Because I haven’t seen a shout out for this yet.

Shout out to all the asexuals and aromantics out there who never felt relief when they discovered their orientations were valid 

Shout out to all the asexuals and aromantics who are fine with themselves one day and then hate themselves for what they don’t feel the next

Shout out to all the asexuals and aromantics who put off using the titles because they didn’t want to be this way and still don’t

Shout out to all the asexuals and aromantics who feel sick when they think about their orientations for too long because they’ll never feel normal or not-broken, no matter how many times someone says their feelings are valid

Shout out to all the asexuals and aromantics who constantly feel like they’re missing out, and would give anything to be allosexual or alloromantic 

Shout out to all the asexuals and aromantics who don’t feel okay, who don’t have ace or aro pride

Shout out to all the asexuals and aromantics who struggle with accepting themselves even more than society does

Shout out to all the asexuals and aromantics who feel out of place in ace and aro society because they wish they didn’t belong there

Shout out to all the asexuals and aromantics who want to change, but just can’t

You are not alone

Calling all Aromantic and aro-spectrum peeps!

You might remember me from the time I called on your powers combined to give me verbal input about your aromantic and aro-spec experiences. This is in the works! I’ve received over 200 replies, and I’m still organizing and putting everything together! The document is currently 39 pages long. Woohoo!

Meanwhile, I’ve decided that it’s time for some statistical munchies. I have put together, to the best of my sleep-deprived ability, a survey for you to participate in (if you so wish). It’s completely anonymous, and you don’t HAVE to answer all the questions (although it would help me if you tried your best to do so).

Needless to say, if you are NOT aro-spectrum, don’t take it. You will not be able to answer most questions. They’re a bit specific, to, well, being aromantic or aro-spec. However, it would be very nice of you to help spread the info!

Important notes: I KNOW that we’re all unique, and I’ve included many OTHER self-fill sections on the questions. It seems counter-intuitive but… TRY NOT to use them if you can help it. It’s very difficult to quantify these answers. If your situation is very special, go right ahead! Otherwise, please try to stick to the answers I’ve offered.

If my wording is poor, if you see a problem, contact me! I’ll do my best to accommodate peeps! 

Warning: Some of the questions deal with things like mental illness struggles, bullying and sexual harassment. They do not go into great detail, but please be aware that they are present.

TAKE THE SURVEY HERE!

Thanks, and keep on being cool!

psa: it’s rude to call aromantic heterosexuals and heteroromantic asexuals “straight”. it’s labeling people without their consent and it completely erases either their romantic or sexual orientation. also i personally associate that word with a society that has given me too many traumatic experiences and tons of self-hate, and i imagine that plenty of aromantics and asexuals feel the same way. 

DO NOT SHUN ARO PEOPLE FOR BEING IN RELATIONSHIPS!

DO NOT SHUN ACE PEOPLE FOR HAVING SEX!

DO NOT SHUN ARO PEOPLE FOR HAVING SEX!

DO NOT SHUN ACE PEOPLE FOR BEING IN RELATIONSHIPS!

YOU DO NOT KNOW THEM! YOU DO NOT KNOW THEIR FEELINGS! YOU DO NOT KNOW WHERE THEY FALL ON THE SPECTRUM! YOU DO NOT KNOW HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON!

#ACEVISIBILITY

This is a remake of another version I made, but without the harmful statement of “you can’t be aro but you can be arospec.” I’m so sorry and I feel awful for the harm I’ve caused and I hope this remake will do a better job at showing that you are aro and/or arospec based on what YOU are comfortable labeling your experience with romantic attraction as. You can be aro if that’s what you want to call yourself, regardless of your place on the aromantic spectrum.

Behavior =/= Attraction. You can behave many different ways, but the defining focus of aromanticism is your experience with romantic attraction. Don’t let anyone tell you you can’t be arospec because of how you act.

~ Tabs

Plans for Aro Day

So, I’m thinking that for the day dedicated to the Aromantic (asexual and non-asexual) individuals we could do this:

A “Meet the Aromantic” type of thing, where we all post 5-10 random facts about ourselves. It’s a humanizing idea that isn’t based around selfies (though no one’s to stop you if you want to include a selfie)

For those who are not out or are uncomfortable posting their facts on their own blogs, I have created the blog AroDayPosts, where anonymous submissions can be made. I will post and reblog anything submitted to this blog as well as any thing tagged #aroday. 

I’ve got about 3 suggested dates (Sept 9, June 14, July 15) for a poll right now, so if you guys want to send me more dates, I will include those and maybe get the poll going tomorrow to select a date.

I don’t see near as much aro positivity as ace positivity. I don’t want to compare the two but let’s throw some love to the people who are deeply misunderstood and even get called heartless. Aromantic people are human beings and awesome