort out my queue, so submissions start right now - but if you find/make something on the last day of Aro-spec Week, please submit anyway :) I’ll use the hashtags ‘#arospec17′ and ‘#arospec awareness week’

Day 1 (February 19, 2017): [x]

A character you headcanon as aromantic and on the asexual spectrum.

Sorry for being late ><

Miera is one of my OCs (sorry for taking the fandom challenge for that). She is part of Delphinium: Don’t Drink the Tea comic. A smart ass super feminine girl, that, with her brother, sells “grades” in school -tests answers, they can hack the school system and change your grade there, things like that-

She is probably the most aromantic asexual character I have, at the beginning I tried to give her a partner, but the character itself didn’t seem to want ANYONE? Also, she is the character in my avatar =x

Aro Spec Awareness Week Personal Prompts

Day 1 (February 19, 2017): [x]

Sunday, February 19: Write about what your aromantic / aro spec identity means to you. This can include your experience finding the identity that feels the most right to you, and can absolutely involve disclosing what your identity is (though, of course, that is not required).

Day 2 (February 20, 2017): [x]

Monday, February 20, 2017: Write about some of the complications you’ve come across as identifiying or existing on the aromantic spectrum. You can include ways you’ve worked out problems that occur, or things you might still be struggling- it’s all up to you. Feel free to give advice to other people participating if you have any, as long as it’s okay with that tumblr user!

Day 3 (February 21, 2017): [x]

Tuesday, February 21: Write about the things you love about your identity. If you’re struggling to love your identity, what are the things about the aromantic spectrum that resonate with you? How has finding the community helped figure out who you are? Feel free to post as many positive aromantic self-love posts as you see fit.

Day 4 (February 22, 2017): [x]

Wednesday, February 22: Write about the relationships in your life before you learned about the aromantic spectrum or before you began identifying on the spectrum. Have you noticed a big change in how you view the people you care about? About how you used to interact with people? Write about your experiences before you discovered the aromantic spectrum.

Day 5 (February 23, 2017): [x]

Thursday, February 23: Write about the relationships in your life after you learned about the aromantic spectrum and began identifying on the spectrum. What kinds of relationships do you appreciate more now, if any? What’s different for you identifying as aromantic? What’s different in viewing the people around you?

Day 6 (February 24, 2017): [x]

Write about your experience with the amanormativity we’re all subjected to. Amanormativity, for those who don’t know, is a societal expectation that forming an exclusive, central, amorous relationship is a universal goal. Did it affect you a lot growing up, is it something you’ve just begun to experience or notice a lot, or does it affect your life in any way at all? What are some of the things that really bother you about this? How does this manifest in the expectations the people in your life have on you? Feel free to use this prompt as a means of venting.

Day 7 (February 25, 2017): [x]

Reflect on your week, your experience as identifying as aromantic or arospec. What would you like for next year’s week? What are some final things you want to express about being a part of the aromantic/aromantic spectrum community or other things you’d like people to know?

Someone asked “Fred Weasley is bisexual and aroflux /H”

(Showed up in activity feed, but not our inbox.)

One of Fred’s personal projects when he and George open their shop is to finally create his line of bi joke products. It includes a powder inspired by Peruvian Instant Darkness Powder that, when thrown, creates a pink, purple, and blue cloud of smoke that allows the user to escape from biphobic people and situations. (It becomes so popular that he creates powders in as many pride colors as he can.) He also has sweets that will become near impossible to chew if the person eating them starts to say something queerphobic. And he makes ridiculous pink, blue, and purple hats that spout bi puns and proclaim their wearer’s pride at anyone they pass. These become popular at parades, and a few get confiscated by the Ministry because they were worn to muggle pride events. Muggles grew suspicious when the funny hats started giving intelligent answers to questions asked of the wearer.

He starts getting requests from his friends in the a-spec community, so he starts a line just for them. Aros love the mini “bow and aro” sets that shoot (harmless) arrows that trail green, white, grey, and black smoke. Aces love the decks of cards (nothing but aces of course) where each card can be thrown into the air and it will fold itself into an origami dragon that glides back down. During the next year’s Ace Awareness Week a student walks to the middle of the Great Hall during breakfast, yells ACES WILD, and throws the entire deck.

Fred’s favorite thing is when customers come in and tell him what shenanigans they got into with his products.

- Ravenclaw Mod


Akoiromantic/sexual: feeling attraction towards someone but having no desire for reciprocation, or having the feelings fade/disappear upon reciprocation

I’ve had this idea in my head for while. I was inspired by the song “I Don’t Feel It Anymore” by William Fitzsimmons. Some of the lyrics just really remind me of this orientation. Listen here!

Asexual Awareness Week 2017: Trending on Tumblr for a few days, constantly pumping out art, supportive posts and comments, headcanons, countless people participating in different events for the week

Aromantic Awareness Week 2018: Only blogs specifically about aro-spec people make posts, maybe one or two other people make a post about it that’s more than just “Happy Aromantic awareness week!” Not even #9 on trending.